Emotional Attachment Syndrome

[Georgejetson]

Victims of EAS can’t be cured. In my opinion they are paralyzed by complete self-deception. “Self-deception is a process of denying or rationalizing away the relevance, significance, or importance of opposing evidence and logical argument. Self-deception involves convincing oneself of a truth (or lack of truth) so that one does not reveal any self-knowledge of the deception.”

[JonasG]

Either of those would be a good result - my 'best' is not to get blocked when i try to book them for a second visit. The odd wg has just laughed and shook their head when,at the end of a punt, i pop the fatal question - "can i see you again?"
At least i can console myself with the fact that there's no chance of this EAS thing.
Some of you fellow punters must be great 'catches.'

Why would they block you after one visit?

[fairfield]

Why would they block you after one visit?

Jonas, - who knows what goes on in a pro$$ies mind?
But at least 3 wgs asked me only to take them from behind - didnt want to look me in the face. And one punt began with a memorable argument with a young fit rom - she wanted me to walk and tried to handing my money back. Told her it had been such an effort getting there, i insisted on staying.
This is why i am interested in this EAS thing - its the complete opposite of the attitude i encounter.

[JonasG]

Jonas, - who knows what goes on in a pro$$ies mind?
But at least 3 wgs asked me only to take them from behind - didnt want to look me in the face. And one punt began with a memorable argument with a young fit rom - she wanted me to walk and tried to handing my money back. Told her it had been such an effort getting there, i insisted on staying.
This is why i am interested in this EAS thing - its the complete opposite of the attitude i encounter.

Just seems bizarre lol.

I mean if you're polite and nice to them but they block you because of age, looks, weight, whatever?

Usually it's cos of timewasting, rude, being a prick etc.

[Naidakhan84]

Read the whole thing! WOW! I feel better that I am not the only one. I think its impossible not to get attached with a girl you see regularly after all you see her regularly BECAUSE you got attached to her LOL. I think its fine to get attached because it gives meaning to sex and intensify the experience but for reality check ask yourself this.

If she doubled her price will you see her still? that's mind correction at your side
If you ask her for a freeby her reply will give you the reality check and will pop that bubble.

WG's are humans and not all punters are nice to them, some smell bad others just look ugly. If I put myself in their position, I know I cannot do their job. For me the girl has to be perfect and punters are anything BUT!.

Yes they are providing a service for money and money is a lot better than working for McDonalds or Tesco. But come on, in which reality you could bed a young beautiful girl in less than 30min LOL.

I think we are lucky that its legal in UK, in other countries like USA, Japan or Saudi Arabia you are at the danger of being put in jail and the prices are starting from $300 to $3000.

I am attached to one WG now and its ok 'To have loved and lost is better than to have never loved at all'. Sure I love her and I know she will never love me and thats ok. Some punters like verity and others just want a deep connection of love and lust, I think its fine to be the latter as long as you can respect WG as a human and understand that what she is doing is a difficult job (fulfilling your fantasy).

One day she is going to stop working like the previous girls I have known and like others she may stay in contact and she may not. But you better NEVER EVER mention that past life to her again because most WG feel disgusted with their job and once they stop they never every want to do it again or let anyone in their circle find out about it.

[hungrypunt]

Sure I love her and I know she will never love me and thats ok.

Thats a shame and hope you get over it

most WG feel disgusted with their job

Dunno about this, the ones that arent pimped or trafficked anyways

[ViperKai]

Just seems bizarre lol.

I mean if you're polite and nice to them but they block you because of age, looks, weight, whatever?

Usually it's cos of timewasting, rude, being a prick etc.

+ 1 Exactly that 

[MrMatrix]

Thats a shame and hope you get over it.

yes it is. Took me a couple of years to get over mine and I hope never to repeat the experience. But as you say you start seeing a regular and normal human emotions start to move in and you know shes there just for the money, especially when she says you've got 5 minutes left. And common sense then takes over that its a wishful fantasy.
Never gonna happen again

[winkywanky]

Read the whole thing! WOW! I feel better that I am not the only one. I think its impossible not to get attached with a girl you see regularly after all you see her regularly BECAUSE you got attached to her LOL. I think its fine to get attached because it gives meaning to sex and intensify the experience but for reality check ask yourself this.

