Those married 25 years plus ....

[the gardener]

Viagra has never worked for me, tadalafil used to work but the last meeting I had with a very willing lady even that didn't.

I just have to accept that my shagging days are over. No regrets.

[Thephoenix]

 Punting didn't save my marriage, it made me happy indulging in my desire for sex. My wife didn't suffer from it apart from me being a bit moody with her on occassion, I've never told her and I don't think she has had any suspicions but who knows, fortunately I was able to indulge without impacting our financial situation

Punting didn't save your marriage, but you're still together?

Your shagging days are over, so have you not tried fbsm?
My guess is that many of us have switched because of similar performance issues.

[Stevelondon]

Punting didn't save your marriage, but you're still together?

Your shagging days are over, so have you not tried fbsm?
My guess is that many of us have switched because of similar performance issues.

I think he’s on about being in a loveless marriage when he says punting hasn’t saved it.
I may be wrong though 😂

[Momodan38]

Viagra has never worked for me, tadalafil used to work but the last meeting I had with a very willing lady even that didn't.

I just have to accept that my shagging days are over. No regrets.

If you still fancy contact with other women, fbsm may be the way to go as per thephoenix’s suggestion. If not, any strip clubs nearby to you that do full on contact lap dances? It might be worth a go and could help fill a void. All the best regardless.

[Captainhowdy666]

I’m a sex addict.
I think about women 24/7
I’m 52 years old and still love fucking hot girls.
I’ve jerked off once today already and thinking about cracking another one out before the ride gets back from work.

[Thephoenix]

Viagra has never worked for me, tadalafil used to work but the last meeting I had with a very willing lady even that didn't.

I just have to accept that my shagging days are over. No regrets.

Forgot to mention earlier:
Have you tried cock rings together with ED meds?

[Stevelondon]

Forgot to mention earlier:
Have you tried cock rings together with ED meds?

Also. I’ve had a few fetish type meets where my balls have been tied with a stocking or shoelace. Quite a different feeling.

[Thephoenix]

Also. I’ve had a few fetish type meets where my balls have been tied with a stocking or shoelace. Quite a different feeling.

Ah yes!
Nothing like a bowline on the bight and a double sheepshank.
Even a granny works wonders.

[tynetunnel]

Next year will be our 50th wedding anniversary. I had my first punt in 2013, IIRC, I am starting to realise I'm not the youthful man I used to be and like dress sense your memory becomes less sharp as the years roll by. We still had sex but it had become very samey and my wife seemed to become disinterested which made it less satisfying for me. Mindful of Betjeman saying during an interview as an old man that he regretted not having enough sex I contemplated punting.

The internet made it readily accessible and I stumbled onto AW. My first punt was with a gorgeous Latvian girl who let me cum in her mouth. As I felt close to my climax I asked if I could cum in her mouth and the heightened sensation when she said yes was wonderful. My wife had only agreed to do that once and refused with distaste whenever I asked again. There were a handful of "accidents" on a very few occassions over the years but it was something she didn't want to do.

I felt a twinge of guilt, easily dismissed when weighed against the pleasure I could indulge in. I met some very smart ladies, two of whom I saw regularly for eight or nine years (along with other escorts to provide wider variety) until we moved away. I experienced EAS with one of them and thought of leaving my wife for her. I know it was a bad idea, it was only loosely considered by me in a day dreaming sort of way. I never told her, we did go on a few trips abroad which were great fun, with satisfying sex every day. Made me feel like a young man again.   

These days as my manhood is reluctant to respond I realise my shagging days are over. Unlike Betjeman I wont think if I'm interviewed I'll say I regret not having enough sex. Punting didn't save my marriage, it made me happy indulging in my desire for sex. My wife didn't suffer from it apart from me being a bit moody with her on occassion, I've never told her and I don't think she has had any suspicions but who knows, fortunately I was able to indulge without impacting our financial situation

Good for you mate. Maybe your actual shagging days are over (penetration) but remember there’s lots more fun to be had in the embrace of a sexy young woman!

[PumpDump]

Viagra has never worked for me, tadalafil used to work but the last meeting I had with a very willing lady even that didn't.

I just have to accept that my shagging days are over. No regrets.

Are you able to cum, through masturbation or otherwise, even if you can't get an erection?

