Do oldies get offered less

[Cliveyboy]

I have absolutely no chance of getting anything at home (given up on that now) I have decided I'm going to have to take things into my own hands. Having never punted before, I've decided to take the plunge. I've read the wiki and looked at quite a lot of reviews (I think I might have actually over researched) and decided I'm going to give it a go.

I have a couple of questions though and wondered if there are any others who can help me answer them

My first question is: I'm in my 60s has anyone of a similar advanced age noticed whether they get offered less services than maybe a younger person. For example, is a SP less likely to want an older person licking their bits. I mean the thought of it may put them off so are they more likely to refuse RO.

My second question is: I have ADHD which makes me very awkward. The art of chatting is a secret art to me. I'm worried SPs will find me creepy. The ADHD also makes me very shy and I have problems asking for what I want so I'm convinced SPs will just offer me the minimum they can get away with.

[daviemac]

Welcome to the site mate, can't help with your second question but as far as the first one goes it's impossible to answer, escorts are all different they offer different service, some are happy with older blokes and offer a fantastic service others not so much.

Mention in comms that you are an older gent and gauge the reaction, though make sure they haven't got an are restriction on their profile.

I should add, one of the best punts I've ever had was with an escort 45 years my junior.

[Kathmandu1234]

The advise above by Davie is sound, I’m in my late seventies and never have any problems. I tell them my age when I first contact them ( minus several years as the ladies do! ) and get them to confirm that they are happy to see me. I also ask if there happy with kissing, oral both ways and that I want sex with a condom and again I ask for confirmation of this. Some never reply so I assume they are not happy with older men so I bin them. Forget them and move on.

[Adoniron]

I'm in my early 60s too but have been punting for over 20 years (although not so much nowadays). Many escorts welcome older men and will say so on their profiles. A few will have an upper age limit so read profiles carefully. Those in their late 30s and 40s will be well used to having sex with men in their 60s. Some of the younger British girls may not be so keen but Thais and other orientals won't care about your age. All most escorts want is punters to be clean, wearing clean clothes, well groomed and polite.

[lewisjones23]

Turn up on time, clean and with the right money and you'll get a good service off any decent WG

Do your research on reviews on here, pretty much ignore AW feedback.

Don't worry about saying what you want, you're paying them to go along with it, as long as its on their likes list, they should be willing to deliver.

[Kool Keef]

Most important things I would say are things that have already been covered, pretty simple stuff really.

Do your research (which it sounds like you've been doing)
Mention anything you have any concerns about, like ADHD, in comms beforehand so you know where you stand ahead of booking.
Be clean, polite & respectful when you're there & you should be fine.
The old adage of treat people how you'd like to be treated yourself. 

[Josler]

70 years young myself, sadly punting a lot less now through age/health.
Good advice provided already.
Pick the escort carefully and check reviews, engage with them and explain your circumstances, if by text if speaking is a challenge.
Ultimately be clean, punctual, respectful, pay as you enter and everything should be fine

[mr.bluesky]

Your money is as good as anyone's that's all your average service provider will be concerned with. Like previous postings have said, turn up on time, be clean,  be polite and you can't go wrong.

[boardyhell]

my advice is have the right money ,be clean and polite
don't cross any boundaries and get to know the girls and you will be rewarded
girls respect this

[dub6747]

Just make sure your piles aren't protruding,  you tip generously if you like the look of the girl and flatter her. If you take ages to cum that can be a problem but if not go for it and enjoy yourself

[Jujy78]

I think it really depends on one SP to another. I'd say in most cases you got nothing to worry they're professionals and they see all sorts of men. As a starting point I'd say go for an SP with the most reviews and it's positive. Doesn't guarantee you'll have a good time but it increases your chances.

[RandomGuy99]

It's not really about being offered a service by an SP.  SPs tend to do a standard service and they're not mind readers, so if you would like a service that is on the SP's like list, then just ask them and they will probably say yes.

I suspect quite a few SSs are awkward around SPs and that is possibly while some of us see SPs because it's just easier than small talk and chatting someone up, so I wouldn't worry about seeming awkward. I think as long as you are respectful, polite and respect the SP's boundaries then you'll be fine.

