After taking some time to pluck up the courage, my very first review was shown to the SP in question. She told me via WA that a punter told her the reason he booked her was because of my review. Then he proceeded to load up the site and show it to her in in entirety on his phone. i was shocked that someone would do this.
Luckily she thought it was amusing and was happy/thankful that it brought her new business, though she did comment on the detail (i started off writing pretty much every little thing that happened), it didn't cause me any problems and i have continued to see her when she is available.
unfortunately, this seems to be common. Mel_Honey is a recent example who has commented that she is being shown reviews, even though she does not want them to be shown to her, and various other SPs have mentioned that they are being shown reviews as well. There is at least one SP who i saw recently who told me she was being harassed by a punter who said he saw a review of her (might not be mine, but mine is the most recent), almost to a level of stalking. She does not seem to have any idea of the forum or where the review came from, but i suppose it won't be long.
FWIW, i do not think you did anything wrong. for myself, i am always truthful in my reviews, and have tried to tone down the amount of detail i include. i don't understand SPs who claim that their safety is compromised by leaving reviews. luckily i have not had any problems since, but am pretty sure that it has continued to happen. as i don't usually see SPs more than once, there is not really much chance for me to know if i have pissed an SP off.
i echoed your thoughts on another review recently, you should expect that your review will be shown to the SP, whether it is positive or negative. dunno what the toerags who do this expect to gain, if i was an SP i would not have any respect for members who did that, especially as they are not brave enough to tell the community that they are doing so.
i also think some non-productive members are using this as an excuse to not post reviews as well.
Reviews are an indication, not a promise. Prices can change, services may differ. The amount of SPs i have seen where reviews state that she throws in X services for free, which has never happened to me. i'm fine with that, because i don't expect it. Taking a review and expecting the exact carbon copy to happen for you is just unrealistic.