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Very switched on lady, well worth a watch.

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Agree, a very interesting article, and she definitely knew what she was getting into, done the home work and research
Take my hat off to her for going public like this. Respect

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From myself as an SP viewpoint this interview says much of what I would say, it's excellent, accurate, well structured.

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I liked the point she made about paying tax, but banks not letting her get a bank account due to laundering regulations, the fact that HMRC wants the revenue they should do something about it to make sure that the industry is treated with the respect it deserves as do the women.

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What an absolutely excellent interview

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Very eloquent lady, also very informative about the sex industry and how its viewed

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Gallery pictures do look like her.

Yeah it’s her. There’s a comment by the interviewer calling her Anne Marie.

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i have wondered what would happen if sex work became legal in the way she describes. currently 'legit' businesses are not allowed to discriminate on protected characteristics such as disability, age, race, religion, etc. i can't see a special exemption being made for sex work, as it would open the floodgates for other businesses to do the same, and make no mistake, many of them would take this up with glee.

There are many SPs who currently discriminate on these factors (for whatever their reasons are), but presumably they would no longer be able to do this. If it said on their AW ad that they will not see X they would open themselves up to legal action even assuming AW would even permit them to have such a restriction displayed, which they probably would not. If they did not display it on a profile, but sent it in a text or refused services on-site, this would lead to the same result. whether it applies to a specific punter or not, anyone could report them (to newly created department of Sexual Standards? Short form - DoSS). Sites with weaker requirements like Kommons or VS would most likely need to conform to this and any bigger sites would have no chance, including agencies.

So what would these SPs do? Start seeing the punters they previously refused? Quit? Or just hope that they could get away with it under the radar? Or would they switch to lesser known sites that are less stringent (similar to the porn sites that do not apply the OSA), in the hope to get away wth it? Even if they stuck to regs, seems like they would have a lot to lose.

Should they be careful what they wish for? :unknown:

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"For every genuine client that come alone there are probably nine people contacting you at least who are not genuine and don’t ever intend to make a booking."

I am bit surprised by this ratio.

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i have wondered what would happen if sex work became legal in the way she describes. currently 'legit' businesses are not allowed to discriminate on protected characteristics such as disability, age, race, religion, etc. i can't see a special exemption being made for sex work, as it would open the floodgates for other businesses to do the same, and make no mistake, many of them would take this up with glee.

There are many SPs who currently discriminate on these factors (for whatever their reasons are), but presumably they would no longer be able to do this. If it said on their AW ad that they will not see X they would open themselves up to legal action even assuming AW would even permit them to have such a restriction displayed, which they probably would not. If they did not display it on a profile, but sent it in a text or refused services on-site, this would lead to the same result. whether it applies to a specific punter or not, anyone could report them (to newly created department of Sexual Standards? Short form - DoSS). Sites with weaker requirements like Kommons or VS would most likely need to conform to this and any bigger sites would have no chance, including agencies.

So what would these SPs do? Start seeing the punters they previously refused? Quit? Or just hope that they could get away with it under the radar? Or would they switch to lesser known sites that are less stringent (similar to the porn sites that do not apply the OSA), in the hope to get away wth it? Even if they stuck to regs, seems like they would have a lot to lose.

Should they be careful what they wish for? :unknown:

I would imagine they would do it under the radar.  Any business can refuse to serve or supply any customer, as long as its not blatantly breaking protected characteristic laws, however many do refuse due to not liking the look of someone (be it age, race, sex etc etc).  I've been on the receiving end myself, was in Schuh wanting to buy my niece some trainers she wanted for xmas, not a single member of sales staff came near me - I was visibly the oldest person in the shop.

Didn't complain, wouldn't want to draw attention to myself, so just went somewhere else.

Would someone who tried to book an SP in a fully legal world go complaining if they were turned down?  Outing themselves as a punter in the process?  I know I wouldn't.

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"For every genuine client that come alone there are probably nine people contacting you at least who are not genuine and don’t ever intend to make a booking."

I am bit surprised by this ratio.
This depends on your screening.
I put an ad on viva street originally for a month where you have to display your number. Took it down after a week because the ratio was higher than that. I expect it would have settled down after a bit but i dont have any tolerance or inclination to deal with that nonsense.

