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Author Topic: Using punting as a substitute for dating/relationship  (Read 2073 times)

Offline Dime

IMO it's very interesting that an element of punters on here are married and punt because they don't get sex at home etc. I'm approaching my 24th birthday and have been punting for a year and a bit; I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was aged 22 , and my only sexual experiences have been with escorts as you can see from my reviews.  I've never been in a relationship or had a girlfriend due to my shyness when I was at school and university, despite the fact I am a reasonably good-looking guy who goes to the gym regularly.
I have visions of going through my life without ever having a relationship or kids and punting will be the only opportunity I'll have for sex.
In what way is sex with a prossie different from your girlfriend /wife? And is punting a viable alternative to a relationship if you can't find anyone? 
« Last Edit: February 01, 2016, 01:14:41 AM by Dime »

Offline purple_t

In for answers from the married guys / guys with girlfriends.

I'm pretty much in the same boat as you OP, though I've had sex with a few civ girls as well. I think there will be a lot more young guys like us in the coming years / decades, now that marriage is becoming outdated and female hypergamy is rampant

Is it concerning you at all that you haven't had a civvie shag or relationship.  What important is how these things affect your happiness now and going forward.

You don't want lots of what ifs hanging over you in life, would make a plan to try.  never know you might like it !

Offline maxxblue

IMO it's very interesting that an element of punters on here are married and punt because they don't get sex at home etc. I'm approaching my 24th birthday and have been punting for a year and a bit; I lost virginity to a prostitute aged 22 and have only ever had sex with escorts.  I've never been in a relationship or had a girlfriend due to my shyness when I was at school and university, despite the fact I am a reasonably good-looking guy who goes to the gym regularly.
I have visions of going through my life without ever having a relationship or kids and punting will be the only opportunity I'll have for sex.
In what way is sex with a prossie different from your girlfriend /wife? And is punting a viable alternative to a relationship if you can't find anyone?

Punting meets your physical needs, whereas a relationship meets your emotional needs.

A good relationship will also meet your physical needs, but a good punt will not meet your emotional needs.

So, in an ideal world, you'll have a partner who meets all of your needs.

In a less than ideal world, you have to make the most of what you have.  :hi:

Offline JG2000

Punting meets your physical needs, whereas a relationship meets your emotional needs.

A good relationship will also meet your physical needs, but a good punt will not meet your emotional needs.

Great answer.

I know from experience that a relationship is far more important than casual paid sex. Problem is, it doesn't matter if I have either one, I still crave the other. I'm just greedy I suppose.

Great answer.

I know from experience that a relationship is far more important than casual paid sex. Problem is, it doesn't matter if I have either one, I still crave the other. I'm just greedy I suppose.

+1 for the greedy brigade, I have sex on tap at home and my OH is 10 years younger.  However I can't seem to stop punting!!

Everyone is different,I did the long term relationship thing getting engaged but not getting married.in my experience a long term relationship is great to start with where your physical and emotional needs are both taken care of but over time the physical side slips away and the emotional side becomes her moaning her arse off at everything no matter how small and trivial the matter.OK this is very much my opinion on things but going by my group of mates my experience is not uncommon.

Now I'm single go for a punt usually once a month and I'm as happy as Larry (whoever he was)

Offline Dime

Is it concerning you at all that you haven't had a civvie shag or relationship.  What important is how these things affect your happiness now and going forward.

You don't want lots of what ifs hanging over you in life, would make a plan to try.  never know you might like it !
It is bothering me in the sense that it's a bit unusual and I'm curious to see what it's like.  22 was relatively late to lose my virginity bearing in mind the age of consent is 16.

Offline Midlane

By the time you're in your 70s, nobody will care if it was 16 or 22, and that's including you, if you can even remember it by then.

Offline jimbm55

Divorced. Had some girlfriends since but both came with too much baggage. I like sex and I like women. I have female friends but I only shag WGs. Simples
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It is bothering me in the sense that it's a bit unusual and I'm curious to see what it's like.  22 was relatively late to lose my virginity bearing in mind the age of consent is 16.

What I meant is it making you not happy having not tried it. 

You say you were late losing your V.  But with a positive spin you had the confidence to become a punter aged 22, many people try and fail and pull out of our fine hobby.

+1 for the greedy brigade, I have sex on tap at home and my OH is 10 years younger.  However I can't seem to stop punting!!

+2 in the greedy brigade.

tcm

Offline two20

If I had have discovered punting before "normal" relationships I think I'd have had a very skewed view of life. To punt now as a supplement to a relationship is great, but I need a "normal" one to keep me sane and enjoying the company of a woman. I'd take some time out at your age and go dating, its never been easier for a shy guy to get in contact with someone and hopefully find a woman you like. Hope that doesn't sound fluffy.

Offline willmo1

Punting meets your physical needs, whereas a relationship meets your emotional needs.

A good relationship will also meet your physical needs, but a good punt will not meet your emotional needs.

So, in an ideal world, you'll have a partner who meets all of your needs.

In a less than ideal world, you have to make the most of what you have.  :hi:

Excellent. Sums it all up perfectly.  :thumbsup:
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Offline Nagilum

In short and as others have said - no.

Punting is not a substitute and in the punting wiki (section 9) it specifically warns against treating it like a date.

https://www.puntingwiki.com/wiki/New_to_Punting#Punting_is_not_Dating

The problem arises when punters start to confuse the act with the real thing and assume what happens in that hour is love.  Keep them separate in your head and you will be fine.  I state this not because its the obvious, but because this opening post goes along that line of enquiry.

