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Sparquin

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As I am new here forgive me if this has been raised before.

My home sex life with Mrs. Sparquin is somewhat vanilla to say the least.

But my sex life with WGs is far more adventurous, shall we say. I get worried that I might accidentally introduce some of my WG tendencies/techniques etc into the domestic bedroom only to hear "where did you get that idea from?"

Admittedly if Mrs. Sparquin pushed a digit into my rectum during the act I might have similar suspicions......

Anyone else have this concern?

Offline Matium

For the sake of your marriage, learn to be a Walter Mitty.

Women are extremely suspicious and if you do anything with your wife that you've never, ever done before, she's going to start rifling through your things to find out where and what you've been doing.

Your best defence is to just let your wife be the boss at home, act stupid always so that it will never. ever occur to your wife that you could go to prostitutes as she'll always think you're far too gormless to ever do anything like that.


d00fer

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saw it on a porno?

I assume that it was said jokingly, but that has opened up a whole new world of hurt in my experience most of the time. When it has worked it's been awesome short term, but still same end result. The old 'why do you need to watch porn when you have me / what do they do that I haven't?' discussion. It's like they weren't even watching.

Offline NIK

As I am new here forgive me if this has been raised before.

My home sex life with Mrs. Sparquin is somewhat vanilla to say the least.

But my sex life with WGs is far more adventurous, shall we say. I get worried that I might accidentally introduce some of my WG tendencies/techniques etc into the domestic bedroom only to hear "where did you get that idea from?"

Admittedly if Mrs. Sparquin pushed a digit into my rectum during the act I might have similar suspicions......

Anyone else have this concern?

Tell her you have a headache and turn away.  :D

Offline threechilliman

As I am new here forgive me if this has been raised before.

My home sex life with Mrs. Sparquin is somewhat vanilla to say the least.

But my sex life with WGs is far more adventurous, shall we say. I get worried that I might accidentally introduce some of my WG tendencies/techniques etc into the domestic bedroom only to hear "where did you get that idea from?"

Admittedly if Mrs. Sparquin pushed a digit into my rectum during the act I might have similar suspicions......

Anyone else have this concern?

No. Just say you used a bit of imagination and invite Mrs S to do likewise....... ball back in her half

tcm

Offline threechilliman

saw it on a porno?

Works wonders if you can get your OH into this. Mrs tcm wouldn't have entertained it 12 months ago, although she knew I watched it.

Told her to lose her inhibitions (in a fairly frank and heated discussion), that our sex life was shite and if she didn't loosen up I'd be off.

Six months later, not perfect, but we're getting there. Her BJ has improved dramatically after watching a few videos and now rivals some of the WG's I've seen. Even do the hotel 'outcall' where she texts me the room number and opens the door in her 'gear'. I don't hand her any money, of course, she has her own credit card on my account (ouch!). WG's are a lot cheaper :lol: :lol: :lol:

Amazing what can be achieved if you tell 'em what you want

tcm

JV547845

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Can't you just say you found a copy of Cosmopolitan or something on the train and rifled through the `30 ways to keep your man happy this summer' and that's where you got the idea to ask your wife to deep throat you from?

Offline Daffodil

The trouble with women, in my experience, is that when they get a suspicion (even a small one) it leads to snooping, which leads to more suspicion, which leads to more snooping.

We all need to try and prevent that initial whiff of suspicion.

In regards to the op's situation, if you think it would arouse suspicion then you're going to need to be very careful with it.

Offline seeker

If your other half is not in her twentys and fit ,do you really want to be teaching her new tricks  :unknown:
I punt not for friendship or company but because I love shagging fit twenty year old. :thumbsup:

Offline CBPaul

As I am new here forgive me if this has been raised before.

My home sex life with Mrs. Sparquin is somewhat vanilla to say the least.

But my sex life with WGs is far more adventurous, shall we say. I get worried that I might accidentally introduce some of my WG tendencies/techniques etc into the domestic bedroom only to hear "where did you get that idea from?"

Admittedly if Mrs. Sparquin pushed a digit into my rectum during the act I might have similar suspicions......

Anyone else have this concern?

Just say it was an idea, trying to change things a bit and thought she might like it. If you slip up once you'll be a lot more careful in the future so I wouldn't worry too much.

All relies on you being able to say it convincingly though, if you go bright red and blurt out that your favorite prossie just loves it when you take her up the batty then you're screwed.

