And it's amazing how many of them couldn't give a shit ---you're lucky ..I've had this heart to heart on a number of occasions - and NOTHING has changed . There are lots of postings on the forum about wives attitudes .
Again , consider yourself lucky .. I wonder how many members of the forum would never of started punting -even if they received 'vanilla' sex on a regular basis (once a week ? ). Fortunately most of us love our wives / partners .. BUT , if you asked most blokes what is the ONE bugbear in their RELATIONSHIP it would be SEX !!!
I am afraid that I`m never sure whether to be sympathetic or condemnatory when I read postings of this nature, but I must confess that my first inclination is to ask "Just how hard have you actually tried to have a good sexual relation ship in your marriage before you decided it was easier to go out and fuck a prossie?". It`s an odd fact of life, that although very few men want to marry a prossie, most of them nevertheless expect their new wives to come ready equipped with all the sexual knowledge and attributes of a prossie without actually having had any real experience. At the same time the men themselves, although they consider themselves God`s gift to women, probably have only a very rudimentary knowledge of sex and little of the finer points and only the rutting instinct to guide them. So neither of them starts out equipped for a mutually happy sex life and the problem is that neither of them seems prepared to do anything about it - the wife gets little or no enjoyment, so gets bored and decides it not worth the bother, and the husband takes himself of to a prossie, who shows him what it`s all about.
AND IT`S THEIR OWN FAULT - BOTH OF THEM.
When my wife and I first started courting in our teens (in the 1940s) neither of us had had any sexual experience, but we experimented together - each of us finding out what pleased the other most - we bought sex manuals and read them in bed together, trying out everything we read, and we built up a most satisfactory sex life. I can truthfully say that in all the years of my marriage I never once felt either the desire or the need to bed any other woman. We started with sex every night, and even when we reached out 70s it was at least once each week. We knew all the positions we liked best, we both knew how to give the other the greatest pleasure, and we always finished with both of us completely satisfied. She would initiate sex as often as I did, and when her menstrual cycle prevented vaginal intercourse anal was always on offer (and she enjoyed it as much as I did).
When I had got over her death, and started punting none of the girls I saw gave me any better sex than I had had with my wife, and most of them nowhere near as good.
All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start