As per many on here, full time at home with missus and kids, no space for punting.
Gave up on the sex years ago with the OH, always wanted to say, nahh not tonight love, but though not gonna give up sex for the sake of it, but might just, when the next, once in 6 months occurrence happens...
As per op, not worth pulling out the stops just to end in an argument, or a half assed handjob. Seriously whats the point, rather spend time and effort on something else.. any thing else.
I still find weekends away strange, no kids, no worries, no period and no sex..
But a random day in the middle of the night at home she is up for it, i dont get it.. Was not bothered about that stuff as i could always get it from from punting or relief from massages.
Covids crappy.. lost the punt live..