If she doubled her price will you see her still? that's mind correction at your side
If you ask her for a freeby her reply will give you the reality check and will pop that bubble.

WG's are humans and not all punters are nice to them, some smell bad others just look ugly. If I put myself in their position, I know I cannot do their job. For me the girl has to be perfect and punters are anything BUT!.

Yes they are providing a service for money and money is a lot better than working for McDonalds or Tesco. But come on, in which reality you could bed a young beautiful girl in less than 30min LOL.

I think we are lucky that its legal in UK, in other countries like USA, Japan or Saudi Arabia you are at the danger of being put in jail and the prices are starting from $300 to $3000.

I am attached to one WG now and its ok 'To have loved and lost is better than to have never loved at all'. Sure I love her and I know she will never love me and thats ok. Some punters like verity and others just want a deep connection of love and lust, I think its fine to be the latter as long as you can respect WG as a human and understand that what she is doing is a difficult job (fulfilling your fantasy).

One day she is going to stop working like the previous girls I have known and like others she may stay in contact and she may not. But you better NEVER EVER mention that past life to her again because most WG feel disgusted with their job and once they stop they never every want to do it again or let anyone in their circle find out about it.

You got it BAD.

[davison]

most WG feel disgusted with their job

As ww said perfectly, you got it bad dude. 

And what you said[quoted] is completely opposite to my experience, which is admittedly self-selected to seemingly well-adjusted forum darlings and parties with well regarded providers. 

The wg's I have gotten to know as a client are not at all disgusted with their jobs.  On the contrary, they see it as a very good not-disgusting job, one that gives them freedom to do what they will with their lives (the fortunate ones) or at least their spare hours.  Much better than flipping burgers or doing an entry level retail or office job.

To be honest, and I apologize for drawing a conclusion about someone I have never met -- I am not sure this punting thing is for you. 

[OakTree]

The wg's I have gotten to know as a client are not at all disgusted with their jobs.  On the contrary, they see it as a very good not-disgusting job, one that gives them freedom to do what they will with their lives (the fortunate ones) or at least their spare hours.  Much better than flipping burgers or doing an entry level retail or office job.

I think he was describing their feelings in retrospect after they’ve left the industry. I doubt very much that any woman who’s moved on in life after being a prostitute would ever even hint to anyone about her past life. She may well harbor thoughts of disgust or shame or perhaps not. It is unlikely though it would be thoughts of pride. Unfortunately society is by and large abhorred by the thought of selling and buying sex.

[vw]

As ww said perfectly, you got it bad dude. 

And what you said[quoted] is completely opposite to my experience, which is admittedly self-selected to seemingly well-adjusted forum darlings and parties with well regarded providers.   

being good actresses, maybe a big reason why they become darlings, they will not tell a customer anyway if they were.

[JonasG]

Most deep down must feel some shame.

And a couple have admitted this to me. "I never thought I'd do this", "Sometimes I feel dirty" etc

[MrMatrix]

Most deep down must feel some shame.

And a couple have admitted this to me. "I never thought I'd do this", "Sometimes I feel dirty" etc

I had one girl say she hates doing this but the moneys too good. She lasted about 6 weeks in the job. Some SPs do it purely to pay off the bills or some specific debt - and thats it.

[Trenlover]

Read the whole thing! WOW! I feel better that I am not the only one. I think its impossible not to get attached with a girl you see regularly after all you see her regularly BECAUSE you got attached to her LOL. I think its fine to get attached

Its not fine to get attached because it will destroy either your soul, your life or youll end up becoming an obsessive stalker and destroy her life.

you can see girls regularly and not get attached, if shes a good service provider.  although if you do get attached then you will almost certainly keep going back.