Offline ForrestGump

If your other half is not in her twentys and fit ,do you really want to be teaching her new tricks  :unknown:

Well, it worked for tcm. I say if you don't ask you don't get. And that's definitely the case with mrs fg.

So you never know you might end up getting a better quality of shag between punts, which would be nice.  :thumbsup:

Oldstager

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You just buy one of the better sex manuals on sale in W.H.Smiths, thumb the pages a bit, and then leave it lying around the house where she can`t avoid finding it.  When questioned you can say "I just thought I`d like to see what I`m missing.  Any variations from the normal boring sexual routine will then be attributed to your research.

Mind you, there`s every chance that as soon as she sees the book she`ll burn it

potato

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Its not only about introducing new things that you have to be careful of, its also the improvements in technique on the old stuff as well!  I love giving RO and over the years I have got pretty good at it. This has been mainly due to a few regs ( where time hasn't been an issue) where I have experimented and got reliable feedback - and a lot of reading up on the subject!  I could probably write a thesis on it...  If I tried it on the missus now there is no doubt she would enjoy it followed by the thought running through her head of "how the fuck did he get that good when he hasn't done it for years?"

doc14

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whatever you do, :rolleyes: do not say "well the other girls let me cum over their face"

Offline Frenchie

Works wonders if you can get your OH into this. Mrs tcm wouldn't have entertained it 12 months ago, although she knew I watched it.

Told her to lose her inhibitions (in a fairly frank and heated discussion), that our sex life was shite and if she didn't loosen up I'd be off.

Six months later, not perfect, but we're getting there. Her BJ has improved dramatically after watching a few videos and now rivals some of the WG's I've seen. Even do the hotel 'outcall' where she texts me the room number and opens the door in her 'gear'. I don't hand her any money, of course, she has her own credit card on my account (ouch!). WG's are a lot cheaper :lol: :lol: :lol:

Amazing what can be achieved if you tell 'em what you want


And it's amazing how many of them couldn't give a shit ---you're lucky ..I've had this heart to heart on a number of occasions - and NOTHING has changed . There are lots of postings on the forum about wives attitudes .

Again , consider yourself lucky .. I wonder how many members of the forum would never of started punting -even if they received 'vanilla' sex on a regular basis (once a week ? ). Fortunately most of us love our wives / partners .. BUT , if you asked most blokes what is the ONE bugbear in their relationship it would be SEX !!!

tcm

Offline Frenchie

Sorry - did something wrong - my posting is shown in the quote..!

Offline threechilliman

Sorry - did something wrong - my posting is shown in the quote..!

I was pretty firm about what I wanted and we've had another firm discussion more recently. Mrs tcm wants the same things as me but her inhibitions are deep-rooted. I'm encouraging her to take the lead which she's never done before. Pushing boundaries is the biggest hurdle but she's doing fine. As I keep saying 'I'll try anything once!'

tcm

Oldstager

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And it's amazing how many of them couldn't give a shit ---you're lucky ..I've had this heart to heart on a number of occasions - and NOTHING has changed . There are lots of postings on the forum about wives attitudes .

Again , consider yourself lucky .. I wonder how many members of the forum would never of started punting -even if they received 'vanilla' sex on a regular basis (once a week ? ). Fortunately most of us love our wives / partners .. BUT , if you asked most blokes what is the ONE bugbear in their RELATIONSHIP it would be SEX !!!

I am afraid that I`m never sure whether to be sympathetic or condemnatory when I read postings of this nature, but I must confess that my first inclination is to ask "Just how hard have you actually tried to have a good sexual relation ship in your marriage before you decided it was easier to go out and fuck a prossie?". It`s an odd fact of life, that although very few men want to marry a prossie, most of them nevertheless expect their new wives to come ready equipped with all the sexual knowledge and attributes of a prossie without actually having had any real experience. At the same time the men themselves, although they consider themselves God`s gift to women,  probably have only a very rudimentary knowledge of sex and little of the finer points and only the rutting instinct to guide them. So neither of them starts out equipped for a mutually happy sex life and the problem is that neither of them seems prepared to do anything about it - the wife gets little or no enjoyment, so gets bored and decides it not worth the bother, and the husband takes himself of to a prossie, who shows him what it`s all about.
AND IT`S THEIR OWN FAULT - BOTH OF THEM.

