why are the problems men face are not talked about in the mainstream?

[Watts.E.Dunn]

This site is a pratice in the USofA got a few decent articals on polyps and what the little beggars can get up to!..

Have a look in the blog aslo.. shows one being done..

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[puntingking]

Apparently it’s now fashionable among the younger generations to include their mental health diagnoses on their CVs.

 

[puntingking]

Most of homeless people are men:

England/Wales: In 2021, about 67% of people identified as homeless were male.

Scotland: Roughly 58% of homeless households are headed by men, though women are more likely to be homeless due to domestic disputes.

Unsheltered Population: Men are more likely to be sleeping rough (on the streets)

There are no figures in the amount of homeless shelters for men and for women, but women are more likely to be housed when homeless. Some of this is due to the fact that some of them are single mothers.

Source - google & the big issue.

 

[scutty brown]

This site is a pratice in the USofA got a few decent articals on polyps and what the little beggars can get up to!..

Yeah, polyps can turn into jellyfish. I'm sure that would give you a sore ass   

[Blackpool Rock]

This site is a pratice in the USofA got a few decent articals on polyps and what the little beggars can get up to!..

Have a look in the blog aslo.. shows one being done..

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Don't need to watch the video as I watched mine live on the TV screen that they were keen to show me   

One of mine was quite big at 20mm which is why I needed to go back a 2nd time as the 1st it was the weekend and there were no consultants working, only they can do the biggest ones in case there is a problem 

[Strawberry]

Soaps are aimed at viewers, I haven't watched soaps for a long time. I rarely watch TV, when I do it's to watch something specific.

I am aware many men avoid seeking medical intervention, until whatever has become very difficult. I do know many men who have sought help when symptoms arose, received swift testing and diagnosis.

Women tend to be used to seeing their GP because our reproductive system with associated hormones tend to be complex, sometimes problematic. Treatment and bedside manner however has until recent times been lacking. Only started using plastic speculum in the last 8 years, and the awful metal stirrups have recently exited thank goodness. I received my first beeast screening invite last year within weeks of my 50th birthday.

I had heard all the scare stories, and can understand why some women don't or can't attend. Thankfully the radiographer was very patient, well trained. I can say being pinned by one of my rather small breasts clamped between two hard plates, is a unique experience. Absolutely no padding between that and my ribs. But I did it and will do so again.

[MLawro93]

Male victims of domestic and sexual abuse often face stigma, shame, and a lack of specialised services, with a 2022 report finding that 82% of men found it difficult to access support.
The Men & Boys Coalition highlights structural challenges for men as parents, particularly in family court systems where mothers are more likely to be awarded primary residence.
Boys have trailed girls in education for years, with issues in literacy and engagement starting early in schooling.
Society frequently assumes men are less capable of raising children, particularly after divorce.
Sexual assault and intimate partner violence against men is frequently ignored, downplayed, or met with mockery. There are fewer resources available for male victims.
Men are overrepresented in dangerous, high-risk, and fatal jobs. There is also societal pressure for men to be the sole "provider," leading to higher pressure in professional roles.
Men may face biases in child custody disputes, with stereotypes suggesting children are better off with mothers, and may face unfair burdens.
Ignoring Reproductive Rights: Critics argue that treating abortion strictly as a "woman's issue" allows men to be excluded, even when they desire to become fathers.

Interesting and important topic, but what is with all the colours? Maybe its me, but I keep having to highlight the pink font to make it readable. 

[puntingking]

Interesting and important topic, but what is with all the colours? Maybe its me, but I keep having to highlight the pink font to make it readable. 

I thought it would have made it clearer to read rather than doing the opposite 

some of the bits are in colour so they stick out to the reader.

[daviemac]

I've had nothing and that's despite having bowel polyps removed 3 years ago as I was shitting blood

Ask your doctor mate, he'll organise getting a test kit sent out, you should have had one automatically if you're over 50.

[MLawro93]

Ask your doctor mate, he'll organise getting a test kit sent out, you should have had one automatically if you're over 50.

