Emotional Attachment Syndrome

[Tailpipe]

I'm not in a relationship, but I've realised that these emotional attachments are very unlikely to happen with me even with my favourite WG. Shagging a woman that looks like a model while in front of a mirror and seeing how odd it looked was a big dose of reality for me. Doesn't mean I'll stop though, as I really enjoy having a fuck buddy that knows exactly how I like it.

Working as hard as I do and then going on crap dates with civvy girls can be frustrating, so some no strings attached fun about once a week really keeps me going and raises my spirits. I'll just try not to do it facing a mirror!

This is an honest outlook and one that will serve you well. The realisation that in the real world any form of real GF, is unlikely to happen with those
stunning looking Girls. I have walk into many Bars clubs with those types and sure it one makes you feel good but on the other hand
also makes you feel like a cunt as everyone knows the score, she is there because you have money, if you died the next day
she would only be pissed off as the money has dried up and she has to start all over with some other silly cunt.

There are some good EE WGs in London that know a punter could get to close to them and I believe they maintain there distance and not exploit
the situation. However there are others that will. You can be the toughest business man and a real mans man, but still can be stuck by
lightening by one of those EE girls. 

Having not had your level of control in the past I can tell you, the cunt struck business is the most expensive past time a fool can have. 

As you can tell I am not bitter in anyway   

[punk]

This is an honest outlook and one that will serve you well. The realisation that in the real world any form of real GF, is unlikely to happen with those
stunning looking Girls. I have walk into many Bars clubs with those types and sure it one makes you feel good but on the other hand
also makes you feel like a cunt as everyone knows the score, she is there because you have money, if you died the next day
she would only be pissed off as the money has dried up and she has to start all over with some other silly cunt.

There are some good EE WGs in London that know a punter could get to close to them and I believe they maintain there distance and not exploit
the situation. However there are others that will. You can be the toughest business man and a real mans man, but still can be stuck by
lightening by one of those EE girls. 

Having not had your level of control in the past I can tell you, the cunt struck business is the most expensive past time a fool can have. 

As you can tell I am not bitter in anyway 

  dont get caught out its a fuck.

[GrumpyoldGit]

  dont get caught out its a fuck.

You're not wrong Punk.

I have ended up going there unfortunately.

[punk]

You're not wrong Punk.

I have ended up going there unfortunately.

it happens to all men and women.

[Hyborean]

As the OP, I thought it would be fitting to end this thread with the ending to my sad attachment story.

I took a short break from punting to get my head on straight and it is now firmly in place and unlikely to have the same thing happen again! Not because I am immune to the charms of WGs but because I am better prepared! 

The WG in question has actually contacted me since to let me know that she would like to remain friends. She is not coming back and I am not going to visit her. Apparently part of the reason she went home was she knew I had become attached and thought she was becoming attached to me. This before I told her how I had been feeling. Time will tell. (For the cynical amongst you - I can't rule out her keeping in touch with regulars just in case she decides to make a come back but I don't think she is..)

Now that my head is on straight - I have been punting again! 
2 Awesome punts and one slight let down but as the saying goes "Two out of three ain't bad!"
Reviews to follow.

[squeezebox]

As the OP, I thought it would be fitting to end this thread with the ending to my sad attachment story.


Now that my head is on straight - I have been punting again! 

The thread's just getting going!

Glad you're back on track. I'm mainly a 30 minutes punter, with different WG's so far, I've avoided this "trap." Recently though, there is one I want to see again, so maybe I'm about to go down the same route... 

[brummielad83]

As the OP, I thought it would be fitting to end this thread with the ending to my sad attachment story.

I took a short break from punting to get my head on straight and it is now firmly in place and unlikely to have the same thing happen again! Not because I am immune to the charms of WGs but because I am better prepared! 

The WG in question has actually contacted me since to let me know that she would like to remain friends. She is not coming back and I am not going to visit her. Apparently part of the reason she went home was she knew I had become attached and thought she was becoming attached to me. This before I told her how I had been feeling. Time will tell. (For the cynical amongst you - I can't rule out her keeping in touch with regulars just in case she decides to make a come back but I don't think she is..)

Now that my head is on straight - I have been punting again! 
2 Awesome punts and one slight let down but as the saying goes "Two out of three ain't bad!"
Reviews to follow.

glad you're in recovery my friend as i said before not an easy path to travel but you live and learn

[hornylad]

As an update to my position - for those that remember and no real reason why you should.

I did the free overnight - well I say overnight it lasted 6 days.
We both explained how we were feeling and what we should do about it.