Helen Fisher has a video on this where she says casual sex is never casual.    I dont think she is 100% right, in my experience to really fall in love with an escort there needs to be real chemistry there for you but also she needs to be giving you a good service.

so.... you need to find her physically attractive..... there needs to be personality chemistry.... and she needs to be a good service punt.   If those 3 things are all in place then its a real danger of becoming EAS.   We dont go into punts looking to get EAS but ironically we do go into punts looking for those 3 things.


EAS is unfortunately one of those harsh life trials you have to go through personally before your really equipped to deal with it.  Reading on forums, taking advice from people will not help and will not prepare you in avoiding it. You have to break and recover yourself.

If your suffering from EAS then you have to block the girl, remove her phone number, pictures, AW profile from your hotlist, completely delete her from your stuff and try not to see her ever again.  Only time apart from her will dissolve the EAS.... and it could take months or years.

[DHunters]

EAS is unfortunately one of those harsh life trials you have to go through personally before your really equipped to deal with it.  Reading on forums, taking advice from people will not help and will not prepare you in avoiding it. You have to break and recover yourself.

If your suffering from EAS then you have to block the girl, remove her phone number, pictures, AW profile from your hotlist, completely delete her from your stuff and try not to see her ever again.  Only time apart from her will dissolve the EAS.... and it could take months or years.

Spot on. I used to see a girl from SA regularly and she would stop with me for days at a time. We got on really well and it finally got to me - 1 day I woke up and realised I had feelings for her, so with no goodbyes I just blocked her out my life and after a while the feeling diminished - especially after a few punts.

[TaraLondon]

I have worked as a “Receptionist’’ for years and some girls have went on to date and in some cases marry a punter. So don’t feel too bad about it

[peter purves]

Its not fine to get attached because it will destroy either your soul, your life or youll end up becoming an obsessive stalker and destroy her life.

you can see girls regularly and not get attached, if shes a good service provider.  although if you do get attached then you will almost certainly keep going back.

Helen Fisher has a video on this where she says casual sex is never casual.    I dont think she is 100% right, in my experience to really fall in love with an escort there needs to be real chemistry there for you but also she needs to be giving you a good service.

so.... you need to find her physically attractive..... there needs to be personality chemistry.... and she needs to be a good service punt.   If those 3 things are all in place then its a real danger of becoming EAS.   We dont go into punts looking to get EAS but ironically we do go into punts looking for those 3 things.


EAS is unfortunately one of those harsh life trials you have to go through personally before your really equipped to deal with it.  Reading on forums, taking advice from people will not help and will not prepare you in avoiding it. You have to break and recover yourself.

If your suffering from EAS then you have to block the girl, remove her phone number, pictures, AW profile from your hotlist, completely delete her from your stuff and try not to see her ever again.  Only time apart from her will dissolve the EAS.... and it could take months or years.

A very interesting and insightful analysis here!!

[Simon_9000]

I have worked as a “Receptionist’’ for years and some girls have went on to date and in some cases marry a punter. So don’t feel too bad about it

Wow, marrying a WG. How often do we know that's happened?

[brandonpete]

Over the years I've made many mates of regular WG's...better term is really 'Fuck Buddy's'....

[simpleton69]

Would be interesting to hear from any SP's

Any of you ladies fallen for a punter??

[Lizzie_Lockhart]

Would be interesting to hear from any SP's

Any of you ladies fallen for a punter??

Guilty...

He came for a 15min blow & go in March last year, had a few longer bookings after that and in April he stopped paying for my time (though I do tell him the meter is still running if he's annoying me)

xx

[jesse james]

Can anyone offer advice for emotional attachment? I had an arrangement with a girl off Craigslist for 3 months I could never tell if she was just seeing me like she said or actually had a bunch of regular clients but I would see her almost every week and we would txt quite a lot outside of meetings aswell but she went abit weird and started letting me down a lot and taking me for granted so I called it a day for my own sanity and safety but I still can’t stop thinking about her even though it’s been a few months now I still miss her everyday.
I did post a thread but it got deleted maybe because I’m not an active member but would appreciate some advice from more experienced punters. Thanks

[SimonSays2108]

I wanted to introduce the concept of limerence to the forum , having had EAS in the past and it being highly destructive to my life I found that it was largely limerence I was suffering from :

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Walking away is the only cure & main advice from this thread and I can’t agree more.