Oh and be clean. Cleaniness is very important to SPs and if you take the time and trouble to turn up clean, tidy, cause no drama and enjoy yourself then SPs will appreciate that as I think every SP has had their fair share of "bad experiences".

[curvehunter]

SPs tend to do a standard service and they're not mind readers

No one is a mind reader, I get what you mean by that. But just a standard servive, a routine . . . I don't know about that. Ok to get the job done. I don't think many of us would keep up punting as a big part of our lives if it was all standard service. Maybe this advice is good for a newbie, just relax and she'll know what to do. That's fair and I'm no against it. But for me a big part of the thrill is being with a pro who can feel like she's reading my mind, who can show me something new (and is FAF  )

[RandomGuy99]

When I say standard service, I mean they do the standard positions like missionary, doggy and cowgirl as that's what most SSs ask for/want and not everyone wants to do RO, so they don't necessarily automatically offer it plus they probably get pretty bored over a day of SSs licking away at their bits trying to make them cum while the SP is lying there thinking about what they'll have for tea. It's the SP's job to make you cum and they really don't want to cum themselves, so don't attempt it.

[Thephoenix]

I don't think 60s is old in the punting world.
There are many members in their 70s and a few in their 80s.
It wouldn't surprise me If 60 is about average.

If you're nervous or shy, say so.
A good experienced SP will put you at ease.
Good luck!

[timsussex]

Anyone that thinks a 60 year old gets the same service as a fit 25 year old is deluded !

But what I expect (as a 70 year old) is a reasonable level of service - and frankly my expectations (and physical ability) are lower.

Of course all good SPs are good actresses making us believe that we are great in bed and that we are the centre of her world for 30 mins or until our £££s run out

[RandomGuy99]

Anyone that thinks a 60 year old gets the same service as a fit 25 year old is deluded !

But what I expect (as a 70 year old) is a reasonable level of service - and frankly my expectations (and physical ability) are lower.

Of course all good SPs are good actresses making us believe that we are great in bed and that we are the centre of her world for 30 mins or until our £££s run out

I think many SPs prefer older SSs as they are generally easier going and less demanding and more polite, produce less cum so easier to clean up after and don't want to cum 6 times in 30 minutes, so they also consume fewer condoms per booking. They're happy cumming once or twice not attempting an Olympic record that just leaves the SP sore for the rest of their working day.

[shylad57]

Dont worry about your difficulty chatting.
If you chose a thai lady, you may conduct the punt in virtually total silence if she only knows a few words of english. Fortunately there are hand symbols for most things that are universally understood 

To be fair, a few of my best punts have been conducted with very little small talk. Your there for the pussy when all said and done....

[Thehatedone]

I can't speak for what services each girl allows to what person everyone has their own preferences
If they openly advertise something its a safe bet that it will be available to most punters of all ages, sizes, nationalities
But what I can also say is
Some of the girls I've liked most have told me they actually prefer older men which depending on the woman she defines as either 40+ 50+ but mostly 60 and above
What they tend to dislike are the younger ‘fuckboy’ types
most of them value one thing above all else in this job: safety
And older men are generally seen as the safer bet
With adhd look for girls who sre open to see 'disabled clients' and have plenty of good reviews youll more likely to find someone who understands
Maybe a very small note you can pass them prior to your meeting to give them a sense of your needs a lady told me theres a client with some mental health issues who actually does just that
but generally you have to learn to be assertive maybe clearly define before a meeting things you want to do and try and stick to it
It takes spontaneity out of it but its better than fumbling around in the moment or leaving with regret.

[curvehunter]

When I say standard service, I mean they do the standard positions like missionary, doggy and cowgirl as that's what most SSs ask for/want

Ah got it yeh. always find that a bit weird in reviews ''number of positions'' you're allowed to do but must be my ignorance. I see what you meant by standard service now 

[curvehunter]

I can't

mate could you maybe stop being fucking insane?

[Thephoenix]

mate could you maybe stop being fucking insane?

What was insane about his post?