To cut a very long story short - she has stopped escorting, her profile deleted and working sim binned. We very recently moved in together and are making a go of things as a couple.

I know many will think I am mad and maybe you are right. But I am very happy so far and want to give this a real chance. If I hadn't I would have forever been left wondering .... what if  ?????

[GrumpyoldGit]

Good luck mate.

I really hope it works out for you.

I am going to see my regular later for the last time for a while.

SWMBO is coming home on Monday so I am having to stop seeing my regular as often.

This is a blessing in disguise as I have fallen too far for her and need to make the break before my head and heart explode.

[Tailpipe]

Hornylad

You could well be a nut case talking shit.

However I am going to assume you are not and wish you both all the very best for the future. 

[akauya]

Hornylad,

That's some change in life! Good luck to you both and hope it works out well.

 

[Rochdull lad]

Both Hyborean and hornylad seem to me at any rate to have had good outcomes from their situations.  As you'll probably have guessed from the "Lustylush" thread I started on this Board and Adam moved to Off-topic, I too have friendly relations with a number of ex-Regulars who've retired.  And it's good because, if there's something punting-related which I need to get off my chest, where better than either on here or directly with a former WG? 

I'm glad for you, Hyborean; because you're back in the old routine and you've got a new friend whom you may never see again but can keep in touch with [if you want to] and think fondly of from time to time.  I'll be easier for you because she's not in the UK so you're not likely to see her again.  I occasionally exchange e-mails with the only EE girl I've ever seen now that she's gone back home and, afaik, has no plans to return.

I can only echo Akauya's comment to hornylad.  Good luck lad; I really hope it works for you!

R L's fingers are crossed for you both.

[Melb]

Cupid's arrow can strike anywhere.
I guess Cupid must be a punter too!

Good luck, have fun.

[hollysbeenabadgirl]

R L's fingers are crossed for you both.

Mine too, good luck to you both

[hornylad]

Thank you to all of you wishing us well.

Tailpipe - I often feel like a nutcase. This was the last thing I expected to happen to me and if I am honest if it happened to anyone else I would think they are mad.

However it is all true, it has happened and I am happy. I haven't posted on the forum over the last month with everything that has been happening and I wont be going forwards. Although I may pop my head in from time to time, especially to answer any PM's from those I have been discussing all this with - you know who you are.

Thanks again for your kind messages (I was expecting to get ripped apart for trying to give this relationship a real go)

[dilettante]

As an update to my position - for those that remember and no real reason why you should.

I did the free overnight - well I say overnight it lasted 6 days.
We both explained how we were feeling and what we should do about it.

To cut a very long story short - she has stopped escorting, her profile deleted and working sim binned. We very recently moved in together and are making a go of things as a couple.

I know many will think I am mad and maybe you are right. But I am very happy so far and want to give this a real chance. If I hadn't I would have forever been left wondering .... what if  ?????

You were both of you looking for different things, and somewhere the tangents converged; - good luck!  I defy anyone to naysay your match without laying themselves open to a realistic prospect of ending up far worse off than you two will ever be together.

[Barry Shipton]

I know many will think I am mad and maybe you are right. But I am very happy so far and want to give this a real chance. If I hadn't I would have forever been left wondering .... what if  ?????

Never think what could have been - I've know a much stranger match than this between WG and client work out OK, so good luck.

[Tailpipe]

Thank you to all of you wishing us well.

Tailpipe - I often feel like a nutcase. This was the last thing I expected to happen to me and if I am honest if it happened to anyone else I would think they are mad.


Thanks again for your kind messages (I was expecting to get ripped apart for trying to give this relationship a real go)

I was not been nasty and I truly hope its works for you both.

If a members is happy we should be happy for you , punters for punters , or in your case ex punter .

[brummielad83]

As an update to my position - for those that remember and no real reason why you should.

I did the free overnight - well I say overnight it lasted 6 days.
We both explained how we were feeling and what we should do about it.

To cut a very long story short - she has stopped escorting, her profile deleted and working sim binned. We very recently moved in together and are making a go of things as a couple.

I know many will think I am mad and maybe you are right. But I am very happy so far and want to give this a real chance. If I hadn't I would have forever been left wondering .... what if  ?????

  hope this works out for you fella,sadly it didn't for me so my advice forget the past if at all possible and concentrate on your future together,good luck 

[GrumpyoldGit]

I finally had to make the break from my regular yesterday.

As SWMBO comes home tomorrow and I have gotten myself in too deep with Zoe I realised that the good times must come to an end.

