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Offline Gaffer58

We all have our own peccadilloes , fetishes , wants , needs , call them what you like . But is there anything you will try to push a WG to do for you that’s not on her list , or in your agreement ?

Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .

 So come on guys what boundaries do you push ?

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We all have our own peccadilloes , fetishes , wants , needs , call them what you like . But is there anything you will try to push a WG to do for you that’s not on her list , or in your agreement ?

Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .

 So come on guys what boundaries do you push ?
None, it's a cunts trick to do anything you know they don't do. Find one that does what you want then it's all agreed.

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 So come on guys what boundaries do you push ?

None whatsoever & I think it's very bad form from those like you, who do :thumbsdown:

Offline Moby Dick

Why push boundaries?
You just gunna get piss her off, she’ll have to redo her make up, cleanse her eyes, wash her hair.
You’ll probably get banned; and worse you will ruin it for the next punter.

No wonder some WG have a suspicious or even hostile attitude when cunts are pulling tricks like this. What next removing/splitting condoms when she ain’t looking?

If you don’t have consent then you are on dodgy ground.
Like Daviemac says find a lass that does it.
If its your “kink” to push boundaries then ask her to object as part of a roleplay.
Or do you do it because you don’t want to pay for extras. Always pushing to get something for nothing?

Offline Slaveofnature

Pushing boundaries is doing something that is non-consensual and is bang out of order and may be considered to be sexual assault.  It also shows contempt for the SP. If you need a fetish fulfilled there will always be someone out there that will do it for you if you are willing to pay for it. 

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We all have our own peccadilloes , fetishes , wants , needs , call them what you like . But is there anything you will try to push a WG to do for you that’s not on her list , or in your agreement ?

Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .

 So come on guys what boundaries do you push ?

I never do, at best it's rude and at worst it's performing a sexual act without consent and hence a sexual offence.
Particularly when you're enjoying said lack of consent "especially when they have said they don't do that".

It seems your views on punting behaviour have developed since you posted the top half of this in February:

Well said . If we cannot treat these ladies that keep us happy and satisfied with respect , why bother.

I have to say I take it as a challenge to get each and everyone I visit to at least enjoy themselves , but to me it’s a massive compliment if I can get them to cum . And I’m sorry but I do not believe that a woman can fake it if you know what your looking for
As for the hygiene thing , I’m a trucker , and if I cannot go clean and there are no  shower facilities available . I don’t go .  .


Offline Gaffer58

It’s going to sound like I am backtracking , but I would never do this without consent . I always ask , I would never do this without consent , but as ever there are people on here who just like to attack . So fill your boots .

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No, and frankly that's a rapists mindset. Have a word with yourself ffs.

Offline FLYING BLUE

It’s going to sound like I am backtracking , but I would never do this without consent . I always ask , I would never do this without consent , but as ever there are people on here who just like to attack . So fill your boots .

You asked for our thoughts but then claim you're being attacked when the responses don't fit your expectations??? - Get a grip FFS or don't ask controversial questions in the 1st place.

Offline Gaffer58

No, and frankly that's a rapists mindset. Have a word with yourself ffs.

I would very much like you to remove that remark as it is beyond offensive .

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It’s going to sound like I am backtracking , but I would never do this without consent . I always ask , I would never do this without consent , but as ever there are people on here who just like to attack . So fill your boots .

So when you said:

Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .


Were you just trolling us?

Guy  :dash:

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Well that’s me told lol
Did you really expect a pat on the back for being a boundary pusher, LOL. It's twats like you that give the decent punters a bad name and make escorts more cautious.

I think you are yet another one who has the totally wrong idea about this site. The vast majority on here are decent blokes who understand that when punting you have to stick to whatever boundaries the SP has set.  They aren't there for you to do as you like just because you've paid.

Offline Gaffer58

You asked for our thoughts but then claim you're being attacked when the responses don't fit your expectations??? - Get a grip FFS or don't ask controversial questions in the 1st place.