[bbois77]

Falling for a prostitute. 

X2

Nobody stupider than a punter, no wonder the fairer sex look down their noses at the men of this world!!

Money changes hands, a simple business transaction.

When you stop handing over actual money then it becomes something else. But eventually for most men we end up paying in some form, by logical extension, most women end up selling it!

[jesse james]

I wanted to introduce the concept of limerence to the forum , having had EAS in the past and it being highly destructive to my life I found that it was largely limerence I was suffering from :

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Walking away is the only cure & main advice from this thread and I can’t agree more.

Thanks I’ll have a read up on it. I’ve never felt this way before even after being in long relationships I have just fallen for her so much but as I say even though she started taking me for granted and letting me down etc I still miss her every day and I’m struggling to get over it.

[jesse james]

X2

Nobody stupider than a punter, no wonder the fairer sex look down their noses at the men of this world!!

Money changes hands, a simple business transaction.

When you stop handing over actual money then it becomes something else. But eventually for most men we end up paying in some form, by logical extension, most women end up selling it!

If I would have booked an escort by the hour off adultwork then I would totally agree with you but I have severely distorted my first venture into punting by using Craigslist and seeing a normal girl looking for extra income rather than being an escort. I was never charged by the hour we would spend a few hours together and txt almost daily at one point. The other plus point was she was naturally stunning imo and had an easy going personality never tried to hide her name or other personal information she was always open. But I started suspecting she was needing more money and seeing other people after a few months. Then she started letting me down more and more and acting slightly weird and after a slightly dodgy situation i decided to cut all contact with her and it crushed me. I think about her on a daily basis and have seen her advertising a few times since which makes me jealous and miss her so much but i have to tell myself it’s the best option even though it doesn’t feel like it.

[legacychains]

How old are you?

This is why i love this site. Forget fifa or fortnight. Ukpunting does it for me

[winkywanky]

If I would have booked an escort by the hour off adultwork then I would totally agree with you but I have severely distorted my first venture into punting by using Craigslist and seeing a normal girl looking for extra income rather than being an escort. I was never charged by the hour we would spend a few hours together and txt almost daily at one point. The other plus point was she was naturally stunning imo and had an easy going personality never tried to hide her name or other personal information she was always open. But I started suspecting she was needing more money and seeing other people after a few months. Then she started letting me down more and more and acting slightly weird and after a slightly dodgy situation i decided to cut all contact with her and it crushed me. I think about her on a daily basis and have seen her advertising a few times since which makes me jealous and miss her so much but i have to tell myself it’s the best option even though it doesn’t feel like it.

Some options:

1. She probably sussed what was happening (it'd be painfully obvious to her but but not you) and decided she doesn't need it.

2. Other guy(s) are paying her more now and after all that's why she started on CL, so she fucked over your 'bookings' for their better-paying/more enjoyable ones at short notice.

3. A combination of the above (ie she realised you were sweet on her and played you).

Option 3 hurts the most but is entirely possible, indeed, probable.

Either way she's still advertising to see other guys. She doesn't care, she has moved on, even if there ever was anything for her to move on from. Which I doubt there ever was.

I don't know how long it is since you decided it was a lost cause, but if it wasn't that long ago and you really want to put yourself out of your misery, contact her and tell her you love her - lay it on the line and tell her you want to be with her, and tell her if she says no you'll never contact her again. So you can add humiliation to unrequited love if you want, but I wouldn't recommend it.

You'll get over her, give it a couple of months.

[winkywanky]

This is why i love this site. Forget fifa or fortnight. Ukpunting does it for me

Cunt.

(And yes, you'll be reading this)

[winkywanky]

jesse...

However distasteful it might seem (and however she might strenuously disagree), a girl on Craigslist is selling herself, she is prostituting herself. Similarly, guys paying for her services are punters. It's at the other end of the scale from a girl working in a parlour for sure, but it's the same thing.