I went to see her for a 1 hour final business meet and ended up spending four hours with her.

We had already discussed what would happen when my other half came home, but we both crossed the boundaries yesterday by admitting our feelings for each other.

I have gone way too far and allowed myself to become too attached to her, though I have helped her sort her life out.

She admitted that our previous few meets had meant too much for her and felt a very strong bond forming as well.

The sex has been the best for me in years, actually for as long as I can remember.

Anyway we have agreed to keep in touch by text with the odd meet in a pub for a chat and catch up.
I have been very fluffy and have been hurting today, hence the delay in this update.

At least I have made a friend whilst I was left alone and feeling very down.

I just hope that we will remain friends for a long while to come.

Yes you can get emotionally attached to a WG, but with a lot of work and understanding I think you both can overcome the situation.

Alas this is the end of my punting for a while whilst I try to rebuild my life with her indoors.

[hockogrockle]

I like to have some emotional attachment to the woman. So I see a small circle of ladies whom I like and get on with well, and who seem to like seeing me. But girls come and go. They drift in and out of the profession. Some stay quite a long time. Most don't. So you have to accept that the "hire period" will come to an end sooner or later. There's a place I go where several of the girls float my boat. I said to one of then that they all seemed to enjoy their work, and got the answer "Of course we do! We're all fuckin' single parents, aren't we!?"
In other words, they needed the money, and we're earning it in a way they enjoyed.
It is one of the reasons why, if I see "age 19" (or whatever) on a profile, I move on: somebody as young as that (and, yes, I know it's a lie, but gives a general idea of her age) is clearly only doing it for the money, as she can (one hopes) get all the free sex she wants.
So, to sum up. I like to feel something for the woman, but I have never felt that any WG (or any I have met so far) could ever be a permanent partner. The most they could be is a "bad habit".

[vorian]

I like to have some emotional attachment to the woman. So I see a small circle of ladies whom I like and get on with well, and who seem to like seeing me. But girls come and go. They drift in and out of the profession. Some stay quite a long time. Most don't. So you have to accept that the "hire period" will come to an end sooner or later. There's a place I go where several of the girls float my boat. I said to one of then that they all seemed to enjoy their work, and got the answer "Of course we do! We're all fuckin' single parents, aren't we!?"
In other words, they needed the money, and we're earning it in a way they enjoyed.
It is one of the reasons why, if I see "age 19" (or whatever) on a profile, I move on: somebody as young as that (and, yes, I know it's a lie, but gives a general idea of her age) is clearly only doing it for the money, as she can (one hopes) get all the free sex she wants.
So, to sum up. I like to feel something for the woman, but I have never felt that any WG (or any I have met so far) could ever be a permanent partner. The most they could be is a "bad habit".

I like to "feel something" for anyone I meet in life but that does not mean that if I don't I am not able to have a perfectly acceptable working relationship with an individual. If I interact with a girl in Tescos I am not assessing if they would make a good permanent partner. Maybe if I met them outside of a working environment I might but seeing a WG is a business transaction and I am not judging them on their worth as a potential partner but their worth as professional service provider.

As far as enjoying their job, only a tiny proportion of people are lucky enough to truly enjoy their jobs (I know I don't) again I don't expect a WG to enjoy her job, I just expect her to pretend she does. In fact I would never ask a WG this question as it seem's pointless.

I agree that many WG are "Forced" into prostitution due to economic reasons but some (Only a very few) start the job as a proactive measure as opposed a reactive one. They recognise that they can earn very, very good money and use these massive earnings as a base to set themselves up for life after a relatively short working life. They can be organised, calculating, intelligent and above all professional. I know one WG who is very clued up, knows exactly how much she has to earn, how much she has to invest to ensure by the time she retires she will be in a position of comfort until the day she dies. I fully expect any WG to be working "Only" for the money why on earth would any of us do a job otherwise.

[dilettante]

I fully expect any WG to be working "Only" for the money why on earth would any of us do a job otherwise.

  Well there's something to be said for keeping yourself busy and useful anyway, regardless of the remuneration.  But I doubt anyone would choose prostitution as a means of earning browneye points along those lines!

