Becoming a regular punter with someone - how’d it work out?

[specialedition28]

Just a general discussion really about anyone’s experiences of becoming a regular massage customer (or a shag for that matter) with someone - how it evolved, if you managed to get any free extras or if it turned into just a generally better experience each time. Of course it all depends on your own circumstances (how you clicked with the provider etc) and you don’t have to name names - just intrigued as I’m wondering about choosing one person and the thought crossed my mind…

[MLawro93]

Having a regular is generally great. Better service, better banter, just better all round for me. I tend not to accept any freebies just for being a regular makes it awkward for me, except once a SP did bring out a cake for my birthday. Which was a nice surprise. 

[Punting2022]

A regular is only worth it if you get favours, so extra time. occasional freebie etc. Dinner dates .
But if your not getting these, why stick with one like its a gf. Whole point of punting is to see different ladies to keep things exciting. Having a reg just gets boring

[WelshClipper]

I thought I had found a regular recently, I had only seen her twice but I was mapping out future trips to coincide with her location. I was sceptical but I was willing to give it a shot. I actually had fantasies my punting ways were changing.

Then I contacted her to arrange the next booking for about four hours later. She agreed. I then got a text asking to change to six hours later. That was impossible for me because I was expected elsewhere, so I had to decline.

I thought about this later and I am pretty sure I was bumped for another punter. Who knows but it made me less interested in trying again

Maybe I’m overreacting but I don’t think so 

[Colston36]

I thought I had found a regular recently, I had only seen her twice but I was mapping out future trips to coincide with her location. I was sceptical but I was willing to give it a shot. I actually had fantasies my punting ways were changing.

Then I contacted her to arrange the next booking for about four hours later. She agreed. I then got a text asking to change to six hours later. That was impossible for me because I was expected elsewhere, so I had to decline.

I thought about this later and I am pretty sure I was bumped for another punter. Who knows but it made me less interested in trying again

Maybe I’m overreacting but I don’t think so 

I think you're right. I have developed relationships with girls, but it's not always easy

[specialedition28]

All good points - I reckon the benefits are that if you find a good service whether that’s a TS, a massage or just a regular escort then it’s safer knowing what you’ll get - I’ve had some pretty mediocre experiences where half way through the massage for example your mind wanders to the good one(s) for example so anything given on top (as a freebie of that happens) is just a bonus I suppose!

But yes never fall for the provider - it’s their job at the end of the day!

[King Kenny]

I've had many regulars over the years. One stopped taking my calls around a year or two ago. That's all fine. It works both ways.

One regular mobile masseuse got outed to her family by some cunt online and she disappeared from the internet.

One Thai masseuse contacted me by whatsapp after our first session (decent B2B) and next time I booked her we fucked.  Saw her a few times after that at her home but she ended up being very jealous and suspicious for no reason so we ended it.

There's nothing to work out. You pay for their time and although you can really enjoy the company of some and really like them as people at the end of the day the knowledge of how you know each other is always hanging over the relationship you have.  When it starts out as transactional it's unlikely to be anything other.

[southcoastpunter]

A regular is only worth it if you get favours, so extra time. occasional freebie etc. Dinner dates .
But if your not getting these, why stick with one like its a gf. Whole point of punting is to see different ladies to keep things exciting. Having a reg just gets boring

What a load of crap - imo!

[shagmore]

Worked out brilliantly, she is now my partner, and living together. Can not get better than that

[Punterperson1971]

I’ve known my regular for 20 years or more and we get on and there’s never any nerves or atmosphere and she’s introduced me to anal and pegging,she also lets me film and we’ve fucked in front of one or 2 of her slaves and even fucked her mate and had a threesome with both of them oh and she occasionally gives me a lift home too.
I also find I take longer to cum to as we know each other really well.

[Doc Holliday]

Worked out brilliantly, she is now my partner, and living together. Can not get better than that

You have mentioned this a number of times. Hope it works out for you 

Is she still working?

[Punting2022]

What a load of crap - imo!

Not really. Most men punt because they want variety and bored at home with their partner. See different girls all the time.
A regular is good yes, but it falls into the seeing the same lady and not getting the variety one needs. So unless thier are favours or freebies extra time etc. Why would you stick with it. Its just like being with your partner. Get bored. So have the variety.

