Help uber transaction spotted

[Blackpool Rock]

I read it. It is exactly as you described in your post. Joint account, said the culprit said he does not use uber. A true skeptical cynic would think you as the OP of this thread and the OP of the other thread are the same person due to how accurate the situation was. She was suspicious as it was clear he was lying and nervous but was not sure about what. She was asking for advice on what to do. She was going to contact uber to trace the history or go to the bank as the culprit said they do not use uber. One member of the site who happens to read UKP said they spotted the thread in the morning, saw the other OP's post later on during the day and made the connection, hence she (OP of the other site thread) discovered this site and said she wanted time alone to think about her nexts steps and asked for the thread to be deleted. Other members of the site were then asking what punting was or were horrified to find out such a site exists. Some members were asking OP to ask the culprit of the Uber fare what UKP is to see their reaction. Part of the OP of the other site did honestly think the culprit of the uber trip fare was not cheating on her until the keen investigator brought up this site and linked the two threads. Which was why I made a post earlier saying you should try to get this thread deleted but you were offline. It was at that point both threads became linked.

That's a summary of the 4 pages of the thread before it got deleted.

Yeah but I also picked up that she was already suspicious about her OH before the Uber fare, wasn't there reference to suspecting he may have been having an affair 

Also the MN thread had an OP whose name I can't remember but there was reference in her name to a hotel chain which I believe was the Ibis so if the OH works there then odds on it's her.
Presumably as he's still on here she hasn't got hold of him yet but perhaps she works evenings in the hotel etc.

Then again if she works in a hotel she's probably used to knowing which guests are whoring and watching punters come and go 

[Payyourwaymate]

Well I think that well and truly links the two threads.   

It's too late for him anyway, the least I can do for him is to give him all of the information so he knows what he is dealing with as the potential alleged culprit...we still do not know if it truly is him or there is another punter in the same hypothetical situation. Plus, don't really want him to go into the lions den like a gullible lamb to the slaughter. I can see him going in willy nilly and she is armed to the tee with information and plans to make him pay for what he done....allegedly. He seems less concerned about this whole potential mess than I am and I don't have a girlfriend to worry about cheating on .

[Payyourwaymate]

Yeah but I also picked up that she was already suspicious about her OH before the Uber fare, wasn't there reference to suspecting he may have been having an affair

Also the MN thread had an OP whose name I can't remember but there was reference in her name to a hotel chain which I believe was the Ibis so if the OH works there then odds on it's her.
Presumably as he's still on here she hasn't got hold of him yet but perhaps she works evenings in the hotel etc.

Then again if she works in a hotel she's probably used to knowing which guests are whoring and watching punters come and go 

Yes there was, I forgot about that aswell. I did not see that part about the hotel though, I was skimming quickly.

[daviemac]

It's too late for him anyway, the least I can do for him is to give him all of the information so he knows what he is dealing with as the potential alleged culprit...we still do not know if it truly is him or there is another punter in the same hypothetical situation. Plus, don't really want him to go into the lions den like a gullible lamb to the slaughter. I can see him going in willy nilly and she is armed to the tee with information and plans to make him pay for what he done....allegedly. He seems less concerned about this whole potential mess than I am and I don't have a girlfriend to worry about cheating on .

Along with off topic PMs can't be seen in public either, nothing you are telling him is of any use to other punters, it is useful to his OH though, it all goes towards the bigger picture.

[Blackpool Rock]

Well the OP has been offline for about an hour, rumour has it his OH has come home from work and is currently "Discussing" things with him on a live not allowed feed 

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[Natwest]

As someone who "got caught" four years ago, though we all love a bit of gallows humour, I can tell you it is the most painful and awful experience. To see the hurt you have caused...... The trouble is we do see it as a hobby like playing golf etc but lose sight of what the other half feels looking at it from her side. Whilst I am happily living on my own after the divorce and enjoying no longer having to sneak around, I could never do that to another person again. The memory of how she was after she found out haunts me to this day.

[winkywanky]

Well the OP has been offline for about an hour, rumour has it his OH has come home from work and is currently "Discussing" things with him on a live not allowed feed 

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Trial (and subsequent execution) by not allowed.

I do hope they make it quick and clean.