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So what would these SPs do? Start seeing the punters they previously refused? Quit? Or just hope that they could get away with it under the radar? Or would they switch to lesser known sites that are less stringent (similar to the porn sites that do not apply the OSA), in the hope to get away wth it? Even if they stuck to regs, seems like they would have a lot to lose.

Should they be careful what they wish for? :unknown:

neither the Legalisation model (like Germany) nor full decriminalisation  (New Zealand) would mean we’d have to book customers we don’t want to . Sexual services are always exempt from these laws anyways

The current industry we have is already legal and above board apart from pimping

I don’t see how we should be careful what we wish for ???
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neither the Legalisation model (like Germany) nor full decriminalisation  (New Zealand) would mean we’d have to book customers we don’t want to . Sexual services are always exempt from these laws anyways

The current industry we have is already legal and above board apart from pimping

I don’t see how we should be careful what we wish for ???

i will defer to your superior knowledge here on this emboldened point. i was just wondering, i have not done any specific research on this. however, based on the complete arse they make of laws in this country, i somehow doubt that should legalisation take place, it would be a given that sexual services would be exempt from these laws in the UK. laws in this country are made by people who do not understand what they are making laws for and without listening to the groups that will be most affected by them. politicians have shown that time and again under the misguided arrogance of them knowing what is best.

it would not surprise me at all should this come to pass and SPs indeed have to provide a legally acceptable reason on why they have refused to see a specified punter, which would be tested in court. 'i don't want to' may be difficult to win a case on. Unless of course, things are done in the correct way, then sexual services would be exempt, as you say, leaving no case to answer.
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i will defer to your superior knowledge here on this emboldened point. i was just wondering, i have not done any specific research on this. however, based on the complete arse they make of laws in this country, i somehow doubt that should legalisation take place, it would be a given that sexual services would be exempt from these laws in the UK. laws in this country are made by people who do not understand what they are making laws for and without listening to the groups that will be most affected by them. politicians have shown that time and again under the misguided arrogance of them knowing what is best.

it would not surprise me at all should this come to pass and SPs indeed have to provide a legally acceptable reason on why they have refused to see a specified punter, which would be tested in court. 'i don't want to' may be difficult to win a case on. Unless of course, things are done in the correct way, then sexual services would be exempt, as you say, leaving no case to answer.

I think the part you are confusing is what (most) of us escorts are actually asking for.
Many of us are campaigning for full decriminalisation not legalisation and they’re not the same thing at all

It is indeed already legal here yes. but countries with a “legalisation” model in place usually mean that you are allowed only if certain rules are followed (such as in legal brothels that government knows about, taxed around 40%). I don’t see many, if any, other sex workers asking for this...

However even in these state sanctioned brothels you can refuse a customer based on not liking the way you look, race or any other reason. Discrimination laws are irrelevant

So I don’t think be careful what you wish for makes any sense here. But no harm done  :hi:
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Well worth watching. A very honest account of the ups and downs of sex work

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Well worth watching. A very honest account of the ups and downs of sex work

What about the ins and outs?

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i will defer to your superior knowledge here on this emboldened point. i was just wondering, i have not done any specific research on this. however, based on the complete arse they make of laws in this country, i somehow doubt that should legalisation take place, it would be a given that sexual services would be exempt from these laws in the UK. laws in this country are made by people who do not understand what they are making laws for and without listening to the groups that will be most affected by them. politicians have shown that time and again under the misguided arrogance of them knowing what is best.

it would not surprise me at all should this come to pass and SPs indeed have to provide a legally acceptable reason on why they have refused to see a specified punter, which would be tested in court. 'i don't want to' may be difficult to win a case on. Unless of course, things are done in the correct way, then sexual services would be exempt, as you say, leaving no case to answer.

What has happened are cases such as this in which a punter has been convicted of rape after pretending to send payment;

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Generally decriminalisation is thought to be most favourable rather than legalisation which could bring restrictive rules eg where an SP can work, services offered, resgistration (many SPS will not want to be on an official register).

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Good interview! To flip the coin and see the other end of the industry, watch this Asian ‘rapper’ in London who apparently has girls working for him on Adultwork and also an online agency

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One thing from this great article, with banks making it harder to accept large or frequent cash deposits, why aren't more SPs accepting bank transfer more often, I know a few who do, and personally I find it so much easier than having to find a cash machine. Also for the SP with this being sent directly to their account, no issues with the money laundering side of things.