[pantywetter]

I find that service usually drops off on punt 2, 3, 4 and lose interest.  I would stick with good regulars for much longer if this didn’t happen

[midspunter]

What a load of crap - imo!

I agree. This entirely transactional attitude to punting - I just don't get it. Yes, money changes hands, but it's still a human process subject to all the glories and frailties that implies.

I have a very long term regular and it's great. We're entirely relaxed with each other, we know what we both like, we're essentially quite good friends, I don't recall ever being disappointed after a visit and often I am still blown away by her - a few weeks ago, she helped deliver probably the best orgasm I can ever remember having. You're unlikely to get any of those things by playing the field.

[LLPunting]

Not really. Most men punt because they want variety and bored at home with their partner. See different girls all the time.
A regular is good yes, but it falls into the seeing the same lady and not getting the variety one needs. So unless thier are favours or freebies extra time etc. Why would you stick with it. Its just like being with your partner. Get bored. So have the variety.

Where's the verified research to support this supposition? Seems more like you're projecting. Bit too much Tate brothers in your for you feed.

[shagmore]

You have mentioned this a number of times. Hope it works out for you 

Is she still working?

Yes, working out brilliantly thanks

[runner in the woods]

Had several regulars over the years, most of them I'd still be seeing if they were still working. And for me it's great, takes the stress out of getting to a strange place/ girl.
One we became friends and used to meet up for coffee. Then she got ill and stopped working. I'm still in contact with her.
So on the whole for me a regular is preferable.
One girl who I had seen a few times and would of been a regular scammed me on the later booking, so we need to remember, it's just a job for them and not to get emotionally involved.

[OakTree]

I've never had a regular. There's a couple of girls I might ping back to now and again but it's infrequent. It could be six months to a year of not seeing them.

I know it works for some but it's not something I would want to get involved in. I say involved because I imagine that's what it becomes. I like variety anyway and the total emotional detachment of it all.

In all honesty also I've never met an SP I've wanted to see over and over again anyway. By and large if I do see them again, by the second or third time I've had enough and am looking to pastures new.

[koshkaj]

I find that service usually drops off on punt 2, 3, 4 and lose interest.  I would stick with good regulars for much longer if this didn’t happen

i always think this will happen. a few SPs have given me their personal number, and been encouraging to return, but i just get stuck on things going downhill so don't go back.

anytime i do find an SP who i think could work as a regular, they are always a tourer and away for months at a time, or they leave the country. perhaps i'm being too picky 

[TomTank]

I think I've changed over the years.

In my early days I was much more inclined to always want something new, but I did have girls I would go back to where there service was really good.

These days I'm more inclined to stick to tried and trusted, where they know what I want and always deliver.
There's always the chance that a switch flicks, and a regular becomes someone I rarely or never see again, but I currently have 2 regulars and 4 semi-regulars, with the potential to become regulars.

The key is the connection and service.

[ValentinaRosa]

As an SP, one of the things that keeps me happy in this job is the depth I try to bring to it. For me, it’s never just about meeting as many new people as possible. I value genuine human connection, so seeing familiar faces is one of the best parts of what I do.

Over the years, an increasing proportion of my bookings have become regulars, and that’s very much the direction I want my business to go. My goal is to reach the point where the vast majority of my diary is filled by repeat clients. I’m slowly getting there, and it makes the work so much more enjoyable.

Some of my regulars I’ve known for years now. We’ve celebrated birthdays, talked through difficult times, laughed about life, and built a level of comfort and trust that simply isn’t possible in a first meeting. A few have even become genuine friends after leaving the client-provider dynamic behind.

Some of the kindest, most interesting people I’ve ever met have come into my life through this profession. I know it isn’t everyone’s preference - some people enjoy the variety, and that’s completely fair - but for me, there’s something really special about watching a connection grow over time. Those are the appointments I look forward to the most.

[MaxVerstappen]

As an SP, one of the things that keeps me happy in this job is the depth I try to bring to it. For me, it’s never just about meeting as many new people as possible. I value genuine human connection, so seeing familiar faces is one of the best parts of what I do.