[socks]

Glad I found this thread, it's helping me. I think I'm in the middle of it now, pulling through but fucking hell it's hard. Didn't see it coming, was in it without realising, fear I've made a complete tit of myself and fear I've hurt my absolute favourite, The advice in here and the chance of a confessional is a god send. I had myself down as the last mug in the world and if it can happen to me it can happen to anyone

[LL]

Glad I found this thread, it's helping me. I think I'm in the middle of it now, pulling through but fucking hell it's hard. Didn't see it coming, was in it without realising, fear I've made a complete tit of myself and fear I've hurt my absolute favourite, The advice in here and the chance of a confessional is a god send. I had myself down as the last mug in the world and if it can happen to me it can happen to anyone

Give us a bit more info?  E.g. profile link, how you found yourself in this situation, how much you spent on her ;-)
Yes, I'm nosy but it might also help you to get over it by writing all about it here.
Don't feel foolish about it though as it's happened to lots of people, myself included.  And you will get through it.

[socks]

Give us a bit more info?  E.g. profile link, how you found yourself in this situation, how much you spent on her ;-)
Yes, I'm nosy but it might also help you to get over it by writing all about it here.
Don't feel foolish about it though as it's happened to lots of people, myself included.  And you will get through it.

That's good of you LL. I didn't realise how much more than great sex I was getting. I really do have an affection for her and she made me feel good in a whole different way to anyone else I'd paid for. This suddenly dawned on me together with seeing how much of a total absence of intimate emotional warmth I have in my life - no one's fault I don't seek it out. But it was suddenly overwhelming and I wrote her things that crossed the boundaries. I became aware I was behaving very out of character and did a bit of a search, found this thread, read it and thought "Oh God I am a twat and have been an arse!" That's where I am at the minute, waiting to hear if I'm forgiven  Can't link to her profile, I've fucked up enough!

[CBPaul]

That's good of you LL. I didn't realise how much more than great sex I was getting. I really do have an affection for her and she made me feel good in a whole different way to anyone else I'd paid for. This suddenly dawned on me together with seeing how much of a total absence of intimate emotional warmth I have in my life - no one's fault I don't seek it out. But it was suddenly overwhelming and I wrote her things that crossed the boundaries. I became aware I was behaving very out of character and did a bit of a search, found this thread, read it and thought "Oh God I am a twat and have been an arse!" That's where I am at the minute, waiting to hear if I'm forgiven  Can't link to her profile, I've fucked up enough!

Don't beat yourself up, happens to the best of us and if you are already wary of it happening it probably makes you feel worse. These things creep up on you and advance before you realise what's going on.

Almost happened to me a few years back, even though I thought I was careful, I say almost because the prossie in question 'retired' back to whatever eastern European country she came from. I realised it was a close call and have been ultra wary since.

If you really have crossed the line and made her feel uneasy I fear you may not get the forgiveness you possibly crave. If you can't or don't wan't to be in the situation of emotional attachment it is probably time to find another.

[touch.and.go]

That's good of you LL. I didn't realise how much more than great sex I was getting. I really do have an affection for her and she made me feel good in a whole different way to anyone else I'd paid for. This suddenly dawned on me together with seeing how much of a total absence of intimate emotional warmth I have in my life - no one's fault I don't seek it out. But it was suddenly overwhelming and I wrote her things that crossed the boundaries. I became aware I was behaving very out of character and did a bit of a search, found this thread, read it and thought "Oh God I am a twat and have been an arse!" That's where I am at the minute, waiting to hear if I'm forgiven  Can't link to her profile, I've fucked up enough!

I have been through a period of very deep EAS with a girl - I used to get really upset when she goes away etc etc. It has taken a long time to get it into perspective - and for a time I didnt punt with other girls because I felt I was cheating on her!!. But we have talked it through and now see each other for coffee, dinner etc and the sex is the best I have ever had in my life - not because she is filthy but because we both really get our rocks off on each other. I guess I have seen her 30 or 40 times and you get to know each other pretty well in that time.

[LL]

That's good of you LL. I didn't realise how much more than great sex I was getting. I really do have an affection for her and she made me feel good in a whole different way to anyone else I'd paid for. This suddenly dawned on me together with seeing how much of a total absence of intimate emotional warmth I have in my life - no one's fault I don't seek it out. But it was suddenly overwhelming and I wrote her things that crossed the boundaries. I became aware I was behaving very out of character and did a bit of a search, found this thread, read it and thought "Oh God I am a twat and have been an arse!" That's where I am at the minute, waiting to hear if I'm forgiven  Can't link to her profile, I've fucked up enough!

Not sure if you're seeking advice or just want to get it off your chest.  I think many, many people make the same mistake of using a prostitute to try to fill a void in their life.  I was in a similar situation to you.  You have to find another way to fill it.  You've realised your mistake.  Maybe it's time to move on from this WG altogether.  Find somebody to give you the "emotional warmth" for free - i.e. a partner, or just make some new friends maybe.

