seeking.com - Open Topic

[paul_tall_]

Today if I search from a location around here Surrey/Hants border with a radius that doesn’t hit London the profiles that show as active in the last 5 days are in the main 30s and 40s and I would say mainly centred around mid 30s. Numerous of those profiles have been active for a number of years 

[jimbobted]

Thought I'd dip into seeking again. Fuck me it was always expensive but 1 month is now £250!!

They also seem terribly fussy and have rejected the blurb ont profile for some reason - it was all fairly innocuous stuff.

I'm not sure it's worth it, but I believe most of the alternative ways of finding SBs are a bit scummy/plagued with bots?

[Sparta Prada]

1 month Premium membership is £100, 3 months is £250.

[Mr Garmin]

They also seem terribly fussy and have rejected the blurb ont profile for some reason - it was all fairly innocuous stuff.

They often tell you that your bio is inapposite for some reason.  Just ignore the warning and they still publish your profile. 

[MLawro93]

They often tell you that your bio is inapposite for some reason.  Just ignore the warning and they still publish your profile.

Increased risk of getting a ban though if you ignore the warnings. Their systems are really fussy now. They don't want mention of anything linking to arrangements, payment, etc, its now a high class dating site (but we know it isn't  )

[Mr Garmin]

Increased risk of getting a ban though if you ignore the warnings. Their systems are really fussy now. They don't want mention of anything linking to arrangements, payment, etc, its now a high class dating site (but we know it isn't  )

That's the point.  My blurb is completely innocuous with absolutely nothing inappropriate and I still get the warning.  If I change the text the warning still comes in so I just ignore it.  Not been banned or suspended.....yet

[jimbobted]

Yeah I think it objected to something g along the lines of "you need to know the score and understand why we are both here". Which is hardly outright offering cash for sex.

[jimbobted]

1 month Premium membership is £100, 3 months is £250.

Oh yeah, my bad.

What's the seeking scene like these days? I last subscribed a couple of years ago, lots of WGs and scammers and people demanding £150 for a dinner date with no sex ona first date etc. I did hook up with 4 girls.
1 who I met platonically for no payment to establish she wanted to do an overnight. Agreed price, confirmed full services then she took my cash and didn't deliver. Had the cheek to tell me "you shouldn't expect anything when dating"!
2. Uni student. Did an overnight, handsome fun but she was a bit crazy. Was on my way to pick her up for another overnight when I got a message saying her flatmates had intervened with her parents and she was going to rehab for a massive drink/cocaine habit. Probably a lucky escape.
3. Failed actress in her early 30s. She was extremely attractive. Platonic meet followed by overnight. Good fun. Then followed by loads of sob stories to try and extract "loans", living on a park bench, tried to kill myself, homeless etc meanwhile her Instagram shows her in Cannes, at glitzy events in London etc. "oh but that's not real, I have to keep my image up". Uh huh, where do you keep all your dresses in the park? Did do another overnight but she said the painters were in so no fun. Ended up blocking her.
4. Nice slim lass in her early 30s who provided 2 to 3 hours fun at her flat for £250. Ended up seeing her regularly. She's been in sex work since she was 18, on and off. Basically a hooker but not on AW. Great, couple of hours filthy fun for a reasonable fee, decent laugh during the pillow talk and no bullshit. Wouldn't do overnights or anything. Alas she is now retired.

[Mr Garmin]

Yeah I think it objected to something g along the lines of "you need to know the score and understand why we are both here". Which is hardly outright offering cash for sex.

Mines not even as suggestive as that.  I assumed it was some particularly enthusiastic bug in their system.

[Mr Garmin]

4. Nice slim lass in her early 30s who provided 2 to 3 hours fun at her flat for £250. Ended up seeing her regularly. She's been in sex work since she was 18, on and off. Basically a hooker but not on AW. Great, couple of hours filthy fun for a reasonable fee, decent laugh during the pillow talk and no bullshit. Wouldn't do overnights or anything. Alas she is now retired.

I have a sneaking suspicion that I know who this is.  Is there a tenuous Harry Potter connection?

[jimbobted]

I have a sneaking suspicion that I know who this is.  Is there a tenuous Harry Potter connection?

Yes, but he has slightly more hair than his namesake  . Did you also get hard stares? 

[southcoastpunter]

Yeah I think it objected to something g along the lines of "you need to know the score and understand why we are both here". Which is hardly outright offering cash for sex.