[Payyourwaymate]

Along with off topic PMs can't be seen in public either, nothing you are telling him is of any use to other punters, it is useful to his OH though, it all goes towards the bigger picture.

You are right there, she already knew what I stated though. I just relayed what happened to the potential alleged culprit. Well, what ever happens to OP as the alleged culprit; one is innocent until proven guilty. He really should have never made this thread in the first place to be honest and lied through his teeth in regards to the alleged action of the uber. Would have been better than this. Plus, he could be forgiven... I've seen women forgive men for worse than being cheated on. It depends on what sort of woman of the alleged culprit is like, as I said in one of my earlier posts. He could pay a steep price or get away if he can handle himself well. I hope other married punters learn how to cover their tracks properly or learn to lie with the skills of a highly functioning sociopath.

[winkywanky]

As someone who "got caught" four years ago, though we all love a bit of gallows humour, I can tell you it is the most painful and awful experience. To see the hurt you have caused...... The trouble is we do see it as a hobby like playing golf etc but lose sight of what the other half feels looking at it from her side. Whilst I am happily living on my own after the divorce and enjoying no longer having to sneak around, I could never do that to another person again. The memory of how she was after she found out haunts me to this day.

Fair point, well made.

There's allsorts on here who punt for all kinds of reasons, and and have all kinds of situations at home - we are loath to judge, lest we be judged ourselves.

But everyone needs to consider what the fallout would be should they get found out. Be that ridicule from your mates/colleagues/family as a singleton, or a messy and expensive divorce with kids and extended family involved.

It doesn't bear thinking about. And for that reason, you should think about it.

[daviemac]

You are right there, she already knew what I stated though. I just relayed what happened to the potential alleged culprit. Well, what ever happens to OP as the alleged culprit; one is innocent until proven guilty. Plus, he could be forgiven... I've seen women forgive men for worse than being cheated on. It depends on what sort of woman of the alleged culprit is like, as I said in one of my earlier posts. He could pay a steep price or get away if he can handle himself well. I hope other married punters learn how to cover their tracks properly or learn to lie with the skills of a highly functioning sociopath.

The only thing I'll disagree with in that statement is the innocent until proven guilty, women tend to presume guilt, even when there is proof of innocence the man is guilty of something. Oh and 10 years down the line it will be brought up again.

[Payyourwaymate]

The only thing I'll disagree with in that statement is the innocent until proven guilty, women tend to presume guilt, even when there is proof of innocence the man is guilty of something. Oh and 10 years down the line it will be brought up again.

Hmmm yes, dealing with women is not like the court of law. Silly me  .

[Blackpool Rock]

Hmmm yes, dealing with women is not like the court of law. Silly me  .

Yeah men always go wrong trying to argue with facts 

[Home Alone]

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But everyone needs to consider what the fallout would be should they get found out. Be that ridicule from your mates/colleagues/family as a singleton, or a messy and expensive divorce with kids and extended family involved.

It doesn't bear thinking about. And for that reason, you should think about it.

Indeed. It can lead to feelings of paranoia. Recently an old colleague of mine who's in the habit of emailing 'joke' photos and videos sent me one which I'd known previously only as southcoastpunter's avatar!

Was he telling me that somehow he'd worked out who was Home Alone? He knew that the OH had left me 16 or 17 years ago, but it had never occurred to me that he'd recognised some of my comments and maybe the style - for want of a better word! - of my writing.

Those thoughts passed soon enough; but for a short while, I thought my 'guilty little secret' had been discovered!

[Watts.E.Dunn]

I wondered earlier if this may be a co-incidence adult population of the UK what some 67 Million adults say 20 plus  years some what say 47 Million ?. Alough sounding very similar thats a 1 in 47,000,000 possibiliuty?.  OK knock of a few more million for pensioners and people of sexually active age?. Seems a very good possibility of there may be more then just the one UBER user under suspicions circumstances.

OK how many if you were in a Jury convict the offender as charged on those odds ?.

Bet you wouldnt!

[Punterperson1971]

They bring up things you’ve done down the line regardless,having digs at you when you’ve done nothing wrong that day/week or month constantly reminding you of what you’ve done

[GingerNuts]

I wondered earlier if this may be a co-incidence adult population of the UK what some 67 Million adults say 20 plus  years some what say 47 Million ?. Alough sounding very similar thats a 1 in 47,000,000 possibiliuty?.  OK knock of a few more million for pensioners and people of sexually active age?. Seems a very good possibility of there may be more then just the one UBER user under suspicions circumstances.