When my wife and I first started courting in our teens (in the 1940s) neither of us had had any sexual experience, but we experimented together - each of us finding out what pleased the other most - we bought sex manuals and read them in bed together, trying out everything we read, and we built up a most satisfactory sex life.  I can truthfully say that in all the years of my marriage I never once felt either the desire or the need to bed any other woman.  We started with sex every night, and even when we reached out 70s it was at least once each week. We knew all the positions we liked best, we both knew how to give the other the greatest pleasure, and we always finished with both of us completely satisfied. She would initiate sex as often as I did, and when her menstrual cycle prevented vaginal intercourse anal was always on offer (and she enjoyed it as much as I did).

When I had got over her death, and started punting none of the girls I saw gave me any better sex than I had had with my wife, and most of them nowhere near as good.

All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start

Offline threechilliman

I am afraid that I`m never sure whether to be sympathetic or condemnatory when I read postings of this nature, but I must confess that my first inclination is to ask "Just how hard have you actually tried to have a good sexual relation ship in your marriage before you decided it was easier to go out and fuck a prossie?". It`s an odd fact of life, that although very few men want to marry a prossie, most of them nevertheless expect their new wives to come ready equipped with all the sexual knowledge and attributes of a prossie without actually having had any real experience. At the same time the men themselves, although they consider themselves God`s gift to women,  probably have only a very rudimentary knowledge of sex and little of the finer points and only the rutting instinct to guide them. So neither of them starts out equipped for a mutually happy sex life and the problem is that neither of them seems prepared to do anything about it - the wife gets little or no enjoyment, so gets bored and decides it not worth the bother, and the husband takes himself of to a prossie, who shows him what it`s all about.
AND IT`S THEIR OWN FAULT - BOTH OF THEM.

When my wife and I first started courting in our teens (in the 1940s) neither of us had had any sexual experience, but we experimented together - each of us finding out what pleased the other most - we bought sex manuals and read them in bed together, trying out everything we read, and we built up a most satisfactory sex life.  I can truthfully say that in all the years of my marriage I never once felt either the desire or the need to bed any other woman.  We started with sex every night, and even when we reached out 70s it was at least once each week. We knew all the positions we liked best, we both knew how to give the other the greatest pleasure, and we always finished with both of us completely satisfied. She would initiate sex as often as I did, and when her menstrual cycle prevented vaginal intercourse anal was always on offer (and she enjoyed it as much as I did).

When I had got over her death, and started punting none of the girls I saw gave me any better sex than I had had with my wife, and most of them nowhere near as good.

All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start

Spot on! And the experimenting is great fun.

tcm

JV547845

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AND IT`S THEIR OWN FAULT - BOTH OF THEM.


Cool story bro.  I enjoyed that.  My bachelor's take on it is that a bloke ought to know how important his sex life is to him before he pops the question (or says yes).  It's just the same as having the Children Talk before getting married, or allowing for the fact that shoes are important to one part and foot ball is to the other, and agreeing to compromise/ tolerate the other.  A couple need to have a full and frank Sex Talk before going down the aisle too.  Or just stop moaning and get divorced, plenty more fish etc.

potato

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Am I the only one where I find no sex with the missus is a good thing?  Frankly, she is out of my age criteria being pretty much the same age as me and I much prefer the younger age group. Don't get me wrong, we are best of friends etc., but sex would be weird with her now!  It would be much cheaper of course and my punting days really only started when the sex fizzled out at home.  I am also not at all sure whether she would be in to the things that I like these days and that's one sure way to destroy a friendship!

Oldstager

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Am I the only one where I find no sex with the missus is a good thing?  Frankly, she is out of my age criteria being pretty much the same age as me and I much prefer the younger age group. Don't get me wrong, we are best of friends etc., but sex would be weird with her now!  It would be much cheaper of course and my punting days really only started when the sex fizzled out at home.  I am also not at all sure whether she would be in to the things that I like these days and that's one sure way to destroy a friendship!

Suppose that she decides that she  also would like sex with someone years younger than herself, and  punts with a young male service provider on AW (paid for out of the housekeeping, of course).  How would you feel then?

yorkshire123

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Am I the only one where I find no sex with the missus is a good thing?  Frankly, she is out of my age criteria being pretty much the same age as me and I much prefer the younger age group. Don't get me wrong, we are best of friends etc., but sex would be weird with her now!  It would be much cheaper of course and my punting days really only started when the sex fizzled out at home.  I am also not at all sure whether she would be in to the things that I like these days and that's one sure way to destroy a friendship!

