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Offline NickFury

I've been debating whether to post this, not knowing what kind of response if any but felt I needed to "speak" to someone to just get it off my chest as it's affecting my life more than I like.
Been seeing WGs on off for 10 years or so, around 1 a month and tend to binge every now and then when I meet a really fit girl, until I got bored and felt the burn in the wallet.
Found UKP a few months back, but I actually found a regular using AW search. later found out she has a few reviews here so didn't add mine ( sorry!)

Anyway, I'm totally smitten with her, and been seeing her weekly for past 4 months or so and just loving it! Having read a few threads here, realised I have the dreaded EAS as can't stop thinking about her, sometimes even checking the forum daily to see if she has a new review! And when I read a new review, there is a funny feeling - not sure how to describe the feeling.
I don't think I would do things like shutdown her AW account or post malicious reviews etc that I read some other EAS afflicted guys do. I genuinely like her as a person and would never hurt her for sure. Yup, I'm a fluffy at heart!
I know it's unrealistic and there's no happy ending here (ha!), but part of me hope we could ride into the sunset together and fuck all day long!
Reading the advice on here, I've seen a couple other girls since but that actually made things worse - I don't find them as attractive as her, and I actually pictured her in my mind when fucking these other girls.
I am sure she has plenty of regulars and used to mucks like me being infatuated,, so I guess best case scenario for me is just to continue seeing her until she retires / gets annoyed with me/  I get broke/ get caught by the wife...

Anyway realised I'm just rambling, just a needed to rant and don't really expect any new advice as there are already plenty on the forum/ wiki, so just thanks for reading and happy punting!
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Offline nike

How about a link , so we can all see who ur talking about. :cool: :cool: :cool:


Offline DG

You're not alone mate. I've been exactly where you are; done the whole every week for a month bit. I've been seeing my regular for just over a year now; actually 'celebrated' our anniversary a couple of weeks back.

I have to say I'm over the worst of it but have decided only to see her for now, which I do every two weeks; been like that for the last three months. When I saw anyone else, although I enjoyed it mostly, I felt it was money I could have spent on my regular. Have to say I've never experienced "seeing her when I'm with someone else" but afterwards I always made the comparison and regular girl always came out on top and sometimes felt a bit guilty, which is absolute nonsense  :wacko:

Had a great session with her yesterday followed by a long chat. We get on really well and both understand how the relationship works. We share a lot of personal stuff, families, work etc (she has a day job) but never talk about other meets. She pulled out some old photos of her as a kid and even told me she now sets aside every other Friday for me.

I definitely see her differently to any other WG; and I think she has a soft spot for me, although I don't get too carried away with that idea.

Best advice I can give is remember how you met and what the enduring conditions are ie. You pay for her time and services. Anything more personal is a bonus in my book and makes the whole thing more enjoyable and makes the fantasy easier to live.
« Last Edit: September 12, 2015, 03:25:23 PM by DG »
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Offline DG

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Sorry to hear about this, it happens to most of us at some stage. All the same signs and emotions and feelings etc.

Regulars are fun and there can be a connection, but you will get too comfortable esp if and when they get lazy. Sometimes it's worth just seeing other people, and you may find someone eventually that is more fun and even better, but that can take some time.

As everyone has said remember how you met, and also that she is doing this for money. Whatever else they say, it is not true. Remove the money, even a heavily discounted fee and it all stops very quickly.

Best to see a few people, ideally very different times and push your boundaries. Enjoy the fun.

Offline comaminion

 :unknown:

Just remember the time spent should be an enjoyable time and does not represent the actual reality of fucking

And the personality side of things also it's good business sense to engage with the customer and in turn provides assumed compatibility if your fluffy or of eas tendency

Basically the overriding message

It's not reality

Just enjoy it for what it is and stop being a tart

Also linky the sp
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Offline Stainford

Sorry but its never going to happen. She is probably laughing at you with her Abercrombie boyfriend while you continue to give thousands of £££
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Hawkwind71


Reading the advice on here, I've seen a couple other girls since but that actually made things worse - I don't find them as attractive as her, and I actually pictured her in my mind when fucking these other girls.


Nick, you need help with this, there is a way out but you have to want to be cured. Its no different to smoking, drinking or any other hobby that becomes an obsession. If you deal with it you will become a happy punter, or let it rule you and just get more and more upset. EAS is not a true punter lifestyle.

My advice: Read lots of UKP articles, see some completely different fantastic women UKP recommended, stop seeing her altogether, pretend she has dumped you etc.  If you really need to you can private message me and I'll try to help with some stories of my own and those I have been told about. I know how difficult it is, like a honey trap. The years have given me a thicker skin I suppose.

Offline NickFury

Thanks to DG and Suitedandbooted for the replies, appreciate it, really.
I think if I can have the same experience as DG has had, then I would be happy. I drew up a hot list but don't think I can go through with it now... Would like to see her exclusively and see how it goes for a few more months, if she gets lazy and takes me for granted then will re-evaluate I guess.

