The dreaded EAS

[ash001]

It's a business transaction, nothing more. Ok it's fine to get friendly but at the end of the day we are all 'mr smith' or whoever, don't be fooled by your feelings as it'll end in tears.

[purple_t]

Fortunately this hasn't happened to me yet. It's a good job I have a heart of stone!

Some girls catch me off guard when they seem a bit too sweet / naive / vulnerable to be in this game, but then my cynicism kicks in and I realise they are most likely playing a character, or at least exaggerating these facets of their personalities.

[Cuntminion]

Fortunately this hasn't happened to me yet. It's a good job I have a heart of stone!

Some girls catch me off guard when they seem a bit too sweet / naive / vulnerable to be in this game, but then my cynicism kicks in and I realise they are most likely playing a character, or at least exaggerating these facets of their personalities.

I've lost relatives, friends, seamonkeys and socks at this point in life I'm  not even cynical, I just don't have the attachment part left no more

I can still feel empathy and occasional flickers of love for the little ones (nieces and nephews )

But that's pretty much it

[AgedCases]

Luther Vandross sang a catchy song about EAS...


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[MrRiz]

This is sad to read. I sympathise because I know that I could very well be a person who gets EAS and would have to deal with this shit too.

If anything, your post has encouraged me not to get a regular, so I should be grateful for that.

I hope you get over her and/or it doesn't cause you needless heartache. The advice that the cold hearted cynics on this site give is nevertheless solid stuff.

[Deviant]

Cold hearted cynics and married men!!! No harm being friends and getting attached if you are single. Just draw up simple rules and stick to them. Only pay for sex, do not get into the gift giving race (sometimes girls will play off 2-3 guys at a time to buy them bigger and better gifts) and back off the moment she asks you too. Unlike with normal girlfriends you have the perfect excuse not to lavish the woman with gifts. Be prepared for the odd pimp or other boyfriend to get jealous but if you maintain a safe distance you should be okay.

If a woman wants to do the emotional commitment bit then play along, just do not spend any more money than you normally would.

[fly fifer]

The bottom line is, if you suffer from EAS then punting is not for you my friend. Try the lonely hearts ads.
 

[willmo1]

Too easy to get sucked in by a smart wg. Got away with it by not doing regulars.

[Whoisarrypotter]

Just stumbled across this.
I get some identification with some of the points made here.
I havnt seen many wg and only a couple have I seen more than once I don't have any regulars but one of the girls I saw on two occasions I felt a bit infatuated and couldn't get out of my head.
Much as I saw this particular sp as someone I felt comfortable enough with to push the boundaries and explore other avenues (ill be honest taking MY anal cherry, I never thought I ever let another human go anywhere near that part of my world, but I was starting to consider letting this wg).
I havnt seen her since and probably unlikely I will again.
Reason being any kind of feelings that go beyond the transactional kind spell trouble, will leave me vulnerable emotionally and in terms of concealment from the family and rest of the world.
I'm in a relationship already I don't need another the main reason I started punting was to enjoy things that my partner doesn't provide. 

Also I was a one man girl so while all my peers were shagging around I was content to wait for "the one".
Punting has given me the chance to be the stud and shag around with different girls.
I apologise if I have repeated what everyone else said, I just hope it backs up everyone else's statement and reinforces the need to try and keep it superficial.

And for the record yes it looks I will retain my anal cherry a bit longer heh heh

[houseboot]

"One man girl"?

[Whoisarrypotter]

Heh heh shit well spotted one girl man sorry.

[lebon121]

After over  2 years of posting  this thread about EAS,
still awaiting for the link.

The feeling should be over and he might have moved on now
So we need the link please.

[Joe Carstairs]

Going back to the original topic, Scott Fitzgerald said "The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function."

I can perfectly easily consider that a girl wants to get money off you and also enjoys your company. I had one like that for twenty years. She was called my wife.

When I look at how much she cost me I would have been better off renting than buying.

There’s an adage that advises to rent and not buy if it floats, flies or fkkks.

[JamesKW]

There’s an adage that advises to rent and not buy if it floats, flies or fkkks.

Why have you bought this thread up.We have moved on from the 1930's so women earn money nowdays, so actually contribute, sometimes they earn more than men.

[Joe Carstairs]

Why have you bought this thread up.We have moved on from the 1930's so women earn money nowdays, so actually contribute, sometimes they earn more than men.

Really, was this forum alive 1930s? It is an era that I associate with remarkable women such as Amelia Earhart (transatlantic pilot) and Joe Carstairs (power boat racer) and the film ‘Just a Gigilo’. The start of women’s emancipation one could argue.
But more seriously I am a newbie here and am just reading various posts that interest me and commenting as and when, does this contravene forum etiquette? Where it might be old hat for others it is new to me and in this case I couldn’t resist dropping in that old adage, which is by the way gender neutral!  It could just as well apply to a tennis coach as a WG.
Is there a thread that someone could point me toward that will help me tow the line?

[m4rmite]

Is there a thread that someone could point me toward that will help me tow the line?

A quote from the site rules

- Site ethos & mission
UKPunting puts the interests of punters (sex buyers) first

It's for punters not leechers.
Use it by all means to gather intel but don't visit for the next 2 years pretending you're going to punt anyday  soon.
That's nearly as bad as the ones who swear they punt every other day yet don't post a review, then where would your intel come from?

Remember its called UK Punting not UK Leeching.

[Joe Carstairs]

A quote from the site rules
It's for punters not leechers.
Use it by all means to gather intel but don't visit for the next 2 years pretending you're going to punt anyday  soon.
That's nearly as bad as the ones who swear they punt every other day yet don't post a review, then where would your intel come from?