Sex with my wife is great but far too limited for my current sex drive. So to answer your question no its not a good thing in fact if things carry on the way they are maybe i won't have the need to see prostitutes, but thats probably easier said than done  :cool:

Offline threechilliman

Sex with my wife is great but far too limited for my current sex drive. So to answer your question no its not a good thing in fact if things carry on the way they are maybe i won't have the need to see prostitutes, but thats probably easier said than done  :cool:

I think me and thee are in the same boat Y123. More sex with Mrs tcm this year than the previous 10 put together.

tcm

Offline threechilliman

Suppose that she decides that she  also would like sex with someone years younger than herself, and  punts with a young male service provider on AW (paid for out of the housekeeping, of course).  How would you feel then?

I'd ask if I could watch, or join in :lol: :lol: :lol:

tcm

Offline mh

And it's amazing how many of them couldn't give a shit ---you're lucky ..I've had this heart to heart on a number of occasions - and NOTHING has changed . There are lots of postings on the forum about wives attitudes .

Again , consider yourself lucky .. I wonder how many members of the forum would never of started punting -even if they received 'vanilla' sex on a regular basis (once a week ? ). Fortunately most of us love our wives / partners .. BUT , if you asked most blokes what is the ONE bugbear in their relationship it would be SEX !!!

For me, this is spot-on.

All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start

Sorry, it simply doesn't work like that with all women.

When I first met my OH we had sex at least every other night, shared baths and showers, experimented with sex manuals, watched porn together, read each other porn and in all of it she was an enthusiastic participant. It was all fairly vanilla stuff, no BDSM, toys or anal and she would not shave her pubes, for example. But many positions and frequent sex. She tried swallowing my come but hated it, though gave good oral.

So, after marriage it went slightly down in frequency and a lot down in variation. After kids it went off a cliff in frequency and became a single fixed sequence of actions on the odd occasion (a few times a year).

We've had blazing rows about it and heart-to-hearts about it all to zero effect. Apparently I simply should not want sex as frequently as I do (e.g. 2 or 3 times a month). Apparently her enthusiasm all those years ago was just her doing what she thought she should and she didn't really enjoy it (pull the other one, it's got balls on).

The really annoying thing is that when she does want sex she is almost desperate for it and comes like an express train. I cannot fathom how little interest she has in something she enjoys so much when she "needs" it.

Now that the kids are older, the frequency is variable, could (rarely) be twice in a month but more usually once every other month. And there's no variation at all. My depressing holiday report is here:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=35305.msg484087#msg484087

It's really not down to "not working harder at it from the start" for everyone.

potato

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The thing is men just want a good fuck now and then whilst women have to attach some sort of emotion into it!  I can quite happily fuck my younger  reg senseless and get up to all sorts of mischief without the least emotional attachment involved whilst a lot of women seem to have to attach labels to everything.  Some women definitely change radically through a long term relationship and some attempt to change their partners as well.

Now I get frowned upon ordering a steak in a restaurant as she turned vegetarian as well - So little chance of getting my meat gobbled either!

In every other way we are the best of friends and at my age, starting again would not be a good option..So I am quite happy the way I am - and there is a cracking place on the way to work that does great bacon sandwiches.. :)

Sparquin

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For me, this is spot-on.

Sorry, it simply doesn't work like that with all women.

When I first met my OH we had sex at least every other night, shared baths and showers, experimented with sex manuals, watched porn together, read each other porn and in all of it she was an enthusiastic participant. It was all fairly vanilla stuff, no BDSM, toys or anal and she would not shave her pubes, for example. But many positions and frequent sex. She tried swallowing my come but hated it, though gave good oral.

So, after marriage it went slightly down in frequency and a lot down in variation. After kids it went off a cliff in frequency and became a single fixed sequence of actions on the odd occasion (a few times a year).

We've had blazing rows about it and heart-to-hearts about it all to zero effect. Apparently I simply should not want sex as frequently as I do (e.g. 2 or 3 times a month). Apparently her enthusiasm all those years ago was just her doing what she thought she should and she didn't really enjoy it (pull the other one, it's got balls on).

The really annoying thing is that when she does want sex she is almost desperate for it and comes like an express train. I cannot fathom how little interest she has in something she enjoys so much when she "needs" it.

Now that the kids are older, the frequency is variable, could (rarely) be twice in a month but more usually once every other month. And there's no variation at all. My depressing holiday report is here:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=35305.msg484087#msg484087

It's really not down to "not working harder at it from the start" for everyone.

