Seeking.com (London)

[martini2429]

I wasted someone's time  because it seemed like they were trying to scam me. The person from a seeking profile made conversation with me for a few days before requesting money online. I said I haven't met you yet. The person continue making conversation later. They asked for my Netflix password and £20 for gas money to visit me. I received a few insults along the way like "I'm being impossible." Finally I asked the person to video call then they said if I have to video call you before  you send 20 just forget about this altogether. I refuse to put myself in a position to be scammed of even £1.

If the profile is still active please post as a warning for others 

 

[Lfc4life]

Has anyone been successful with hotel bookings during lockdown 2.0?

As per the guidelines "..Hotels, hostels and other accommodation should only open for those who have to travel for work purposes.." how would it be possible for hotel receptions to actively verify this? I guess the issue will be with said SB trying to enter the premises (considering low footfall)?

[Paris69]

I'm living between 2 or 3 for the next 6 /12 months..... Been doing this for the last month.... No issues at all.
But some hotels 'are' closing/or are closed so you just need to ring them up and ask.

No one is asking why i wanna stay, who will be visiting etc etc...

[Dee19781]

So lads, after using sugardaddymeet for a while now I decided to try seeking.

Some results and comparisons after a month of membership:

Numbers obtained
Seeking: 100’s
Sdm: 100 max

Moved from conversation to wanting to meet
Seeking: 20ish, rest wanted online only or few meets before committing to sexual meets or wanted huge amount.
Sdm: 40ish, rest didn’t reply, online only or wanted huge amount

Prices
Seeking: 10 wanted £250 for few hours, 1 wanted £300 and other 9 between 150 to 250
Sdm: 20 wanted £250 plus, 10 agreed around £150 mark.

Location:
Seeking: all wanted hotel
Sdm: 5 car meet is good, rest hotel

Ethnic group:
Seeking: 10% Indian/Pakistan, 30% english (white) 40% English (black) 10% foreign European
Sdm: 40% english (white) 40% english (black) 20% European

Age:
Seeking: all 18-26
Sdm: 20-26

Thanks hope it helps.

Ps. Due to lock down I haven’t actually met any yet, but have two students lined up

[heathen666]

Interesting info.

What about profile creation? Can you keep your photos private on sugardaddymeet?

[Dee19781]

I never had any photos of either of them.

[Ron89]

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This one scammed me a few months back when I first joined SA. Horrible individual, avoid

[Lone-punter]

Over the past couple days have struck up a good convo with:
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Seems genuine enough, interesting to see if anyone has any info!

I am also chatting with her, seems genuine and unpretentious. Have you progressed with her on allowance/ppm and intimacy? 

[martini2429]

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This one scammed me a few months back when I first joined SA. Horrible individual, avoid

How did she do it, what was he MO?

 

[Strikar]

Just signed up to SDM for a look, looks to be some decent girls there and it is cheaper than SA although I haven't the spare time to sign up and start messaging.

One girl messaged me and you can chat away without membership if they start it. Never progressed as she wanted face pics before a call so prob a scammer.

Good luck with your search, I'd prob stump up more for SA based on my first impressions of the site

So lads, after using  :vomit:sugardaddymeet for a while now I decided to try seeking.

Some results and comparisons after a month of membership:

Numbers obtained
Seeking: 100’s
Sdm: 100 max

Moved from conversation to wanting to meet
Seeking: 20ish, rest wanted online only or few meets before committing to sexual meets or wanted huge amount.
Sdm: 40ish, rest didn’t reply, online only or wanted huge amount

Prices
Seeking: 10 wanted £250 for few hours, 1 wanted £300 and other 9 between 150 to 250
Sdm: 20 wanted £250 plus, 10 agreed around £150 mark.

Location:
Seeking: all wanted hotel
Sdm: 5 car meet is good, rest hotel

Ethnic group:
Seeking: 10% Indian/Pakistan, 30% english (white) 40% English (black) 10% foreign European
Sdm: 40% english (white) 40% english (black) 20% European

Age:
Seeking: all 18-26
Sdm: 20-26

Thanks hope it helps.

Ps. Due to lock down I haven’t actually met any yet, but have two students lined up

[HomerC]

Did my first meet and greet two days ago. (She's the lady who flaked on me twice before.)
She was very late for it, but she was apologetic, and gave me a running update as she traversed London.

The Meet & Greet was very important. It established chemistry.

Yesterday, I booked a room at a very nice hotel near Old Street. She came over for a few hours.