OK how many if you were in a Jury convict the offender as charged on those odds ?.

Bet you wouldnt!

Wives aren't judging husbands based on the criminal standard of proof.

[Home Alone]

Wives aren't judging husbands based on the criminal standard of proof.

Nor do they believe in the concept of a 'spent offence'. It can be brought up in any domestic argument, irrespective of how irrelevant it may be to that argument.

[kuck]

I havent had a chance to read the other thread so dont know how closely they are linked etc. Just hope it gets deleted and be more careful in the future

I can dm you a screenshot if you like.

[hunkybc]

Well hope the OP is truly okay. What a savage situation

[stevedave]

Just stumbled across this thread, what a shit show.

Though I fear for the OP, hopefully other married or attached punters can use this as a wake up call or warning to always cover your tracks and to NEVER post anything that can immediately incriminate you on the internet.

FWIW as soon as I read the opening post I thought "he's gonna out himself here if he's not careful". And sure enough, a few posts later, he's been rumbled.

Always cover your tracks.
Always have a ready made excuse.
Always use cash (and if using a card etc, don't use one from a joint account  )
Never post anything that could identify you to anyone.

Failing that, do as I do and stay single 

[ArchBacon]

Just me thinking that a reader here started the MN thread as a wind-up? 

[RAJEC]

I sincerely hope the threads are unrelated and everyone comes out of this unscathed!

[JontyR]

If they are unrelated some poor so and so has copped it big style for kindly sorting someone out with a cab! 

[RedKettle]

They bring up things you’ve done down the line regardless,having digs at you when you’ve done nothing wrong that day/week or month constantly reminding you of what you’ve done

So you know my wife!

[WotABugger]

Are they not all basically the same. Got out of my marridge after nearly 25 years. One off the final arguments involved the rememberence of me nipping out the back of the church for a ciggie at my wedding, said she knew at that time it would never last. Wish she had told me earlier then I might have got my life back faster. Many years single and staying that way.

[j_181]

Are they not all basically the same. Got out of my marridge after nearly 25 years. One off the final arguments involved the rememberence of me nipping out the back of the church for a ciggie at my wedding, said she knew at that time it would never last. Wish she had told me earlier then I might have got my life back faster. Many years single and staying that way.

Imagine hanging onto that to throw back at you for 25 years, Jesus 

[winkywanky]

Indeed. It can lead to feelings of paranoia. Recently an old colleague of mine who's in the habit of emailing 'joke' photos and videos sent me one which I'd known previously only as southcoastpunter's avatar!

Was he telling me that somehow he'd worked out who was Home Alone? He knew that the OH had left me 16 or 17 years ago, but it had never occurred to me that he'd recognised some of my comments and maybe the style - for want of a better word! - of my writing.

Those thoughts passed soon enough; but for a short while, I thought my 'guilty little secret' had been discovered!

In situations like that you must also consider that had your mate known of your punting, that pretty well means he's also a punter, and probably with as much to lose as yourself.

Keep calm and carry on! 

[hunkybc]

I feel like we need an update from the OP.

[daviemac]

I feel like we need an update from the OP.

He was online at 11.00 this morning.   

[Blackpool Rock]

I feel like we need an update from the OP.

That's probably impossible without incriminating himself though as if the OH is aware of this thread (which she is from what was posted on MN) then she will be reading all the comments so he can hardly come on and post an update etc about how she came home from work and went ballistic; threatened XYZ; hasn't tackled him but isn't saying much

[RAJEC]

That's probably impossible without incriminating himself though as if the OH is aware of this thread (which she is from what was posted on MN) then she will be reading all the comments so he can hardly come on and post an update etc about how she came home from work and went ballistic; threatened XYZ; hasn't tackled him but isn't saying much

Or...


They’re still sat together reading through his reviews, scrutinising the negs and neutrals 

[arrow0404]

OP quite an easy one to get out, say you booked it for a mate, as they lost(Or left their phone at home) and needed a Uber - that way you can say that’s why you forgot about it
Simple .....

