seeking.com - Open Topic

[southcoastpunter]

It’s alarming because it’s not the norm. That’s the short answer.

there is an argument that because she knows as you do why you are meeting (ie to have sex) she is being careful and sensible - by making sure there are condoms avaiable. I am sure most SB's as well as SP have guys say "oh yes, protected" then " oh sorry i have forgotten them but its ok, i am clean etc"

[Atrueyorkie]

Probably best to agree to disagree but "I am also not expect her to go to be shops and buy condoms herself" in reality they will already most likely have some. To say you wont see a girl again if you found she had them, i guess also implies that you would not be happy if she was seeing guys in her civvy life let along another guy off of seeking

Yeah we can agree to disagree, not a problem or issue, just saying my perspective and what I’d do.

I wouldn’t really care what she does in her civvy life. My arrangements are no strings attached. And because I’m engaging in protected sex it shouldn’t matter to me. In the ideal scenario. You can never have a pussy monitor to detect if she’s having sex in her civvy life etc, which is why I will never do that “exclusive” arrangement because personally it’s the same thing, you can never guarantee.

In mine I actively encourage them to date, for me I’m not dating them (no strings attached) I’ve already got my own things going on, I am not supposed to be putting a stop on their life. So if things progress in their civvy life dating wise and they want to date someone they’re talking to it stops because it was meant to be no strings attached so it’s easy for either party to disengage.

The only group of females I’m familiar with bringing a batch of condoms to a sexual encounter is prostitutes. I’ve yet to “personally” see a normal civvy girl do that. 

[Atrueyorkie]

there is an argument that because she knows as you do why you are meeting (ie to have sex) she is being careful and sensible - by making sure there are condoms avaiable. I am sure most SB's as well as SP have guys say "oh yes, protected" then " oh sorry i have forgotten them but its ok, i am clean etc"

That’s surely where communication comes into play?

 I will speak for myself. I make it clear from the get go (meet and greet/intial comms), so it ensures she doesn’t need to purchase or look at getting them herself.

You communicate these things prior to the sexual encounter. I.e. ppm/allowance, likes/dislikes, boundaries and sex (protected).

That just boils down to basic preparation.

Personally, if there is any “oh I forgot to bring” exercise sexual restraint, if you’re in a hotel there will also be local shops hopefully nearby that usually stock condoms.

I can’t do a survey for every girl in England but the ones I’ve seen civvy life and on “Seeking” not a single on has a condom in there bag.

[Wowgeek]

Some interesting thoughts here.

I shall generalise greatly but in my 20s, when I was being quite free with my sexual excesses, and meeting girls at work and in clubs etc. many of them, not all of course, carried condoms. It was at a time when to do so showed independence long before the ladette culture of the 90s.

The thought was simple, if a woman wanted to go out and pull and shag, then she was entirely free to do so. She was probably on the pill for pregnancy protection but would carry condoms for one night stands without having to have a guy say ‘oh sorry I haven’t got any, let’s do it any way’.

I should say that this was during the AIDS epidemic and people were, generally, much more wary about intimate contact with strangers but I always took it as a sign of an independent, open, yet sensible woman.

These days, if I know I need to provide protection I will buy some on the way to the meet and hand them over unopened so she can see they’re a reputable brand and undamaged.

[stampjones]

Thanks!  Confirmed my thinking but wasn't sure.

Not only will they most likely not have any a lot won't care if you do either. In seeking you have to be very proactive with regards to sexual health and not rely on the sb to take care of it as with escorts

[Wowgeek]

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Thank you for this. Code worked for £75 and, using previous intelligence from this wonderful site, an Alaska zip code removed the sales tax, so £75 spent.

Good job all.

[YorkshireLad]

One week of a new account & already got the warning & had to watch the video. I’m always very careful with what I say on the site but it looks like you can’t mention the words arrangement & mutually beneficial anymore.
Message the wrong girl & she reports you, you’re banned!
From now on my only message is going to be ‘do you have WhatsApp so we can discuss what we are both looking for’ not worth the risk of having a conversation on site anymore!

[bigden40]

One week of a new account & already got the warning & had to watch the video. I’m always very careful with what I say on the site but it looks like you can’t mention the words arrangement & mutually beneficial anymore.
Message the wrong girl & she reports you, you’re banned!
From now on my only message is going to be ‘do you have WhatsApp so we can discuss what we are both looking for’ not worth the risk of having a conversation on site anymore!

100% this. 