But that it’s not something you would typically see in a traditional dating site /profile! Whether we like it or not, whether we think it is or not, the fact is that Seeking are trying to turn it into a high end traditional dating site and therefore comments like that are going to be picked up!

Seeking still has all the sorts it did before but now has so new girls who joined thinking it is a high end dating site and expect to meet high net worth guys who will take them out for a traditional type date!! And then they get us lot!!!

[jimbobted]

I did wonder why the relationship choices have all changed to various ways of saying "single".
Someone needs to make a new site.
Maybe I'll try secret benefits. I think it's a very scammy site with lots of bot activity as i refuse to believe 10 girls a day are messaging my dormant profile, that's just a come on to make me buy credits. But I do know people have had success.

[Mr Garmin]

I don't know if this has been mentioned anywhere on here, but I got an email this evening saying that Seeking are putting their prices up and doing away with Premium membership to be replaced with 2 new tiers Platinum & Gold (not sure how the Gold works the email was a bit vague).

Platinum Subscription (30-day): $130 → $150
Platinum Subscription (90-day): $330 → $380
Diamond Subscription (30-day): $325 → $375

It has all the signs of a site on the decline with the owners thrashing around to get the last squeeze out of it.

[stampjones]

I did wonder why the relationship choices have all changed to various ways of saying "single".
Someone needs to make a new site.
Maybe I'll try secret benefits. I think it's a very scammy site with lots of bot activity as i refuse to believe 10 girls a day are messaging my dormant profile, that's just a come on to make me buy credits. But I do know people have had success.

SugarDaddyMeet is pretty decent. Not as many members as seeking but much cheaper (I think I paid 110 for 6 months last time) and you dont have to watch what you say on profiles or messages. Its harder work than seeking but still delivers if you’re prepared to invest the time. Ive met some of my best SBs on there and I just cba jumping through the seeking hoops anymore. I would say its probably a london only site to all intents as there doesn't seem to be much action outside there

[90125]

I don't know if this has been mentioned anywhere on here, but I got an email this evening saying that Seeking are putting their prices up and doing away with Premium membership to be replaced with 2 new tiers Platinum & Gold (not sure how the Gold works the email was a bit vague).

Platinum Subscription (30-day): $130 → $150
Platinum Subscription (90-day): $330 → $380
Diamond Subscription (30-day): $325 → $375

It has all the signs of a site on the decline with the owners thrashing around to get the last squeeze out of it.

For proper context the full email is below.

We're writing to inform you of an upcoming change to our membership pricing, effective January 1, 2026. Additionally, our Premium membership tier will be renamed the Platinum membership tier or Gold membership tier, depending on your membership level and eligibility.

What's Changing:
Platinum Subscription (30-day): $130 → $150
Platinum Subscription (90-day): $330 → $380
Diamond Subscription (30-day): $325 → $375

Important: Current members who subscribe or renew before January 1, 2026 will continue to enjoy current pricing for as long as their subscription remains active.

Those who still have their pre-July 2025 rate are still eligible to maintain that rate into 2026.

If your subscription lapses after this date, new pricing will apply upon reactivation.

Why This Matters (and Why It's Good News):
We're building the most exclusive and authentic database of eligible singles on earth. Here's what your investment yields:

Price as a Quality Filter: Higher pricing eliminates non-serious, low-intent, and disrespectful members from our platform. For you, this means less competition for quality matches and less competition for the attention of our most desirable members. Your time becomes more valuable when everyone in the room is equally invested.

Enhanced Verification for Desirable Members: Your membership directly funds stronger verification requirements for our member base, including selfie liveness checks, optional ID verification, and advanced fraud prevention. This additional step is intentional: it ensures the quality of our database and guarantees that the people you're meeting are genuine and serious.

Strategic Investment in Innovation: We are always working to bring you the experience that you are investing in; this will enable us to spread the word even further. We will reach a greater audience, bringing in some of the most eligible individuals you can hope to meet, across the globe. On the tech side, we endeavour to bring you smarter matching algorithms, improved customer service, and value-added features. In the end, we have a shared goal: helping you find the match of a lifetime.

Our Promise:
We will continue raising the bar on verification, safety, product quality, and community standards. We will guard your privacy and never compromise on security. And we will keep building a platform where the best can meet the best.

If you believe love should be extraordinary, not average, you're in the right place.

Read about this announcement on our blog.

Thank you for continuing to be a part of Seeking.