Yeah, always good practice to prompt the GP as they don't do anything automatically unless you are within the target group for a specific screening programme.

[daviemac]

Yeah, always good practice to prompt the GP as they don't do anything automatically unless you are within the target group for a specific screening programme.

If it does come back positive you're put into the 2WW combined pathway system and get seen within 2 weeks or so. All very quick and efficient, though the colonoscopy isn't the most pleasant of experiences. 

[Jonestown]

If it does come back positive you're put into the 2WW combined pathway system and get seen within 2 weeks or so. All very quick and efficient, though the colonoscopy isn't the most pleasant of experiences. 

Given a choice of the camera down the throat or up the jaxie, I’ll take the jaxie every time.

[daviemac]

Given a choice of the camera down the throat or up the jaxie, I’ll take the jaxie every time.

I've had them all mate, down the throat first then later up the urethra into the bladder and most recently up the jaxi, none are particularly pleasant but have to admit the colonoscopy was the easiest. It has put me off any thought of pegging though.   

[PilotMan]

I posted this about my Colonoscopy  on another thread a couple of months ago.

Polyps aren't usually anything to worry about, they're kind of like internal skin tags.

I've had IBS (IBD as they call it now) for 20+ years.

I've had a couple of colonoscopies, the worst thing is drinking whatever it is they make you drink a little while before you have the procedure. Best to get near a toilet, your sphincter will appreciate it.

When I had my first colonoscopy I had a local anaesthetic, and was able to watch the camera going through my bowels. If you have any jewellery you'll need to remove it so that you don't get an electric shock, because they remove polyps by using a small electric charge.

The doctor performing the colonoscopy had a really thick Indian accent.

I thought he said he'd found something 1 metre long, he was actually saying that he'd found something "at" 1 metre. That's how far the camera can go inside you 

The other funny thing he told me. He said that when I go to the recovery suite, to expect "a lot of vind". "But don't worry, it's not your vind, it's my vind, I put it there" 

In the recovery suite I was in large ward with a few other people, but we all had curtains around our beds. I let out a rip of a fart, then the person next to me did the same, then someone else. All you could hear was farting and chuckling 

[daviemac]

I posted this about my Colonoscopy  on another thread a couple of months ago.

I have to agree about the stuff you have to drink, it's bloody awful. The instructions say to drink it over a period of 1 to 2 hours, they don't need to tell you that, it takes over an hour to get it down.   

[Blackpool Rock]

I have to agree about the stuff you have to drink, it's bloody awful. The instructions say to drink it over a period of 1 to 2 hours, they don't need to tell you that, it takes over an hour to get it down.   

Yeah 2 hours to drink 2 pints (1 Ltr) of the stuff was a struggle yet I can easily do 2 pints of beer in 40 minutes without even thinking about it, go figure 

[puntingking]

Nearly half of Gen Z men (45%) believe that ‘we have gone so far in promoting women’s equality that we are discriminating against men’ and 44% think women’s equal rights have gone far enough.

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[Blackpool Rock]

Nearly half of Gen Z men (45%) believe that ‘we have gone so far in promoting women’s equality that we are discriminating against men’ and 44% think women’s equal rights have gone far enough.

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Ultimately I think the situation we now have means that many simply give up and don't really bother putting in much effort to succeed and climb to the top, I mean why put yourself out if someone who perhaps isn't as good still get the promotion for fear that they will complain if they don't get it.

[Kingfisher69]

I've had a couple of colonoscopies, the worst thing is drinking whatever it is they make you drink a little while before you have the procedure. Best to get near a toilet, your sphincter will appreciate it.

I have to agree about the stuff you have to drink, it's bloody awful. The instructions say to drink it over a period of 1 to 2 hours, they don't need to tell you that, it takes over an hour to get it down.   

I've had a camera down my throat and up the jaxi, neither was very nice. But the stuff you have to drink to clear you out is awful, and yes get within running distance of the bog. But worse by a long shot was the stuff they gave me to drink before my haemorrhoidectomy (pile surgery). That stuff was like getting a jeyes fluid and pressure washer enema. Even the nurse who gave me the drink told me it's best to be sat on the bog while you drink it. I have never felt so emtpy in my life.