I will only send an introductory message and if there’s interest move to WhatsApp or other messaging app.  Have never had a girl that was unwilling to do this.

[finn5555]

One week of a new account & already got the warning & had to watch the video. I’m always very careful with what I say on the site but it looks like you can’t mention the words arrangement & mutually beneficial anymore.
Message the wrong girl & she reports you, you’re banned!
From now on my only message is going to be ‘do you have WhatsApp so we can discuss what we are both looking for’ not worth the risk of having a conversation on site anymore!

The main problem lies with vindictive prossies on there, reject them, even politely and bang they drop you in the shit!

Get them on WhatsApp and blow them out they still can go back and report you.

Sadly seeking has had its day, to much of a risk now.

Although some guys claim 100% success with perfect beauties we all know that’s bollocks!

[YorkshireLad]

The main problem lies with vindictive prossies on there, reject them, even politely and bang they drop you in the shit!

Get them on WhatsApp and blow them out they still can go back and report you.

Sadly seeking has had its day, to much of a risk now.

Although some guys claim 100% success with perfect beauties we all know that’s bollocks!

Seeking has had its day but the market is there, one of their competitors needs to step up…all they have to do is basically clone the old SA & subscription model then advertise & attract girls to join.

[wirralpunter]

£138 for a months membership now, they've got too greedy in my opinion and will lose loads of members. Anyone tried any alternatives to seeking and if so which is the best?

[stanr]

£138 for a months membership now, they've got too greedy in my opinion and will lose loads of members. Anyone tried any alternatives to seeking and if so which is the best?

I now use SDM (SugarDaddyMeet)... cheaper, very few restrictions on what you can say in chat and had a couple of good meets off there......downside is that there are fewer numbers of SB's on the site than Seeking and you do get the usual number of online girls and wannabe's (£800 ppm from one girl yesterday)

[stampjones]

I now use SDM (SugarDaddyMeet)... cheaper, very few restrictions on what you can say in chat and had a couple of good meets off there......downside is that there are fewer numbers of SB's on the site than Seeking and you do get the usual number of online girls and wannabe's (£800 ppm from one girl yesterday)

sdm is a lot cheaper but its also a lot harder work. There doesnt seem to be a good place to meet SBs anymore. Interestingly (or not) Ive seen a couple of semi pro SBs on craigslist recently so maybe there is a shift happening. CL is such a ballache to use though

[Wowgeek]

£138 for a months membership now, they've got too greedy in my opinion and will lose loads of members. Anyone tried any alternatives to seeking and if so which is the best?

Using information gleaned from this very site I have just re-subbed, after a six month hiatus, for £75. I’ll see if I can find the post, it might have been on the London one but it wasn’t long ago, it included the link to the payment page. It was 25% discount from the £100 base and then I used an Alaska zip code which doesn’t charge sales tax. Job done!

To your second point, I’ve been using Secret Benefits more recently. There are some bits about the site I really like but there is still a large number of non responses or non follow ups after one response. You buy a number of credits which you then spend in opening up a conversation with those that pique your interest. Often you will get a message but there’s no way to read it until you use your credits. It’s then apparent that it’s a fairly generic, probably bot, generated message which never gets a response. You can also pay to admire them or to see more pics or see their answers to questions. I don’t know if they get that money but I’ve never spent the credits on anything except messaging

I have met one woman so far from the site, a very lovely French lady. The best bit, in my view, is the verification video part. You get to see the women, usually sans makeup and hear their voice. Some have made me message when I might not have done and others have allowed me to save 10 credits by seeing them without the touched up and edited glamour shots!

There are still the outlandish finance requests and as long as guys keep paying them the women will keep asking for them, but I don’t know how to solve that.

Good luck in your endeavours.

[Wowgeek]

Using information gleaned from this very site I have just re-subbed, after a six month hiatus, for £75. I’ll see if I can find the post, it might have been on the London one but it wasn’t long ago, it included the link to the payment page. It was 25% discount from the £100 base and then I used an Alaska zip code which doesn’t charge sales tax. Job done!

To your second point, I’ve been using Secret Benefits more recently. There are some bits about the site I really like but there is still a large number of non responses or non follow ups after one response. You buy a number of credits which you then spend in opening up a conversation with those that pique your interest. Often you will get a message but there’s no way to read it until you use your credits. It’s then apparent that it’s a fairly generic, probably bot, generated message which never gets a response. You can also pay to admire them or to see more pics or see their answers to questions. I don’t know if they get that money but I’ve never spent the credits on anything except messaging

I have met one woman so far from the site, a very lovely French lady. The best bit, in my view, is the verification video part. You get to see the women, usually sans makeup and hear their voice. Some have made me message when I might not have done and others have allowed me to save 10 credits by seeing them without the touched up and edited glamour shots!