Warm regards,
Brandon Wade and Dana Rosewall
Founder & Co-CEOs
Seeking.com

[paul_tall_]

Basing this on the UK only and ignoring the USA whilst i can understand the reasons the are upping the prices once more they are not really in my view attract female members to the site even as a dating site. There are new profiles in certainly the south east that read as looking for high end dating but only a few and there are still the issues of content sellers spam messaging from across the world. I don't think the price increase is so high it will stop many guys subscribing i think its the quality of girls that are on there.

[marmalade17]

Maybe I'll try secret benefits. I think it's a very scammy site with lots of bot activity as i refuse to believe 10 girls a day are messaging my dormant profile, that's just a come on to make me buy credits. But I do know people have had success.

The key is to file filter out the dormant profiles with checks for proof of life! If they respond in any way or view your profile they are real. Also profiles on the “newest” tab seem to be real.

See my earlier post about Secret Benefits https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=244630.msg4345534#msg4345534

[stanr]

SugarDaddyMeet is pretty decent. Not as many members as seeking but much cheaper (I think I paid 110 for 6 months last time) and you dont have to watch what you say on profiles or messages. Its harder work than seeking but still delivers if you’re prepared to invest the time. Ive met some of my best SBs on there and I just cba jumping through the seeking hoops anymore. I would say its probably a london only site to all intents as there doesn't seem to be much action outside there

I tried this site earlier this year and would echo the points raised here. Not as many members, cheaper and some nice women on it....plus you dont have to watch what you say in conversations, which means less wasted chats on whats app

Just signed up for 3 months to give it a proper go both here in UK and overseas

[Rock4ages]

Thanks for the info, went to sign up only to realise i have a profile, signed up a few years back and forgot with my face showing  . Do all the SBs there want 500-600 ppm like seeking as well   . Just trying to find if that is the going rate or its because seeking has had a mass infiltration by escorts 

[stanr]

Thanks for the info, went to sign up only to realise i have a profile, signed up a few years back and forgot with my face showing  . Do all the SBs there want 500-600 ppm like seeking as well   . Just trying to find if that is the going rate or its because seeking has had a mass infiltration by escorts 

no they dont... there are one or two with high expectations, but most seem ok prices

[southcoastpunter]

I would have thought that depends on where in the country you are. Seeking girls in London may ask that sort of figure ( but if you read the London seeking thread many guys seem to get them at a lower figure) and certainly in other parts of the uk , £250-350 is not an usual figure!

I tend to do monthly allowance and get 4 overnights for £1k per month in the SE /SW border area ( Portsmouth- Southampton- Bournemouth- Salisbury- Weymouth) but that tends to includes taking them to nice places / restaurants etc ie we do things together and it’s not just a “hotel meet”

[Mstar86]

I would have thought that depends on where in the country you are. Seeking girls in London may ask that sort of figure ( but if you read the London seeking thread many guys seem to get them at a lower figure) and certainly in other parts of the uk , £250-350 is not an usual figure!

I tend to do monthly allowance and get 4 overnights for £1k per month in the SE /SW border area ( Portsmouth- Southampton- Bournemouth- Salisbury- Weymouth) but that tends to includes taking them to nice places / restaurants etc ie we do things together and it’s not just a “hotel meet”

Hey SCP, so do you mean £1k allowance + 4 dates + 4 hotels (or do some come to you or you to them?)

[southcoastpunter]

Yes - the maximum monthly allowance I have done for my ( now 6 ) long term SB’s ( all lasting over a year , one a year and a half, one 2 and a half years ) is £1000. Some a bit less than- I try to pitch it as helping with their bills eg rent or phone, car etc to make it seem a little less transactional! I usually only have one on the go at any one time, sometimes an overlap if I know one is coming to an end!

As I am single and live alone , I host at mine and only use hotels if we are away ( long weekend or away on a trip etc! I do things with them - whether that’s social, dinner at a nice restaurant, a sport or adventure activity or a London show etc so total costs are a lot more than just £1k per month! But yes that is usually for 4 overnights- more if we are away for weekends or a trip but less if I am away on business or holiday

[Bru1901]

Yes - the maximum monthly allowance I have done for my ( now 6 ) long term SB’s ( all lasting over a year , one a year and a half, one 2 and a half years ) is £1000. Some a bit less than- I try to pitch it as helping with their bills eg rent or phone, car etc to make it seem a little less transactional! I usually only have one on the go at any one time, sometimes an overlap if I know one is coming to an end!