Not sure where else I could speak out if not for UKP, thanks!

Nike, not ready to out myself yet as she reads this forum. She is well reviewed in London section so don't think I'm depriving other members greatly. Hope u understand.
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Offline SirFrank

Afternoon. I'm sure you know what I'm going to say but I'll say it anyway. You have overstepped the boundaries here, as you seem to recognise. The bottom line is punting is essentially a business transaction, unlike most others granted, but nonetheless you are paying her to provide you with a service. However much you like her, I suspect she doesn't feel the same because you are, after all, a paying customer.

The likelihood is that this situation has potential to end badly for one or both of you. Your options really are; accept the situation for what it really is and accept that's all it will ever be or take some time out from meeting her and perhaps it's time to move on from her full stop. You can of course put your cards on the table and be open and honest with her but I imagine she doesn't feel the same as you and if that is the case (it's a safe bet that it is) then that will probably spell the end of your meets.

It seems from your post that she hasn't led you up the garden path or owt? If this is the case, then what is essential is that you don't take this a step too far and end up stalking her simply because she's good at her job and you are suffering from blurred lines. My advice - move on. Just reading your last post makes you sound like a love struck teenager. You need to nip this in the bud soon or you'll get sucked in deeper, which won't be fair on you or her.
« Last Edit: September 12, 2015, 03:42:39 PM by SirFrank »
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Oh dear.

I don't think I would do things like shutdown her AW account or post malicious reviews etc that I read some other EAS afflicted guys do. I genuinely like her as a person and would never hurt her for sure.

Frankly I'm a bit disturbed that you would even mention this as a possibility.  Why the fuck would anyone do something like that?  Only if he had some crazy impulse to "stop anyone else shagging my girl".  That's when EAS goes beyond being merely a financial problem and becomes something a lot more serious.

I know you've said that you would NOT do that, but it's a tendency that you will need to stomp on if it arises.  She isn't yours, she'll be shagging other men, and you need to carry on being perfectly OK with that.  And don't start developing fantasies about leaving your wife for her.

Otherwise, she's just a regular.  Not a problem if you can afford to see her as often as you are, but be prepared move on if she decides she's had enough of this.

If she's giving you a discount by now, that's a good sign. If not, she's taking you for a ride while she can.  You need to decide if you're OK with that.


Offline NickFury

SirLance, I only said that as I read on this forum some ppl did those nasty things. Would not do that and never be a stalker etc either. Was just trying to hopefully show I want going to be a creep!
I actually got burned pretty bad few years back by an agency British girl, I would out her but she quit years ago. Kept asking me for loans and being a love struck idiot cost me a few grand...yup, deserved it for being dumb.
So this time I know I have some form of EAS, but  wiser. She gives good gfe so just finding it hard to detach. Like I said, will accept the boundaries and enjoy it as much as possible within limits and be fair to myself and the WG!
Not asked for a discount as doubt she would go for it based on how busy she is...but will find a right time to ask :)

Hawkind, thanks for your offer and I may take u up in it !

Cheers all
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I've no real experience of what you're going through, NF, but would it ground you a little bit to pay for an extended stay, an overnighter even? You might discover, once the sex is out of the way, that there is nothing much left to sustain an emotional attachment? Just a thought ;)

 :timeout:


I've no real experience of what you're going through, NF, but would it ground you a little bit to pay for an extended stay, an overnighter even? You might discover, once the sex is out of the way, that there is nothing much left to sustain an emotional attachment? Just a thought ;)

 :timeout:

This is a very good idea. I think you will find that when you learn more about her beyond what exists on the surface you will lose interest and you will move on.

Offline tonysoprano

I've no real experience of what you're going through, NF, but would it ground you a little bit to pay for an extended stay, an overnighter even? You might discover, once the sex is out of the way, that there is nothing much left to sustain an emotional attachment? Just a thought ;)

 :timeout:

Or next time you visit, don't take any money. See if she will fuck you for free...and then invite her to go for dinner afterwards. I suspect that will clarify the relationship pretty quickly.
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I've been debating whether to post this, not knowing what kind of response if any but felt I needed to "speak" to someone to just get it off my chest as it's affecting my life more than I like.
Been seeing WGs on off for 10 years or so, around 1 a month and tend to binge every now and then when I meet a really fit girl, until I got bored and felt the burn in the wallet.
Found UKP a few months back, but I actually found a regular using AW search. later found out she has a few reviews here so didn't add mine ( sorry!)