There are still the outlandish finance requests and as long as guys keep paying them the women will keep asking for them, but I don’t know how to solve that.

Good luck in your endeavours.

Found it, it was at the bottom of the previous page 😁 Rla3bz

[Wowgeek]

In the spirit of sharing I’ve been asked about my Alaska zip code reference for renewing the SA subscription.

I don’t claim any credit, there’s a thread on it on here somewhere, but basically I use a disposable (one time only) Revolut card and on the payment page put in a pony name and a zip code from one of the US states that don’t charge sales tax, there are a few to choose from. I then put in a street name that can also be found by googling the zip code.

Then the system doesn’t add the 20% tax and you just pay the base price. Because the card is one use only it won’t give you an auto renewal surprise!

Hope this answers the question.

[wirralpunter]

In the spirit of sharing I’ve been asked about my Alaska zip code reference for renewing the SA subscription.

I don’t claim any credit, there’s a thread on it on here somewhere, but basically I use a disposable (one time only) Revolut card and on the payment page put in a pony name and a zip code from one of the US states that don’t charge sales tax, there are a few to choose from. I then put in a street name that can also be found by googling the zip code.

Then the system doesn’t add the 20% tax and you just pay the base price. Because the card is one use only it won’t give you an auto renewal surprise!

Hope this answers the question.

Thats a great help thanks

[stampjones]

In the spirit of sharing I’ve been asked about my Alaska zip code reference for renewing the SA subscription.

I don’t claim any credit, there’s a thread on it on here somewhere, but basically I use a disposable (one time only) Revolut card and on the payment page put in a pony name and a zip code from one of the US states that don’t charge sales tax, there are a few to choose from. I then put in a street name that can also be found by googling the zip code.

Then the system doesn’t add the 20% tax and you just pay the base price. Because the card is one use only it won’t give you an auto renewal surprise!

Hope this answers the question.

My only concern about the zip code thing would be you’re basically defrauding the government rather than seeking so you could theoretically end up in trouble. Unlikely but not worth the risk to save £20 imo

[paul_tall_]

My only concern about the zip code thing would be you’re basically defrauding the government rather than seeking so you could theoretically end up in trouble. Unlikely but not worth the risk to save £20 imo

Is it also worth the risk of having your account banned, advertising the method could easily be shared with them

[Bru1901]

In the spirit of sharing I’ve been asked about my Alaska zip code reference for renewing the SA subscription.

I don’t claim any credit, there’s a thread on it on here somewhere, but basically I use a disposable (one time only) Revolut card and on the payment page put in a pony name and a zip code from one of the US states that don’t charge sales tax, there are a few to choose from. I then put in a street name that can also be found by googling the zip code.

Then the system doesn’t add the 20% tax and you just pay the base price. Because the card is one use only it won’t give you an auto renewal surprise!

Hope this answers the question.

Can you use a promo code also? So alaska zip code with no sales tax and also a promo code?

[macman26]

2025 was really the year of discovering secret benefits for me, basically, I spent £140 and I've successfully got 5 'dates' of qualities, conversations with about 15 women.

Tips:

1. don't wasted time £ viewing photographs etc - just spend the credits on messaging. 

2. Thing I have learnt is to stay clear of the hot model women.

3. Definitely don't pay for an initial meet literally coffee walk et cetera. Get them on WhatsApp to talk, but don't use your real number get a separate number on phone or app on business WhatsApp.

4. The verification videos are quite good, but some of the real people don't upload them.

5. keep the profile clean and very matter-of-fact and businesslike stating that you want a long-term relationship arrangement.

6. A lot of women are a little bit unstable or have issues, hence be careful with your privacy

7. the younger ones under 30 really don't register with condom usage anymore so I guess decide what you want. I had one date categorically refused because I wanted to use one.

[macman26]

Not only will they most likely not have any a lot won't care if you do either. In seeking you have to be very proactive with regards to sexual health and not rely on the sb to take care of it as with escorts

I know a lot of them don't even bother with contraception anymore. Think the pill makes them fat and then won't explore the other options like iud....  they literally will suggest you just withdraw and finish over their tummy lol....  But it's all about associated risk, what do you really want and prepared to risk?? And please get tested regularly!