Yup that pretty much describes my situation. Mrs. S almost makes me feel guilty for wanting sex with her (and I still do btw). And it is that lack of variation that sits at the heart of my seeing WGs.

Whilst I draw some comfort from not being alone in this regard I do feel sad that this issue seems to be more widespread than I had thought.

Offline threechilliman

I wonder whether there's a secret site like AW that only OH's know about and they're busy booking and fucking young guys every week. Maybe they have a punting forum like this where they discuss us and why we don't seem to want sex any more.....

It does make you wonder as it seems the majority of OH's quickly go off sex, or never really get into it in the first place.

Baffling....

tcm

Offline Silver Birch

"How do you stop your girlfriend giving you a blowjob?"
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"Marry her"

I guess this is the case for many. They did have a good and varied sex life once, but now most of the exciting stuff is no longer on the menu.

Offline Frenchie

I am afraid that I`m never sure whether to be sympathetic or condemnatory when I read postings of this nature, but I must confess that my first inclination is to ask "Just how hard have you actually tried to have a good sexual relation ship in your marriage before you decided it was easier to go out and fuck a prossie?". It`s an odd fact of life, that although very few men want to marry a prossie, most of them nevertheless expect their new wives to come ready equipped with all the sexual knowledge and attributes of a prossie without actually having had any real experience. At the same time the men themselves, although they consider themselves God`s gift to women,  probably have only a very rudimentary knowledge of sex and little of the finer points and only the rutting instinct to guide them. So neither of them starts out equipped for a mutually happy sex life and the problem is that neither of them seems prepared to do anything about it - the wife gets little or no enjoyment, so gets bored and decides it not worth the bother, and the husband takes himself of to a prossie, who shows him what it`s all about.
AND IT`S THEIR OWN FAULT - BOTH OF THEM.

When my wife and I first started courting in our teens (in the 1940s) neither of us had had any sexual experience, but we experimented together - each of us finding out what pleased the other most - we bought sex manuals and read them in bed together, trying out everything we read, and we built up a most satisfactory sex life.  I can truthfully say that in all the years of my marriage I never once felt either the desire or the need to bed any other woman.  We started with sex every night, and even when we reached out 70s it was at least once each week. We knew all the positions we liked best, we both knew how to give the other the greatest pleasure, and we always finished with both of us completely satisfied. She would initiate sex as often as I did, and when her menstrual cycle prevented vaginal intercourse anal was always on offer (and she enjoyed it as much as I did).

When I had got over her death, and started punting none of the girls I saw gave me any better sex than I had had with my wife, and most of them nowhere near as good.

All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start

I've never read such a load of twaddle..in my opinion ...... I think you are very much in the minority when it comes to marital situations .
When I first came on the forum it shocked me how many men on here had the same attitudes and experiences with their wives as I have .

Every male friend I've got (all over 40) moans about their sex lives . One of these chaps treats his wife like a princess . They are both good looking ..but she'll only do missionary and sex is rare . My other friends wife is stunning ... not interested..and he is one of the nicest blokes you could ever meet !

When this subject comes up on things like the Daily Mail online the women always quote the same thing...' Well he's not the man I married.. He sits watching football , overweight..couch potato...I'm looking after the kids all day .. I'm too tired ...etc etc ...the list / excuses are endless !!

Well Mrs Frenchie retired from part time work at 43, hasn't got any kids , financially stable , put on about another five stone and sits on her arse on the couch all day playing games on her f...ing laptop !!

I think the problem is that many men have tried EVERYTHING ..and eventually give up and start punting.
I've been banging my head against a brick wall for twenty years... Mrs Frenchies 'likes' list was VERY comprehensive when we were younger......but as time goes on things get worse and worse. That's why I started punting 18 months ago .

I will again relay a story which perfectly illustrates what drives me crazy....

When we lived in London my wife had a blonde 'leggy' good looking friend in her middle thirties . Two kids, nice house , really nice bloke for a husband......All of a sudden he pissed off with an old friend who he had met online......
All the girlfriends closed ranks...'What a bastard'...'How could he? '...

It turned out that she had refused sex FOR THREE YEARS !!!!!!!!..and then wonders why he went !

As I previously stated there are lots of men who love and care about their wives but this one factor winds them up SO much that they look for alternative solution ...eg   punting . I don't think any married man enters into punting lightly - but once started it's very hard to stop.