I think when that point comes for me I will still punt as I enjoy looking at and touching women's bodies. I enjoy giving RO. So even if I can't get any pleasure I will still enjoy appreciating a young woman's body.

[blubandy]

I’m divorced, I punted through my marriage but haven’t when in a relationship since.

In my view, punting whilst married isn’t healthy. Ultimately, the best marriages (and we’ll all know people who have marriages like this) are the ones that retain the sexual energy and friendship within the marriage as best as can be. How can you do that when you’re finding and fucking other women and keeping that secret from your wife?

To me, if I want to punt I stay single, if I’m in a relationship I don’t. I like that I don’t have any residual shame from that now. Of course others live their lives how they see fit, just giving my viewpoint based on my life experience

[Devon450]

Close to 25 years with the Mrs, been using escorts for the past few years due to dead bedroom activitiy. We've had the talk's tried new things and soon after things go back to what they were, the Mrs is peri-menapusal  so this may have some bearing on, but I've just accepted although we love eachother the intimacy is the last thing on her mind, leaving me feeling unwanted and needing intamcy.

Haven't had sex since christ knows when with the Mrs, do get the monthly BJ if I'm lucky and thats it.

Part of me feels guilty for doing this, I didn't just jump into this I planned it before I started eg burner phone / bank account unknown to the Mrs it didn't just happen one day. The being unfaithful etc etc, however I do have times when I think WTF am I doing etc etc

However for me the satisfaction meeting sexy women have sex doing stuff that would never happen in the bedroom fills the void missing from my homelife.

[Stevelondon]

Close to 25 years with the Mrs, been using escorts for the past few years due to dead bedroom activitiy. We've had the talk's tried new things and soon after things go back to what they were, the Mrs is peri-menapusal  so this may have some bearing on, but I've just accepted although we love eachother the intimacy is the last thing on her mind, leaving me feeling unwanted and needing intamcy.

Haven't had sex since christ knows when with the Mrs, do get the monthly BJ if I'm lucky and thats it.

Part of me feels guilty for doing this, I didn't just jump into this I planned it before I started eg burner phone / bank account unknown to the Mrs it didn't just happen one day. The being unfaithful etc etc, however I do have times when I think WTF am I doing etc etc

However for me the satisfaction meeting sexy women have sex doing stuff that would never happen in the bedroom fills the void missing from my homelife.

I know I’ve said loads of times and this thread could go on forever with non married blokes saying they would stop punting if they were in a relationship.
Married blokes trying to justify punting etc.

Christ it’s like other debates in other threads where folk ask if your gay if you go with a trans with a cock etc

Never ending.

It’s just fucking physical sex.
If it gets emotional and attaching then I can see where morals may enter into things.
But stop feeling guilty about something so natural.

Let’s face it. If a blokes wife stops eating. Does that mean he should feel guilty or ashamed about going to a KFC by himself 😂

[Stevelondon]

Are you able to cum, through masturbation or otherwise, even if you can't get an erection?

I think when that point comes for me I will still punt as I enjoy looking at and touching women's bodies. I enjoy giving RO. So even if I can't get any pleasure I will still enjoy appreciating a young woman's body.

Good for you. I bet there are loads of blokes punting who find it difficult to get hard enough for penetrative sex. But still enjoy a full and active sex life.

Or so a mate of mine told me 

[Thephoenix]

In my view, punting whilst married isn’t healthy. Ultimately, the best marriages (and we’ll all know people who have marriages like this) are the ones that retain the sexual energy and friendship within the marriage as best as can be. How can you do that when you’re finding and fucking other women and keeping that secret from your wife?

Years of practice!

[exitonly]

Close to 25 years with the Mrs,
...do get the monthly BJ if I'm lucky and thats it.

Once a month!! I honestly cant remember the last time mine touched my cock .. let alone chomp it

[Thephoenix]

Let’s face it. If a blokes wife stops eating. Does that mean he should feel guilty or ashamed about going to a KFC by himself 😂

Only if you you have a finger lickin throuble mighty bucket for one, with dipping boneless feast, twister wraps, extra fries and a milky bar sundae

[Stevelondon]

Only if you you have a finger lickin throuble mighty bucket for one, with dipping boneless feast, twister wraps, extra fries and a milky bar sundae

Bloody hell.
I’ve gotta get down to KFC mighty quick. 