[RandomGuy99]

No one is a mind reader, I get what you mean by that. But just a standard servive, a routine . . . I don't know about that. Ok to get the job done. I don't think many of us would keep up punting as a big part of our lives if it was all standard service. Maybe this advice is good for a newbie, just relax and she'll know what to do. That's fair and I'm no against it. But for me a big part of the thrill is being with a pro who can feel like she's reading my mind, who can show me something new (and is FAF  )

It's about communication. If you show interest in something then the SP will likely respond positively. If you sit there and expect the SP to magically figure out that you like something then that's unlikely to happen. If you say things like "That's good" or "I like that" or "can we try position A?" or "can I lick pussy" then they'll say ok or no.  There will be a reason they say no like your cock size, or physical size or you may not be clean enough or your pubic hair needs a trim and they don't want a mouthful of hair or they are sore from the previous youngster banging the crap out of them for the last hour.  Respect them saying no and do something else.  When I first started seeing SPs I used to go with the flow and sometimes ended up cumming in the first 5 minutes as some SPs try to make that happen. It's your job to get your monies worth, so I learned to say "slow" or "let me eat you out" or "lets change position" and that let me last longer.

[RandomGuy99]

Ah got it yeh. always find that a bit weird in reviews ''number of positions'' you're allowed to do but must be my ignorance. I see what you meant by standard service now 

I don't take a copy of the Kamasutra with me on bookings and say can we do pages 11, 105 and 58?

I generally just do missionary as it's usually a good starter and lets the SP's vagina open up and adjust to the size of your cock plus you can kiss while you're doing it. After that it's usually doggy as it's visually good and cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. Sometimes you can do variants like standing doggy or prone bone, but that's about it for the positions I do and I get the feeling it's pretty standard. I dont know the names of others and would struggle to physically align my bits in others like spooning, so I don't do them because we spend our time trying to get into some unusual position that doesn't work for me instead of shagging and I'm really there for the shagging not aerobics. I stick with what I know and what SPs are happy to do and is easy for everyone to get into the right position physically for.

You also have to remember that SPs are always mindful of their physical and sexual safety so they will be uncomfortable/wary of getting into positions with a new SS where they think they might be unsafe physically or can't control things or where they think the risk of sexual pain or damage or condoms breaking is high, so they may say no to a position.

Don't go believing everything you read in reviews and comparing yours to theirs. We all like different things. We allhave different levels of experience and knowledge of positions. Just do what works for you and what you enjoy.

Sometimes you'll see an SP who might suggest something new like rimming or CIM and say "do you want to try it?". It's up to you to say yes or no. However, I find most SPs stick with the tried and tested "standard" positions of missionary, doggy, cowgirl and a few variants.  I've not had any suggest doing wheelbarrow and I don't take little wheels with me to bookings, so don't know how we'd do that without one. I don't really experiment with other positions and I think most SPs don't either.

[RandomGuy99]

Other services I've seen on an SP's likes list and asked if we can try are things like spanking on them - it did nothing for me or the SP so I don't do that, bondage - it takes a fair amount of time and even though I had my knot tieing badge from scouts it was hard work and did nothing for me, spanking on me - happened in a booking when one SP just did it and I found it a turn on as I was shagging them in missionary, rimming on them - just tried it after asking an SP and she was ok with it and then rimming on me - the SP was down there and asked if I wanted to try, prostate massage - the SP was down there and asked if I wanted to try it.

You'll open up and learn to politely ask for things as you get more comfortable in the situation with an SP.  I find the more experienced ones can be more fun.

[Colston36]

When I was young, my exasperated mother used to plead "If only you were charming".

When I was older I had a job where you had to be charming to succeed. And I certainly discovered that if you want to get what you want charm helps. Over the years since I started paying for my pleasures I've discovered that many punters are demanding and obnoxious to escorts.

I think the old saying, "Treat a lady like a whore and a whore like a lady" is quite a good guide - unless the escort is masochistic.

On the matter of whether oldies get offered less, maybe they do. Many escorts do no more than necessary to get the money. Many oldies are less demanding. When I was young and good looking. I used to get it free from whores. I lived with one for over two years. No chance now. Anyhow she was insanely jealous.

