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Offline Hyborean

Let this be a warning to the newer punters..

I have been punting for a few years, nowhere near Nik's 30 though. I am aware that this probably makes me still a noob to some people.
I have Fluffy tendencies (because I love women I guess) but hate being taken for a ride. I suspect that fluffiness tends to disappear at a proportional rate to the money you spend.
I am very aware that prossies are brilliant actresses who will be whatever you want them to be to make you part with cash. I am not naive.

I started seeing a WG as a regular a while ago something clicked inside of me. I thought I was c*nt-struck and did everything I could to get passed it.
I stayed away for as long as possible. I punted until I could punt no more with other girls who are prettier and were better in the sack (TBH she wasn't even that great in bed). No matter what I did, I couldn't stay away long. When this WG smiled, it turned the lights on to the world.

My head had a complete freak out. I know there is no way it could ever work for real. There is a list of arguments as long the day is long why this was a bad idea. I told myself them over and over.
Although I know she was fond of me, I have no idea whether she liked me as much as her pet dog. None of this mattered.

I woke up one day and realised that I had fallen for prossie hook, line and sinker. The sensible thing would have been to just go cold turkey and get over her. I was just not strong enough to do it. The best I could manage was fucking as many others as possible in the hope that my feelings would disappear. They never did.

She has now returned home (she is EE) and is unlikely to return. This is probably the best thing in the long run but I now feel as bad as I did when my marriage fell apart.

After a bad experience last night trying to get over her, I have lost the will to punt. I shall have to wait for old man time to work his magic.
Until then I think I shall dive to the bottom of a river of whisky..

This shit happens, even when you know it's wrong and has no happy endings.


Offline Hyborean

How old are you?

I gather you think I am overly young from my post? I left school a couple a decades ago.

Fwiw, Melb; I don't think age comes into it.  Which is why, in the days when we had "signature" lines, mine was "I am a very foolish, fond old man."

A very eloquent lesson, Hyborean.  I'm sure you won't have been the only [other] one to have been there and done more or less that. 

Offline punk

You have to remember most not all are in it for the money!!!Some like the sex also.Thats it, i try to treat my time as sex only than once out the door thats it deal done until next time, you get enough shit from regular english girls fucking you around!!!!! :dash:

Let this be a warning to the newer punters..


I am very aware that prossies are brilliant actresses who will be whatever you want them to be to make you part with cash. I am not naive

You are if you believe that  :D

Offline punk

If they can be bothered even with that :bomb:

Offline Tailpipe

Hyborean

Easy to fall down this rabbit hole been there done that did not like it.


Head fucked by fanny happens to a lot of people, few will admit  :drinks:

You can warn but when the lighting hits , its game over tilt .  :bomb:

Offline smiths

You have to remember most not all are in it for the money!!!Some like the sex also.Thats it, i try to treat my time as sex only than once out the door thats it deal done until next time, you get enough shit from regular english girls fucking you around!!!!! :dash:

Of course most are in it for the money, if they werent they could go Swinging and/or pulling and get as much cock as they wanted and not charge. Its their way of earning a living, many people work for the money rather than the money and enjoying their job. Why would WGs be any different in this regard, i daresay some do enjoy at least aspects of being a WG though.

As to the OP, its best in my view to punt and go with no strings, can be hard on ocassion though as i well know. Some WGs really are excellent actresses, they learn to be day in day out and can be very convincing, as long as a punter knows its very likely to just be acting then no harm done, if a punter thinks its more then thats likely to cause disappointment.

Offline Tailpipe

Of course most are in it for the money, if they werent they could go Swinging and/or pulling and get as much cock as they wanted and not charge. Its their way of earning a living, many people work for the money rather than the money and enjoying their job. Why would WGs be any different in this regard, i daresay some do enjoy at least aspects of being a WG though.

As to the OP, its best in my view to punt and go with no strings, can be hard on ocassion though as i well know. Some WGs really are excellent actresses, they learn to be day in day out and can be very convincing, as long as a punter knows its very likely to just be acting then no harm done, if a punter thinks its more then thats likely to cause disappointment.

Smiths

Many would wish for your clarity of thought and mental control on this subject , may be they prey on us fluffiest of punters.

A few let downs and a kick the bollocks will in time remove this fluffiness from most. 