Over the years, an increasing proportion of my bookings have become regulars, and that’s very much the direction I want my business to go. My goal is to reach the point where the vast majority of my diary is filled by repeat clients. I’m slowly getting there, and it makes the work so much more enjoyable.

Some of my regulars I’ve known for years now. We’ve celebrated birthdays, talked through difficult times, laughed about life, and built a level of comfort and trust that simply isn’t possible in a first meeting. A few have even become genuine friends after leaving the client-provider dynamic behind.

Some of the kindest, most interesting people I’ve ever met have come into my life through this profession. I know it isn’t everyone’s preference - some people enjoy the variety, and that’s completely fair - but for me, there’s something really special about watching a connection grow over time. Those are the appointments I look forward to the most.

 

What a load of shite. There is no real connection whatsoever, it’s a transaction! Stop deluding yourself.

Thanks for the laugh though 

[MissWolf]

As an SP, one of the things that keeps me happy in this job is the depth I try to bring to it. For me, it’s never just about meeting as many new people as possible. I value genuine human connection, so seeing familiar faces is one of the best parts of what I do.

Over the years, an increasing proportion of my bookings have become regulars, and that’s very much the direction I want my business to go. My goal is to reach the point where the vast majority of my diary is filled by repeat clients. I’m slowly getting there, and it makes the work so much more enjoyable.

Some of my regulars I’ve known for years now. We’ve celebrated birthdays, talked through difficult times, laughed about life, and built a level of comfort and trust that simply isn’t possible in a first meeting. A few have even become genuine friends after leaving the client-provider dynamic behind.

Some of the kindest, most interesting people I’ve ever met have come into my life through this profession. I know it isn’t everyone’s preference - some people enjoy the variety, and that’s completely fair - but for me, there’s something really special about watching a connection grow over time. Those are the appointments I look forward to the most.

Absolutely this for me to 

[MissWolf]

What a load of shite. There is no real connection whatsoever, it’s a transaction! Stop deluding yourself.

Thanks for the laugh though 

There may not be for you but you are not everyone and with the greatest respect you don't know everything.

I have made genuine friendships through this industry,  ive been doing this for 11 years and like VR I have been the shoulder and ear when times are tough, the sounding boards for ideas and dreams, I've rescued clients who have broken down and taken a couple to hospital appointments,  none of which has been transactional.

Don't tar everyone with your mindset, because we are all human and all different and thats what makes this life worth living.

[MaxVerstappen]

There may not be for you but you are not everyone and with the greatest respect you don't know everything.

I have made genuine friendships through this industry,  ive been doing this for 11 years and like VR I have been the shoulder and ear when times are tough, the sounding boards for ideas and dreams, I've rescued clients who have broken down and taken a couple to hospital appointments,  none of which has been transactional.

Don't tar everyone with your mindset, because we are all human and all different and thats what makes this life worth living.

Wow, that’s amazing, you go girl  thanks for sharing such heartwarming stories.

[ValentinaRosa]

There may not be for you but you are not everyone and with the greatest respect you don't know everything.

I have made genuine friendships through this industry,  ive been doing this for 11 years and like VR I have been the shoulder and ear when times are tough, the sounding boards for ideas and dreams, I've rescued clients who have broken down and taken a couple to hospital appointments,  none of which has been transactional.

Don't tar everyone with your mindset, because we are all human and all different and thats what makes this life worth living.

And sometimes they rescue us too 🤍 I’ve had clients whose special occasion dinners I’ve paid for and bought presents for, others I’ve gone away with completely free of charge or we’ve just split things 50/50 because I valued their company.

I’m not a robot and neither are my clients. We’re human beings and sometimes we form genuine connections with each other regardless of how we happened to meet, sometimes even because of how we met. We meet as strangers knowing nothing about each other’s lives and behind closed doors there’s often a kind of honesty that you don’t get in everyday life. People share truths, fears, experiences and parts of themselves they might normally keep hidden from everyone else. I think that can create a closeness in its own way.

I was on the phone to one of mine for about 45 minutes this morning and spoke to another last night while I’ve been away. We have each other’s backs and help each other in completely different areas of life. Sometimes I’m there for them and sometimes they’re there for me. There’s nothing transactional about those moments.

