Any seasoned Seekers here could give us noobs a quick guide on:
1) Best way to setup your profile
At the risk of sounding like your mum giving you advice before your first date, my genuine suggestion is 'be honest'. I'm sure it's possible (and I suspect many on here do this) to war-game out each interaction, attempting to tell each person exactly what you think they want to hear in order to get whatever it is you want from them. My experience is that the mental aspect of it is way, way more important than the physical one; if you 'click' it's almost always very good and if you don't then it's very hit-and-miss.
Personally, because I'm really
not after the cocktails-in-Ibiza, Instagrammable-bathroom-selfie-with-neon-sign-in-the-background, glass-of-wine-in-front-of-the-Burj-Khalifa type girls, my profile is basically pretty silly. It has a dumb joke that makes it clear that I don't take myself or the site very seriously, my 'looking for' tags are an accurate reflection of what I'm looking for and my first messages to most girls double down on the whole 'stupid joke' aspect (whilst also giving some indication that I've actually read their profile). I know that this means there are plenty of (very beautiful!) girls that do not reply, and this is exactly what I want! I want to filter out the people with whom I'm not going to click. It's not a value judgement (good luck to them!), but it does mean that pretty much anyone from whom I get a reply is someone with whom I have a decent stab of clicking with.
The goal, then, is to cast your net far and wide enough that you find someone with whom you click
and that you find very attractive. But if you have to choose between the two, I choose click every day of the week.
2) What sort of photos to put on your profile
I have a single visible picture that's a photo of me from behind. It gives a decent indication as to my general
ouvre - height, build, the fact I've got no hair etc - in a way that's plausibly deniable whilst also giving a non-misleading (albeit obviously limited) idea as to what I look like. I then have a handful of private pictures which include my face that I can choose to share with someone whenever I fancy. These pics are all photos that do not exist anywhere else online, and I've run them through pimeyes to ensure they can't be traced back to me, but since I don't use any social media I'm not too worried about that anyway.
3) Approach to messaging potential dates
Again, be honest. Why are you actually messaging them? If you don't know the answer then you might just be wasting your time. If you do know then telling them that is likely to at least lead them to believe you aren't just blasting out copy and pasted messages to literally anything with a pulse. What did you see on their profile that piqued your interest? What is the next thing you'd want to know about them? Don't try and game it out, or be all coy because you think she's fancy, or talk about tattoos because she has them if you don't give a shit about tattoos.
4) Approach to actual meets
I think I differ from a lot of the guys here insomuch as I don't both getting bogged down in the specifics of exactly when they get the money or what's 'allowed' etc. Once it's established that, yes, I'm looking to enjoy banging their brains out and they have, for their part, agreed that that's what they're expecting then the rest I find comes pretty naturally. By all means discuss what sort of stuff you're into, what sort of thing you find works for you in the bedroom ("Tell you what, I love it when a girl dresses up as a clown and honks her nose just as she cums!"), but in an attempt to understand if you think you'll be compatible rather than to establish a tasting menu that you intend to see off.
I also make it clear to them way ahead of time that, at any point, they can say 'I'm not feeling this' and leave, with no hard feelings (you can do this too!). The fact money's changing hands doesn't change, you know, consent. The crucial thing here, though, is that I do actually mean it! I really don't want to have sex with someone who wishes they weren't doing it but doesn't feel like they can say so. I really don't want someone to feel pressured because I've paid for a hotel or whatever. I'm a very tall bloke, and I accept that I'm asking these girls to put themselves in a position of genuine risk. For some girls on there, meeting you may well be the first time they've ever done something like this - they're likely to be nervous, and it's very possible they haven't told anyone what they're doing because they're not especially proud of it. If you want to meet a real human and not some checked-out automaton (and I assume you do, otherwise you'd be on AW) then I think it's important that you treat them like they're a human. I also feel it's important that you then
follow through with treating them like a human should it ever come to that, but I know there are a handful of old dickheads on here whose potent combination of arousal and disgust at the idea of a girl having sex for money takes over and would view me as a bit fluffy. Well, fuck em.
(NB: I've never actually had to 'follow throough'. Everyone I've met with I've had at least a few hours of enjoyable sex with, and I remain on good terms with every one of them.)
5) Red flags to lookout for, avoid bunny boilers and exit strategy
IMO ignore anyone who:
1. Favourites your profile without 'View'ing it. They're just clicking on hearts.
2. Gives you their number without seeing your pics. They are, essentially, professional WGs.
3. Asks for money prior to meeting.
6) Finance \ budgeting
YMMV to such an extent that I dunno how useful giving figures even is. In London I rarely go above £300, but sometimes I do if I'd really like to make a meet happen. It's only money.
7) Privacy
Get a phone purely for doing this, with its own sim, its own Whatsapp, its own Telegram account. Don't use photos that exist anywhere else. Don't send any money online, be it from your own bank account or even a Paypal (or similar) that you think is anonymous. Just don't do it. Use a different name, and if you book a hotel go and check in 'first' so you have the key already. This is all sort of obvious, but not everything obvious is obvious, you know?
I could write more but I have to do some work. I really like Seeking, and there are lots of ways to use it. This is my way, I find it works well, but you will find your own way inevitably.