Yes it’s controversial , and yes I worded it badly . But a simple , would you like to rephrase or rethink the question would have done the job .
But as I say there are many in here who think full blown offence is acceptable ,as only their opinion counts .

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I would very much like you to remove that remark as it is beyond offensive .
There is not a cat in hells chance of any remarks made about you being removed, you deserve everything you get.

Read your OP again, it perfectly describes doing things with an escort that were not agreed or on her likes list. No good trying to backtrack now you've made it clear what type of person you are.

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"Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that" .
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Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .

Done this, but by accident, was aiming to cum over her stomach, but 4 spurts of spunk landed all over her face.   The escort wasn't to pleased, in fact at first she was raging, but soon found the funny side, as this was not my intention to come over her face.   

The way I was seated, my cock was aimed at her stomach, but as I began to come, guessing the contractions were strong, so sending my spunk further than expected.  She went for a shower to clean her self up, and from there everything was ok, we even talked about this, and I understood never to do this again

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It’s going to sound like I am backtracking , but I would never do this without consent . I always ask , I would never do this without consent , but as ever there are people on here who just like to attack . So fill your boots .

Sounds like you have had experience of this before, maybe in the past, under a different name   :D :D :D :D

Offline Moby Dick

It’s going to sound like I am backtracking , but I would never do this without consent . I always ask , I would never do this without consent , but as ever there are people on here who just like to attack . So fill your boots .

Backtracking?
More like a complete U turn


Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .


I hope you take note of the comments made and change your ways.
Hopefully others with a similar mindset may also have a re-think, so thanks for starting the thread,
But for now I don’t trust a word you say!


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Personally im happy if they just do what theyve agreed to do

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I would very much like you to remove that remark as it is beyond offensive .

No. I stand by it. Punters get enough of a hard time from the mainstream without this type of shit mentality being used against us. You're dealing with someone who fucks for money. Find a suitable prossie for your tastes, tell them what you want beforehand, agree the price and stick to your end of the bargain. It's not difficult.

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No, and frankly that's a rapists mindset. Have a word with yourself ffs.

Good post. :thumbsup: Fuck me you get some real knobs on here sometimes. :thumbsdown: :thumbsdown: :thumbsdown:

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Did you really expect a pat on the back for being a boundary pusher, LOL. It's twats like you that give the decent punters a bad name and make escorts more cautious.

Exactly  :thumbsup:
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Offline winkywanky

Well that’s me told lol


It's technically sexual assault (and also bang out of order IMO).

We all know that girls will sometimes do stuff not on their Enjoys list, but you don't simply force it on them  :thumbsdown:.

Offline jimbobted

Yes it’s controversial , and yes I worded it badly . But a simple , would you like to rephrase or rethink the question would have done the job .
But as I say there are many in here who think full blown offence is acceptable ,as only their opinion counts .
It's not controversial. What you're describing is sexual assault.
You pay a SP for a good time within the boundaries she sets. You go beyond that and you're just being a twat at best and more than likely a sex offender and you give the rest of us a bad name.
If you want to cum on a girl's face, find a SP who offers it.
I really like playing with subs, spanking, bondage etc but I make sure we establish very clear boundaries before the session and I ensure I stay well within them. I wouldn't dream of pushing boundaries. It's not like there's a lack of choice out there - just find someone who offer what you want.

Offline Belgarion

We all have our own peccadilloes , fetishes , wants , needs , call them what you like . But is there anything you will try to push a WG to do for you that’s not on her list , or in your agreement ?

Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .

 So come on guys what boundaries do you push ?

Interesting post. Imagine for a second the SP wants to push your boundaries with a strap on which isn't something you were after and she tried her best to push your boundaries.

Do you consider that appropriate behaviour?


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OP sounds like a right arsehole.

No means no and respect is a two way street.