You’re so right about connections making life worth living and for me they make this job worth it too. I genuinely couldn’t do this job any other way. I’d become depressed otherwise.

I think so much of life is about how you go about it. Your attitude, how you see the world, valuing people and connecting with people. That’s just how I choose to live mine. Thanks for sharing.

[chuck_88]

There may not be for you but you are not everyone and with the greatest respect you don't know everything.

I have made genuine friendships through this industry,  ive been doing this for 11 years and like VR I have been the shoulder and ear when times are tough, the sounding boards for ideas and dreams, I've rescued clients who have broken down and taken a couple to hospital appointments,  none of which has been transactional.

Don't tar everyone with your mindset, because we are all human and all different and thats what makes this life worth living.

Agreed and well said.

I have also made genuine friendships with a few of the girls I've seen, I got a call to change one of their car tyre's one morning so they could get to work. She lived round the corner from me so I managed to save the day 

Everyone's experiences will be different, like anything else in life.

[MLawro93]

Good to hear the SP side of it, and I don't doubt any of what you've both said. Genuine warmth does develop, as I said above, better banter and better all round is half the appeal of a regular.

But ultimately we're in each other's lives because of a transaction. Some connections might move beyond that, fair enough, but for most there's always a boundary sitting underneath, and it tends to show itself when something goes wrong. I don't say that as a criticism, mind. Clear terms are part of what makes the warmth work in the first place.

[daviemac]

What a load of shite. There is no real connection whatsoever, it’s a transaction! Stop deluding yourself.

Thanks for the laugh though 

You haven't got a clue mate, it's you who's talking a load of shite.

Just because you don't have any sort of connection does not mean nobody can. Maybe I imagined the phone calls, txt messages and PMs on UKE that I have exchanged with more than one SP who I used to see regularly.

One reg would start an hour and a half earlier than advertised to fit me in if she was fully booked, another didn't charge the extra for a Nuru massage and would go out of her way to vary what happened in the booking.

[MaxVerstappen]

Good to hear the SP side of it, and I don't doubt any of what you've both said. Genuine warmth does develop, as I said above, better banter and better all round is half the appeal of a regular.

But ultimately we're in each other's lives because of a transaction. Some connections might move beyond that, fair enough, but for most there's always a boundary sitting underneath, and it tends to show itself when something goes wrong. I don't say that as a criticism, mind. Clear terms are part of what makes the warmth work in the first place.

+1

Well said.

[MaxVerstappen]

You haven't got a clue mate, it's you who's talking a load of shite.

Just because you don't have any sort of connection does not mean nobody can. Maybe I imagined the phone calls, txt messages and PMs on UKE that I have exchanged with more than one SP who I used to see regularly.

One reg would start an hour and a half earlier than advertised to fit me in if she was fully booked, another didn't charge the extra for a Nuru massage and would go out of her way to vary what happened in the booking.

Ok

[MissWolf]

Good to hear the SP side of it, and I don't doubt any of what you've both said. Genuine warmth does develop, as I said above, better banter and better all round is half the appeal of a regular.

But ultimately we're in each other's lives because of a transaction. Some connections might move beyond that, fair enough, but for most there's always a boundary sitting underneath, and it tends to show itself when something goes wrong. I don't say that as a criticism, mind. Clear terms are part of what makes the warmth work in the first place.

Yes we are and all of the friendships I've developed over time started this way. Its how it develops and changes that makes the few different.
Not all of my regulars become anything other than  a regular client who I get along well with and he with me, however some bridge the boundaries between clients and friends and also understand how to fit into both and when to be each.

[MLawro93]

Yes we are and all of the friendships I've developed over time started this way. Its how it develops and changes that makes the few different.
Not all of my regulars become anything other than  a regular client who I get along well with and he with me, however some bridge the boundaries between clients and friends and also understand how to fit into both and when to be each.

Don't disagree with any of that  , and just to be clear I'm not in the "no real connection" camp, the connection is genuine.

I only highlight the transaction because it creates a slightly different dynamic to a normal friendship, and it tends to show itself when a disagreement crops up, one side reacts as a friend, the other as client or provider, and you end up having two different conversations. Being mindful of that is what gets you through a wobble with the relationship intact. So it's a protective point rather than a cynical one, as you say, the ones that last are where both people know when to be each.