[Paul31]

It's certainly not a good place to be. I've been seeing my regular for 3 years. I'm very attached to her. Give her the odd txt between bookings  I know I shouldn't do it.  Sometimes she answers sometimes she doesn't. I see her every couple of weeks. Gonna start to try to ween myself off of her to maybe once a month

[vorian]

It's certainly not a good place to be. I've been seeing my regular for 3 years. I'm very attached to her. Give her the odd txt between bookings  I know I shouldn't do it.  Sometimes she answers sometimes she doesn't. I see her every couple of weeks. Gonna start to try to ween myself off of her to maybe once a month

Do you see anyone else or just her at the moment

[LL]

It's certainly not a good place to be. I've been seeing my regular for 3 years. I'm very attached to her. Give her the odd txt between bookings  I know I shouldn't do it.  Sometimes she answers sometimes she doesn't. I see her every couple of weeks. Gonna start to try to ween myself off of her to maybe once a month

Cold turkey is the only sensible way to do it.  Otherwise you're just prolonging the upset.

[socks]

[quote author
If you really have crossed the line and made her feel uneasy I fear you may not get the forgiveness you possibly crave. If you can't or don't wan't to be in the situation of emotional attachment it is probably time to find another.
[/quote]
Yes that is really hurting. I can live with having been a bellend but not knowing what she thinks and not having the chance to try to make good whatever damage I've caused is fucking awful. I don't know how to resolve that and can only guess it's time hopefully diminishing it. But for now it's agony.

[vorian]

[quote author
If you really have crossed the line and made her feel uneasy I fear you may not get the forgiveness you possibly crave. If you can't or don't wan't to be in the situation of emotional attachment it is probably time to find another.

Yes that is really hurting. I can live with having been a bellend but not knowing what she thinks and not having the chance to try to make good whatever damage I've caused is fucking awful. I don't know how to resolve that and can only guess it's time hopefully diminishing it. But for now it's agony.

The thing to do is punt with another girl, works most times.

[squeezebox]

Sex is the glue to any relationship, so it's not surprising when shagging a prossie you fancy, other feelings could easily creep in the more you see her.

Shagging different prossies and not getting stuck on one is probably the best way. When you get around to your favourite one again, you'll notice the difference. If not, and you can't control your emotions, as suggested, going cold turkey for a long period of time would/could be best.

[socks]

Not sure if you're seeking advice or just want to get it off your chest.  I think many, many people make the same mistake of using a prostitute to try to fill a void in their life.  I was in a similar situation to you.  You have to find another way to fill it.  You've realised your mistake.  Maybe it's time to move on from this WG altogether.  Find somebody to give you the "emotional warmth" for free - i.e. a partner, or just make some new friends maybe.

Thanks again LL. I'm mainly trying to get it off my chest but hearing others views is a help. I'm also hoping others can use my experience to not make the same fuck up.

Sadly I can't get a partner because for a number of reasons I'm stuck in a non intimate relationship. Got plenty of friends too but i don't do that sort of personal talking with them (the bloke curse lol) and punting isn't something i'd talk with anyone about, except anonymously like this. I'm not optimistic of finding another escort who comes close to ticking the boxes she does and at this moment I'm not able to move on anyway because of what I fear I've done and not resolved. Thanks again mate!

[socks]

The thing to do is punt with another girl, works most times.

Lol tried that already!

[socks]

Sex is the glue to any relationship, so it's not surprising when shagging a prossie you fancy, other feelings could easily creep in the more you see her.

Shagging different prossies and not getting stuck on one is probably the best way. When you get around to your favourite one again, you'll notice the difference. If not, and you can't control your emotions, as suggested, going cold turkey for a long period of time would/could be best.

Thing is it's because I properly like her that my sessions with her are so good! I had an episode of EAS which I have recovered from and know that it won't happen again. I am totally confident that I could pick up where I left off before it happened. It's not knowing how she's taken my episode and particularly worrying that I'm not going to get the chance to say sorry properly, that's so painful, regardless of whether she'll have me again

[vorian]

Lol tried that already!

Then you have to keep trying,  as many times as it takes.

[shagbambi]

Socks best you move on and sample more girls.  Lots more girls.  Once you realise that you may have emotions that should not exist in a business relationship like this you should walk away as fast as possible and never look back.  It will end in tears if you don't, primarily yours

[CBPaul]

[quote author
If you really have crossed the line and made her feel uneasy I fear you may not get the forgiveness you possibly crave. If you can't or don't wan't to be in the situation of emotional attachment it is probably time to find another.