Because communication isn't a problem, after nine months of me not bringing up the subject of sex (in any way ) she broached the subject and I basically and calmly told her what I thought HER outlook was on our sex lives ..at the end of it Mrs Frenchie admitted that I was 99% spot on .......she hasn't got an ounce of sexual desire in her whole body...she can't be bothered....she'd rather go to bed with chocolate and a good book......

I'm not going to repeat other peoples postings on the subject..but I think my experiences are more 'the norm' than yours .

In the past I have been quite chuffed to get very positive responses to my postings on this subject ..I hope this one again finds
agreement .

Offline Private Parts

Gentlemen, Both Frenchie and MH have in various ways described the malaise that sets in once married life has taken its toll.

The French have a very good approach to Married life. Mistresses are the order of play. French women are more than happy to let their men seek the services of other women so long as they fulfill the Marital commitment to them, the family and the home. Let some other bimbo sort out his urges and I'll get on with the business of running the family. Occasionally she may require the services of her husband /partner. In that case it's a double whammy for him. And as long as he comes up trumps she is satisfied.
French women also take much better care of themselves and enjoy being sexually attractive. Less so some of our British domestic godesses.
It is sometimes the case that they too may enjoy the attentions of a consort. A much broader approach to a healthy sex life.
The French also appreciate that this is essential for a healthy stress free life.
We can bang on about it as long as we like; but until we adopt the French approach to the real meaning of life-love-fidelity and what is really important for the whole family; we havent a hope in hell of resolving the problem.

Now I fully appreciate that this forum is open and mild xenophobia occurs from time to time. Occasionally other nationalities might have long hit upon a better way of doing "it".
But just in case we worry that we hadn't thought of it at the beginning let us take a good look at the way the Victorians approached meeting their needs. They were at it like Rabbits the lot of 'em. Or are we going to live in denial?
We really should grow up
PP


Sparquin

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Gentlemen, Both Frenchie and MH have in various ways described the malaise that sets in once married life has taken its toll.

The French have a very good approach to Married life. Mistresses are the order of play. French women are more than happy to let their men seek the services of other women so long as they fulfill the Marital commitment to them, the family and the home. Let some other bimbo sort out his urges and I'll get on with the business of running the family. Occasionally she may require the services of her husband /partner. In that case it's a double whammy for him. And as long as he comes up trumps she is satisfied.
French women also take much better care of themselves and enjoy being sexually attractive. Less so some of our British domestic godesses.
It is sometimes the case that they too may enjoy the attentions of a consort. A much broader approach to a healthy sex life.
The French also appreciate that this is essential for a healthy stress free life.
We can bang on about it as long as we like; but until we adopt the French approach to the real meaning of life-love-fidelity and what is really important for the whole family; we havent a hope in hell of resolving the problem.

Now I fully appreciate that this forum is open and mild xenophobia occurs from time to time. Occasionally other nationalities might have long hit upon a better way of doing "it".
But just in case we worry that we hadn't thought of it at the beginning let us take a good look at the way the Victorians approached meeting their needs. They were at it like Rabbits the lot of 'em. Or are we going to live in denial?
We really should grow up
PP

So I am very grateful that my favorite provider who is French and epitomizes the values described is arriving in town tomorrow.
« Last Edit: August 11, 2014, 03:07:11 am by Sparquin »

JV547845

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It turned out that she had refused sex FOR THREE YEARS !!!!!!!!..and then wonders why he went !

Ha ha ha!

Offline CBPaul

I am afraid that I`m never sure whether to be sympathetic or condemnatory when I read postings of this nature, but I must confess that my first inclination is to ask "Just how hard have you actually tried to have a good sexual relation ship in your marriage before you decided it was easier to go out and fuck a prossie?". It`s an odd fact of life, that although very few men want to marry a prossie, most of them nevertheless expect their new wives to come ready equipped with all the sexual knowledge and attributes of a prossie without actually having had any real experience. At the same time the men themselves, although they consider themselves God`s gift to women,  probably have only a very rudimentary knowledge of sex and little of the finer points and only the rutting instinct to guide them. So neither of them starts out equipped for a mutually happy sex life and the problem is that neither of them seems prepared to do anything about it - the wife gets little or no enjoyment, so gets bored and decides it not worth the bother, and the husband takes himself of to a prossie, who shows him what it`s all about.
AND IT`S THEIR OWN FAULT - BOTH OF THEM.