[WAY-WARD]

I think you've done well to discover UKP before your first punt. I certainly had my fair share of disappointments before I found out about it. When punting really was taking a punt....now even with someone new I go 90% sure it'll be OK. Sometimes you just don't click or you can even let yourself down with your own performance but I know I won't be scammed. I'm also happy to return to girls I like.

I imagine you have set up an Adultwork account....albeit with zero feedback. You've done your research so I'd send an AW message stating my age, 60, and what I want....a GFE with DFK, OWO, RO, go with the flow lovemaking. I won't mention ADHD but I would say it's your first time with someone other than your Mrs and you're shy at the best of times and will probably be nervous.

I too am a sexagenarian and my ideal woman is 26 but she can be anything up to 40 if she's in great shape. Better 40 and fit than 20 and fat.

With regards to the service I receive....I think I'm probably a better lover now than I was years ago. I'm more interested in who I'm with than my own pleasure. I think for most older married couples who do have sex it's mainly penetration. I for one am not interested in eating out a 60yo.
When I climax it can be an anticlimax as I know I wouldn't cum again so I prefer to keep on with the oral both ways and just about anything before starting to fuck. I believe that approach works for the girls too...at least for the one's who get turned on.
Hope that helps....Good Luck.

[WelshClipper]

I really wanted to add something on your question 2

I don’t have ADHD but because of some issues in my early life, I always found it excruciatingly painful to talk to ladies.
This didn’t change in punting but in general I find the SP is not over bothered about how much you talk.

What she is interested in is what you want to do. So my recommendation is just go in, explain you are shy, reel off the things you wanna try

Then go with the flow 

[alabama1]

Anyone that thinks a 60 year old gets the same service as a fit 25 year old is deluded !

But what I expect (as a 70 year old) is a reasonable level of service - and frankly my expectations (and physical ability) are lower.

Of course all good SPs are good actresses making us believe that we are great in bed and that we are the centre of her world for 30 mins or until our £££s run out

You get what's on the like list, young or old. Simple as that. It's a service not a date ! You are the deluded one !

[Ivor Hunch]

I'm in my early 60s too but have been punting for over 20 years (although not so much nowadays). Many escorts welcome older men and will say so on their profiles. A few will have an upper age limit so read profiles carefully. Those in their late 30s and 40s will be well used to having sex with men in their 60s. Some of the younger British girls may not be so keen but Thais and other orientals won't care about your age. All most escorts want is punters to be clean, wearing clean clothes, well groomed and polite.

ffs- you can't just make such sweeping generalisations based on race/ nationality.

[Ivor Hunch]

When I say standard service, I mean they do the standard positions like missionary, doggy and cowgirl as that's what most SSs ask for/want and not everyone wants to do RO, so they don't necessarily automatically offer it plus they probably get pretty bored over a day of SSs licking away at their bits trying to make them cum while the SP is lying there thinking about what they'll have for tea. It's the SP's job to make you cum and they really don't want to cum themselves, so don't attempt it.

maybe....   or maybe not.  Nobody doesn't want to have an orgasm.

[Ivor Hunch]

seriously though-  it's all about communication.   in advance, and when you meet.  you can get a feel for how a meeting might go in the pre-meet comms- and just ask/ explain what you are looking for, and judge the responses; and similarly, when you meet, just explain what you'd like, even that is, "don't know yet, let's see where we go"

[Adoniron]

ffs- you can't just make such sweeping generalisations based on race/ nationality.

Its not a sweeping generalisation. Its based on personal experience.

[RandomGuy99]

maybe....   or maybe not.  Nobody doesn't want to have an orgasm.

I think as an SP you probably don't as it you get multiple people a day attemping it and a high percentage of them failing, having an orgasm takes a lot out of you and you have a day of sex ahead of you and really don't want 10 orgasms in a day. As an SP you don't really have a goal of having an orgasm. Your goal is make the money and try to please a stream of SSs who walk through your door with you quickly having to figure out what makes them tick sexually.

[Ivor Hunch]

Its not a sweeping generalisation. Its based on personal experience.

"Some of the younger British girls may not be so keen but Thais and other orientals won't care about your age."

That's not a sweeping generalisation, you say???

