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Offline Bat

It seems to me that this has transitioned to SD/SB.  With a good SB.  In effect.

It is indeed a much nicer place to be.  Lucky you.

I’d not thought of this but I can see what you’re saying. We are only 5 years apart in age though  :lol:

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with your social skills i am amazed you have to pay for sex, many of us  get extra time,  in truth few of them have any pressing business to attend to, but accept the fact that what you really bring to the table is money.

Thinking about this more, I completely understand that without the cash these relationships would not be happening.

At this time in my life I’m earning decent money, not the most I’ve ever earned as I’m winding my career down but I can easily afford to pay to see girls I would otherwise never have even met, let alone had sex with.

I’m also a freelance service provider and my current hourly rate, which I’ve just increased 15%, means I have to work just over 2 hours to earn enough for 1 hour with a South East priced SP. Relative to the cost/effort/time consumed of trying to find a ‘non-transactional’ sexual relationship, this feels like a pretty good deal to me.

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I’d not thought of this but I can see what you’re saying. We are only 5 years apart in age though  :lol:

I don't think the age difference is an issue so much as the social dynamic.

You were the SS, the provider in monetary terms.

You're fond of each other, keep a token transaction as way to avoid boundary issues.

And its moved from 'I pay for sex' to 'We're friends and I pay', from what you described.

I'm rather fond of an SB.  If she said to me 'Don't pay, no more sex, just walks and dinner and cuddles'
then I'd be there actually, much as she's awesome in the sack.

The walks, the meals, the cuddles - hours of friendship.

Sex is great but its short.  Intense, but short.  Also somehow forgettable compared to the rest of it.

I put it to you - how do you value those times that are not sex, compared to the shag?

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I don't think the age difference is an issue so much as the social dynamic.

You were the SS, the provider in monetary terms.

You're fond of each other, keep a token transaction as way to avoid boundary issues.

And its moved from 'I pay for sex' to 'We're friends and I pay', from what you described.

I'm rather fond of an SB.  If she said to me 'Don't pay, no more sex, just walks and dinner and cuddles'
then I'd be there actually, much as she's awesome in the sack.

The walks, the meals, the cuddles - hours of friendship.

Sex is great but its short.  Intense, but short.  Also somehow forgettable compared to the rest of it.

I put it to you - how do you value those times that are not sex, compared to the shag?

Interesting, we keep saying we’ll meet up just for lunch or dinner without sex but timing hasn’t worked for both of us.

The sex is always good but I think the post-sex when we’re just cuddling and talking rubbish is my favourite part of each meeting.

One thing we’ve also tried was meeting at a ‘third-party’ location. A sort of neutral ground with a bedroom that had none of the trappings of a classing punting bedroom. We also agreed she’d be there in everyday clothes and plain underwear. Minimal makeup and hair tied back etc. It worked really well and we were both totally relaxed and had a nice 3+ hours together.

Then, the next time she was dressed up to the 9s and we met at the usual punting bad - we went at each other like there was no tomorrow  :lol:

We’re meeting again this week so I’ll see how things go then :)

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Exactly this, we have a kind of arrangement where she will always come twice, once on my face and once from vaginal sex, before I even think about it for myself. It’s a mutual pleasure thing and, to be fair, she comes from RO relatively quickly, but she absolutely ‘uses’ me for both of those orgasms without particularly thinking about what I’m getting from it.

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Offline Bat

Interesting, we keep saying we’ll meet up just for lunch or dinner without sex but timing hasn’t worked for both of us.

The sex is always good but I think the post-sex when we’re just cuddling and talking rubbish is my favourite part of each meeting.

One thing we’ve also tried was meeting at a ‘third-party’ location. A sort of neutral ground with a bedroom that had none of the trappings of a classing punting bedroom. We also agreed she’d be there in everyday clothes and plain underwear. Minimal makeup and hair tied back etc. It worked really well and we were both totally relaxed and had a nice 3+ hours together.