The experience was very good. I can say Seeking has been worth it for me in the end. Massive thanks to the posters in this thread.

[HomerC]

Has anyone been successful with hotel bookings during lockdown 2.0?

As per the guidelines "..Hotels, hostels and other accommodation should only open for those who have to travel for work purposes.." how would it be possible for hotel receptions to actively verify this? I guess the issue will be with said SB trying to enter the premises (considering low footfall)?

The lady at reception yesterday said sorry I have to ask this: is your visit for work purposes?
I looked her dead in the eye and said, yes, it's for work purposes.
It was a very high end hotel. Her efforts to enforce lockdown were perfunctory (thankfully)

I had to actually meet my SB at reception because a keycard is required to even operate the lift.

[Cunning Punt]

You did well to seal the deal with a girl fairly soon after joining SA, particularly during lockdown so glad the advice on here helped, your persistence paid off and it worked out for you. 

As a matter of interest, where did you do a M&G bearing in mind hospitality venues etc are shut (type of venue rather than location)? During the first lockdown I met a girl for a picnic in a park and it worked out very well.

The lady at reception yesterday said sorry I have to ask this: is your visit for work purposes?
I looked her dead in the eye and said, yes, it's for work purposes.

I had to actually meet my SB at reception because a keycard is required to even operate the lift.

So I guess the lady at reception must have then realised it wasn't for work purposes (even if she hadn't before then). 

[HomerC]

As a matter of interest, where did you do a M&G bearing in mind hospitality venues etc are shut (type of venue rather than location)?

We walked around bustling streets in the end. We were basically invisible. She was like an hour late but she kept me updated the whole time. So i didn't have to wait too long for her in any place.

Her usual PPM expectation was/is very high - £500 per meet (I had to probe her for this).  She is older (mid 30s) with very good body (and personality). So definitely past her prime, but still very nice.

We did not discuss any arrangement details in person, face-to-face, we just bantered a bit about random stuff totally unrelated. (That's really bad etiquette.)

The next day, following the M&G, she was keen to book. I very respectfully and delicately suggested a much lower amount. To my astonishment she agreed and was very flexible and easy-going.

The whole thing is kind of a bit like dating - it involves charm and connection. A little bit.

She was with me for several hours and it was, dare i say, fun.

[HomerC]

So I guess the lady at reception must have then realised it wasn't for work purposes (even if she hadn't before then). 

The lobby is massive so she's like 20 feet away.

And there's plausible deniability - she could be a colleague and we could be talking about sales charts and stuff.

[Deeeazy]

I never had any photos of either of them.

Do they not ask for photos ? I do want to try seeking but not too keen on having my pics on the site !

[Cunning Punt]

We walked around bustling streets in the end. We were basically invisible. She was like an hour late but she kept me updated the whole time. So i didn't have to wait too long for her in any place.

Her usual PPM expectation was/is very high - £500 per meet (I had to probe her for this).  She is older (mid 30s) with very good body (and personality). So definitely past her prime, but still very nice.

We did not discuss any arrangement details in person, face-to-face, we just bantered a bit about random stuff totally unrelated. (That's really bad etiquette.)

The next day, following the M&G, she was keen to book. I very respectfully and delicately suggested that I had like half that, and enough for for a 5 star hotel.

Yes, a lot of SBs, particularly in London start off with a ridiculous fee that they have never received (despite often claiming they have) and you then bring them down.

No need to get 5-star hotels. It's an unnecessary additional expense and lot of girls would prefer you get a reasonable 3/4-star and give them the additional cash -and there is always this excuse if they question your choice of hotel.

However, even then, 250ppm is still more than enough for a SB in her mid-30s, IMO, even in London.


 

[HomerC]

Do they not ask for photos ? I do want to try seeking but not too keen on having my pics on the site !

maybe don't show your face. Have pics but obscure your face. Wear a mask?

(It will still cripple your chances, but maybe not as much?)

[HomerC]

Yes, a lot of SBs, particularly in London start off with a ridiculous fee that they have never received (despite often claiming they have) and you then bring them down.

No need to get 5-star hotels. It's an unnecessary additional expense and lot of girls would prefer you get a reasonable 3/4-star and give them the additional cash -and there is always this excuse if they question your choice of hotel.

However, even then, 250ppm is still more than enough for a SB in her mid-30s, IMO, even in London.

I paid £200 to her. And £105 for the hotel room.

I said that if she was prepared to wait a few days then I could get more (and i meant it).