Yes that is really hurting. I can live with having been a bellend but not knowing what she thinks and not having the chance to try to make good whatever damage I've caused is fucking awful. I don't know how to resolve that and can only guess it's time hopefully diminishing it. But for now it's agony.

I really do sympathise with you. To make good  you possibly don't have too many options, you could send her a message and explain you've made a balls of it and apologize. Whether you get a response or not depends on how much she feels the need to distance herself and being persistent is risking making matters worse.

I've never really had a regular, partly due to my desire to experience as many different girls as possible and partly due to them moving on. Three spring to mind who have been excellent, above all others in terms of the service offered and my enjoyment. All moved on pretty quickly and that left me trying to find the replacement - not necessarily of the girl herself but the feeling of satisfaction afterwards. 

[socks]

Then you have to keep trying,  as many times as it takes.

lol I'm not sure that will work but it's a medicine I like the taste of so will take it anyway

[socks]

I really do sympathise with you. To make good  you possibly don't have too many options, you could send her a message and explain you've made a balls of it and apologize. Whether you get a response or not depends on how much she feels the need to distance herself and being persistent is risking making matters worse.

Yes that's where I am now, not heard back, know that I can't send anymore cos I'll risk being seen as a pesterer or stalker. Waiting is killing me! I hate the thought of leaving unresolved damage...

[touch.and.go]

Meet her for a coffee and talk it through. If she won't meet, then go on a splurge and try to forget her. I was in a similar position to you 9 months ago,  and we are now good friends - but I would say I was lucky - it all depends on the girl and why she is working etc etc. Good luck

[socks]

Meet her for a coffee and talk it through. If she won't meet, then go on a splurge and try to forget her. I was in a similar position to you 9 months ago,  and we are now good friends - but I would say I was lucky - it all depends on the girl and why she is working etc etc. Good luck

I would so love that to happen. Everything is crossed in the meantime. It's the hope that's doing me in!

[touch.and.go]

Mate - at one stage I got really upset and thought about her constantly and its fucking hard to carry on with your normal life when dealing with that intensity of emotion. I think that the most important thing to do is to treat her as a person and if she does the same with you then gradually a relationship will develop that is deeper than and separate from the client\escort one. But once that happens then a whole host of other problems arise so its not easy - even if you get what you want.

[socks]

I'd just be happy with the meet up, saying everything I could to explain what led to me going overboard, hear from her how she feels about me as a result and offer her the most profuse, humble, heartfelt apology I could muster. Then I just hope beyond hope that she'd see the decent genuine chap that I think I am and let me carry on having great meets with her.

[vorian]

I'd just be happy with the meet up, saying everything I could to explain what led to me going overboard, hear from her how she feels about me as a result and offer her the most profuse, humble, heartfelt apology I could muster. Then I just hope beyond hope that she'd see the decent genuine chap that I think I am and let me carry on having great meets with her.

To be honest, I think you are over complicating the situation and you are still trying to find out how she feels about you, I don't want to sound harsh but until you don't care how she feels about you the EAS won't go away.

[CBPaul]

To be honest, I think you are over complicating the situation and you are still trying to find out how she feels about you, I don't want to sound harsh but until you don't care how she feels about you the EAS won't go away.

I tend to agree.

This is going to sound harsh too but, if she is not replying to you, she is ignoring you / doesn't want contact. If you have tried to explain then that is all you can do, you are right that you will get to a stage of being a pest if you continue to contact her. The only thing you can do is give it time. She may get to a stage where she will talk to you or maybe not. You will get to a stage where you feel like filling your boots with another girl.

Chalk it up to experience and don't be too rough on yourself, you're not the first and certainly won't be the last.

[socks]

To be honest, I think you are over complicating the situation and you are still trying to find out how she feels about you, I don't want to sound harsh but until you don't care how she feels about you the EAS won't go away.

Thanks for your advice - fair point and I know that's true but it's not the EAS in itself that's the problem from my end. I can certainly rationalise, manage and compartmentalise it, now I recognise it for what it is and, more importantly, understand the irrational way I acted for a few days. She probably doesn't see it that way of course, as I'm sure many others wouldn't. For me though it's what makes the GFE fantasy and meeting so worthwhile, if I had no feelings I'd just search out PSE meets, (which I do too lol!).

Thus because I'm happy with the fact that I properly like her means I can't just forget that I may have hurt/offended/worried her.