As I am single and live alone , I host at mine and only use hotels if we are away ( long weekend or away on a trip etc! I do things with them - whether that’s social, dinner at a nice restaurant, a sport or adventure activity or a London show etc so total costs are a lot more than just £1k per month! But yes that is usually for 4 overnights- more if we are away for weekends or a trip but less if I am away on business or holiday

1k a month would get you plenty girls up and down the country

Only issue is you would need to be vary of scammers and the like. They sign up.and have one meet and then ghost

[bigden40]

1k a month would get you plenty girls up and down the country

Only issue is you would need to be vary of scammers and the like. They sign up.and have one meet and then ghost

Whenever I’ve done a monthly it’s been on the understanding of starting with a PPM or the allowance is paid weekly until we have established a connection and meeting cadence that works for both of us.  Typically I’ve started the monthly allowance in month 2 or 3

[southcoastpunter]

1k a month would get you plenty girls up and down the country

You are probably right but for me, that is the point - I don’t want that! I struggle to find girls I like ( both on Seeking and AW ) in my area - and I like to really get to know them, and enjoy spending time with them and they with me - like them as a fun person not just someone I like to fuck (although that is important too)!

Like bigden,  I phase into a monthly allowance- say pay a quarter each week during the first month! I don’t do PPm’s or see girls that do PPm’s as if they are PPming you,  they are probably PPMing others too!

I know that how I see them and use Seeking is different from how most guys on here use Seeking!

[Mstar86]

Yes - the maximum monthly allowance I have done for my ( now 6 ) long term SB’s ( all lasting over a year , one a year and a half, one 2 and a half years ) is £1000. Some a bit less than- I try to pitch it as helping with their bills eg rent or phone, car etc to make it seem a little less transactional! I usually only have one on the go at any one time, sometimes an overlap if I know one is coming to an end!

As I am single and live alone , I host at mine and only use hotels if we are away ( long weekend or away on a trip etc! I do things with them - whether that’s social, dinner at a nice restaurant, a sport or adventure activity or a London show etc so total costs are a lot more than just £1k per month! But yes that is usually for 4 overnights- more if we are away for weekends or a trip but less if I am away on business or holiday

Thanks for the reply mate, really helpful to understand how each person uses SA differently. Also how if you’re single & live alone how it makes a big difference cost wise. Essentially you’ve got a girlfriend arrangement but without the shit parts, just weekly fun which sounds great. Doesn’t seem expensive once you’ve explained it and can see how this type of companionship would feel way less transactional and you actually get to know them on a deeper level.

Do they all turn off their SA once allowance is agreed / started?

[southcoastpunter]

Do they all turn off their SA once allowance is agreed / started?

mine did, yes - although there will be some guys on here who are sceptical and think that they all are always trying to con us guys etc and seeing loads of others all the time. But after knowing them all that time, and with t he benefit of hindsight and staying friends with most of them after the arrangement finished  etc i am still convinced that what they told me is correct. Doing what i do, i get to know a lot about them (passoort details and have meet some of their friends etc) and they get to know my real name (from bank transfers) and of course my address etc so trust both ways is essential and considerable.

This doesn't mean they were all exclusive to me - either on Seeking or in "civvy" life - my first one also had an arrangement with her landlord (this was 6 years ago so before it was illegal), my second did have the odd civvy ONS (and told me all about them) and one told me at our original M&G meeting that she was lookinmg for 3 Seeking guys. however for various reasons the other 2 didn't last too long so we were seeking exclusive from then on. 2 were totally exclusive to me - i actually used to encourage them to see other civvy guys of their own age - didn't want to get into any EAS situations (as we like to call it on here) with a lady in her mid 20's !!

I'm taking a bit of a break from Seeking at the moment - in part because of the difficulty in finding someone i like locally to me who want to do the things i do and in part because i have someone i initially meet via Seeking but didn't make an arrangement with because she couldn't do gthe travelling or weekends away i wanted to do and partly as then i was looking for 20's / early 30's and she was late 30's. But we stayed in touch and did the occasion FWB meetings, Recently however we have been meeting more often and she is now in her 40's so i'm a little more comfortable with the age gap when doing social things and meeting my friends etc.

I have really enjoyed Seeking but being single and able to host was a big advantage and like a lot of guys now, i think the best years of Seeking are behind us!!

[Carl Adams]

Do they all turn off their SA once allowance is agreed / started?