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Thanks for your considered responses, Strawberry and Katie

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Very eloquent lady, also very informative about the sex industry and how its viewed

Very smart lady well worth watching , wish our politicians were as intellegent as her  :hi:

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So who’s going to book and fuck her up the arse ?

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She is in Sheffield now. If near me, I might see her.

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i will defer to your superior knowledge here on this emboldened point. i was just wondering, i have not done any specific research on this. however, based on the complete arse they make of laws in this country, i somehow doubt that should legalisation take place, it would be a given that sexual services would be exempt from these laws in the UK. laws in this country are made by people who do not understand what they are making laws for and without listening to the groups that will be most affected by them. politicians have shown that time and again under the misguided arrogance of them knowing what is best.

it would not surprise me at all should this come to pass and SPs indeed have to provide a legally acceptable reason on why they have refused to see a specified punter, which would be tested in court. 'i don't want to' may be difficult to win a case on. Unless of course, things are done in the correct way, then sexual services would be exempt, as you say, leaving no case to answer.

Whatever the future legal situation with prostitution, the sex worker is protected by the Sexual Offences Act 2003. For any sexual activity of any kind to take place there has to be consent across all parties. Anyone can refuse to give that consent. It does not require a reason to be given. If no consent then it is illegal and potentially a criminal offence. That right of sexual consent would never be overridden and is not dependent on any financial status of the sexual activity. No means No.

During Covid I had far too much time on my hands (as did may of us) and I did research this in terms of the Equality Act 2010 and discrimination on the grounds of ethnicity etc. 

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=284083.msg2960961#msg2960961

You are correct that often situations are covered by more than one law and where this happens test cases are required to set a precedent. In this case the Sexual Offences Act 2003 would always 'trump' any employment or discrimination law and so will never be tested.

As you will see from my post, the EHRC were in some confusion about the employment status of prostitutes and whether the current Equality Act applies to them? Even if that status were to change in the future they will always be able to refuse to give consent to sexual activity without giving any reason :hi:

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One thing from this great article, with banks making it harder to accept large or frequent cash deposits, why aren't more SPs accepting bank transfer more often, I know a few who do, and personally I find it so much easier than having to find a cash machine. Also for the SP with this being sent directly to their account, no issues with the money laundering side of things.

And what if she does get involved with or associated to an investigation? Your account and identity become part of that.

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Whatever the future legal situation with prostitution, the sex worker is protected by the Sexual Offences Act 2003. For any sexual activity of any kind to take place there has to be consent across all parties. Anyone can refuse to give that consent. It does not require a reason to be given. If no consent then it is illegal and potentially a criminal offence. That right of sexual consent would never be overridden and is not dependent on any financial status of the sexual activity. No means No.

During Covid I had far too much time on my hands (as did may of us) and I did research this in terms of the Equality Act 2010 and discrimination on the grounds of ethnicity etc. 

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=284083.msg2960961#msg2960961

You are correct that often situations are covered by more than one law and where this happens test cases are required to set a precedent. In this case the Sexual Offences Act 2003 would always 'trump' any employment or discrimination law and so will never be tested.

As you will see from my post, the EHRC were in some confusion about the employment status of prostitutes and whether the current Equality Act applies to them? Even if that status were to change in the future they will always be able to refuse to give consent to sexual activity without giving any reason :hi:

Thanks Doc for establishing what should have been obvious from the start  :drinks:
Sex work (in person or online, full service or anything less) is not the same as serving up fries or allowing someone in to browse a car showroom.  The sociopathic sense of entitlement of some men  :dash:

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One thing from this great article, with banks making it harder to accept large or frequent cash deposits, why aren't more SPs accepting bank transfer more often, I know a few who do, and personally I find it so much easier than having to find a cash machine. Also for the SP with this being sent directly to their account, no issues with the money laundering side of things.

There are other issues to consider though from our side.

Chargebacks happen more often than they should, a client who has had an ok time but not a great time or punters remorse and they will try and do a chargeback through the bank, quite a few have been advised on reviews here to do this.

We already struggle to get a bank account for work purposes, things like chargebacks and malicious communications with your bank letting them know you are a sex worker can get accounts frozen, assets frozen and accounts closed.