I would be lying to say I've used a condom every time I've been with an arrangement girl, but I have been very careful afterwards getting tested. When they tell you they're not on contraception even with a condom I think now I just prefer to do other things rather than just penetrate them the vagina

[Wowgeek]

Can you use a promo code also? So alaska zip code with no sales tax and also a promo code?

Yes, that’s exactly the point.

I will also reiterate that none of this is my work. All of this information has been on this site for a very long time, all I did was consolidate it.

[Neo]

Logged back in for the first time in ages and surprised to see the membership after the 20% discount £106, up from the £96

[thundercrackerxx]

I joined Sugardaddymeet but it wouldn't let me search within my area without me upgrading to premium first. So I have no idea if there's even anyone remotely close to me on there before paying. Also couldn't see anything on girls profiles to indicate when they last logged in so have no idea if they're even active.

[macman26]

I joined Sugardaddymeet but it wouldn't let me search within my area without me upgrading to premium first. So I have no idea if there's even anyone remotely close to me on there before paying. Also couldn't see anything on girls profiles to indicate when they last logged in so have no idea if they're even active.

Now you've also got to get in the mindset of women... once they talk to their friends. Seeking, secret benefits and also tinder plus Facebook dating other ones which are well know. The last 2 it's an absolute minefield, and depends how good looking you are! About 25% just after a simple arrangement, another 25% happy with just hook up and the rest want something long-term... if you put in the hours, it can also save your pile of cash as lots of girls on their same point naive about how much worth. I had an arrangement with a girl from Facebook dating literally 50 quid for am. Happy days, but then she met someone that she was serious about ;(

[thundercrackerxx]

Now you've also got to get in the mindset of women... once they talk to their friends. Seeking, secret benefits and also tinder plus Facebook dating other ones which are well know. The last 2 it's an absolute minefield, and depends how good looking you are! About 25% just after a simple arrangement, another 25% happy with just hook up and the rest want something long-term... if you put in the hours, it can also save your pile of cash as lots of girls on their same point naive about how much worth. I had an arrangement with a girl from Facebook dating literally 50 quid for am. Happy days, but then she met someone that she was serious about ;(

I'll have to give facebook dating a go. How do you approach girls on there about arrangements?

[macman26]

I'll have to give facebook dating a go. How do you approach girls on there about arrangements?

 Well, mate, if the photographs look like a nun, literally don't bother.... The key is of the listing says something casual as well or nothing there what they're looking for.  After a few polite messages, maybe after a day or two, try and get them on WhatsApp or text to broach the subject you don't want to get banned. Then just literally ask outright as "I wonder if this might be something you would be interested in.".  Literally, there's no point saying about sleeping together you just need to be manners and just say for a date they don't wanna feel like prostitutes.... and then before you know it go out for coffee or somewhere cheap.

A day later, quite happily making out in the living room and hours of lovely sex

[ik8133]

I joined Sugardaddymeet but it wouldn't let me search within my area without me upgrading to premium first. So I have no idea if there's even anyone remotely close to me on there before paying. Also couldn't see anything on girls profiles to indicate when they last logged in so have no idea if they're even active.

Did you sign up for it?  I've been on as well without signing up, it's not the best site for info about the girls, and it's quite important to gauge how active they are. 

[ik8133]

Now you've also got to get in the mindset of women... once they talk to their friends. Seeking, secret benefits and also tinder plus Facebook dating other ones which are well know. The last 2 it's an absolute minefield, and depends how good looking you are! About 25% just after a simple arrangement, another 25% happy with just hook up and the rest want something long-term... if you put in the hours, it can also save your pile of cash as lots of girls on their same point naive about how much worth. I had an arrangement with a girl from Facebook dating literally 50 quid for am. Happy days, but then she met someone that she was serious about ;(

Can you be anonymous of Facebook dating if you are married or have a partner? 

[bigden40]

Can you be anonymous of Facebook dating if you are married or have a partner?

Create a burner Facebook account with your punting phone and a disposable email.

[macman26]

Yes, if you do that with a fake profile, you need to start also be-friending people too some people, there's no guarantee that the Facebook dating will actually appear on a profile. It seems arbitrary when it pops up..   the profile is completely separate from your main Facebook profile upload different photographs to it and it won't list your name...  so the other thing to do is put a different location if you're happy to travel and then go through and block all of your friends from accessing the Facebook dating profile. 

it's only available on the phone not on the iPad. 

