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Offline ShamrockLDN

As a fairly new joiner to the punting scene I’m heartened by the responses on this thread. Clearly other punters (like myself) have genuine respect for SPs. It just proves the vast majority of us are respectful lads and not dirtbags  :drinks:

An SP should never be subjected to something she’s not comfortable with.

Tbh, I once asked an SP if I could do something with her and she politely said ‘Actually, No I don’t like that’. I replied ‘OK, no worries’. And they was the end of it. The girl should never be tricked or forced. Just find another lass who is comfortable to do what you want.
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Offline Yakata

If you don't ask, you don't get but if they say they don't do something then I'll respect that.

Offline Milfman1112

We all have our own peccadilloes , fetishes , wants , needs , call them what you like . But is there anything you will try to push a WG to do for you that’s not on her list , or in your agreement ?

Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .

 So come on guys what boundaries do you push ?

It's knobs like you that piss off/upset girls and give punters a bad reputation,  as for back tracking, you said you like to cut in thier face to push boundaries,  you never said you would ask, at which point if she doesn't like it she would refuse,
As for asking people to take back comments,  what did you expect people to say?
So yes, have a word with yourself,   knob.

Offline PLeisure

Epic dick move by the OP. Must have gotten far in life, eh  :sarcastic:

And then gets all butt hurt when his behaviour aligned to a rapist's.

Loser trash  :thumbsdown: :bomb:  :rolleyes:

Offline Richthescouser


Yes I think asking nicely is fine. The answer might be no and that's also fine.

Some girls will throw a hissy fit if you even ask for something  not on their list (depending what it is, particularly bareback) but that's the risk you take.

There’s some other stuff that she has said is an absolute no, and that’s fine. Still meet up, still have fun ado don’t push those limits.

Offline Punterperson1971

I think op is bang out of order on this especially then trying to back track and he’s been on here since and hasn’t come back to defend his post,if I meet a new wg and she lays down the ground rules like no owo,cim or facial then I will respect it 1000%.
Also a few regulars I see I won’t push their boundaries and I think if you behave and be respectful then you would get a good service but be shitty to them and no wonder they don’t respond to you.

Offline Stevelondon

So I turned up at this SP's apartment. Smart block in the west end.
She had been on my hit list for quite some time. Utterly gorgeous.
She answers the door and my jaw nearly hits the floor......perfection personified.
Its bucketing down outside so I hurry inside.

Once we are in the room and I am sorting out the paperwork. I casually drop into the conversation that I am into watersports and scat play.
"If I can shit on your face and piss in your mouth that would be great" I ask.

She goes mental. Calling me a pervert, weird madman and starts shouting at me to get out and never come back.

Lesson learned my friends and especially to the OP.

If you turn up at a smart apartment block and its pissing down. Always wipe your shoes before going in. Otherwise they get really upset.

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I think op is bang out of order on this especially then trying to back track and he’s been on here since and hasn’t come back to defend his post

He can't defend his post. It was just bang out of order and is indefensible.

Offline Mr_Shins

Asking for services that are not on a WGs list prior to making a booking is acceptable. That's assuming she has not specifically said she does NOT offer these services. You can enquire, and if she says "sorry I don't do that" then either find someone else, or book her but don't expect her to do it.

Confirm the length of the booking and what it will cost with those things you have requested from her, then turn up.

It's actually a place where agencies might be useful, because you could request a girl who does all the things on your want list, and they could ask around those on their books.

There is a difference between requesting something prior to the booking and boundary pushing, whereby you try to force her to do something whilst you are in the booking, thinking that because you are paying you have the right to anything you want.

Offline David1970

My last punt I visited an SP who worked for an agency, she had A level on her profile (since removed). I asked the SP for A level and she told me it’s not a thing she did, I pointed out it was on her profile, she said the profile was wrong.
I would never dream of forcing her to do A level against her will as this would be rape.
The OP comes over as a total cunt, who wants to get his kicks by forcing woman to do things against their will.