There are also the fake banking apps to consider, where it shows as leaving the clients "account" but never arrives in ours.

You may not have anything to loose but many SPs do.
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it would not surprise me at all should this come to pass and SPs indeed have to provide a legally acceptable reason on why they have refused to see a specified punter, which would be tested in court. 'i don't want to' may be difficult to win a case on. Unless of course, things are done in the correct way, then sexual services would be exempt, as you say, leaving no case to answer.
I don't understand why you would think an escort could be forced to provide a sexual service to someone she didn't want to? when every other type of service provider in the UK can refuse to provide their service provided it is within discrimination laws.

A pub landlord can refuse to serve me, electricians, plumbers, builders and garages etc can all refuse to provide their services.

The bottom line is nobody can be forced into a sexual act.


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I don't understand why you would think an escort could be forced to provide a sexual service to someone she didn't want to? when every other type of service provider in the UK can refuse to provide their service provided it is within discrimination laws.

A pub landlord can refuse to serve me, electricians, plumbers, builders and garages etc can all refuse to provide their services.

The bottom line is nobody can be forced into a sexual act.

My thoughts were around the discrimination law area. As you said, you can be refused service provided it is within discrimination law. I would think that a landlord, electrician, plumber, builder or garage who refused to provide their services and specifically told you it was because of your age/religion/disability/gender/race is by definition breaking those laws.

The SPs who kindly responded above pointed out that sexual services are/should be exempt from discrimination law, which makes it different from all of those other cases mentioned. I have little faith that UK lawmakers would apply this exemption correctly, at least not initially with legalisation, but it is full decriminalisation that is wanted, not legalisation.

Reading this back, I should clarify that I do not think SPs should be forced to see punters they do not want to. After reading the whole discussion posted by Doc (thanks for that), when it comes to sex work it seems that the prevailing view is either 'it is NOT ageist/ableist/racist etc.', or 'it IS ageist/ableist/racist etc. but is acceptable only for sex work.'

Whichever side you fall under, it's unlikely that you can change the others' mind, and I do not think that it is as simple as saying one view is right and the other is wrong, so I now consider myself a little more educated on this topic than I was before.

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My thoughts were around the discrimination law area. As you said, you can be refused service provided it is within discrimination law. I would think that a landlord, electrician, plumber, builder or garage who refused to provide their services and specifically told you it was because of your age/religion/disability/gender/race is by definition breaking those laws.

The SPs who kindly responded above pointed out that sexual services are/should be exempt from discrimination law, which makes it different from all of those other cases mentioned. I have little faith that UK lawmakers would apply this exemption correctly, at least not initially with legalisation, but it is full decriminalisation that is wanted, not legalisation.

Reading this back, I should clarify that I do not think SPs should be forced to see punters they do not want to. After reading the whole discussion posted by Doc (thanks for that), when it comes to sex work it seems that the prevailing view is either 'it is NOT ageist/ableist/racist etc.', or 'it IS ageist/ableist/racist etc. but is acceptable only for sex work.'

Whichever side you fall under, it's unlikely that you can change the others' mind, and I do not think that it is as simple as saying one view is right and the other is wrong, so I now consider myself a little more educated on this topic than I was before.
You seem to forget having sex without consent is rape and no woman can be compelled to be raped just as they cannot make rape legal by telling punters a prostitute has to provide a service.

One of the few thing in the sex industry that is illegal is coercion and forcing a prostitute to have sex with someone she doesn't want to have sex with is at the very least coercion and there are laws against that already.

To be honest I'm astounded that there are people who think a woman should not be able to choose who's cock she sucks.


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You seem to forget having sex without consent is rape and no woman can be compelled to be raped just as they cannot make rape legal by telling punters a prostitute has to provide a service.

One of the few thing in the sex industry that is illegal is coercion and forcing a prostitute to have sex with someone she doesn't want to have sex with is at the very least coercion and there are laws against that already.

To be honest I'm astounded that there are people who think a woman should not be able to choose who's cock she sucks.

I have not forgotten that. I totally agree that an SP's right to consent trumps a punter's right to service. A woman should always be able to choose the cock she sucks. But I do not agree that makes it non-discriminatory.