 Like I said, there is some very mixed people on there, but it's an interesting mix to try

[paul_tall_]

Sounds like a lot of trouble to go to for something that appears to be more scant
than any of the other sites with no guarantee of anything you couldn’t find on other sites.
A whole fake profile is not practical

[macman26]

Sounds like a lot of trouble to go to for something that appears to be more scant
than any of the other sites with no guarantee of anything you couldn’t find on other sites.
A whole fake profile is not practical

Well, I definitely think about creating a fake profile is a no-no for me But can understand the issue for some people…. Personally in the scale of rewarding good shag.  AW, Seeking/serect benefits, tinder, FB Dating pick up in bar/pub.

When I say about rewarding, I mean decent sex

[ippo29]

Is seeking still worth it in 2026?

I used it back in 2023 and met 2 different girls in London with £200 ppm and had a good time.

Then the 3rd different girl just wanted to charge me £200 to meet up & get to know but wanted £600 for sex and somehow i ended up meeting her and paying £200 where I realised I just wasted my money and I should have used WG instead.

Thinking of jumping back in 2026 and test the waters again!

[Mr Garmin]

Is seeking still worth it in 2026?

I used it back in 2023 and met 2 different girls in London with £200 ppm and had a good time.

Then the 3rd different girl just wanted to charge me £200 to meet up & get to know but wanted £600 for sex and somehow i ended up meeting her and paying £200 where I realised I just wasted my money and I should have used WG instead.

Thinking of jumping back in 2026 and test the waters again!

I think of Seeking like a normal dating site but where money can get you access that you otherwise wouldn't, and a shag is virtually guaranteed.

I don't even think that it's comparable to seeing escorts.  It's harder work finding a good one and definitely costs more, however on a hourly rate it can work out significantly cheaper.  I spent NYE/NYD with my new SB and we were together for ~8 hours at the special rate of £200.  You may be able to guess how we celebrated the new year.

[marmalade17]

2025 was really the year of discovering secret benefits  .....

This is pretty much my experience, if you filter out the too good to be true profiles you can find some genuine people.  Once you get chatting and meet for coffee many of them aren't really bothered by the sugar part although obviously some flowers or gifts each time you meet keeps everyone happy!

I've also come across the blase attitude to safe sex and contraception, it's mind boggling!

[YorkshireLad]

Is seeking still worth it in 2026?

I used it back in 2023 and met 2 different girls in London with £200 ppm and had a good time.

Then the 3rd different girl just wanted to charge me £200 to meet up & get to know but wanted £600 for sex and somehow i ended up meeting her and paying £200 where I realised I just wasted my money and I should have used WG instead.

Thinking of jumping back in 2026 and test the waters again!

It worth it abroad & maybe if you live in London.
I’ve been using it exclusively in Eastern Europe for the last few years, been shagging stunners for around £200.
I’m currently looking for meets in West Yorkshire & the standard of women is terrible. Average looking girls asking for £300+
Also way more British girls treating it like a vanilla dating site compared to Eastern European girls.

[paul_tall_]

Is seeking still worth it in 2026?

I used it back in 2023 and met 2 different girls in London with £200 ppm and had a good time.

Then the 3rd different girl just wanted to charge me £200 to meet up & get to know but wanted £600 for sex and somehow i ended up meeting her and paying £200 where I realised I just wasted my money and I should have used WG instead.

Thinking of jumping back in 2026 and test the waters again!

The cost of membership has probably doubled since then as has the expected allowance.
I would say it really depends on what you want and what you are happy to pay we are all different.
Im sure even as you are in London you will recognise a few people from before
Just dont talk money, benefits, allowance, ppm, sugar daddy / baby in the message system and dont answer any girls messages that do to save you from being banned

[Bru1901]

The cost of membership has probably doubled since then as has the expected allowance.
I would say it really depends on what you want and what you are happy to pay we are all different.
Im sure even as you are in London you will recognise a few people from before
Just dont talk money, benefits, allowance, ppm, sugar daddy / baby in the message system and dont answer any girls messages that do to save you from being banned

Ive found it to be fine if someone messages with rates and you then take it to whatsapp is fine.
If they instigate then fine. Otherwise i mostly take to whatsapp to discuss fees

[Smama]

Who is this woman Ria Grace. She is all over social media and Facebook

[Mr Garmin]

Who is this woman Ria Grace. She is all over social media and Facebook

She's a musician apparently.

Why, is she on Seeking?

[YorkshireLad]

Does a monthly subscription last 30 days or expire the same day the following month?
If I buy one today at 6pm, will it expire at 6pm on the 8th April?

[Alonsy]

Yes