The hotel was clean and beautiful. I think it's totally worth it. Great view, great decor, nice and spacious. Why not treat yourself?

I even took a bit of work along and did that the next morning (today)


PS - it might have been 4 star not 5 star. I didn't actually check.

[Cunning Punt]

I paid £200 to her. And £105 for the hotel room.

I said that if she was prepared to wait then I could get more (and i meant it).

The hotel was clean and beautiful. I think it's totally worth it.

At that price, sure - shows there are some good deals in London atm.

[Cunning Punt]

Do they not ask for photos ? I do want to try seeking but not too keen on having my pics on the site !

Very few guys have public face pics but having some sort of profile pic will massively increase your chance of getting attention. Just upload a torso shot of yourself (or anyone) in a suit, cropping out at your neck. Lots of girls love a guy in a suit and it gives the impression of a professional and intelligent SD.

Most of us then have private face photos we share on SA with girls who we think are genuine and we are interested in. As a couple of us mentioned the other day, many girls are suspicious if you don't even have a private pic and also it smacks of double standards as we expect them to have clear photos, of course.

[HomerC]

I think, if a Sugar Baby's profile is only a few days or a few weeks old, then it could be a catfish or a scammer. I figure that scammers get banned so they have to keep creating new accounts.

I look for profiles that have been around since before March (before the pandemic). I figure they're more likely to be genuine and not grifters.

I avoid profiles with professional shots / excessive bikini and underwear shots.

Obviously I google the number and if it's an escort then I don't engage. (If i want that then I'd go to Adult Work.)

I ignore SBs who don't write coherent sentences (which is most of them).

I ignore all profiles where they use lip fillers and want money for surgery like breast implants. I don't want to fund that; i find it repulsive.

Most SBs will "leave you on read" or not reply to your opening message. That's fair enough, they must get hundreds. I don't pester, i just move on.

Note that a lot of profiles are dormant (the SB hasn't logged on for years, and was only ever on it for a few days).

[HomerC]

There are a surprising number of unattractive (or fat or old) SBs, and they always get an alert when you read their profile. It's kind of annoying. I choose to "hide" their profiles. (I don't know if that's like blocking them?)


Every time you go to re-read an attractive girl's profile she gets an alert telling her. So you can't really do it a lot.

[Bobbins1973]

There are a surprising number of unattractive (or fat or old) SBs, and they always get an alert when you read their profile. It's kind of annoying. I choose to "hide" their profiles. (I don't know if that's like blocking them?)


Every time you go to re-read an attractive girl's profile she gets an alert telling her. So you can't really do it a lot.

Sure you can turn this option off in the settings

[HomerC]

Sure you can turn this option off in the settings

Sometimes fat birds will put themselves down as "average" or even "Athletic"/"slim" so you can rely on filters alone

EDIT: sorry I just realised you meant the other thing. I don't think that you can, any more

[Bobbins1973]

Sometimes fat birds will put themselves down as "average" or even "Athletic"/"slim" so you can rely on filters alone

EDIT: sorry I just realised you meant the other thing. I don't think that you can, any more

Settings, your activity, hidden - means people don’t know you are viewing their profiles

[CheeseBoard]

Settings, your activity, hidden - means people don’t know you are viewing their profiles

You can do this when subscribed to SA, not if you are not paid up (i think)

[stampjones]

maybe don't show your face. Have pics but obscure your face. Wear a mask?

(It will still cripple your chances, but maybe not as much?)

Not true at all - Ive never had a face pic and often no pic at all and I’ve had no trouble at all getting meets. As long as you say you’re happy to send pics on WA you’re fine. As Ive said before, Ive even had meets with girls who had never seen a photo of me at that point

[HomerC]

Settings, your activity, hidden - means people don’t know you are viewing their profiles

Oh you're right - i stand corrected!

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[HomerC]

Ive never had a face pic and often no pic at all

Do you just cut your photo off at the neck? or use a stock image of silhouette?

[stampjones]

Do you just cut your photo off at the neck? or use a stock image of silhouette?

The one time I had a photo it was of my forearm - basically zero information. But as I say, usually I dont bother at all

[Bobbins1973]

Oh you're right - i stand corrected!

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Said the man in the Orthopedic shoes 👞

[bash_eer]

Did my first meet and greet two days ago. (She's the lady who flaked on me twice before.)
She was very late for it, but she was apologetic, and gave me a running update as she traversed London.

The Meet & Greet was very important. It established chemistry.