[blubandy]

I know I’ve said loads of times and this thread could go on forever with non married blokes saying they would stop punting if they were in a relationship.
Married blokes trying to justify punting etc.

Christ it’s like other debates in other threads where folk ask if your gay if you go with a trans with a cock etc

Never ending.

It’s just fucking physical sex.
If it gets emotional and attaching then I can see where morals may enter into things.
But stop feeling guilty about something so natural.

Let’s face it. If a blokes wife stops eating. Does that mean he should feel guilty or ashamed about going to a KFC by himself 😂

The reason it pops up is that it’s a valid question. You say it’s “just fucking physical sex” but nothing in our history or culture has ever made it the case that it is that. If you had a fit, young wife who you caught banging the gym instructor, would you accept her reason that it’s “just sex”? Of course not.

Punting has its place, of course it does, but punting in secret is a non-optimal solution. The optimal is that you have a wife/partner who you have a fulfilling sex life with, you stay single so you can out at will, or you have a marriage where the wife doesn’t want the sexual side and happily lets you punt. Anything else is just coping in my opinion

[blubandy]

Close to 25 years with the Mrs, been using escorts for the past few years due to dead bedroom activitiy. We've had the talk's tried new things and soon after things go back to what they were, the Mrs is peri-menapusal  so this may have some bearing on, but I've just accepted although we love eachother the intimacy is the last thing on her mind, leaving me feeling unwanted and needing intamcy.

Haven't had sex since christ knows when with the Mrs, do get the monthly BJ if I'm lucky and thats it.

Part of me feels guilty for doing this, I didn't just jump into this I planned it before I started eg burner phone / bank account unknown to the Mrs it didn't just happen one day. The being unfaithful etc etc, however I do have times when I think WTF am I doing etc etc

However for me the satisfaction meeting sexy women have sex doing stuff that would never happen in the bedroom fills the void missing from my homelife.

It’s good that you tried to sort things, it’s not like you’ve just started punting even with the missus is trying. You tried your best. Do you think the wife would let you punt if you raised it with her? That would alleviate the guilt

[Stevelondon]

The reason it pops up is that it’s a valid question. You say it’s “just fucking physical sex” but nothing in our history or culture has ever made it the case that it is that. If you had a fit, young wife who you caught banging the gym instructor, would you accept her reason that it’s “just sex”? Of course not.

Punting has its place, of course it does, but punting in secret is a non-optimal solution. The optimal is that you have a wife/partner who you have a fulfilling sex life with, you stay single so you can out at will, or you have a marriage where the wife doesn’t want the sexual side and happily lets you punt. Anything else is just coping in my opinion

Once again…….. it’s only ever one’s opinion.

Saying it is in our history or culture makes no sense to me one bit.
Mentioning if it was your wife or girlfriend who was shagging isn’t even valid as it’s got nowt to do with what’s being chatted about.

[blubandy]

Once again…….. it’s only ever one’s opinion.

Saying it is in our history or culture makes no sense to me one bit.
Mentioning if it was your wife or girlfriend who was shagging isn’t even valid as it’s got nowt to do with what’s being chatted about.

Cheating and infidelity has always been a core social issue to human societies, I can’t see how that can even be debated, there are countless songs, books, and social rules about it.

And of course asking if your wife/partner has “just sex” is relevant, this is a thread about marriages. My query stands, if you say it’s “just sex” and doesn’t matter without emotion, if you had a young and attractive wife would you feel the same if she was shagging the gym instructor? And she said it was “just sex” would you be OK with it? Of course the answer is no.

Everyone is free to live their lives how they want, but it doesn’t mean you have to deny reality

[Devon450]

It’s good that you tried to sort things, it’s not like you’ve just started punting even with the missus is trying. You tried your best. Do you think the wife would let you punt if you raised it with her? That would alleviate the guilt

I have thought about asking this question, just haven't thought of way of asking her without letting on that I'm doing it. In an ideal world that would be the perfect solution eg the mrs is happy for me to see other women on a sex only basis which fills the void in our marriage.  Part of me thinks she would actually be happy for me to do this, but then there is the chance she would said no fecking way.

There is an escort who lives close by who's on AW and reviewed on here to (not seen her as not my type at all) She's married and my Mrs couldn't quite get her head around why a married woman would be an escort, she seems to have this stereo type they are all hardup drug users, something which I have found couldn't be further from the truth with most of them are amazing women with great lives just making some extra money etc etc.