[Ghost89]

What a load of shite. There is no real connection whatsoever, it’s a transaction! Stop deluding yourself.

Thanks for the laugh though 

Spoken like a true arsehole.
Just cos your experiences aren’t like that or you simply don’t agree, there’s no need to be a bellend about it.

[MissWolf]

Don't disagree with any of that  , and just to be clear I'm not in the "no real connection" camp, the connection is genuine.

I only highlight the transaction because it creates a slightly different dynamic to a normal friendship, and it tends to show itself when a disagreement crops up, one side reacts as a friend, the other as client or provider, and you end up having two different conversations. Being mindful of that is what gets you through a wobble with the relationship intact. So it's a protective point rather than a cynical one, as you say, the ones that last are where both people know when to be each.

Absolutely 

[Markc]

I had a regular for about 18 years and she has introduced me to many new experiences.
Anal, butt plugs, threesomes with both males and females joining us and more recently
snowballing. We know each others real names and l sometimes visit her at her house
and nor her working flat.

I pay her standard rate and don’t expect anything for free.

[MaxVerstappen]

Spoken like a true arsehole.
Just cos your experiences aren’t like that or you simply don’t agree, there’s no need to be a bellend about it.

Yeah I suppose it takes one to know one. Fair point

[Punterperson1971]

A while ago I saw my regular and I had a bad turn were I was unwell,I was actually sick a load of times and she got a bucket a wet towel because I was burning up and was mopping my head with it as I was being sick,she got me to lie down and I slept for a while well around 2 hours,she even came back in and covered me with a blanket as I was naked and she kept coming in to check on me she eventually offered to take me home.
We had started the session before hand but never asked for any money at all,I also had some devastating news a few years back as well and she was there for me all way through.

[Arripotter1971]

I wish, The successful punts I have had they are tourists who are only in cardiff maybe once a year  So it's like Battleships in between.......

[wristjob]

I find that service usually drops off on punt 2, 3, 4 and lose interest.  I would stick with good regulars for much longer if this didn’t happen

Tell me about it. Once they see you through the door for the 3rd time they seem to think you are hooked and that's the biggest turn off.

I have a regular I've seen for about 3 years. Never had a bad service, the price is fair and I don't ask for a discount or freebies, just know I'll get a better service than just about anybody else every time and in some ways it gets better over time.

I agree with some of the points about variety though. I don't think it's super healthy to only see 1 girl and there are times I've had the urge to try somebody different and take the risk of disappointment just cos I need that variety.

[Jadelux]

As an SP, one of the things that keeps me happy in this job is the depth I try to bring to it. For me, it’s never just about meeting as many new people as possible. I value genuine human connection, so seeing familiar faces is one of the best parts of what I do.

Over the years, an increasing proportion of my bookings have become regulars, and that’s very much the direction I want my business to go. My goal is to reach the point where the vast majority of my diary is filled by repeat clients. I’m slowly getting there, and it makes the work so much more enjoyable.

Some of my regulars I’ve known for years now. We’ve celebrated birthdays, talked through difficult times, laughed about life, and built a level of comfort and trust that simply isn’t possible in a first meeting. A few have even become genuine friends after leaving the client-provider dynamic behind.

Some of the kindest, most interesting people I’ve ever met have come into my life through this profession. I know it isn’t everyone’s preference - some people enjoy the variety, and that’s completely fair - but for me, there’s something really special about watching a connection grow over time. Those are the appointments I look forward to the most.

+ 1

I completely agree.

If anything, I think the excitement grows rather than fades. Sometimes I catch myself wondering when a regular will be back because I’m genuinely curious to hear how their trip went, whether they got the promotion they were hoping for, or just to catch up.

Of course, there’s always a transactional side to this job, but we’re still people.

One thing I’ve noticed is that I never feel more relaxed just because someone is a regular. If anything, I feel a bit more pressure. They already know me, so they’re coming back expecting another great experience.

[hendrix]

I pretty much only see regulars, and occasionally other WG's recommended by my regulars. That's worked very well for me. Of course it's transactional, that's a good thing imo. Clear boundaries, mutual respect and a lot of fun.