In your vein, I am similarly astounded that there are people who think an SP who states "I am not going to suck your cock because it is white" is not discrimination. This is not the same as saying she should be forced to do it.

 

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Good interview! To flip the coin and see the other end of the industry, watch this Asian ‘rapper’ in London who apparently has girls working for him on Adultwork and also an online agency

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  :lol: He is sniffing too much

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Good interview! To flip the coin and see the other end of the industry, watch this Asian ‘rapper’ in London who apparently has girls working for him on Adultwork and also an online agency

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Seems like he’s been smoking crack


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Thanks IK! A very interesting watch that mirrors my personal experience of chatting with SPs over the years about the industry.  :thumbsup:

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In your vein, I am similarly astounded that there are people who think an SP who states "I am not going to suck your cock because it is white" is not discrimination. This is not the same as saying she should be forced to do it.
Discrimination is something bandied about all too often, having a personal sexual preference is not discrimination.

Your analogy would only become discrimination if accompanied by some other situation not involving sex.

Discrimination based on sex, age, religion, nationality or whatever else is illegal so what you are saying sex workers who say "no blacks" or "no whites" "No overweight" or "no whatever else" are breaking the law and can therefore be prosecuted? Good luck with getting the CPS to sanction a prosecution.

I have searched the internet and various CPS publication yet can't find any reference to it being illegal for a prostitute to refuse service based on something that would under any other circumstances be illegal.

I would be grateful if you could link to the legislation you have used that shows escorts choosing who to see is discrimination.


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Discrimination is something bandied about all too often, having a personal sexual preference is not discrimination.

Your analogy would only become discrimination if accompanied by some other situation not involving sex.

I do not agree with these statements. Whether or not something is permissible does not change what it is. I am on the opposite side to you and think that various isms and discriminations are lazily dressed up as 'preference' because people do not want to be considered prejudiced. Saying I prefer to date blondes does not mean that I will not date non-blondes and therefore I do not consider that discriminatory. Saying I will not date Asian women (for whatever reason), on the other hand is clearly excluding an entire race of people, and I would consider that discrimination. But discrimination in the sexual realm is permissible. I accept that. I do not think anyone should have to date any race they do not want to, either.

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Discrimination based on sex, age, religion, nationality or whatever else is illegal so what you are saying sex workers who say "no blacks" or "no whites" "No overweight" or "no whatever else" are breaking the law and can therefore be prosecuted? Good luck with getting the CPS to sanction a prosecution.

I have searched the internet and various CPS publication yet can't find any reference to it being illegal for a prostitute to refuse service based on something that would under any other circumstances be illegal.

I would be grateful if you could link to the legislation you have used that shows escorts choosing who to see is discrimination.

I was wondering if full legalisation of sex work would mean that those laws would apply in the same way it does to other services. As mentioned already I have since been informed that it would not. But again, it is still discrimination, in my view.

If a brothel existed and had a sign on the doors that stated "No blacks and no Irish" I would consider that discriminatory. If one of those groups took the brothel to court, I would expect the judgement to be something similar to "Is this brothel discriminating against blacks and Irish? Yes, they are. However, the right of a woman to consent to who she will and not see supercedes this fact as sex without consent is rape, and a woman cannot be forced to have sex against her will, therefore the brothel is entitled to continue doing so. The fact that this constitutes discrimination is immaterial". I would not expect the judgement to be "This sign is not discriminatory because it involves sex work."

On the legality points, hopefully I have adequately explained what my earlier thoughts on legality were (which were wrong), and how I have no issue on being corrected on them by previous posters. We both seem to agree that an SP should always be able to choose who she will and won't see. We do not agree on whether this is discriminatory, and I suspect we never shall. Can we leave things there?

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If a brothel existed and had a sign on the doors that stated "No blacks and no Irish" I would consider that discriminatory.
As you don't understand the difference between individual choice and discrimination this is my last word on this.

A company or establishment stating "no anything" is illegal and they could be prosecuted under the discrimination act, an escort making a personal choice about who to have sex with is not illegal so not discrimination. They would not be allowed to openly advertise no blacks, no whites, nobody over 60, nobody under 25, nobody overweight or nobody anything else if it were.

The rights of an individual and the rights of companies or establishments are two very different things.

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As you don't understand the difference between individual choice and discrimination this is my last word on this.