[akauya]

Cheating and infidelity has always been a core social issue to human societies, I can’t see how that can even be debated, there are countless songs, books, and social rules about it.

And of course asking if your wife/partner has “just sex” is relevant, this is a thread about marriages. My query stands, if you say it’s “just sex” and doesn’t matter without emotion, if you had a young and attractive wife would you feel the same if she was shagging the gym instructor? And she said it was “just sex” would you be OK with it? Of course the answer is no.

Everyone is free to live their lives how they want, but it doesn’t mean you have to deny reality

Speak for yourself mate! I'd be happy if my other half is also out there getting sex for herself. Might even suggest we go swinging together.

I'm always weary of making sweeping generalisations like yours. Us humans are a weird and wonderful lot and quite unique in many ways; we all have our own experiences and viewpoints. Saying there’s only one “reality” that everyone should follow ignores this diversity. Judging others by your own standards can come off as moralistic and dismissive - are you very religious? It’s a good idea to appreciate and respect the differences that make each person’s life unique despite the "countless songs, books, and social rules about [infidelity]". Perhaps the reason why there are countless songs, books, and social rules about infidelity is because humas are not meant to be monogamous? After all, variety is the spice of life, right?

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For anyone interested in the concept of why humans in relationshits stray and why we perhaps got it wrong by deciding to be monogamous, a great book to read is this:

Sex at Dawn - How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha.

[Stevelondon]

Cheating and infidelity has always been a core social issue to human societies, I can’t see how that can even be debated, there are countless songs, books, and social rules about it.

And of course asking if your wife/partner has “just sex” is relevant, this is a thread about marriages. My query stands, if you say it’s “just sex” and doesn’t matter without emotion, if you had a young and attractive wife would you feel the same if she was shagging the gym instructor? And she said it was “just sex” would you be OK with it? Of course the answer is no.

Everyone is free to live their lives how they want, but it doesn’t mean you have to deny reality

I’ll post for the last time as this is never ending.

What are you on about gym instructor's instructor's and young fit wives for gods sake.

It’s paid for fucking.
If emotion enters into things or if that is what the punter seeks in its fullest form. Then he really should not be punting and should be looking for an affair.

What my wife looks like it if I have one even is for me to know and no-one else.

Now if you’ll excuse me I’m just going to pick her up from her weekly shag at the party in Sutton. 😂

[RedKettle]

Everyone is free to live their lives how they want, but it doesn’t mean you have to deny reality

You have a very focused definition of reality - you might appreciate as you grow up that it is not the same for everyone.

[akauya]

Now if you’ll excuse me I’m just going to pick her up from her weekly shag at the party in Sutton. 😂

She was lovely mate, thanks for sharing. Good fun. Next week again?   

[RedKettle]

She was lovely mate, thanks for sharing. Good fun. Next week again?   

you and the gym instructor were going like bats out of hell on her!!

[Thephoenix]

Cheating and infidelity has always been a core social issue to human societies, I can’t see how that can even be debated, there are countless songs, books, and social rules about it.

And of course asking if your wife/partner has “just sex” is relevant, this is a thread about marriages. My query stands, if you say it’s “just sex” and doesn’t matter without emotion, if you had a young and attractive wife would you feel the same if she was shagging the gym instructor? And she said it was “just sex” would you be OK with it? Of course the answer is no.

Everyone is free to live their lives how they want, but it doesn’t mean you have to deny reality

Thank you father!
Confession same time next week?.

[Thephoenix]

Now if you’ll excuse me I’m just going to pick her up from her weekly shag at the party in Sutton. 😂

She's not ready yet mate.

[Stevelondon]

Jeez………. You lot.

I’ve had to put her to bed.

[Stevelondon]

 

[Shrubby]

However apart from the sex,  all other aspects of the relationship and family may be good.

So the guy has choices:
Stay in a sexless marriage and become celibate,
Divorce with all the pitfalls,
Have affairs with even more pitfalls,
Punt.

Punting is just sex.
It often does  save marriages and has done for hundreds of years.
Take the word of the guys who are in that position.

That.

I'm happily married in the sense of sharing my life with someone I enjoy sharing it with, time away together, and with mutual friends, and having the family all together and harmonious at Christmas. After so long any sexual spark that was ever there has fizzled out.