A bit like comparing a girl working in Harrods on the perfume counter to one stacking shelves in Lidl...ultimately they are doing the same thing, they are both 'shop girls'.

Scant compensation I know, but hopefully her hourly/overnight rate worked out a lot less than if you'd booked her off AW.

You've learned a life lesson the hard way and earned the EAS badge, just like in the Scouts. Dib dib, onwards and upwards!

[Colston36]

I think he was describing their feelings in retrospect after they’ve left the industry. I doubt very much that any woman who’s moved on in life after being a prostitute would ever even hint to anyone about her past life. She may well harbor thoughts of disgust or shame or perhaps not. It is unlikely though it would be thoughts of pride. Unfortunately society is by and large abhorred by the thought of selling and buying sex.

"To generalise is to be an idiot" said a wise man. For over 50 years I have lived with, paid, not paid ladies of the night. They are all different. I'm in a business with a retired girl, nothing to do with sex. She's been talking about going back to it - but the question of shame has never even entered into our conversation. She just talks about money. I'm extremely friendly with others. Some I pay some I don't. Again, no mention of shame. I know only one who says she is ashamed of what she does, though there are doubtless others. Mind you she likes attending orgies, as do two others I know. Go figure. Takes all sorts

[Marmalade]

So many pages on wetbag stuff!

Bad EAS is similar towards prossies and civvies. It’s not the guy’s ‘fault’: most women are crazy. There’s no understanding them, much as we try. She can be one person one day and someone else tomorrow. Prοssies even more so cos you never knew who the she was in the first place.

Fact of life. Like when you stumble, almost slip, in some dog shit. Wasn’t even the dog’s fault. Being alone is the human condition. We play at being ‘with’ someone for periods of time. Takes us out of real world tories gives us space to think differently. The minute it goes topsyturvy ie you start thinking about loadsa shit rather than the joy, time to get a re-βore.

You never owned that dog with the big ear flaps and annoying habit of being an unreliable cow in the first place. Her warm fanny lips are fat and well-used and as responsive as she’d been spayed. Her barking in your head keeps you awake at night.

Find some cheap pussy from the cat and dog home / sauna. Repeat until you don’t give a fuck, and don’t give a fuck about the recalcitrant pet that fucked your head. Stare into the bottom of your coffee. Decide living is better than dying. Get on with it.

Let us know if you come out of re-hab.

[tantric talents]

We all meet with different WGs cueball. And some punters get to know the girls. (sometimes too well) Some WGs open up to the punter, when in the escort code they shouldn't. I know that some WGs have fallen in love with punters, as I've met some.
I think a lot of it is where the punter gets too really friendly with the WG, and although she shouldn't, she opens up to him.
Most punters don't let it cross their minds by getting emotionally attached, they just go see the girl, fill their boots, get their rocks off, and away. Which in most cases that's how it goes, and how it's supposed to go. But with some punters, and some WGs things don't always go according to plan, especially if the chemistry is there, as we are all human these things can, and do happen on occasions as we can see by some of the stories on this thread.

This is so true and has happened to me a few times. Fortunately the girls are in other countries which I visit regularly.
Being married helps. The real cost of another divorce doesn’t even bear thinking about!

[jesse james]

Some options:

1. She probably sussed what was happening (it'd be painfully obvious to her but but not you) and decided she doesn't need it.

2. Other guy(s) are paying her more now and after all that's why she started on CL, so she fucked over your 'bookings' for their better-paying/more enjoyable ones at short notice.

3. A combination of the above (ie she realised you were sweet on her and played you).

Option 3 hurts the most but is entirely possible, indeed, probable.

Either way she's still advertising to see other guys. She doesn't care, she has moved on, even if there ever was anything for her to move on from. Which I doubt there ever was.

I don't know how long it is since you decided it was a lost cause, but if it wasn't that long ago and you really want to put yourself out of your misery, contact her and tell her you love her - lay it on the line and tell her you want to be with her, and tell her if she says no you'll never contact her again. So you can add humiliation to unrequited love if you want, but I wouldn't recommend it.