Anyway, I'm totally smitten with her, and been seeing her weekly for past 4 months or so and just loving it! Having read a few threads here, realised I have the dreaded EAS as can't stop thinking about her, sometimes even checking the forum daily to see if she has a new review! And when I read a new review, there is a funny feeling - not sure how to describe the feeling.
I don't think I would do things like shutdown her AW account or post malicious reviews etc that I read some other EAS afflicted guys do. I genuinely like her as a person and would never hurt her for sure. Yup, I'm a fluffy at heart!
I know it's unrealistic and there's no happy ending here (ha!), but part of me hope we could ride into the sunset together and fuck all day long!
Reading the advice on here, I've seen a couple other girls since but that actually made things worse - I don't find them as attractive as her, and I actually pictured her in my mind when fucking these other girls.
I am sure she has plenty of regulars and used to mucks like me being infatuated,, so I guess best case scenario for me is just to continue seeing her until she retires / gets annoyed with me/  I get broke/ get caught by the wife...

Anyway realised I'm just rambling, just a needed to rant and don't really expect any new advice as there are already plenty on the forum/ wiki, so just thanks for reading and happy punting!

Also there is no shame about getting EAS, I imagine a lot of punters get it and stay quiet about it. It is how you deal with it which is the most important thing.

Offline sam55

Or next time you visit, don't take any money. See if she will fuck you for free...and then invite her to go for dinner afterwards. I suspect that will clarify the relationship pretty quickly.

 :D :D

Offline AnthG

get caught by the wife...

So you are married too?

Personally my advice is reduce the amount of times you see her to once per month.

If you want to test the waters of how she feels. Ask for a social booking for a particular event, something like going to see the new James Bond Movie in a couple of weeks time. And see what she comes back with if she wants money for that.

Offline AnthG

Also there is no shame about getting EAS, I imagine a lot of punters get it and stay quiet about it. It is how you deal with it which is the most important thing.

The single most goal of punting is to find a girl who knocks you for six.

Then when you do you are pretty much screwed as you get EAS towards her.

And the cure for that is to either quit punting. Or to book other girls just start looking for the next girl to possibly knock you for six.

Its one of the contradictions in life I think. :)

Offline NickFury

Or next time you visit, don't take any money. See if she will fuck you for free...and then invite her to go for dinner afterwards. I suspect that will clarify the relationship pretty quickly.

Haha pretty sure it's a no. She's experienced in the game and told me some client invited her to go for a couples spa session which she refused and the guy took it badly.

Like you guys said, it's a business transaction and I have treat it as such and ride out the EAS or see other girls out there and stop being too attached to one girl. Now I just have to try and walk the walk...
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Offline NickFury

The single most goal of punting is to find a girl who knocks you for six.

Then when you do you are pretty much screwed as you get EAS towards her.

And the cure for that is to either quit punting. Or to book other girls just start looking for the next girl to possibly knock you for six.

Its one of the contradictions in life I think. :)

To me, this is VERY VERY true! 
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Offline RedKettle

Afternoon. I'm sure you know what I'm going to say but I'll say it anyway. You have overstepped the boundaries here, as you seem to recognise. The bottom line is punting is essentially a business transaction, unlike most others granted, but nonetheless you are paying her to provide you with a service. However much you like her, I suspect she doesn't feel the same because you are, after all, a paying customer.

The likelihood is that this situation has potential to end badly for one or both of you. Your options really are; accept the situation for what it really is and accept that's all it will ever be or take some time out from meeting her and perhaps it's time to move on from her full stop. You can of course put your cards on the table and be open and honest with her but I imagine she doesn't feel the same as you and if that is the case (it's a safe bet that it is) then that will probably spell the end of your meets.

It seems from your post that she hasn't led you up the garden path or owt? If this is the case, then what is essential is that you don't take this a step too far and end up stalking her simply because she's good at her job and you are suffering from blurred lines. My advice - move on. Just reading your last post makes you sound like a love struck teenager. You need to nip this in the bud soon or you'll get sucked in deeper, which won't be fair on you or her.

This is spot on and OP needs to take heed!!!

Is it me?
When I find a WG who makes me a bit EAS the more turned on I get when reading reviews about her. The raunchier the review the better!
The more I like the girl and the better we get on the stronger the feeling gets!
It's a strange jealous / lust feeling that is very powerful and highly erotic!
I must add, it's only ever happened with two girls and eventually the EAS wore off. Something about a girl who'll fuck anyone for money turns me on, specially a girl I like!
So my advice is put her link up on UKP and let us have ago on her! Read the review and go back and fuck her brains out!! (Not literally!) you may just enjoy it




theGOAT

This did happen to me once.  It was tough to get over.  It wont happen again.

I think the key reason why it happened was because the girl was very sweet and nice to me.  Openly talked to me about her private life, her family, her problems, etc. Made me feel special and that it could maybe be more than a sexual/financial relationship. When you start to like someone as a person and also have amazing sex with them regularly its hard not to get EAS.

But like everyone else says - she never had sex with me for free LOL. It was just her way of running her business and trying to be a good service provider.

Nowadays if I get a hint of it happening again I find a way out fast.  I wait until she does something I don't like and use that as my excuse to let go.  I recommend you think of the things that she has done already that you know means she doesn't really care about you, and use that to help you get out of it.

Cheers!  :drinks:


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