[Jonestown]

That stuff was like getting a jeyes fluid and pressure washer enema. Even the nurse who gave me the drink told me it's best to be sat on the bog while you drink it. I have never felt so emtpy in my life.

There are some days I wish such a product was available over the counter at Boots.

[scutty brown]

There are some days I wish such a product was available over the counter at Boots.

there is
if you want something to shift a blockage gently use "Laxido" - comes in packs of 20 sachets
use two sachets / day for 2-3 days and you'll have a controlable dump

if you want a more rapid clearout use Bisacodyl  (commonest brand is Dulcolax). Just one a day in the evening should have you jet propelled in the morning

[PilotMan]

There are some days I wish such a product was available over the counter at Boots.

Try a glycerine suppository, you can buy them at any pharmacy and online.

They take about 1 hour to work. You'll need to stay in and very close to a toilet. When it releases there is no stopping it, no matter how tight your sphincter is.

[Jonestown]

Thanks for the information fellas, I’ll look into your suggestions.

[Kingfisher69]

They take about 1 hour to work. You'll need to stay in and very close to a toilet. When it releases there is no stopping it, no matter how tight your sphincter is.

Thank you for that image PilotMan, though not the best thing to put in my head as I'm drinking a protein chocolate shake.

[PilotMan]

Thank you for that image PilotMan, though not the best thing to put in my head as I'm drinking a protein chocolate shake.

Same consistency, one goes in, the other comes out 

[Jonestown]

if you want a more rapid clearout use Bisacodyl  (commonest brand is Dulcolax). Just one a day in the evening should have you jet propelled in the morning

Well Scutty, you weren’t wrong there, that stuff could shift a fatberg in a sewer.

[Massagemanmr]

men are more likely to commit suicide

[puntingking]

men are more likely to commit suicide

Men account for 70% of all suicide deaths globally. 

[Blackpool Rock]

Men account for 70% of all suicide deaths globally. 

Yet you constantly hear about how much pressure women / girls are under with things like their appearance and trying to achieve unobtainable images in glossy magazines and the media in  general, go figure why men are more likely to top themselves 

Because they know deep down nobody really gives a toss about them 

[puntingking]

Yet you constantly hear about how much pressure women / girls are under with things like their appearance and trying to achieve unobtainable images in glossy magazines and the media in  general, go figure why men are more likely to top themselves 

Because they know deep down nobody really gives a toss about them 

 
Exactly this.


On further reading  -

Approximately 14 to 18 men die by suicide every day in the UK, with roughly 75% of all UK suicides being male. It is the leading cause of death for men under 50. Over 5,000 men die by suicide across the UK annually, which averages out to over one death every 90 minutes.

[Doc Holliday]

I am sure I have posted before about male suicides, but the headline statistic does not reflect the complex underlying picture.

In essence women have the edge slightly in suicidal thoughts and attempted suicides. They are also vastly more likely to self harm. However men are considerably more successful at carrying it through, mostly because they choose more lethal methods.

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[puntingking]

I am sure I have posted before about male suicides, but the headline statistic does not reflect the complex underlying picture.

In essence women have the edge slightly in suicidal thoughts and attempted suicides. They are also vastly more likely to self harm. However men are considerably more successful at carrying it through, mostly because they choose more lethal methods.

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But maybe the women who attempted suicides is more of a "cry for help" rather than actually want to succeed in their suicide. I mean if you really want to end your life, you would not make a mistake. Surely 

[RedKettle]

But maybe the women who attempted suicides is more of a "cry for help" rather than actually want to succeed in their suicide. I mean if you really want to end your life, you would not make a mistake. Surely 

That comment makes me too angry to write a proper response but you are so ignorant and lacking in real world experiences.

[puntingking]

That comment makes me too angry to write a proper response but you are so ignorant and lacking in real world experiences.