Offline anyfucker

No. I stand by it. Punters get enough of a hard time from the mainstream without this type of shit mentality being used against us. You're dealing with someone who fucks for money. Find a suitable prossie for your tastes, tell them what you want beforehand, agree the price and stick to your end of the bargain. It's not difficult.
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Offline Woblybobsdog

No, and frankly that's a rapists mindset. Have a word with yourself ffs.

This.the op is a fucking knob. Unlikely to get a good service this or any other time.


Offline Richthescouser


It's technically sexual assault (and also bang out of order IMO).

We all know that girls will sometimes do stuff not on their Enjoys list, but you don't simply force it on them  :thumbsdown:.

With a regular I fancied doing some stuff that wasn’t on her normal list of likes. After one meeting I asked if she’d be interested in doing it, making sure she understood that I’d be going elsewhere to scratch that itch but coming back to her afterwards if she said no. She was happy enough to go ahead with the meet, but if she’d said no I’d have taken it politely and not let it sour the relationship. That’s about as far as I’d go pushing boundaries, and I did it at the end of the meeting so there wasn’t pressure on her to say yes to do it there and then, let her think about it.

Anything else is just dodgy.

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That is proper snide.

A few years back a regular was telling me about clients she'd blocked and for what reasons. 
Apart from bad hygiene the next most common were boundary pushers who try their best to "get one over on the SP" as it makes them feel big and powerful.   She said one client had deliberately cum over her face when she doesn't allow that and she punched his cock as hard as she could.  Now I've not been punched in the cock when it's hard but I expect that isn't a pleasant feeling.

Have a word with yourself and stop being a twat.
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Interesting post. Imagine for a second the SP wants to push your boundaries with a strap on which isn't something you were after and she tried her best to push your boundaries.

Do you consider that appropriate behaviour?

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It’s going to sound like I am backtracking , but I would never do this without consent . I always ask , I would never do this without consent , but as ever there are people on here who just like to attack . So fill your boots .

backtracking is exactly what you are doing, bacause you didn’t get the responses you thought you would.
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Offline Punterperson1971

It’s going to sound like I am backtracking , but I would never do this without consent . I always ask , I would never do this without consent , but as ever there are people on here who just like to attack . So fill your boots .
If they’ve said no to a facial and you actually ignore them saying that,isn’t that taking the piss as they’ve not consented to you doing it.

Offline winkywanky

With a regular I fancied doing some stuff that wasn’t on her normal list of likes. After one meeting I asked if she’d be interested in doing it, making sure she understood that I’d be going elsewhere to scratch that itch but coming back to her afterwards if she said no. She was happy enough to go ahead with the meet, but if she’d said no I’d have taken it politely and not let it sour the relationship. That’s about as far as I’d go pushing boundaries, and I did it at the end of the meeting so there wasn’t pressure on her to say yes to do it there and then, let her think about it.

Anything else is just dodgy.


Yes I think asking nicely is fine. The answer might be no and that's also fine.

Some girls will throw a hissy fit if you even ask for something  not on their list (depending what it is, particularly bareback) but that's the risk you take.

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Not a hobby where you want anyone to feel uncomfortable. Consequences to creating tension could lead to a very nasty situation. There is a basic protocol for displaying services before a meet. That's why so many users here are rightly pissed off when they were told they could be given a certain service but it's refused in person.

Luckily the main thing I like on a punt is dfk + facesitting. Dfk is nearly always clearly advertised and I won't see a girl who doesn't do it. Facesitting also seems to be one of the favourite services to perform for most wgs so I've never had any issues!

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It’s going to sound like I am backtracking , but I would never do this without consent . I always ask , I would never do this without consent , but as ever there are people on here who just like to attack . So fill your boots .

So what was the point of the question?

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I would very much like you to remove that remark as it is beyond offensive .

But accurate

Offline Briddy

Personally im happy if they just do what theyve agreed to do
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Offline Stevelondon

UKP is a forum that should come with a health warning.
Watch what you say and mind your tongue.

