I know I said I'd tapout fellas but, in my defence I have to add it did not take me 40 minutes to leave her place. She argued with me for 30 of those minutes, then tried to get me to change her mind for 5 and it took me 5 minutes to leave (whilst gathering my stuff).
I think you may be genuinely somewhere on the autistic scale, based on the above and other posts. You just don’t seem to get it, so let me spell it out for you:
1) You yourself said you left “after 40 minutes of hell”
2) 30 mins of arguing, then 5 mins of her trying to get you to change your mind followed by 5 mins of gathering your stuff (how much stuff did you have that it took 5 whole mins to gather up) is a total of 40 mins. None of which would have been pleasant.
3) You’re really trying to make yourself look better by saying it “only” took you 30 mins to get out of her place? It was immediately apparent that she didn’t want you there so you should have left after 2 mins, not 30! You had no reason to prolong the meeting if the atmosphere was that bad. It was obvious there was still bad blood and therefore the punt wasn’t going to be up to much even if you somehow ironed it out, so why stay and argue it out when it was obvious she wanted you out??
None of which justifies her having someone threaten you, which we now know is what happened. Trying to justify it by saying she didn’t know how far it would go is silly - did she think her friend was going to just ask nicely? She knew the kind of word he was going to have and therefore sanctioned it. Awful behaviour.
You need to give up punting. Paloma needs to give up escorting (having someone threaten a punter is totally unacceptable). Neither of you seem to have the faintest idea of where to draw the line in the SP/SS relationship. I doubt either of you will escape a banning from here now, and it would be well deserved in both cases.