Offline SamOmar

My last punt I visited an SP who worked for an agency, she had A level on her profile (since removed). I asked the SP for A level and she told me it’s not a thing she did, I pointed out it was on her profile, she said the profile was wrong.
I would never dream of forcing her to do A level against her will as this would be rape.
The OP comes over as a total cunt, who wants to get his kicks by forcing woman to do things against their will.

I really believe OP is just a fantasist and a troll
Banned reason: Undesirable, convicted sex trafficker / pimp
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If the OP meant his post in the way most are interpreting it then I agree 100% with the condemnation, no question.

However I do wonder if what he actually meant was that you persuade  a WG to do something with you that she would not normally offer. Completely consensual. My only personal example would be I asked a WG I had seen a few times if she would give role playing a go despite it being something that she said on her profile she did not do. We gave it a go and it was A laugh. She still does not offer it but I honestly do not believe she was offended or annoyed in the slightest.

On a slight tangent I remember having a great BJ and building to an explosion but could not remember if she had CIM on her likes. She seemed to be going for it but just in case I asked the question, answer a definite no. We need to be respectful.

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If the OP meant his post in the way most are interpreting it then I agree 100% with the condemnation, no question.

However I do wonder if what he actually meant was that you persuade  a WG to do something with you that she would not normally offer. Completely consensual. My only personal example would be I asked a WG I had seen a few times if she would give role playing a go despite it being something that she said on her profile she did not do. We gave it a go and it was A laugh. She still does not offer it but I honestly do not believe she was offended or annoyed in the slightest.

On a slight tangent I remember having a great BJ and building to an explosion but could not remember if she had CIM on her likes. She seemed to be going for it but just in case I asked the question, answer a definite no. We need to be respectful.

I think he was pretty clear what he meant when he said:


Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .


He's clearly expressing that part of his enjoyment is doing something they have specifically said they do not do.

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I think he was pretty clear what he meant when he said:

He's clearly expressing that part of his enjoyment is doing something they have specifically said they do not do.

You are probably right, however he might have meant that they say they do not do it but agree to with you.  Even that is a thin defence because if you have hectored them into it that is bad behaviour. I am not really defending him, he comes across very badly. 

Offline Charlie Chalk

On a slight tangent I remember having a great BJ and building to an explosion but could not remember if she had CIM on her likes. She seemed to be going for it but just in case I asked the question, answer a definite no. We need to be respectful.
This exact same thing happened to me. I asked, she said no, I said “that’s fine, I’ll make sure I give you plenty of warning before I cum” and we carried on. That’s the closest I’ve ever come to “boundary pushing”. If I ever have a reg that I’ve seen often and I fancy something that’s not on her likes list (but equally hasn’t said she specifically doesn’t offer) then I might suggest, if she ever did change her mind, that I’d be interested but that’s it. I’d hate to think I was responsible for trying to coerce or pressurise a WG in any way, that’s totally unacceptable behaviour. What the OP has provided as an example and what he’s alluding to is assault, plain and simple.

Offline Grumpy Pumpy

I did wonder whether this needed any further, confirmatory, response. But I thinks its important that the OP - and any others of a similar mindset - realise that there is an overwhelming opposition to cuntish behavior like this.

It is wrong. And should never be tolerated or condoned  :angry:

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Offline notcalledchris

Op sounds like a rapist  :scare:

Either a rapist or a fantasist.  Niether of which should be welcome round here.

Offline winkywanky

If the OP meant his post in the way most are interpreting it then I agree 100% with the condemnation, no question.

However I do wonder if what he actually meant was that you persuade  a WG to do something with you that she would not normally offer. Completely consensual. My only personal example would be I asked a WG I had seen a few times if she would give role playing a go despite it being something that she said on her profile she did not do. We gave it a go and it was A laugh. She still does not offer it but I honestly do not believe she was offended or annoyed in the slightest.

On a slight tangent I remember having a great BJ and building to an explosion but could not remember if she had CIM on her likes. She seemed to be going for it but just in case I asked the question, answer a definite no. We need to be respectful.