Then, the next time she was dressed up to the 9s and we met at the usual punting bad - we went at each other like there was no tomorrow  :lol:

We’re meeting again this week so I’ll see how things go then :)

A little update on this relationship. At the most recent meeting we spent more time talking than having sex and, this time the ‘routine’ was a little different in that she came twice, as usual, but I didn’t at all. That isn’t to say we didn’t fuck, suck and lick each other a lot, simply that I didn’t feel the need to finish.

For me, watching her face as she’s coming and feeling her body pulsing was just wonderful.

 I’m sure this sounds odd to most people but I actually liked the sensation and we both had a great time.

Our next meeting is an evening out without any opportunity for sex :)
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EAS alert...careful now...

Absolutely, a definite potential problem looming here. I think we are both very aware of it!

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Absolutely, a definite potential problem looming here. I think we are both very aware of it!

As long as you're still paying she's not going to stop these meets.

It will have to come from you to stop anything before you start falling for her.

But tbh, these dinner type of meets with escorts the chances of EAS is very high. And these escorts know it. And it's easy bookings for them.
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Offline Bat

As long as you're still paying she's not going to stop these meets.

It will have to come from you to stop anything before you start falling for her.

But tbh, these dinner type of meets with escorts the chances of EAS is very high. And these escorts know it. And it's easy bookings for them.

No payment required for evening meet. It’s not being classed as a ‘booking’. Definitely an SD possibility involved though.

I should also add that I’m paying rock bottom price as well. Including the full meeting time she nets about £35 an hour! I’ve offered to pay more but she won’t take it.

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No payment required for evening meet. It’s not being classed as a ‘booking’. Definitely an SD possibility involved though.

I should also add that I’m paying rock bottom price as well. Including the full meeting time she nets about £35 an hour! I’ve offered to pay more but she won’t take it.

At the risk of repeating myself and others, instead of trying to determine a net payment, try not paying at all and see if she still has sex with you? She may well enjoy your company and outings .. you sound like a very sociable and amiable guy, but you will not know if she really enjoys your sexual company until all payment stops.

Your posts are revealing you as increasingly vulnerable to getting your heart broken. You need to be totally honest with her and define your relationship. I would hate to see you join the graveyard of many other deluded punters.

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Offline Bat

At the risk of repeating myself and others, instead of trying to determine a net payment, try not paying at all and see if she still has sex with you? She may well enjoy your company and outings .. you sound like a very sociable and amiable guy, but you will not know if she really enjoys your sexual company until all payment stops.

Your posts are revealing you as increasingly vulnerable to getting your heart broken. You need to be totally honest with her and define your relationship. I would hate to see you join the graveyard of many other deluded punters.

Wise words Doc :)

Offline versace

A little update on this relationship. At the most recent meeting we spent more time talking than having sex and, this time the ‘routine’ was a little different in that she came twice, as usual, but I didn’t at all. That isn’t to say we didn’t fuck, suck and lick each other a lot, simply that I didn’t feel the need to finish.

For me, watching her face as she’s coming and feeling her body pulsing was just wonderful.

 I’m sure this sounds odd to most people but I actually liked the sensation and we both had a great time.

Our next meeting is an evening out without any opportunity for sex :)

This screams EAS, you need to give your head a wobble mate, you are just infatuated, this isn’t going to end well.

Any chance of a link to her profile?!
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Couldn't give a fuck what SP's think of me as long as they are happy to see me again that's all that matters.
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Offline Bat

This screams EAS, you need to give your head a wobble mate, you are just infatuated, this isn’t going to end well.

Any chance of a link to her profile?!

There is no profile. She isn’t ‘working’ via any kind of public means. My understanding is that she sees only a few old clients and these relationships include virtually no sex (other than an HJ with one guy). They are all paid though.

She does not even have a punting location to work from. We see each other at a mutual friend’s place.

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There is no profile. She isn’t ‘working’ via any kind of public means. My understanding is that she sees only a few old clients and these relationships include virtually no sex (other than an HJ with one guy). They are all paid though.

She does not even have a punting location to work from. We see each other at a mutual friend’s place.