Remember its called UK Punting not UK Leeching.

I think that’s a little unfair as I have found precious little to “leech”.

This for several reasons:
1) there are very few recent reviews for my area that is Bournemouth
2) I am too much of a newbie to be able to search the reviews of punters that seem to be in my area.
3) I am also unable to PM anyone for a bit of advice.

On the other hand I have already left feedback on two recent punts that didn’t justify a full review.

Through reading around the place I realise that there have been a lot of folk banned and I am on my guard against that and that there a number of members like yourself that castigate folk for not posting reviews. Again, because I am a newbie, I can’t search your contributions to learn best comportment. I can see however that your ratio of posts to reviews is 170:13 so if I manage to get a proper review written I will be well ahead of you.

[Chorley]

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Punting is a business transaction. Not love, not dating. Business, pure and simple.
Those who struggle with this would be advised to find another pastime IMHO.
if you really want a reality check, then see what happens when you ask your favourite WG for a freebie "Cos I thought we had something special".

[magnetico]

 Again, because I am a newbie, I can’t search your contributions to learn best comportment.

No need to be able to send PMs or check people's history to write reviews of WGs you've seen.
There's a guide to write review in the wiki.

[Joe Carstairs]

No need to be able to send PMs or check people's history to write reviews of WGs you've seen.
There's a guide to write review in the wiki.

I registered on July 25th and am dipping in and out and finding my way around. I did comment on two recent punts in appropriate posts before I realised how seriously some people here crave actual reviews and I hereby pledge to write a review of my next punt, if it is neutral or negative. Does this forum have a view though as to whether it is important to ask the WG’s assent before posting a positive review? I don’t want to upset people unnecessarily.

Presumably one review every 60 days or so as you have averaged since 2016 is acceptable and the ratio of reviews to posts is unimportant so long as I keep the reviews coming along? Just asking.

[magnetico]

I hereby pledge to write a review of my next punt, if it is neutral or negative.

Did you notice that you can also write positive ones, or you need to send PMs to find out about that fact?
Looks like you're trolling.

Does this forum have a view though as to whether it is important to ask the WG’s assent before posting a positive review? I don’t want to upset people unnecessarily.

Troll alert ⚠

[Joe Carstairs]

Did you notice that you can also write positive ones, or you need to send PMs to find out about that fact?
Looks like you're trolling.
Troll alert ⚠

Dear Magnetico,

As you are from Italy you may not have noticed this post in the South West section:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=214315.0 this is a report of a WG taking objection to a review being placed on this site. If my next punting experience is negative or neutral then I will have no hesitation in placing a review here because I will want to inform my fellow forum members of what I experienced and I will have no intention of revisiting. If I have a great punt and want to positively review it then what is the harm in asking first?

[magnetico]

what is the harm in asking first?

I think that you're winding me up, but I'll still reply to you.

It's a forum for punters. Punters. Not at the service of prostitutes.

[BP]

I don’t want to upset people unnecessarily.

Oh right...so reporting established members - what's all that about

I think you're a pro$$ie myself.  It all reads a bit too feminine
Either that or you're an obnoxious twat.
So not looking good.

[Happyjose]

I registered on July 25th and am dipping in and out and finding my way around. I did comment on two recent punts in appropriate posts before I realised how seriously some people here crave actual reviews and I hereby pledge to write a review of my next punt, if it is neutral or negative. Does this forum have a view though as to whether it is important to ask the WG’s assent before posting a positive review? I don’t want to upset people unnecessarily.

Presumably one review every 60 days or so as you have averaged since 2016 is acceptable and the ratio of reviews to posts is unimportant so long as I keep the reviews coming along? Just asking.

It’s up to you whether you review or not, but if you are punting, asking advice, and not making useful contributions the members on here will not be slow in pulling you up for it.

As for asking the prossies permission to review, then the general consensus is this diminishes the credibility of a review to the point that it’s pretty much worthless. As has been pointed out to you already, this is a site for punters, and reviews are written to help inform other punters. Any benefit to the prossie of a positive review should be secondary to this.

Experience also shows that even a positive review, that you may feel portrays the WG in the most favourable terms, can actually piss them off in ways you wouldn’t have imagined. Giving them any kind of editorial input is against the ethos of this site. You chose to join, so the onus is upon you to comply, and if you find that too difficult, go elsewhere. But consider that other failed forums have allowed prossie mods. This one thrives and grows.

There’s no acceptable ratio of reviews to posts, just make a contribution and review when you can.

Finally, read the wiki, and don’t waste Admins time with frivolous reports.

[Londonpunter30]

I think that’s a little unfair as I have found precious little to “leech”.

This for several reasons:
1) there are very few recent reviews for my area that is Bournemouth
2) I am too much of a newbie to be able to search the reviews of punters that seem to be in my area.
3) I am also unable to PM anyone for a bit of advice.

On the other hand I have already left feedback on two recent punts that didn’t justify a full review.

Why does being new prevent you from using the search button ? I've just put Bournemouth in and got loads of results.

If you've seen someone then post a review, there's no reason not to, don't just tag onto existing threads

[Joe Carstairs]

Registered June 2014 and six reviews. OK?

[Happyjose]

Registered June 2014 and six reviews. OK?

Sounding more and more like a troll

[Joe Carstairs]

Oh right...so reporting established members - what's all that about

I think you're a pro$$ie myself.  It all reads a bit too feminine
Either that or you're an obnoxious twat.
So not looking good.

40 months and 21 reviews!