Punt well, punt hard  :hi:

Offline smiths

IMO it's very interesting that an element of punters on here are married and punt because they don't get sex at home etc. I'm approaching my 24th birthday and have been punting for a year and a bit; I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was aged 22 , and my only sexual experiences have been with escorts as you can see from my reviews.  I've never been in a relationship or had a girlfriend due to my shyness when I was at school and university, despite the fact I am a reasonably good-looking guy who goes to the gym regularly.
I have visions of going through my life without ever having a relationship or kids and punting will be the only opportunity I'll have for sex.
In what way is sex with a prossie different from your girlfriend /wife? And is punting a viable alternative to a relationship if you can't find anyone?

I punt only for sex, I get love elsewhere fortunately so the difference is beyond measure for me. Problem is one woman isn't enough because I require and more importantly want variety so being a selfish git go and get that variety.

Punting is in no way a viable alternative for me to a relationship.

Offline Mansell

Punting meets your physical needs, whereas a relationship meets your emotional needs.

A good relationship will also meet your physical needs, but a good punt will not meet your emotional needs.

So, in an ideal world, you'll have a partner who meets all of your needs.

In a less than ideal world, you have to make the most of what you have.  :hi:

Sums it up really well.

To the OP, if you can find a good one then it's well worth it, in so many ways. Hopefully if you do she will continue to have the same interest in sex as you for a long as you are together  :)

And whatever you do, try not to get emotionally attached to a WG, as it will in all likelihood, end in tears

Just take punting for what it is fun and sexually gratifying, well fingers crossed  :rolleyes:

Best of luck & hopefully you will meet and have a relationship with your ideal girl :)

jcdmj12

By the time you're in your 70s, nobody will care if it was 16 or 22, and that's including you, if you can even remember it by then.

I can remember that I was 15, because my (older) GF at the time desperately wanted to shag me whilst it was still illegal.   Dirty bitch she was.  :D

Offline Sonny Crockett

IMO it's very interesting that an element of punters on here are married and punt because they don't get sex at home etc. I'm approaching my 24th birthday and have been punting for a year and a bit; I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was aged 22 , and my only sexual experiences have been with escorts as you can see from my reviews.  I've never been in a relationship or had a girlfriend due to my shyness when I was at school and university, despite the fact I am a reasonably good-looking guy who goes to the gym regularly.
I have visions of going through my life without ever having a relationship or kids and punting will be the only opportunity I'll have for sex.
In what way is sex with a prossie different from your girlfriend /wife? And is punting a viable alternative to a relationship if you can't find anyone?

You are exactly the same as me. I have only had sex with WGs and never with civvies. I was 26 when I lost my virginity to an escort. I have had to learn about sex the hard way, making lots of mistakes and spending lots of money in the process. 7 years on, I am probably still learning.

I can only imagine that when you have sex with civvies, you'll look at it from a different perspective, and also there's more scope for trying new things. In punting trying new things often depends on the WG you contact and how interested they really are in your requests!!!
« Last Edit: February 01, 2016, 10:57:20 PM by Sonny Crockett »
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Offline Nagilum

You are exactly the same as me. I have only had sex with WGs and never with civvies. I was 26 when I lost my virginity to an escort. I have had to learn about sex the hard way, making lots of mistakes and spending lots of money in the process. 7 years on, I am probably still learning.

I can only imagine that when you have sex with civvies, you'll look at it from a different perspective, and also there's more scope for trying new things. In punting trying new things often depends on the WG you contact and how interested they really are in your requests!!!

But what a way to learn ;)

The only good thing about civvies is unprotected sex. Having said that, I would take any girlfriend to the GUM clinic.

Offline Aspen

I have only had sex with WGs and never with civvies.

I think that's a lot more common that is generally realised. It's also a positive because WG's are always available (when you can find a suitable one) but GF's are not. If I had to choose between one or the other for life, but not both, I wouldn't choose the GF/partner/wife route.

When you get talking to WG's about the sort of men they prefer, they always seem to say married men. But a close second is men who have never had a GF but always pay, and surprisingly I've been told that it's because they are often very good at it. Some of them are in their 50's and 60's and obviously a lot of them will have their entire sex life with WG's. There can't be a clearer reason why punting should never be criminalised.
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Offline Aspen

But what a way to learn ;)

The only good thing about civvies is unprotected sex.

I find I don't miss it if I have regular bbbj's

Has to be a WG that is really good at it though.

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Offline Sonny Crockett

I think that's a lot more common that is generally realised. It's also a positive because WG's are always available (when you can find a suitable one) but GF's are not. If I had to choose between one or the other for life, but not both, I wouldn't choose the GF/partner/wife route.

When you get talking to WG's about the sort of men they prefer, they always seem to say married men. But a close second is men who have never had a GF but always pay, and surprisingly I've been told that it's because they are often very good at it. Some of them are in their 50's and 60's and obviously a lot of them will have their entire sex life with WG's. There can't be a clearer reason why punting should never be criminalised.

Absolutely..... Punting serves a man's basic sexual needs!!! I love sex and at times feel I need it, so to feel like a complete man!!!
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Offline willmo1

You are exactly the same as me. I have only had sex with WGs and never with civvies. I was 26 when I lost my virginity to an escort. I have had to learn about sex the hard way, making lots of mistakes and spending lots of money in the process. 7 years on, I am probably still learning.

I can only imagine that when you have sex with civvies, you'll look at it from a different perspective, and also there's more scope for trying new things. In punting trying new things often depends on the WG you contact and how interested they really are in your requests!!!

Get the right gfriend and theres a world of difference. Civvie sex is the real thing while punting is little more than an expensive wank. Does the job physically but nothing more.
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