Yesterday, I booked a room at a very nice hotel near Old Street. She came over for a few hours.

The experience was very good. I can say Seeking has been worth it for me in the end. Massive thanks to the posters in this thread.

Thats great to hear that all the help that been posted on here helped you  and that you took the time to read every post on this thread.

Glad it worked out for you mate.

[bash_eer]

On the question of hiding if you view a profile it only work for paid subscription and it defaults back when you subscription expires.

Questions on pictures just obscure your face you still get plenty of girls responding and even wanting t o know what you look like. I have done the same on Tinder and have had decent results.

[Fraggle901]

Be wary of this one, multiple accounts and likely to be a scammer..External Link/Members Only

[Fraggle901]

Sorry, that was my inbox.

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[HomerC]

There are so many scammers

I'm talking to one purported SB. She just gave me access to her private photos, I did a reverse image search and she's using stolen photos.

She keeps going on about how she regrets she can't meet any time soon because of the pandemic.

Rule of thumb: if there's a SB who has registered recently, she's quite likely to be a catfish or scammer, IMO.

[Fraggle901]

Thanks mate, it's a bloody minefield but there are a few diamonds in the rough on there 

[HomerC]

Another profile: I've been talking to an apparent "creative writer" on WhatsApp for a week or so. She most recently sent this message:

In the midst of all this covid madness I was wondering if perhaps you'd consider something virtual? I can offer anything you desire

When I said no thanks she blocked me on WhatsApp and on SA.

It's unfathomable that I would want "something virtual". Good grief!

Before that she was saying "I'm so bored [frown emoticon] I so miss having fun [frown emoticon] "

The photos she's using: selfies of a blonde with sun kissed hair.

[Fraggle901]

There's loads of them like that, I suppose this whole corona thing hasn't helped and ppl are getting increasingly desperate but wtf would you get outta online only?

Then there are the ones that need to pay their bills, like RIGHT NOW, but also don't expect you to pay for them before meeting...they'll always be one sucker.

[Fraggle901]

We need to compile a list of common scams to protect ourselves 

[Steve2]

We need to compile a list of common scams to protect ourselves 

Look forward to seeing your list 

[HomerC]

Does anyone notice the phones that SBs are using in "their" selfies?

If it's in an iPhone 6 (not even iPhone 6s) then I'm suspicious. The pic is either not recent or it's stolen.

Very few people use a 6 year old phone.

[Fraggle901]

Outstanding detective work there Homer..

@Steve, I'll work on one but was hoping that request would prompt those who have been there and done it to share theirs 

[Fraggle901]

I'm just waiting on the "you've only posted 5 reviews and you want US to help you??!!??" brigade but hopefully you guys are in a forgiving state 

[Fraggle901]

Another one crossed off the list - External Link/Members Only

"...would you like a preview of what your going to see?"

"...£100 for 5 pictures"

 

[Wowgeek]

Price seems ok but her grammar is appalling 

[Fraggle901]

Standards drop when they start to see $$$ signs lol

Oh..that's just the price to see the pics!

[Paris69]

We need to compile a list of common scams to protect ourselves 

I'll give you a starter list.. There are many variations on a theme but here are some i've run into over the last few years....

My ex has left me with cc debts/not paid the utility bills/not paid the rent and we are gonna be made homeless/taken all my money and I/we (me and my child) cant afford to buy food. etc etc etc....

I/my mum/sister (whatever) has a medical emergency......

My childcarer wants paying in advance for when i meet you, so can you PayPal me...

I need taxi money to get to you... 'I'll pick you up'...'No'... I cant cos...... insert a million bullshit reasons.

I want to buy some sexy, new lingerie for our first meeting.

Send me the £ and i will book the hotel for us. I get a deal (sis works there, or such) so i can get us a suite with walk in shower/sunken bath etc etc....

My car needs an MOT/service or fuel.......PayPal me.

You promised to look after me

My previous SD paid me £xxx per meet/per month (divide by 4 to get closer to the real amount....)

The £ you sent me didn't come through.....

If it sounds too good to be true/or it doesn't add up.. Then it doesn't add up.
eg: The girl tells you she is a lawyer/architect has a good career and earns good money etc; yet is aged 21.... If she is gonna lie to you on such a trivial matter; then she is a liar, pure and simple.

etc etc etc etc etc.... and on and on and on......

Ofc... the request for £ is always  followed by the stunning sex she will deliver as a way of a thank you..

[Fraggle901]

Thank you, that's really helpful.