You'll get over her, give it a couple of months.

I was seeing her for just over 3 months and its been around the same length of time since it ended but i still miss her everyday. i was always eager to see her almost every week but i dont think i came across as falling for her i certainly did not feel obsessed or anything but i did start to miss her between punts.
I was paying her around £100-£140 per meeting depending on what we done and its alot more than she was willing to do it for once i walked away and she started advertising again so dont get why she would jeopardise that kind of income? especially since she offered to give me a blowjob for just £30 when we first met. so it definitely was not the offer of better money. I know this will get me slated on here but i also gave her some money once to help her out and she seemed to change after that acting weird then actually ignoring me at one point then the last time i seen her there was a dodgy looking guy kicking round in a car so i decided to cut contact for my own safety really. She then started advertising quite alot after that which she never done when we where together and even started offering bareback for 100 which i really cannot believe she would risk doing. She seemed far too good to be living that lifestyle really.

[freeze44]

I was seeing her for just over 3 months and its been around the same length of time since it ended but i still miss her everyday. i was always eager to see her almost every week but i dont think i came across as falling for her i certainly did not feel obsessed or anything but i did start to miss her between punts.
I was paying her around £100-£140 per meeting depending on what we done and its alot more than she was willing to do it for once i walked away and she started advertising again so dont get why she would jeopardise that kind of income? especially since she offered to give me a blowjob for just £30 when we first met. so it definitely was not the offer of better money. I know this will get me slated on here but i also gave her some money once to help her out and she seemed to change after that acting weird then actually ignoring me at one point then the last time i seen her there was a dodgy looking guy kicking round in a car so i decided to cut contact for my own safety really. She then started advertising quite alot after that which she never done when we where together and even started offering bareback for 100 which i really cannot believe she would risk doing. She seemed far too good to be living that lifestyle really.

Got a link to the wg?? We can all avoid her if barebacking....oh and also scamming the likes of you! Piss taker ffs! That's if there is any truth in this jackanory story!! 

[OakTree]

"To generalise is to be an idiot" said a wise man. For over 50 years I have lived with, paid, not paid ladies of the night. They are all different. I'm in a business with a retired girl, nothing to do with sex. She's been talking about going back to it - but the question of shame has never even entered into our conversation. She just talks about money. I'm extremely friendly with others. Some I pay some I don't. Again, no mention of shame. I know only one who says she is ashamed of what she does, though there are doubtless others. Mind you she likes attending orgies, as do two others I know. Go figure. Takes all sorts

Who’s generalising. I did say “She may well harbor thoughts of disgust or shame or perhaps not”

I still think many who come into this line of work once out of it never go back and certainly never mention or disclose this part of their past. It’s the same for punters (although they seem to rarely retire while they physically still function). They rarely disclose they punt and certainly don’t wear it as a badge of honour.

[jesse james]

jesse...

However distasteful it might seem (and however she might strenuously disagree), a girl on Craigslist is selling herself, she is prostituting herself. Similarly, guys paying for her services are punters. It's at the other end of the scale from a girl working in a parlour for sure, but it's the same thing.

A bit like comparing a girl working in Harrods on the perfume counter to one stacking shelves in Lidl...ultimately they are doing the same thing, they are both 'shop girls'.

Scant compensation I know, but hopefully her hourly/overnight rate worked out a lot less than if you'd booked her off AW.

You've learned a life lesson the hard way and earned the EAS badge, just like in the Scouts. Dib dib, onwards and upwards!

I could never work out if she was a normal open minded girl looking for extra income like she said or she was actually a working girl and i was just an extra client. She advertised looking for genuine cash work supposedly but then what kind of offers did she think she would get on craigslist? She required a pic before meeting and only wanted one guy aged 18-30 to see each week kind of like a sugar daddy. The first meet went very well but then we did not meet again for 3 weeks because she let me down numerous times or ignored me which did not make sense for someone in need of extra income. But then once we met again it was almost weekly after that. The one week i let her down she put an advert up wanting money which hurt me and was abit of a wake up call. But other than that she did not advertise at all until i cut contact.
some things that made me question her being a working girl was she was very casual and open minded up for everything really even in the car. Lied quite abit and let me down sometimes for no reason. Would often say she was just at a friends house or going to get a quick shower before meeting me. Made out she actually did have a part time job but would often suddenly change times to meet when she was meant to be in work.
so was i being naive? did i get played with having never punted before? either way i still miss her lol.