Allegedly!

I still have 2 accounts that are dormant at the moment - I did it that way after thinking a SB was lying about her profile so set a new account up and she was one of the first to show an interest!!

So I soon discovered that they can block you and it looks like they have gone but with my other account (Profile details never completed) I could see whether the girl was still on.

The one bit I am not 100% sure about is when they set preferences and those do not match my basic profile info.

[Bru1901]

Is there any active promo codes? Need to sub in again

[ifajs71]

Interesting read above. Many shared experiences. I was on SA for many years and found the experience better than AW. A few years ago, I got banned (again) from Seeking as Ait judged me to be looking for sex in exchange for money. That did not require Hercule Poirot's investigating skills. I moved to SDM, which is far more lenient in its monitoring of members" activities, but does have fewer fish in a smaller pool. I've recently deleted my account, but will probably return to SDM again. I would love to find a straight-forward SD/SB site again, as Seeking Arrangement was, but I guess they don't exist anymore

[ik8133]

Interesting read above. Many shared experiences. I was on SA for many years and found the experience better than AW. A few years ago, I got banned (again) from Seeking as Ait judged me to be looking for sex in exchange for money. That did not require Hercule Poirot's investigating skills. I moved to SDM, which is far more lenient in its monitoring of members" activities, but does have fewer fish in a smaller pool. I've recently deleted my account, but will probably return to SDM again. I would love to find a straight-forward SD/SB site again, as Seeking Arrangement was, but I guess they don't exist anymore

I haven't done badly using Secret Benefits, maybe worth giving that a try?

[southcoastpunter]

went into my messages on Seeking today and against one conversation saw the dreaded "blocked" sign - but when looking at the conversation it said "Unable to send a message as user is not approved"

never seen that before. anyone had that before? she was new, only a few days into her membership and young (18) so maybe her ID didn't check out but as i said, i have never seen that exact message before!

[Alonsy]

Yes I have had seen that too. Was going to ask on here if anyone else has got that. You can’t send a message either to the person.

[PLeisure]

Also had the same this morning - young girl (19, maybe) in The Netherlands.
After a few attempts, the message went through.
Soon after, I had to block her

[Rock4ages]

I have had this. Seeking is forcing females to selfie identify when they sign back to the app. If they don't you can't message them until the send a selfie verification request. If that gets blocked you can't message them. Hope my 2.30 am brain did a good job of explaing that   

[Iloveoral]

Yes I have had seen that too. Was going to ask on here if anyone else has got that. You can’t send a message either to the person.

Getting a tad behind matey

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[MindyandMork]

So annoyingly it looks as though I've fallen foul of Seeking's crappy AI (it certainly feels like AI) and landed a permanent ban.

Genuinely unsure what it was, I mean they buggered about with names/usernames/nicknames, then claimed parts of my profile were vulgar (which they definitely weren't).

When asking them to explain why something wasn't compliant, they would merely parrot "make it compliant". Okay, kinda need to understand how to do that, unless telepathy is going to work. They also clearly don't appreciate being asked to explain their thinking as they tend to end tickets with the text along the lines of "further replies to this ticket will not get a response". Translation, piss off and stop being awkward.

The bit that grates is I had paid for a 3 month sub which is only about half way through. Anybody got a tip on how best to get this charged back? I don't appreciate having paid for something I'm not getting, despite what their knobjockey T's & C's have to say on the matter.

[SwenyTodd]

Anyone got a promo code that'll work for SA?

[finn5555]

Anyone got a promo code that'll work for SA?

They don't do them anymore

[Iloveoral]

So annoyingly it looks as though I've fallen foul of Seeking's crappy AI (it certainly feels like AI) and landed a permanent ban.

Genuinely unsure what it was, I mean they buggered about with names/usernames/nicknames, then claimed parts of my profile were vulgar (which they definitely weren't).

When asking them to explain why something wasn't compliant, they would merely parrot "make it compliant". Okay, kinda need to understand how to do that, unless telepathy is going to work. They also clearly don't appreciate being asked to explain their thinking as they tend to end tickets with the text along the lines of "further replies to this ticket will not get a response". Translation, piss off and stop being awkward.

The bit that grates is I had paid for a 3 month sub which is only about half way through. Anybody got a tip on how best to get this charged back? I don't appreciate having paid for something I'm not getting, despite what their knobjockey T's & C's have to say on the matter.