So why are you writing about her here on a punters forum ?

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So why are you writing about her here on a punters forum ?

She is a girl I pay for sex. I haven’t reviewed her because she’s not generally available (to the best of my knowledge). However, she does provide a service for payment.


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She is a girl I pay for sex. I haven’t reviewed her because she’s not generally available (to the best of my knowledge). However, she does provide a service for payment.

What use or interest do you imagine this is this to other punters if she is not commercially available ?

Offline Bat

What use or interest do you imagine this is this to other punters if she is not commercially available ?

This thread is about how punters think about the ways SPs in general think about them. As such it seemed relevant as she is an SP and I care how she feels about me.

Nothing more than that.

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So why are you writing about her here on a punters forum ?

   :unknown:

There is no profile. She isn’t ‘working’ via any kind of public means. My understanding is that she sees only a few old clients and these relationships include virtually no sex (other than an HJ with one guy). They are all paid though.

She does not even have a punting location to work from. We see each other at a mutual friend’s place.

Have you tried writing to Dear Deidra instead?
 
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This thread is about how punters think about the ways SPs in general think about them. As such it seemed relevant as she is an SP and I care how she feels about me.

Nothing more than that.

But she isn’t a service provider in any sense that is relevant to members of this forum.

Offline versace

But she isn’t a service provider in any sense that is relevant to members of this forum.

Exactly.

@ Bat - no one here cares about a retired prossie who cums twice like a clockwork everytime you see her  :wacko: cool story bro  :rolleyes:
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But she isn’t a service provider in any sense that is relevant to members of this forum.

OK. I’ll stop posting in this thread. Wasn’t trying to upset or mislead anyone :)

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Exactly.

@ Bat - no one here cares about a retired prossie who cums twice like a clockwork everytime you see her  :wacko: cool story bro  :rolleyes:

Based on the number of replies it seems you are, sadly, mistaken. But, I’ll bail out as my experiences clearly seem to offend you.

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Based on the number of replies it seems you are, sadly, mistaken. But, I’ll bail out as my experiences clearly seem to offend you.

Experiences or fantasies?! There is a big difference mate
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Experiences or fantasies?! There is a big difference mate

I don’t understand this comment. It seems strange that you appear to be trying to provoke a confrontation about something you profess not to be interested in.

Each to his own I guess 🤦‍♂️

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It seems strange that you appear to be trying to provoke a confrontation about something you profess not to be interested in.


It's not strange. He does it a lot. His recent banning does not seem to have curtailed his confrontational approach to interacting with others?

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I don’t understand this comment. It seems strange that you appear to be trying to provoke a confrontation about something you profess not to be interested in.

Each to his own I guess 🤦‍♂️

Let me see if I got this right so far. She has no profile, apparently a part time prossie who only offers handjobs these days, unless she is with you of course, because you can make her cum twice everytime you see her  :rolleyes:

Yeah ok…
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It's not strange. He does it a lot. His recent banning does not seem to have curtailed his confrontational approach to interacting with others?

Sorry, when was the last time you contributed to this site via writing a review? Oh yeah in 2019.

I rest my case.

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Even if you did graduate to a FOC sexual relationship with a SP or ex-SP you'll then have to contend with the fact she's getting nailed by other guys...you may think you can handle that but believe me as feelings grow it becomes an issue in the vast majority of cases.

In most cases it's best to never cross that line from paid sex to FOC sex with a SP and just daydream about it instead as the reality of it is a far from ideal existence.
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Sorry, when was the last time you contributed to this site via writing a review? Oh yeah in 2019.

I rest my case.


You do know you should report such concerns about lack of reviews to a Mod and not raise this issue with members directly?

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Let me see if I got this right so far. She has no profile, apparently a part time prossie who only offers handjobs these days, unless she is with you of course, because you can make her cum twice everytime you see her  :rolleyes:

Yeah ok…

What a strange thing to say. She is highly unlikely to have an orgasm whilst giving a guy a handjob, unless you have some miraculous way of sending vibrations from your cock through her hand to her clit?