[chrisintcov]

I’m approaching early retirement now and no looker but I can only recall one SP who didn’t seem overly keen on seeing me again, but she never said why.

If a SP has an issue with a particular characteristic then they will probably say so in their profile, age, beardiness, obesity, race or nationality.

If they make it clear that they don’t want to see an older client then I would say that it’s in your interest to respect that and stay well clear.  If the SP is uncomfortable that a client has crossed a stated boundary all that happen is that you’ll get a crap punt!

[RandomGuy99]

I wonder if any offer OAP rates?

[Thephoenix]

If they make it clear that they don’t want to see an older client then I would say that it’s in your interest to respect that and stay well clear.  If the SP is uncomfortable that a client has crossed a stated boundary all that happen is that you’ll get a crap punt!

That's perfectly understandable.
It's when there's no upper age limit specified, but as you enter you notice the expressions, ranging from surprise, shock or even horror.

[Stevelondon]

I’ve just thought about this a whole lot more.
Do I as an oldie get offered less. ?

I just don’t know cos I’ve never asked a SP if she offers more to her younger clients. 🤷🏼

I suspect I get offered more to be honest.
A Thai lass offering to help me out of the bath after a shower.
That Brazilian girl massaging my leg after I got cramp.
The Romanian SP (who says they are bad) who found my glasses for me. I forgot I put them in my shoe.

[Cliveyboy]

Hi, It has been pointed out to me that I have done wrong by posing a question and disappearing from the thread. I appologise for this. I was unfamiliar with the way the site works. I won't blame it on my ADHD, I'll appologise and learn from my mistake. Thank you to everyone who gave me helpful replies.

[Adoniron]

"Some of the younger British girls may not be so keen but Thais and other orientals won't care about your age."

That's not a sweeping generalisation, you say???

In the past I have seen some British girls in their 20s who didn't seem to me to be comfortable with someone 30 years older than them with the result that I stopped seeing 20 somethings.

I have never had that feeling with an oriental girl.

Is that sufficient explanation for you or are you going to continue to dispute my lived experiences?

[Colston36]

In the past I have seen some British girls in their 20s who didn't seem to me to be comfortable with someone 30 years older than them with the result that I stopped seeing 20 somethings.

I have never had that feeling with an oriental girl.
 
Is that sufficient explanation for you or are you going to continue to dispute my lived experiences?

All experiences are lived in. The question is whether your very  limited number of meetings are relevant to others. Certainly not to me as I have my own inclinations which are quite unlike yours or indeed most members'.  Or as the French say,  "vive la difference".

[Adoniron]

All experiences are lived in. The question is whether your very  limited number of meetings are relevant to others. Certainly not to me as I have my own inclinations which are quite unlike yours or indeed most members'.  Or as the French say,  "vive la difference".

You can speak for yourself but how do you claim to be able to speak for "most members"?

[Stevelondon]

You can speak for yourself but how do you claim to be able to speak for "most members"?

Knowing the old chap as I do. I can speak on behalf of most members on here and say yes………. His interests are a lot different from most on here 

[LauraHoD]

I wonder if any offer OAP rates?

I think I offered a free service when you turn 100!!
I'm sure I remember writing that on here a few years ago.
No one has yet taken me up on this offer though

[RandomGuy99]

I think I offered a free service when you turn 100!!
I'm sure I remember writing that on here a few years ago.
No one has yet taken me up on this offer though

Are you free next week?

What proof do you need?

[LauraHoD]

Age verification via Yoti seems to be the thing these days?!

No obviously you would need some kind of photo ID.
And I think one of the conditions was that you don't die.
So you would need to bring the money in case you don't make it.

[RandomGuy99]

Age verification via Yoti seems to be the thing these days?!

No obviously you would need some kind of photo ID.
And I think one of the conditions was that you don't die.
So you would need to bring the money in case you don't make it.

Ah, I can't guarantee that I won't die on the job.

What is the money for? taxi fare for the body?

I could attach a prepaid postage label on my arse so you can post me home.

[LauraHoD]

So Randomguy99? Is 99 your age then?

[alabama1]

So Randomguy99? Is 99 your age then?

Don't encourage him