I have an ATF who I have written about in UKP. We have been seeing each other for a while, we tick each other's boxes but due to age difference and family situations we keep things as they are and have fun when we meet. We have talked endlessly about it all and just feel that the status quo is for the best.
Two of my friends, however, went for permanent relationships, one very good, and the other sad.
First story - the happy one
My friend used escort services fairly regularly after being divorced for several years. His marriage had become slower and slower with non existent sex and total disinterest all around, so he called it a day.
After playing the WG field, he had been with one escort for quite a while and then, right out of the blue, they got married, white wedding, the whole nine yards!
All I had read on the subject had been 'Don't do it!', and I was very concerned for both of them, but having been around them socially I could see that they are very compatible.
I see that when they are together they are kind and considerate to each other and, most importantly, he makes her laugh, a lot!
My girlfriend talked to her and she said that he was the most intelligent guy she had ever met, and she had really enjoyed their meetings compared to the usual in-out-and-away punters.
When I talk to him he has a great grin all over his face and even though he is more than twenty years older than her, it's very obvious that they have an adventurous and satisfying sex life.
They are still nuts about each other, and baby number one (her first) just announced its presence!
She is a housewife and was happy to give up escorting when they married.
He swapped vanilla for spice and they seem to have found a formula that works for them.
Second story - the sad one
Another of my friends had a sad ending to his punting.
He was a technician back in the day with British Telecom and had worked for them since he was a teenager when it was the Post Office Telecommunications Division.
We had a cordial relationship as we were both involved in archery as a sport, and shot against each other at county and regional tournaments. As these things happen, you make good friends from sporting activities and we would see each other for family activities as well.
He and his wife were a little short with each other from time to time and as I got to know them it was obvious that their relationship was not a smooth one.
There were big changes in BT happening at that time, and he was replaced in his department by a younger, more qualified man. He was downgraded from senior manager to a post as an outside engineer and offered voluntary redundancy with a reduced pension, which he accepted.
Although there was only a relatively small drop in their finances, his wife was upset about it and in short order she left him to live with a lover who she had been seeing for several years.
He was pretty upset at this as he had no idea about the boyfriend, and he was very bitter about women in general.
We still met at tournaments and local shooting events, and I was always trying to cheer him up and put some kind of positive spin on his situation, even suggesting he join a dating agency.
On one event where we were away for a couple of days, I suggested that he try phoning an escort from the ads in the Daily Sport. He thought to give this a try, and arranged a visit from a local girl, which went so well that he was quite cheerful about it and reckoned that he would keep at it.
Time went by and he was very upbeat about his experiences, commenting that he was having more fun than he had expected, and had started a part time job to help his punting finances.
The first I heard of his escort girlfriend who become his favourite was when he turned up at a shoot with her. She was very nice, about half his age, had a bubbly personality and was intellectually similar to him.
She had a full time job and worked as an escort to get the extra money.
Their relationship carried on for a while until she wasn’t around any more. I asked about her, and he said that she had wanted to get married to him, and he just couldn’t be bothered to go through it all again, even though he had become fond of her and she had stopped seeing other punters. She said that she wanted to look after him as he was getting older, and had a couple of age related physical problems.
I thought that he had missed a good chance with her, but he was concerned that he had a house of his own in a nice area, and he felt that she may have been after his money. I commented that she probably only really wanted security, but it was too late by then.
Be that as it may, he died about a year later and his house was inherited by his nearest relative, his married sister, whose husband my friend detested. Needless to say, guess who finally ended up with all the money!
He and she were nice people and I feel sure they would have made each other happy, but some things just don’t turn out right.