Conversely, having regular 2 hour+ sessions which involve lengthy periods of RO, face sitting and sex in multiple positions shouldn’t be able to give a girl an orgasm?

You seem to inhabit a strange world if this is the case  :lol: :lol: :lol:

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You do know you should report such concerns about lack of reviews to a Mod and not raise this issue with members directly?

You do know that this site is about reviewing escorts and massage providers, yet you haven’t done a single review in 4 years.

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You do know that this site is about reviewing escorts and massage providers, yet you haven’t done a single review in 4 years.

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As I said, I suggest you report your concerns to the Owner/Mods rather than breaking the rules.

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What a strange thing to say. She is highly unlikely to have an orgasm whilst giving a guy a handjob, unless you have some miraculous way of sending vibrations from your cock through her hand to her clit?

Conversely, having regular 2 hour+ sessions which involve lengthy periods of RO, face sitting and sex in multiple positions shouldn’t be able to give a girl an orgasm?

You seem to inhabit a strange world if this is the case  :lol: :lol: :lol:

Sorry, one thing that may not have been clear here:

I have one regular SP I see approximately every couple of weeks. She was about to go on a break for 3-4 weeks and I, jokingly, asked what I was supposed to do whilst she was away.

The next day she messaged me saying there was a friend of hers that used to escort but now only saw a few guys on a, mostly, non sexual, but paid companionship basis.

She had spoken to her and she agreed to see me once for paid sex as a ‘one off’. The girl and I really hit it off and spent an entire evening together. By complete chance we discovered that we went to the same school - 3 years apart, had the same teachers, had lived just a couple of roads apart as teenagers and had a number of other interests / experiences in common.

She then agreed to see me on a paid for sex basis and, effectively, became an SP again, albeit with a limited client base. We have discussed a few times whether she might see more guys for full sex again in the future. I really can’t say whether this will happen but it’s definitely a possibility.

Hence, to my mind, she is an SP and, therefore fits within the remit of this particular thread as to whether I might care how she feels about me.

Hope this makes sense and apologies for any confusion here.

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Sorry, one thing that may not have been clear here:

I have one regular SP I see approximately every couple of weeks. She was about to go on a break for 3-4 weeks and I, jokingly, asked what I was supposed to do whilst she was away.

The next day she messaged me saying there was a friend of hers that used to escort but now only saw a few guys on a, mostly, non sexual, but paid companionship basis.

She had spoken to her and she agreed to see me once for paid sex as a ‘one off’. The girl and I really hit it off and spent an entire evening together. By complete chance we discovered that we went to the same school - 3 years apart, had the same teachers, had lived just a couple of roads apart as teenagers and had a number of other interests / experiences in common.

She then agreed to see me on a paid for sex basis and, effectively, became an SP again, albeit with a limited client base. We have discussed a few times whether she might see more guys for full sex again in the future. I really can’t say whether this will happen but it’s definitely a possibility.

Hence, to my mind, she is an SP and, therefore fits within the remit of this particular thread as to whether I might care how she feels about me.

Hope this makes sense and apologies for any confusion here.

She is still not a SP to forum members at large, plus you have posted on this thread and elsewhere your feelings for each other etc ad nauseam, isn’t that enough ?

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She is still not a SP to forum members at large, plus you have posted on this thread and elsewhere your feelings for each other etc ad nauseam, isn’t that enough ?

Yep

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You do know that this site is about reviewing escorts and massage providers, yet you haven’t done a single review in 4 years.

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What do I think about at work all day?  It’s probably the same for them…

Although Ive just thought that I think an awful lot about sex at work, so maybe not that  :D
Every working girl deserves to be treated with dignity and respect when you meet them, and I’d  like to think they noticed that.  If they don’t return the favour I don’t go back and I give a negative review.
Otherwise, I don’t care, it’s non of my business

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You do know that this site is about reviewing escorts and massage providers, yet you haven’t done a single review in 4 years.