A polite nudge with reviews please 

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[BeingSilent]

Hoping one of you gents can help with this one…

When meeting someone from seeking, do you take your own Doms/Lube? I’m close to meeting someone of seeking but the logistics are a bit hazy.

[Atrueyorkie]

Hoping one of you gents can help with this one…

When meeting someone from seeking, do you take your own Doms/Lube? I’m close to meeting someone of seeking but the logistics are a bit hazy.

Yes. You’re not meeting an escort.

An escort would carry condoms.

I would be very alarmed if a GND/female civvy is just carrying around condoms.

[bigden40]

Hoping one of you gents can help with this one…

When meeting someone from seeking, do you take your own Doms/Lube? I’m close to meeting someone of seeking but the logistics are a bit hazy.

I do. Bear in mind that the girls there are a complete spectrum from seasoned escorts to genuine civilians, at the civilian end of the spectrum it’s much less likely that they’ll carry them.

[BeingSilent]

Thanks!  Confirmed my thinking but wasn't sure.

[paul_tall_]

Yes. You’re not meeting an escort.

An escort would carry condoms.

I would be very alarmed if a GND/female civvy is just carrying around condoms.

Why is it alarming if a female is carrying condoms but ok for a guy ?
Isn’t it just sensible either way if you haven’t discussed it , also sometimes the guy might want to be slightly more discreet and the girl is happy to go with that if you have discussed before.
Unfortunately there are guys that try there luck by not having any on them.

[Atrueyorkie]

Why is it alarming if a female is carrying condoms but ok for a guy ?
Isn’t it just sensible either way if you haven’t discussed it , also sometimes the guy might want to be slightly more discreet and the girl is happy to go with that if you have discussed before.
Unfortunately there are guys that try there luck by not having any on them.

It’s alarming because it’s not the norm. That’s the short answer.

Not a rhetorical question I’m going to ask. Are you expecting a civvy girl to carry round a batch of condoms?

Now to presumptions, because it’s not the norm, for a civvy girl to carry a batch of condoms, if she does that *can* indicate she’s either extremely sexually active, seeing a lot of people in short span or potentially  semi pro if not pro.

Communication comes into the next part. If I’m talking to an SB naturally in most cases sexual talk comes up. I personally like protected, so I will say I like playing safe. I don’t need to spell out I’m bringing condoms but the fact I’ve highlighted I like playing safe and I am also not expect her to go to be shops and buy condoms herself without seeing my penis, I’m the only party expected to bring and have condoms.

Again some like to play Russian roulette. Not me. But for the reasons highlighted above I do not expect her to bring condoms because I would, and if she did, it alarm me personally.

I’ve had arrangements. Each time I’ve brought mine, even in instances where I didn’t expect it to turn sexual (meet and greets) I still came prepared. On not a single occasion prepared or not prepared for a sexual encounter, did the female whip out a batch of condoms. Or any for a matter of fact.

If she did that would be the last time she would see me (personally).

[paul_tall_]

It’s alarming because it’s not the norm. That’s the short answer.

Not a rhetorical question I’m going to ask. Are you expecting a civvy girl to carry round a batch of condoms?

Now to presumptions, because it’s not the norm, for a civvy girl to carry a batch of condoms, if she does that *can* indicate she’s either extremely sexually active, seeing a lot of people in short span or potentially  semi pro if not pro.

Communication comes into the next part. If I’m talking to an SB naturally in most cases sexual talk comes up. I personally like protected, so I will say I like playing safe. I don’t need to spell out I’m bringing condoms but the fact I’ve highlighted I like playing safe and I am also not expect her to go to be shops and buy condoms herself without seeing my penis, I’m the only party expected to bring and have condoms.

Again some like to play Russian roulette. Not me. But for the reasons highlighted above I do not expect her to bring condoms because I would, and if she did, it alarm me personally.

I’ve had arrangements. Each time I’ve brought mine, even in instances where I didn’t expect it to turn sexual (meet and greets) I still came prepared. On not a single occasion prepared or not prepared for a sexual encounter, did the female whip out a batch of condoms. Or any for a matter of fact.

If she did that would be the last time she would see me (personally).

Probably best to agree to disagree but "I am also not expect her to go to be shops and buy condoms herself" in reality they will already most likely have some. To say you wont see a girl again if you found she had them, i guess also implies that you would not be happy if she was seeing guys in her civvy life let along another guy off of seeking

[YorkshireLad]

Anyone got a promo code that'll work for SA?

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