[jesse james]

Got a link to the wg?? We can all avoid her if barebacking....oh and also scamming the likes of you! Piss taker ffs! That's if there is any truth in this jackanory story!! 

its all true why would i bother coming back on here to make up such crap! i realise there is alot of trolls on here but give me a break i have reached out because i am struggling with severe emotional attachment syndrome and was hoping i could get some advice from more experienced punters because having never punted before this its really distorted reality for me because i could never tell if it was just me and her or she was a working girl playing me and i was just another client. Its affecting my daily life because i fell for her and would loved to have helped her or been in a relationship with her so she didnt have to meet strangers for money but looking back i think i have been played given how naive i was and how she often advertises on there. i cannot post a link because its craigslist the adverts get removed after a few hours its a cat and mouse game when they pop up and get deleted etc.

[freeze44]

its all true why would i bother coming back on here to make up such crap! i realise there is alot of trolls on here but give me a break i have reached out because i am struggling with severe emotional attachment syndrome and was hoping i could get some advice from more experienced punters because having never punted before this its really distorted reality for me because i could never tell if it was just me and her or she was a working girl playing me and i was just another client. Its affecting my daily life because i fell for her and would loved to have helped her or been in a relationship with her so she didnt have to meet strangers for money but looking back i think i have been played given how naive i was and how she often advertises on there. i cannot post a link because its craigslist the adverts get removed after a few hours its a cat and mouse game when they pop up and get deleted etc.

Well you had a load of advice so why carry on with the story??

If this is true then your answers are to be found in a much more fluffy place than this esp if wont post a screenshot etc. Just screams attention seeking to me. 

[jesse james]

Well you had a load of advice so why carry on with the story??

If this is true then your answers are to be found in a much more fluffy place than this esp if wont post a screenshot etc. Just screams attention seeking to me. 

I haven’t had loads of advice? I’ve had 3 replies. What do you want a screenshot of? I have to be careful what I post on public forums considering how dodgy it looked last time I seen her and I was i my car.
If anyone on here would Private message me to talk I would gladly talk to someone on the phone for advice or if anyone is near the same area i would love nothing more than to meet up with a member for a quick drink and I would gladly let them read all the texts and see the screenshots of her pictures and adverts because a regular experienced Punter off here would be able to tell from the content of messages if she was a working girl.
If I had someone tell me she was a working girl who played me I could honestly get a lot more closure to this and move on rather than missing her and feeling sorry for her because of her sob story that She was struggling financially with no help and had a young daughter to support. I feel trapped because I obviously can’t talk to family or friends about it telling them i was paying for sex.

[GingerNuts]

If I had someone tell me she was a working girl who played me I could honestly get a lot more closure to this and move on rather than missing her and feeling sorry for her because of her sob story that She was struggling financially with no help and had a young daughter to support. I feel trapped because I obviously can’t talk to family or friends about it telling them i was paying for sex.

You were paying her for sex so she's a working girl and she played on your emotions.

It's not the first time it's happened and it won't be the last.

[JonasG]

You helped her out with money and after that you admit she changed, so she played you obviously.

So why are you still talking about her in a good light? Saying you still love and miss her?

She took you for a fool ffs.

Have some self-respect.

She's scum.

[OakTree]

I haven’t had loads of advice? I’ve had 3 replies. What do you want a screenshot of? I have to be careful what I post on public forums considering how dodgy it looked last time I seen her and I was i my car.
If anyone on here would Private message me to talk I would gladly talk to someone on the phone for advice or if anyone is near the same area i would love nothing more than to meet up with a member for a quick drink and I would gladly let them read all the texts and see the screenshots of her pictures and adverts because a regular experienced Punter off here would be able to tell from the content of messages if she was a working girl.
If I had someone tell me she was a working girl who played me I could honestly get a lot more closure to this and move on rather than missing her and feeling sorry for her because of her sob story that She was struggling financially with no help and had a young daughter to support. I feel trapped because I obviously can’t talk to family or friends about it telling them i was paying for sex.