Offline smiths

Smiths

Many would wish for your clarity of thought and mental control on this subject , may be they prey on us fluffiest of punters.

A few let downs and a kick the bollocks will in time remove this fluffiness from most.

I have learnt the hard way though TP, a fair bit of pain along the way has of course influenced my views on this. :hi:

Offline Tailpipe

I have learnt the hard way though TP, a fair bit of pain along the way has of course influenced my views on this. :hi:


In a way its reasuring that we have all had a bit of pain , and no one is above it.  :drinks:

Offline BristolP

The important thing to remember is that your time with the WG maybe your only time with a woman. But she will be with another guy later in the day and the next day, and the day after that, etc.

It may be a very intense experience for you, but she won’t spend any time obsessing about you. This is the only way she could be any good at her job. Focusing on the guy she is with at the time, and then forgetting about him after he has gone. I am not being cruel by telling this.

I enjoy GFE and have a regular who I see every 3 or 4 weeks but I don’t forget that I am paying her to be nice to me. I know that if she does think about me between meetings it is only to think about the easy money she will earn from a dependable regular,

Offline punk

The important thing to remember is that your time with the WG maybe your only time with a woman. But she will be with another guy later in the day and the next day, and the day after that, etc.

It may be a very intense experience for you, but she won’t spend any time obsessing about you. This is the only way she could be any good at her job. Focusing on the guy she is with at the time, and then forgetting about him after he has gone. I am not being cruel by telling this.

I enjoy GFE and have a regular who I see every 3 or 4 weeks but I don’t forget that I am paying her to be nice to me. I know that if she does think about me between meetings it is only to think about the easy money she will earn from a dependable regular,

+1 ;)

The important thing to remember is that your time with the WG maybe your only time with a woman. But she will be with another guy later in the day and the next day, and the day after that, etc.

It may be a very intense experience for you, but she won’t spend any time obsessing about you. This is the only way she could be any good at her job. Focusing on the guy she is with at the time, and then forgetting about him after he has gone. I am not being cruel by telling this.

I enjoy GFE and have a regular who I see every 3 or 4 weeks but I don’t forget that I am paying her to be nice to me. I know that if she does think about me between meetings it is only to think about the easy money she will earn from a dependable regular,

No dis-respect, Bristol; but I think that's a bit of a generalization.

Like you, I go for a GFE service; and I think you're dead right when you say we need to remember that, shortly after we've left the WG with a rosy glow and happpy memories [hopefully], she'll probably be busy doing exactly the same with some other bloke that she did with, and to, us.  The difficulty, as Hyborean pointed out, comes when the punter falls "hook, line & sinker"; and when, as you pointed out, we let ourselves forget what she's probably doing when we're on our way home from our punt with her.

However where I think you may be incorrect is in your assertion that
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if she does think about me between meetings it is only to think about the easy money she will earn from a dependable regular
[My emphasis.]

Fwiw, I think it's possible for some punters to be friends with some WGs.  A regular of mine [someone who also knows hp!] retired two or three years ago, but I'm still in contact socially with her.

I go for GFE from a couple of Regulars and one other WG whom I see from time to time.  I know because my Regulars have been in touch with me between punts - I see each of the two them regularly; but not that often [certainly not as often as I'd like - about 3-monthly] - about general stuff.  One of them has told me that, if I got into a relationship and gave up punting, she'd still like to meet up with me socially [no sex involved] from time to time.

Offline BristolP

Hi Rochdale
I am certainly fond of my regular, and you are right the word “only” is probably incorrect. I believe that my reg does have respect for me, otherwise I wouldn’t continue to see her.
I think the reason a punter would fall for a WG is because he thinks there is a chance of more, so I think if Hyborean considers my last post it may bring his relationship with the WG into perspective.

Offline Jimmyredcab

Only a very hard bastard could punt for 30 years and not have feelings for at least one pro$$ie --------- just bear in mind that they are working and they want your money ------- nothing else.    :hi:

I’m glad you started this thread as it’s something I can easily relate to as I went through the exact same thing.

It’s very easy to forget when you see a regular that an emotional attachment can develop, be it one sided. And it’s very easy to lose sight of the fact that it’s a prossie who is saying and doing what she needs to get the money.