I'm biologically wired to be attracted to women at peak fertility, this is a natural survival of the species instinct we all have, innit? And she's wired to retire her reproductive tract the moment she's churned out all the kids she ever wanted.

So in this situation punting works. I get to scratch the itch with someone I want to scratch it with, I'm saving Mrs a job freeing up time she'd rather spend watching reruns of Poirot, and a few WGs get to earn easy money servicing my otherwise neglected cock. It's a win all round.

I'm happier living the life I'm living than any of the alternatives I can think of. Thai brides, running off with younger women, affairs. It's all too complicated and I genuinely want to grow old with the wife. I've just as little desire to fuck her as she has to fuck me.

[pbrown355]

Good post shrubby

[Stevelondon]

Spot on shrubby 👍🏻

Nowt wrong with any of that at all.


Now………… over to those who will now speak of morals and marriage guidelines. 😂

[PumpDump]

Spot on shrubby 👍🏻

Nowt wrong with any of that at all.


Now………… over to those who will now speak of morals and marriage guidelines. 😂

Fuck that, we are on a website dedicated to pervs who like to pay women to fuck us. We have no morals!

[pbrown355]

PD that would make us amoral. I doubt if that applies to many of us. I would also argue that most of us do not think ourselves immoral either, but that's a different discussion.

[PumpDump]

PD that would make us amoral. I doubt if that applies to many of us. I would also argue that most of us do not think ourselves immoral either, but that's a different discussion.

Ok, then announce at your local church service that you are a proud member of this site. Report back next week 

[Thephoenix]

Ok, then announce at your local church service that you are a proud member of this site. Report back next week 

Not a good idea to bring religion into the debate about morality.
Particularly in view of the many examples in recent years of immorality.
Plus site rules would debar further discussion.

Morality is a multifaceted concept that is influenced by many factors including culture, society and personal beliefs.
Everyone's moral compass is different.
My personal set of values and beliefs as to what is right and wrong are unique to me and can change over time as we face new experiences in life, gain knowledge or cope with hardships.

[PumpDump]

Not a good idea to bring religion into the debate about morality.
Particularly in view of the many examples in recent years of immorality.
Plus site rules would debar further discussion.

Morality is a multifaceted concept that is influenced by many factors including culture, society and personal beliefs.
Everyone's moral compass is different.
My personal set of values and beliefs as to what is right and wrong are unique to me and can change over time as we face new experiences in life, gain knowledge or cope with hardships.

I am not bringing religion in to it. You can replace "church service" with "local knitting club" or "local art class", or "workplace canteen" if it bothers you so much. Point being, society in general considers our activities, especially the writing of reviews, as immoral.

[Shrubby]

Don't worry what society deems.

"Society" is chock full of people who are publicly appalled that a 40+ Prince Andrew may have got intimate with an 18 year old. Privately, I'll bet that many are far more familiar with Ben Dover's body of work than they'd ever admit in their work canteen, knitting group, or church.

[pbrown355]

I'm not that bothered by what strangers have as their moral code, only what mine is. Like pheonix it changes over time and life experience, but as long as I'm happy with it that's all that matters to me.

[LeedsGent]

I read the topic below with great interest.

Topic: Those married 25 years plus ....
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=413024.0

I have been married almost 25 years.  Like many, I started our extra marital hobby, due to lack of sex at home.  I started about 6 years ago, I quickly found AW.  I was a little disappointed with many of the girls as I had not found this site and had a few poor punts.  I then moved on to seeking.  After the ordeal of searching SA and being messed about a lot.  I found the SB that I have seen regularly for nearly 5 years.  She is young, petite, pretty, great in bed and great to spend time with out of the bedroom.  She ticks all of my boxes.  She often joins me on my business trips.  I do have the occasional trip on to AW when she can’t join me.  My children are very nearly fully grown and I am thinking about divorce.  I believe that I have been delaying the inevitable for the last 6 years. I can only see my marriage getting worse.  I now feel I am almost at a point where I can pull the ring on the can of worms called divorce.  I know I will be poorer, I know that it will be hard on my wife and kids, even though they are fully grown.  I know that it will get worse before it gets better. Sorting out the legal stuff and living in a shit apartment on my own.  I do see it as a short-term pain for a long-term gain.  I am sure that after being rejected by many women in bars it will lose some of its shine.  I just want the opportunity to look for something different.  I am not under the illusion that my SB will fall into my arms and move in with me.  I wouldn’t say no if she asked.  Feel free to give me any advice or words of warning or call me stupid.  Is anyone else in the same situation an thinking about joining me?