You sound like a love sick thirteen year old. We’ve all had relationships that weren’t what we were expecting and you just move on. Wether she’s a working girl or not, holding yourself in perpetual emotional angst over a girl you met through an advert is plain ridiculous. Wake up, grow a pair and move on.

[JonasG]

I mean you've seen her advertising on there loads of times, so it wasn't just you and her.

So don't question if she played you or not. SHE DID.

[Marmalade]

Really it’s nothing more than not seeing through the illusion.

After a bit there’s only a handful of punts that even their face is memorable. I thought recently “wow, definitely on that tiny list!” Then I shook myself and said to myself, yeah really? Well just go back and see if the mirror cracks! It did. The act was fucking amazing, but like a good conjuring trick, the second time it’s easier to see where the rabbit got into the hat. First time is distraction-based, same as stage conjuring. I was gonna write more details and examples from experience, inc a longtime regular, but really, it’s not rocket science. Punting is an illusion. Get used to it.

[JonasG]

Really it’s nothing more than not seeing through the illusion.

After a bit there’s only a handful of punts that even their face is memorable. I thought recently “wow, definitely on that tiny list!” Then I shook myself and said to myself, yeah really? Well just go back and see if the mirror cracks! It did. The act was fucking amazing, but like a good conjuring trick, the second time it’s easier to see where the rabbit got into the hat. First time is distraction-based, same as stage conjuring. I was gonna write more details and examples from experience, inc a longtime regular, but really, it’s not rocket science. Punting is an illusion. Get used to it.

You need to have the right mentality when you start in this game.

If you start doing this because you want to get close to women and form bonds then it will fuck you eventually.

It really annoys the hell out of me how many WGs screw some punters over to the point they give them money ffs.

[freeze44]

Really it’s nothing more than not seeing through the illusion.

After a bit there’s only a handful of punts that even their face is memorable. I thought recently “wow, definitely on that tiny list!” Then I shook myself and said to myself, yeah really? Well just go back and see if the mirror cracks! It did. The act was fucking amazing, but like a good conjuring trick, the second time it’s easier to see where the rabbit got into the hat. First time is distraction-based, same as stage conjuring. I was gonna write more details and examples from experience, inc a longtime regular, but really, it’s not rocket science. Punting is an illusion. Get used to it.

Well put. The best punts give you the best illusion. Suppose it explains why roms are generally poor as they just deliver the basics.

[jesse james]

You helped her out with money and after that you admit she changed, so she played you obviously.

So why are you still talking about her in a good light? Saying you still love and miss her?

She took you for a fool ffs.

Have some self-respect.

She's scum.

Good point I need people to be blunt with me I guess to give me a reality check as I say I’ve never punted before and only ever been in 2 long relationships one 4yrs and other 2yrs with nice caring women who I could trust so I suppose I was naive and too caring going into this. As I’ve said it’s the fact I chose to see what I believed to be a normal girl off Craigslist who had never done this before and had fallen on hard times financially with a young child and not much family around her so I automatically went into caring mode because I liked her and started trying to help her I guess. She didn’t ask me for money I lent it to her to help her when she got kicked out of her flat. But then she started letting me down and the last time I seen her she was acting weird and on edge. I also spotted a suspicious car with someone in staring at me that seemed sketchy so I called it a day.
In regards to her advertising it was only once when I was seeing her because I let her down that week and then after that she only advertised after I had cut contact and stopped seeing her.
I suppose I’m just thinking of the nice genuine side to her when I say I miss her she just seemed in a really bad vulnerable place which changed her over the few months.

[GingerNuts]

Sorry quoted my own reply lol

With the added bit about charging £100 for bareback sex.