When my wife and I first started courting in our teens (in the 1940s) neither of us had had any sexual experience, but we experimented together - each of us finding out what pleased the other most - we bought sex manuals and read them in bed together, trying out everything we read, and we built up a most satisfactory sex life.  I can truthfully say that in all the years of my marriage I never once felt either the desire or the need to bed any other woman.  We started with sex every night, and even when we reached out 70s it was at least once each week. We knew all the positions we liked best, we both knew how to give the other the greatest pleasure, and we always finished with both of us completely satisfied. She would initiate sex as often as I did, and when her menstrual cycle prevented vaginal intercourse anal was always on offer (and she enjoyed it as much as I did).

When I had got over her death, and started punting none of the girls I saw gave me any better sex than I had had with my wife, and most of them nowhere near as good.

All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start

From a sex point of view it sounds like you had an amazing marriage and very lucky but I'm guessing in all those years you didn't punt, or moreover have affairs. It may have given you many years experience with one partner but no experience of variety and were very much in the minority with regards to your wife and sexual relationship. That would explain why your 'working harder from the start' bit is such rubbish.

Of all the punters on here who lament a fading sex life at home I doubt that many started out so poor and haven't worked at it. I would also worry if I had an hour with a prossie at it beat the early years with the wife in terms of the sexual high it gave.


As I previously stated there are lots of men who love and care about their wives but this one factor winds them up SO much that they look for alternative solution ...eg   punting . I don't think any married man enters into punting lightly - but once started it's very hard to stop.


Brilliant  :thumbsup:

Offline Boundless

As I previously stated there are lots of men who love and care about their wives but this one factor winds them up SO much that they look for alternative solution ...eg   punting . I don't think any married man enters into punting lightly - but once started it's very hard to stop.

Mrs Sam has no desire or interest in sex anymore, due to age, hormones, hysterectomy problems etc a situation that I totally accept without question as I love her and we have a great time together.
It's the intimacy with another person that I miss terribly and so that's when the punting began. I really dislike the lying that is a necessary part of it and I'm sure a lot of women would call me a cheating 2 faced bastard. the fact that I choose fit nubile 20 year olds instead of someone my wives age is a bit of a perk I suppose.

LycraAl

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Sadly, the domestic action here has been pretty dull and rare throughout a 30 year marriage. Not without hints and suggestions from me throughout, mind.

Dressing up in anything sexy? No. Sex toys? No. Blow jobs? No.  Good job we love each other loads in every other way...

So, given that, why do I punt? I'd explode if I didn't!

Offline Frenchie

Looks like I hit the nail on the head again !!!!

pierrot

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I am afraid that I`m never sure whether to be sympathetic or condemnatory when I read postings of this nature, but I must confess that my first inclination is to ask "Just how hard have you actually tried to have a good sexual relation ship in your marriage before you decided it was easier to go out and fuck a prossie?". It`s an odd fact of life, that although very few men want to marry a prossie, most of them nevertheless expect their new wives to come ready equipped with all the sexual knowledge and attributes of a prossie without actually having had any real experience. At the same time the men themselves, although they consider themselves God`s gift to women,  probably have only a very rudimentary knowledge of sex and little of the finer points and only the rutting instinct to guide them. So neither of them starts out equipped for a mutually happy sex life and the problem is that neither of them seems prepared to do anything about it - the wife gets little or no enjoyment, so gets bored and decides it not worth the bother, and the husband takes himself of to a prossie, who shows him what it`s all about.
AND IT`S THEIR OWN FAULT - BOTH OF THEM.

When my wife and I first started courting in our teens (in the 1940s) neither of us had had any sexual experience, but we experimented together - each of us finding out what pleased the other most - we bought sex manuals and read them in bed together, trying out everything we read, and we built up a most satisfactory sex life.  I can truthfully say that in all the years of my marriage I never once felt either the desire or the need to bed any other woman.  We started with sex every night, and even when we reached out 70s it was at least once each week. We knew all the positions we liked best, we both knew how to give the other the greatest pleasure, and we always finished with both of us completely satisfied. She would initiate sex as often as I did, and when her menstrual cycle prevented vaginal intercourse anal was always on offer (and she enjoyed it as much as I did).

When I had got over her death, and started punting none of the girls I saw gave me any better sex than I had had with my wife, and most of them nowhere near as good.

All I can say is that most of those who complain about sex with their wives have only themselves to blame for not working harder at it from the start


Arent you the lucky cunt.