Interesting point. In that exact situation, you know what I would do (and have done)? I wouldn't have asked if she was going to CIM because it might simply have reminded her that she didn't do it. I would simply have made it abundantly clear that I was about to cum (perhaps even uttering the immortal words I'm cumming  :D) and simply see what she did as events unfolded. On a few such occasions over the years, I have unloaded into the girl's mouth, perhaps even with a swallow thrown in  :hi:. In this way, I haven't been deceptive, and the WG has made the choice, on the spot.

In the heat of the moment some WGs will do stuff not on the list because they are actually getting off as much as you are. Small example from me, after rimming the fuck out of a hot teen WG I saw a few years ago, she obviously decided it was a horny thing to do because it was making her moan so much, and she then proceeded to do exactly the same thing to me, a guy old enough to be her dad. It wasn't on her Enjoys list, and when I asked her afterwards she said she'd never done it before. I'd like to think her next bf would have thanked me  :drinks:.

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We all have our own peccadilloes , fetishes , wants , needs , call them what you like . But is there anything you will try to push a WG to do for you that’s not on her list , or in your agreement ?

Mine is coming on her face , especially when they have said they do not do that .

 So come on guys what boundaries do you push ?

Oh dear lol. Hang on, you remind me of that poster...what was his name "Bush" was it? He had similar threads like this.
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Interesting point. In that exact situation, you know what I would do (and have done)? I wouldn't have asked if she was going to CIM because it might simply have reminded her that she didn't do it. I would simply have made it abundantly clear that I was about to cum (perhaps even uttering the immortal words I'm cumming  :D) and simply see what she did as events unfolded. On a few such occasions over the years, I have unloaded into the girl's mouth, perhaps even with a swallow thrown in  :hi:. In this way, I haven't been deceptive, and the WG has made the choice, on the spot.

In the heat of the moment some WGs will do stuff not on the list because they are actually getting off as much as you are. Small example from me, after rimming the fuck out of a hot teen WG I saw a few years ago, she obviously decided it was a horny thing to do because it was making her moan so much, and she then proceeded to do exactly the same thing to me, a guy old enough to be her dad. It wasn't on her Enjoys list, and when I asked her afterwards she said she'd never done it before. I'd like to think her next bf would have thanked me  :drinks:.

I was not really capable of much rationale thought to be honest!!

Of course the opposite is also annoying, the girl says she does CIM but then as you are releasing she has slipped you out of her mouth! 

Offline Stevelondon

I was not really capable of much rationale thought to be honest!!

Of course the opposite is also annoying, the girl says she does CIM but then as you are releasing she has slipped you out of her mouth!


Mmmmmm...I get where your coming from (No pun intended)
But more a case of poor service rather than a boundary push.

Offline samalison199

its a rapist mentality really. finding pleasure in someone elses discomfort when theres girls who will happily do the service provided. 

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 :hi: Many of us on here are not in to "pushing Boundaries" but exploring what our own boundaries  :hi:

SP`s agree service and we stick to whats agreed simples .Some SPs I have been with have asked and pushed my boundries ...Vibraters up my arse Butt Plugs Squezzing my Balls till I thought shed burst them and laughing at my pain threshhold tiying up ball sack ect sitting on my face ....Those are the things that I thought were boundries to me Until I saw a TS a few years ago who topped me and wanked me at same time , I have no idea how they cuved their back down enough :wacko: but they even managed to blow job me as they topped me :unknown:.  :crazy: Going to swingers events and parties ...there is a code which we stick to and behave acordingly .. I think poster has confirmed he is not the sort of person this site wants to have :hi:
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If the OP meant his post in the way most are interpreting it then I agree 100% with the condemnation, no question.

However I do wonder if what he actually meant was that you persuade  a WG to do something with you that she would not normally offer. Completely consensual. My only personal example would be I asked a WG I had seen a few times if she would give role playing a go despite it being something that she said on her profile she did not do. We gave it a go and it was A laugh. She still does not offer it but I honestly do not believe she was offended or annoyed in the slightest.