 :unknown:

That’s a big gap! +1

Offline Darren101

...I'll put this thread back on topic

I was browsing through AW and come across some gallery pics on a SP page and there was a few pics of this beautiful young girl in sexy lingerie she was sitting on top of a hairy, middle aged, over weight guy on a bed (could easily have been me 😭) and got me thinking, what do these girls/women actually think of us dudes.
Most of us are proby out of shape, middle aged, getting  grey hair and only pumping a beauty cause we are paying for her time.
I'm just starting out on my punting journey and a tad self conscious of my body/ looks.
 I know these girls have seen all shapes, sizes, race etc  and they are just in it to make a living, but do any of you guys ever worry or wonder what they think or are judging you, looking at your flaws or don't give a monkey as you are giving her you hard earned money.

I'm young (not 40 yet), physically fit and quite toned. More than one girl has asked me whether I've been to the gym, which I take as a complement. (I wish I was a bit taller though!)  However, even if I was older, bigger around the gut, I'd think the girls will think you're another paying client.

If you're conscious of your body, hit the gym (or take up some other form of exercise), eat healthier (both easier said than done, I know). You'll feel more confident and you'll be healthier. once you see results.
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If you think a WG will think about you, after you've gone, that there'll be some kind of rapport, then you're very much mistaken,

Proof?

Just ask a WG to see you without pay, you can imagine her reaction will be.

In order to know what WGs really think, just read what the Sisterhood writes on Saafe.

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That’s a big gap! +1

Ok we seem to have another wannabe mod ignoring Davie’s post, so time to put this to bed. I returned to punting in 2019 after a very long break having in the past being a very prolific punter (and reviewer). I saw five different SPs in 2019 and posted reviews on all of them. Then I had a break and then came Covid. I have not punted since nor am I likely to ever again. I have posted this before.

If you are not happy with this, then please raise it with Head1

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Ok we seem to have another wannabe mod ignoring Davie’s post, so time to put this to bed. I returned to punting in 2019 after a very long break having in the past being a very prolific punter (and reviewer). I saw five different SPs in 2019 and posted reviews on all of them. Then I had a break and then came Covid. I have not punted since nor am I likely to ever again. I have posted this before.

If you are not happy with this, then please raise it with Head1

I already did raise it.

Mini clap for your 2019 spree by the way.

I stand by my statement. You haven’t reviewed in four years. Like Versace that surprised me.

Just to let you know we all hit covid, not just you, we didn’t transport through a different vortex while you went down a path alone. FYI

In short, I raised it, heard back and left it like that. Still stand by my statement.

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In short, I raised it, heard back and left it like that. Still stand by my statement.
You haven't left it though have you?? you are still posting about something that has nothing to do with you.

As I said in my reply to you raising it with me, if there was any issues with Doc's contributions then the mods would have done something about it, they haven't so why do you feel the need to?  :unknown:

As you seem to think me posting a reminder of the rules was only intended for versace I'll post it again just for you, though I should add it applies to all members.

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You haven't left it though have you?? you are still posting about something that has nothing to do with you.

As I said in my reply to you raising it with me, if there was any issues with Doc's contributions then the mods would have done something about it, they haven't so why do you feel the need to?  :unknown:

As you seem to think me posting a reminder of the rules was only intended for versace I'll post it again just for you, though I should add it applies to all members.

32 Wannabe Mods and/or not heeding mods/admins warnings will result in a ban.

Okay I’m leaving it  :thumbsup:

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If you think a WG will think about you, after you've gone, that there'll be some kind of rapport, then you're very much mistaken,

Proof?

Just ask a WG to see you without pay, you can imagine her reaction will be.

In order to know what WGs really think, just read what the Sisterhood writes on Saafe.

Just because pay is involved doesn't mean I don't think or wonder how a client, repeat booker or punter is doing, even years later I might see or hear something a particular client was interested or involved in and remember. Choosing lingerie or other purchases i might have a particular client in mind or "He'll like this" I dont however remember every person I've had a booking with, depends on many factors including the unexplained.