[LeedsGent]

I read this topic with great interest.  I have been married almost 25 years.  Like many, I started our extra marital hobby, due to lack of sex at home.  I have started a new topic, to discuss the other option of divorce. 

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=415846.0

[daviemac]

I'll merge this with the already running thread.

[Jumping Jack Flash]

Leedsgent, how old are you?

Do you really want to take a massive financial hit and start over again? What about companionship with your wife? What about the shared experiences that you have and will have more of in the future? What about your kids and possible grandchildren in the future? What about Christmas and birthdays? The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

Women go off sex as they get older and go through the menopause but a marriage/relationship isn’t all about sex. We get sex elsewhere so that itch is scratched, I think your view is slightly skewed by your relationship with your SB.

I’ve not been intimate with my wife for over 10 years but I still care for her and we have a nice lifestyle. I’ve been using Seeking for about 9 years now and seeing my current SB for 3 years. She’s great and we have as much fun outside of the bedroom as we do in it; for me it’s all about escapism. We escape to our own private world for a few hours where the only thing that matters is me and her. Once that meeting is over we both return to our lives and the sometimes banal existence. Then we meet again and do it all again. That keeps me sane and satisfied, if we can’t get a meet planned then there’s AW and massage establishments etc.

Think long and very carefully before you throw away a large chunk of your money, your lifestyle will take a hit and you will suddenly find yourself alone.

[southcoastpunter]

I think money / financial impact is a poor reason to stay with someone! But if it’s just the lack of sex so you are straying just for sex then maybe that make sense but often seeing a SB long term is an indication of something more than just sex! Yes of course you can differentiate the seeking one from real life and know it won’t last for ever and it’s not “real life” etc but surely it’s just papering over the cracks as the saying goes!
Yes there is impact on any kids etc and it’s right to take them into account before doing anything rash - but it seems to me that the Op has thought that it’s more than just lack of sex
Btw - we guys seem to always blame the women for lack of sex but do we ask ourselves if we are in anyway to blame! Have we stopped “wooing” her, making her feel desired and special to us etc?
It’s always a tricky situation and all anyone can do is think it through carefully and do what seems appropriate for you!

[Thephoenix]

Leedsgent, how old are you?

Do you really want to take a massive financial hit and start over again? What about companionship with your wife? What about the shared experiences that you have and will have more of in the future? What about your kids and possible grandchildren in the future? What about Christmas and birthdays? The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

Women go off sex as they get older and go through the menopause but a marriage/relationship isn’t all about sex. We get sex elsewhere so that itch is scratched, I think your view is slightly skewed by your relationship with your SB.

I’ve not been intimate with my wife for over 10 years but I still care for her and we have a nice lifestyle. I’ve been using Seeking for about 9 years now and seeing my current SB for 3 years. She’s great and we have as much fun outside of the bedroom as we do in it; for me it’s all about escapism. We escape to our own private world for a few hours where the only thing that matters is me and her. Once that meeting is over we both return to our lives and the sometimes banal existence. Then we meet again and do it all again. That keeps me sane and satisfied, if we can’t get a meet planned then there’s AW and massage establishments etc.

Think long and very carefully before you throw away a large chunk of your money, your lifestyle will take a hit and you will suddenly find yourself alone.

Good post.

[Thephoenix]

It’s always a tricky situation and all anyone can do is think it through carefully and do what seems appropriate for you!

......and therein lies the problem of trying to respond to these situations.
We would need to get so much more detailed and intimate information about a whole raft of issues pertaining to the relationship, all the financial implications, wider effects on family and friends, age, realistic expectations of what the future may hold for everyone involved etc etc.

The points raised in JJF's post are very pertinent.

[dubs]

Btw - we guys seem to always blame the women for lack of sex but do we ask ourselves if we are in anyway to blame! Have we stopped “wooing” her, making her feel desired and special to us etc?

Maybe the husband is no longer sexually attracted to a 60 year old wife when there are 25 year old girls available for hire.