On a slight tangent I remember having a great BJ and building to an explosion but could not remember if she had CIM on her likes. She seemed to be going for it but just in case I asked the question, answer a definite no. We need to be respectful.
After rereading it and his other comments, I also think that this is possible. If so, it was worded terribly.

Still, I wouldn't take kindly to someone trying to persuade me to do something I don't normally do.
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After rereading it and his other comments, I also think that this is possible. If so, it was worded terribly.

Still, I wouldn't take kindly to someone trying to persuade me to do something I don't normally do.

You may be right, it's a generous view.

A line in his review of Laila suggests he's a boundary pusher.
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Her likes include BDSM, Domination, Humiliation, Spanking, all as "giving" only.  That is no "receiving".

In his review he comments "but as time goes on I feel she will find she likes being submissive . Which has got my motor running again  :D"

It gets his "motor running" to either persuade SPs to do things that aren't on their "likes", or in the case of his OP on here, just do it anyway.

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After rereading it and his other comments, I also think that this is possible. If so, it was worded terribly.

Still, I wouldn't take kindly to someone trying to persuade me to do something I don't normally do.
If he meant 'persuade' he could've clarified that in reply #2, he didn't, he waited until a further 4 had condemned his actions before backtracking.  If it were me I would want to clear any misunderstanding up as soon as I could.

The unfortunate thing is some people do think they can do what they like to an escort because they've paid.

Offline Milfman1112

He hasn't come back to defend himsekf,
Probs just trolling.

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After rereading it and his other comments, I also think that this is possible. If so, it was worded terribly.

Still, I wouldn't take kindly to someone trying to persuade me to do something I don't normally do.

Quite.

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You may be right, it's a generous view.

A line in his review of Laila suggests he's a boundary pusher.
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Her likes include BDSM, Domination, Humiliation, Spanking, all as "giving" only.  That is no "receiving".

In his review he comments "but as time goes on I feel she will find she likes being submissive . Which has got my motor running again  :D"

It gets his "motor running" to either persuade SPs to do things that aren't on their "likes", or in the case of his OP on here, just do it anyway.

Guy

Good find.  I withdraw my possible defence!! As others have said he could have clarified so I think his meaning was as it has been taken.

Offline Stevelondon

Of course he might just be a cricket player and that kind of thing is in his nature.

No........

I'll get me coat.

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Of course he might just be a cricket player and that kind of thing is in his nature.

No........

I'll get me coat.

 :lol:

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Of course he might just be a cricket player and that kind of thing is in his nature.

No........

I'll get me coat.
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Online myothernameis

He hasn't come back to defend himsekf,
Probs just trolling.

He had logged in today at 4:45 pm, probably to gloat at us, and the replies.   Maybe we should have a new rule, if your a new member, and make a thread, you would be expected to reply, and not just log in and watch, you should be engaging in the thread

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He had logged in today at 4:45 pm, probably to gloat at us, and the replies.   Maybe we should have a new rule, if your a new member, and make a thread, you would be expected to reply, and not just log in and watch, you should be engaging in the thread

Unless you’re a bit rapey

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I'm sure SPs who've had to leave treatment rooms topless and get receptionists to call the police because some abusive cunt won't take no for an answer about sex will be LOLz too.

Offline David1970

The OP is sitting back and enjoying the reaction he has caused by his original post, keeps checking in to enjoy his work.

Offline The0neAnd0nly

Seen this for the first time and have to add that I think its absolutely disgusting behaviour to "push the boundary" and come on anyones face when they've already asked you not to do that.

Not cool at all  :thumbsdown:

Offline Neo

No, as I dont want them to call the police by claiming rape, getting one of their handlers to beat me up, or end up following me. Besides its a prick move to do.

Offline pbrown355

I hope this has made it clear to all of us, and anyone observing from the outside who may have an agenda or be looking for a story, that the OP's behaviour is not what is generally thought of as acceptable. Rather than checking in smugly I hope the OP is looking at the comments and reflecting that his behaviour is unacceptable. I somehow doubt it. His review looks slightly worrying when viewed in the light of his post.