Personally it’s refreshing to hear such honesty instead of people mumbling around a retort.

If a WG has boundaries then respect it.

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A successful fishing trip for the OP.
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A successful fishing trip for the OP.

Indeed, I would anticipate he has a list of "boundary pushing" (sexual assault) stories that he was rearing to tell us once we shared our experiences.

It's people like the OP that give decent punters a bad name. 
Should a journo decide to do some research on here, it's posts like the OP's they'd hone in on reinforcing the negative image of punters.




Offline Picti

We all have our own peccadilloes , fetishes , wants , needs , call them what you like . But is there anything you will try to push a WG to do for you that’s not on her list , or in your agreement ?

Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .

 So come on guys what boundaries do you push ?

What you describe is disrespectful, abusive, and exploitative behaviour. It's a little ego trip to get something from a SP that she doesn't offer to others, and your ego allows you to delude yourself by ignoring that you achieved this by trickery, disregard, and fuckery. No better than the "try to slip it in" merchants.

You pay the consequences when she doesn't see you again, but other punters also pay for your abhorrent behaviour when she's anxious, defensive, etc and that impacts on the quality of their punts.

Try treating a woman with a bit of respect, build up trust and familiarity, and then discuss and agree any additional services on the basis of informed consent, clear and adhered with boundaries, additional fee, etc. You'd be surprised at what SPs will agree to when you approach things in the right way, because yes I do enjoy mutually agreed extension of boundaries and find them an excellent way of exploring different activities with a regular.
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Just plain wrong and a twats trick to push a girl's boundaries outside what you know she does and doesn't offer - shame on you :thumbsdown:

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I think you are yet another one who has the totally wrong idea about this site. The vast majority on here are decent blokes who understand that when punting you have to stick to whatever boundaries the SP has set.  They aren't there for you to do as you like just because you've paid.

This

Also, I like my freaky shit, but I agree everything up front, and never once would I try to ‘surprise’ a girl with new requests/demands at the meet.

Offline Milfman1112

We all have our own peccadilloes , fetishes , wants , needs , call them what you like . But is there anything you will try to push a WG to do for you that’s not on her list , or in your agreement ?

Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .

 So come on guys what boundaries do you push ?

I knobs like you that piss girls off and spoil it for decent punters.

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This

Also, I like my freaky shit, but I agree everything up front, and never once would I try to ‘surprise’ a girl with new requests/demands at the meet.

Agree to a point, with massage sessions, I’ve been asked what I like or fantasise about.
And having mentioned something not on the agenda, we’ve indulged.

Totally consensually of course.
The OP has stirred quite a bit of feeling on here, and rightly so, it’s just as well I’m not a mod as I’d have prolly banned him.  But I can be a bit fickle in my old age.

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Agree to a point, with massage sessions, I’ve been asked what I like or fantasise about.
And having mentioned something not on the agenda, we’ve indulged.

Totally consensually of course.
The OP has stirred quite a bit of feeling on here, and rightly so, it’s just as well I’m not a mod as I’d have prolly banned him.  But I can be a bit fickle in my old age.

That is a mutual agreement though, basically the same as agreeing upfront and nothing like the suggestion by the OP.

Of course things happen during a massage or a punt that were not offered or expected, two humans naked, good chemistry, mutual attraction, they all play a part but that is communicated and agreed during the punt not done in a sneaky way.
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Offline SamOmar

I would very much like you to remove that remark as it is beyond offensive .

Everyone here is being far to polite with you, your review (lacks any detail) is for a WG that barely does oral without let alone CIM let alone Facials, You left details out so god knows how she might have been treated, Either you are scum who think he can get away with anything or your just an outright troll with a fake review.
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Offline SALIBA

This hasn't gone the way OP expected. I agree with the general opinions here though. Pushing boundaries is out of order.
And yes, if you do anything which isn't consensual it is classed as rape.

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