The worst thing for me is that I thought that the friendship with my regular was at least genuine. I realise now that it wasn’t and it was one sided. That’s the part which is the hardest to get over as I’ve never been the sort of bloke that pretends to like or be friends with someone when I’m not. Without sounding fluffy, I would have done anything for my regular and would have stood by her through thick and thin. Stupid I know.

As punters we are all different, and we have different reasons for punting. So now when I look at aw I’ll come across one that I fancy a punt with, but then I just don’t have the stomach to go through with it.

Will I punt again? I don’t know. For me it’s pointless punting and a waste of money if it doesn’t make me feel happy.

So I read the posts here on UKP, contribute when I can, and just stick around for the banter as some of the discussions do make me laugh and cheer me up.  :D

Offline Hyborean

Thanks for all the words of wisdom and advice guys.
The bit got me was I guess that I knew most of this. There is probably a whole heap of fun a psychologist could have with me analysing why I fell for a prossie knowing I was probably just a rent-paying number.

I guess I just wasn't vigilant enough. By the time I realised, it was just too late. Like a drug addiction. I couldn't stop. It took her leaving to end it.

I seriously wonder, even now, if she came back, whether I could stay away. Maybe I should put my punting money towards a therapist for a while!  :D

Offline Hyborean

I’m glad you started this thread as it’s something I can easily relate to as I went through the exact same thing.

It’s very easy to forget when you see a regular that an emotional attachment can develop, be it one sided. And it’s very easy to lose sight of the fact that it’s a prossie who is saying and doing what she needs to get the money.

The worst thing for me is that I thought that the friendship with my regular was at least genuine. I realise now that it wasn’t and it was one sided. That’s the part which is the hardest to get over as I’ve never been the sort of bloke that pretends to like or be friends with someone when I’m not. Without sounding fluffy, I would have done anything for my regular and would have stood by her through thick and thin. Stupid I know.

As punters we are all different, and we have different reasons for punting. So now when I look at aw I’ll come across one that I fancy a punt with, but then I just don’t have the stomach to go through with it.

Will I punt again? I don’t know. For me it’s pointless punting and a waste of money if it doesn’t make me feel happy.

So I read the posts here on UKP, contribute when I can, and just stick around for the banter as some of the discussions do make me laugh and cheer me up.  :D

Well if that doesn't sum up exactly how I am feeling right now...
+1

Offline smiths

Only a very hard bastard could punt for 30 years and not have feelings for at least one pro$$ie --------- just bear in mind that they are working and they want your money ------- nothing else.    :hi:

Good post Jim, yes a hard bastard or an emotional robot.  :D

Offline smiths

Thanks for all the words of wisdom and advice guys.
The bit got me was I guess that I knew most of this. There is probably a whole heap of fun a psychologist could have with me analysing why I fell for a prossie knowing I was probably just a rent-paying number.

I guess I just wasn't vigilant enough. By the time I realised, it was just too late. Like a drug addiction. I couldn't stop. It took her leaving to end it.

I seriously wonder, even now, if she came back, whether I could stay away. Maybe I should put my punting money towards a therapist for a while!  :D

IMO its harder nowadays than in my early punting days when kissing was rarely on the menu, my punting then was a much colder experience generally compared to now, (and it was just as AIDS was becoming a massive thing) so i can understand how much easier it can be to misread a WG, as i said before if they happen to be good actresses it can be even harder.

In the main its easy for me now as i can honestly say why would most good looking say 25 year old women actually have real feelings for me, they have no idea about my personal situation so i could be skint as far as they would know as fact, and i am no oil painting accept if its of an Elephant man lookalike. :scare: :hi:

Offline punk

Good post Jim, yes a hard bastard or an emotional robot.  :D

is that not what some escorts are? :D

Offline smiths

is that not what some escorts are? :D

What, Hard and/or Robots, i have found some EE WGs to be robotic, and i have also met some really hardfaced WGs, fortunately many more that werent though. :hi:

I'm kind of having this issue at the moment. Seen a girl several times, we've become 'friendly' enough with each other to become friends on facebook. Shes genuine, but I don't know what she really thinks of me.

I know I shouldn't but I'm thinking of taking her out as 'friends' when she returns from her hols just to get to know her on a more personal level. And I'm slowly losing the urge to punt with other girls too. I'm such a pussy  :blush:

 :wacko:


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