Did not mean to make you angry 

I know that I am not educated on this subject but I am just expressing my thoughts on it. 

[RedKettle]

Did not mean to make you angry 

I know that I am not educated on this subject but I am just expressing my thoughts on it. 

Spend some time with people that have attempted suicide before making such crass comments. Or become a Samaritan, that would be educational for you. It can be very traumatic but I found it rewarding to do, although I could not take it for long and had to give up for my own mental health.

[Strawberry]

Did not mean to make you angry 

I know that I am not educated on this subject but I am just expressing my thoughts on it. 

As Red Kettle says suicide is complex thoughts, actions, plans, sometimes spur of the moment, other times 'just' wanting relief.

Your thoughs sound very simplistic and whether intended or not do not seem to value individual human lives, I would recommend some education, reality is likely to surprise you.

[puntingking]

Spend some time with people that have attempted suicide before making such crass comments. Or become a Samaritan, that would be educational for you. It can be very traumatic but I found it rewarding to do, although I could not take it for long and had to give up for my own mental health.

As Red Kettle says suicide is complex thoughts, actions, plans, sometimes spur of the moment, other times 'just' wanting relief.

Your thoughs sound very simplistic and whether intended or not do not seem to value individual human lives, I would recommend some education, reality is likely to surprise you.

 

[Strawberry]

 

Given you started the thread, is there an Andy's Man Club near you - have you thought about becoming involved?

[puntingking]

Given you started the thread, is there an Andy's Man Club near you - have you thought about becoming involved?

Just looked and there is one around 4 miles away from me, so not far at all. 

It never crossed my mind about getting involved, I didn't know there was such a charity called "Andy's Man Club" till I just googled it just now to have alook. 

[Strawberry]

Just looked and there is one around 4 miles away from me, so not far at all. 

It never crossed my mind about getting involved, I didn't know there was such a charity called "Andy's Man Club" till I just googled it just now to have alook. 

AMC has grown rapidly over the last few years, reasonable amount of publicity. One problem is some men think they have to sort everything alone, some are VERY stubborn and put barriers up. This can kill be it health or mental health. Some SPs like myself also notice things in bookings, and may tell/advise the punter both what they see, as well as encourage taking appropriate action.

[Thephoenix]

AMC has grown rapidly over the last few years, reasonable amount of publicity. One problem is some men think they have to sort everything alone, some are VERY stubborn and put barriers up. This can kill be it health or mental health. Some SPs like myself also notice things in bookings, and may tell/advise the punter both what they see, as well as encourage taking appropriate action.

Some of you ladies should be nominated for The New Year's Honours List. 

[PilotMan]

AMC has grown rapidly over the last few years, reasonable amount of publicity. One problem is some men think they have to sort everything alone, some are VERY stubborn and put barriers up. This can kill be it health or mental health. Some SPs like myself also notice things in bookings, and may tell/advise the punter both what they see, as well as encourage taking appropriate action.

What a great idea and cause.

I particularly liked the screens for Heras fencing, considering how many suicides there are in construction, it has the highest rate across all industries. I'm going to put some up.

I'm in the middle of a big construction project and speak to my guys daily, I had no idea how high the suicide rates are in construction. I did notice that the site manager seemed occasionally moody. He's going to be away from home for three weeks on a job. I asked him just a few days ago how family life was and did he feel under pressure? He said his wife was very understanding and he just gets on with it.

The guy in charge of the groundwork told me how much he loved his work and how happy he is, I felt it was genuine. But he is a full time employee. Whereas most of the other guys are day workers. They just get paid their hourly rate and go from site to site. That has to be scary if you've a family to support.

It made me feel sad that anyone would take their own life. I do appreciate the pressures modern society has that can lead to this.

I have a different perspective now.

[puntingking]

AMC has grown rapidly over the last few years, reasonable amount of publicity. One problem is some men think they have to sort everything alone, some are VERY stubborn and put barriers up. This can kill be it health or mental health. Some SPs like myself also notice things in bookings, and may tell/advise the punter both what they see, as well as encourage taking appropriate action.