[Jonestown]

That's probably impossible without incriminating himself though as if the OH is aware of this thread (which she is from what was posted on MN) then she will be reading all the comments so he can hardly come on and post an update etc about how she came home from work and went ballistic; threatened XYZ; hasn't tackled him but isn't saying much

I would imagine the poor fellow has been spatchcocked by now.

[RAJEC]

OP quite an easy one to get out, say you booked it for a mate, as they lost(Or left their phone at home) and needed a Uber - that way you can say that’s why you forgot about it
Simple .....

Not worth lying himself into a deeper hole...

“Which mate”?
“Prove it”
*if he can’t lie out of that it gets caught out, will incriminate him further*
Etc

[nurfe7]

Damage done, no matter what you say she has got a sniff and it will just be a matter of time... She will act like it is forgotten but will gathering evidence for as long as it takes

[Gordon Bennett]

Damage done, no matter what you say she has got a sniff and it will just be a matter of time... She will act like it is forgotten but will gathering evidence for as long as it takes

Yes but that's what wives do from minute one of the marriage anyway.... always watching and waiting. Nothing's fundamentally changed in the dynamics here I feel.

[JontyR]

You're not wrong GB. One can't help about a situation where she runs off to not allowed, it's not exactly where you go for a measured response.

[scutty brown]

I would imagine the poor fellow has been spatchcocked by now.

That would make an interesting reversal on "Dolcett Tales"

[scutty brown]

He was online at 11.00 this morning.   

Davie

can you move this thread to off-topic?
it would  be a bit late, but might help the poor full

[Punterperson1971]

Davie

can you move this thread to off-topic?
it would  be a bit late, but might help the poor full

He was online again at 10:48pm and not come back onto this thread something is right BS maybe???
He’s found time to be on ukpunting yet can’t post an update something’s fishy.

[daviemac]

Davie

can you move this thread to off-topic?
it would  be a bit late, but might help the poor full

Only if he starts a thread in off topic with an update, threads can't be moved from here to off topic, they can only be deleted or merged with one that is already there. (I have the same list of options as you in where to move to)

[Grandslam]

I'm amazed at the amount of personal information posters reveal on here - exact dates and times of punts (coupled with location), usernames including (presumably) significant dates, anecdotes, etc. All fine if you have no need to be discreet but, if you have a wife/partner and they get a sniff of what you might be up to and learn of this site (not difficult), they will go through posts forensically and put it all together. Like not having a punting phone, it's not worth the risk, as some people find out the hard way.

[Mr Doodle]

He was online again at 10:48pm and not come back onto this thread something is right BS maybe???
He’s found time to be on ukpunting yet can’t post an update something’s fishy.

Could be fishy - though if the thread is publicly viewable and his OH has found out, putting further posts on here may increase the pain when she sees them (no doubt, she will check).. Although, I have to admit, I find it kinda strange someone would post on any public forum for ideas of what to do in this situation...

[GingerNuts]

The OP is logged in now. Update incoming...

[Blackpool Rock]

The OP is logged in now. Update incoming...

I'm not expecting an update as he will only drop himself further in it by saying she said X so I replied Y.

Obviously this thread wasn't deleted but Davie Mac has offered to opportunity of starting a new thread in OT into which this could be merged which would mean it was only viewable to members who were logged in.
The OP did log on this morning too but didn't take the opportunity to do this for some reason which is a bit strange but then again it only takes 1 not allowedter to be a member and she can keep updating her end with full information so nothing will be secure, better for the OP to get the thread merged but still not post anything that can be used against him

[Jonestown]

If the poster on not allowed really was his other half then its too late for him, game over, the not allowed vigilantes have claimed their first UKP scalp.

[90125]

Moved to Off Topic so only members can see this Topic.

[kuck]

Now that this is in offtopic, here's a screenshot of the not allowed thread

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[Ali Katt]

Hi guys mrs spotted uber transaction on joint account. I got an uber to a punt and its stupidly linked to joint account. Any way i can get rid of this or use a good excuse. She already caught me off guard and i said i didmt use an uber. Help please.

You have a joint account and use it for punting. Anyone that stupid deserves what they get.

[winkywanky]

Re: not allowed, what is 'DH'? Dear husband or something? God, that makes them sound like a coven of witches (perhaps that's not so far from the truth  ).