A company or establishment stating "no anything" is illegal and they could be prosecuted under the discrimination act, an escort making a personal choice about who to have sex with is not illegal so not discrimination. They would not be allowed to openly advertise no blacks, no whites, nobody over 60, nobody under 25, nobody overweight or nobody anything else if it were.

The rights of an individual and the rights of companies or establishments are two very different things.

Absolutely true. I prefer coffee to tea, so I discriminate against tea. I do not believe I'm breaking the law. Personal choice.

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Absolutely true. I prefer coffee to tea, so I discriminate against tea. I do not believe I'm breaking the law. Personal choice.

Not the same. Your choice of beverage is not one of the nine protected characteristics in the 2010 Equality Act.  External Link/Members Only  :hi:


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If a brothel existed and had a sign on the doors that stated "No blacks and no Irish" I would consider that discriminatory. If one of those groups took the brothel to court, I would expect the judgement to be something similar to "Is this brothel discriminating against blacks and Irish? Yes, they are. However, the right of a woman to consent to who she will and not see supercedes this fact as sex without consent is rape, and a woman cannot be forced to have sex against her will, therefore the brothel is entitled to continue doing so. The fact that this constitutes discrimination is immaterial". I would not expect the judgement to be "This sign is not discriminatory because it involves sex work."


No the brothel or agency could be prosecuted under the Equality Act as per my discussion with EHRC. They are not the person giving consent to the sex. It is just the individual sex worker that is 'protected'.

I pursued this five years ago to try and put a stop to this contentious topic which was causing much confrontation.

The reality is that some SP's when they discriminate are doing so for racist reasons (though some have other reasons) but as discussed are highly unlikely to be legally challenged.





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No the brothel or agency could be prosecuted under the Equality Act

Considering brothels in this country already are breaking the law, that really would be the least of their worries no?
Why are we assuming agencies care about laws when in reality they can be prosecuted at any time already, if a crackdown occurs, just in some areas police have higher tolerance for improved safety

And if they are taken down it’ll be for controlling prostitution for gain of course before any hypothetical discrimination reasons lol


The reality is that some SP's when they discriminate are doing so for racist reasons (though some have other reasons) but as discussed are highly unlikely to be legally challenged.

Highly unlikely i would say close to impossible

In the current political climate the “prostituted woman” is always seen as the victim and all punters as nasty sex offenders and rapists……laughable if you think it might ever have a real case here.
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There are other issues to consider though from our side.

Chargebacks happen more often than they should, a client who has had an ok time but not a great time or punters remorse and they will try and do a chargeback through the bank, quite a few have been advised on reviews here to do this.

We already struggle to get a bank account for work purposes, things like chargebacks and malicious communications with your bank letting them know you are a sex worker can get accounts frozen, assets frozen and accounts closed.

There are also the fake banking apps to consider, where it shows as leaving the clients "account" but never arrives in ours.

You may not have anything to loose but many SPs do.


The points you make are very valid.

But I'm certain this will become a bigger and bigger issue as time goes on.

I think SPs will be confronted with a new reality. Like it or loathe it, for better or worse, we are moving to an almost cashless society. Bank branch closures are the start. Already ATM numbers are being reduced. While at the same time SPs fees are increasing, and punters will increasingly  now need sums of cash running into hundreds of pounds.

I've seen the subject talked about on SAAFE and the ATM issue is often just dismissed with the view that there are plenty of ATMs around and punters will just have to walk/drive a bit further. But I think this is complacent view.

I was self-employed for 35 years, and paying in cash was a daily chore, but could often be left to someone else to do. But I'm now hearing stories where an employee is going into a high street bank with a filled in paying in slip and being questioned as to why they are paying into an account that is not their own!  The feeling is that this is just the start and the banks are going to make it more and more awkward for people to pay in cash accross the board. Where will this leave SPs?





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... laughable if you think it might ever have a real case here.

My position has always been there will be never be a case. You clearly haven't read or understood my posts?  :hi:

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sorry I only read the part where you said they COULD be prosecuted under the equality act.

Yeah I agree there could never be a legal case to be had. here in UK anyway no chance

No the brothel or agency could be prosecuted under the Equality Act as per my discussion with EHRC. They are not the person giving consent to the sex. It is just the individual sex worker that is 'protected'