 

[puntingking]

AMC has grown rapidly over the last few years, reasonable amount of publicity.

Something to think about and be aware of. There seems to be a lot of good people doing great work like this. 

[puntingking]

How comes this not more talked about? - External Link/Members Only

There would be a public outcry if the white man in this case was a black man, white female or any other race or religion.

A few case studies to prove my point -


sarah everard -  who was raped and murdered by a serving police officer sparked outrage, condemnation, govenment involvment and mass scale protests and vigils up and down the country.

George Flyod - A non British man died in the USA from police brutality. He was a black man. This sparked football matches, politicians and others taking the knee for the BLM movement.

Stephen Port - The man who raped men and murdered them around the Barking area. All the victims were gay White men. No public outrage at the time. In fact most of the country could not name the serial killer name or remember this happening in the first place.


But a White man it does seems that anything unlawful or down right wrong and/or unfair can happen towards white men in Britain post 2010.

Your thoughts?


This story have not even grabbed the front pages of the newspapers today. 

[Colston36]

Apparently it’s now fashionable among the younger generations to include their mental health diagnoses on their CVs.

How the fact that you're loopy will help you get a job escapes me.

[Jonestown]

How the fact that you're loopy will help you get a job escapes me.

It’s all about teams, building them and knowing your place in them, every team needs a loose slate.

[RedKettle]

How comes this not more talked about? - External Link/Members Only

There would be a public outcry if the white man in this case was a black man, white female or any other race or religion.

A few case studies to prove my point -


sarah everard -  who was raped and murdered by a serving police officer sparked outrage, condemnation, govenment involvment and mass scale protests and vigils up and down the country.

George Flyod - A non British man died in the USA from police brutality. He was a black man. This sparked football matches, politicians and others taking the knee for the BLM movement.

Stephen Port - The man who raped men and murdered them around the Barking area. All the victims were gay White men. No public outrage at the time. In fact most of the country could not name the serial killer name or remember this happening in the first place.


But a White man it does seems that anything unlawful or down right wrong and/or unfair can happen towards white men in Britain post 2010.

Your thoughts?


This story have not even grabbed the front pages of the newspapers today. 

It has been a main story on BBC and ITV TV for days.

The police made a terrible mistake, which was corrected after 3 minutes. They accept it was a mistake and there is an investigation and they apologised straight away. Their mistake did not affect the tragedy.

It was awful but not anything like the cases you listed.

[Doc Holliday]

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There would be a public outcry if the white man in this case was a black man, white female or any other race or religion.

You need to be careful of the rules here. This thread is about problems men face but you are introducing race or religion 

[Colston36]

I had a problem for years that nobody understood, let alone knew how to treat. One of the proposed solutions was crazy. And the problem was caused by me.

I was trying to get a job in London Because I had heard you got paid a hell of a lot more than in Manchester where I was living and working. I came down and was offered jobs for more than I was getting. but turned them down, thinking I could do even better.

At one point, for no obvious reason I had something approaching a nervous breakdown, convinced I was going to die. And although I did get the kind of job I wanted, with a salary two and half what I was paid in the north I suffered for about seven years from a syndrome whereby every night I was convinced I was going to die in my sleep.

My doctor had no idea what the solution was. At one point he prescribed purple heart pills, which were catastrophic. I remember going into a meeting with an important client and making advances to his wife. Memory draws a merciful veil about exactly what happened next. I recall it affected my sex life, though.

I remember a scene when a friend's girlfriend was standing over me and him and playing with our cocks with her feet - I know I didn't get the best out of that. I also recall going away for a weekend with her and being utterly unable to perform.
 
In the end after at least 10 years I was in such a state one night that a woman I was with called an ambulance. The medics simply said there was nothing wrong with me. And I never had another problem after that.

i apologise, fellow members for this boring reminiscence - which has popped out as I approach my 90th birthday. To  make up for it I shall shortly report on my meetings with a Nigerian woman last week which were a first for me. Please be patient.