Dating a working girl

[25yoguy]

I saw this girl for a very short first booking last week of 15 minutes, she doesn't do full service, just massages with her hands, and is absolutely gorgeous.

I was respectful, as I always try to be and must've come across as a fairly decent guy. She complimented me on things along the way, and even joked about the things we can do when I'm her boyfriend. Her personality is pure sarcasm so I went along with all these jokes. Somehow we talked about going on a date. Turns out, we're going on a 'date' next week.

There seems to be nothing in it for her, aside from maybe food and drinks which I was planning to pay for.

I don't know what to make of this... anyone been through something like it?

[Jonestown]

at 25 you are far too young to even think about going out with a girl like that

[AnthG]

There seems to be nothing in it for her, aside from maybe food and drinks which I was planning to pay for.

I don't know what to make of this... anyone been through something like it?

Just do it, like you say nothing to lose.

But if she starts talking about her sick father needing money for an operation that she cannot afford, or her tenancy agreement coming to an end and the landlord threatening to kick her out and thus having nowhere to live in the next few weeks. Just realize what it is she doing.

[lewisjones23]

Just do it, like you say nothing to lose.

But if she starts talking about her sick father needing money for an operation that she cannot afford, or her tenancy agreement coming to an end and the landlord threatening to kick her out and thus having nowhere to live in the next few weeks. Just realize what it is she doing.

Thats all well and good but what about if she has a fantastic offer of 20 bookings for the price of 5? Just need to pay upfront 

[scutty brown]

what nationality is she?
what is her UK residence status?

[Pete556]

I saw this girl for a very short first booking last week of 15 minutes, she doesn't do full service, just massages with her hands, and is absolutely gorgeous.

I was respectful, as I always try to be and must've come across as a fairly decent guy. She complimented me on things along the way, and even joked about the things we can do when I'm her boyfriend. Her personality is pure sarcasm so I went along with all these jokes. Somehow we talked about going on a date. Turns out, we're going on a 'date' next week.

There seems to be nothing in it for her, aside from maybe food and drinks which I was planning to pay for.

I don't know what to make of this... anyone been through something like it?

My advice is never get involved with an SP. It will end in tears.

[jesse4585]

Yes quite a few of us have done something like that.  Be on your guard a little, she might flake out or try to scam you.  But don't be on your guard too much that you don't enjoy it or sent out bad vibes.  Always a small chance it will lead to something  good, at least for a while. 

[wannabe]

Agree with all of the above. In your shoes, I'd probably go for it - as long as you can handle the thought that whilst dating you, she's probably still wanking off other guys for cash.

If that thought is too much to bear, then forget it.

[Jonestown]

Agree with all of the above. In your shoes, I'd probably go for it - as long as you can handle the thought that whilst dating you, she's probably still wanking off other guys for cash.

If that thought is too much to bear, then forget it.

more than that, she will keep you waiting whist she finishes off the last customer, that can really take a toll on your self esteem.

[Blackpool Rock]

All great advice lads but where her profile link 

[hungrypunt]

Yeah , she told me she was coming to see you just after she drained my balls.

pay her, get her services and fuck off on time, simple.

[jeanphillipe]

All great advice lads but where her profile link 

It does seem a bit of a fantasy.

[25yoguy]

She's Eastern European, though not from Romania or Hungary. She's from a part of EE where poverty isn't rife.

Also doesn't seem to be in any sort of financial need or trouble. Like I mentioned, she had a happy go lucky sarcastic attitude. Besides, I can't think of a scenario (father dying or w.e) where I will part with cash. It will be too obvious if she asked that early on, and to offer sex multiple times as a means to ask that question sounds like too much of an investment for any working girl to take. It's hard to believe, but she may, strangely, be interested in me for whatever reason.

If things go anywhere, she'll have to leave this job.

Let's see what happens!

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Separately, I'm not going to share who she is. 1. to respect her privacy, 2. she may be reading, and I would prefer her not to know I'm doing research about it

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Some of you said you've had this happen to you. Would like to hear details!

[maxxblue]

She's from a part of EE where poverty isn't rife.

Which part is that then? 

[Jonestown]

She won't give up her job (unless you fund her lifestyle and commitments) and it will end in grief for you, a sure bet because it always does.

[AnthG]

It will be too obvious if she asked that early on

She won't ask, you will offer. That's how it works

You have already convinced yourself so go for it...

[Doc Holliday]

 2. she may be reading, and I would prefer her not to know I'm doing research about it

Too late ... if she is reading she will know it's about her.

[OakTree]

Why would anyone want to date a women who fucks gods knows all sundory for a living. I don't mean that with any disrespect for the women who do it, who am I to judge the life I lead. But anyone who thinks they could put up with their woman being fucked left, right and centre and then at the end of the day sit and chill with her and ask her how her day has been is living in a dream world.

If you want a date make an effort and find someone who has similar interests and isn’t just about fucking. life is far more than that.

[James999]

Why would anyone want to date a women who fucks gods knows all sundory for a living.

Because he doesn't have to pay her when dating her, and if she's doing well she may share some of her cash and he can use this to shag other whore$ 

[OakTree]

You know I do get the impression that many of these types of threads are started by individuals who although have punted and may have fucked many women actually lack experience of relationships with women outside of punting.

[OakTree]

Because he doesn't have to pay her when dating her, and if she's doing well she may share some of her cash and he can use this to shag other whore$ 

That's not dating, that's pimping.

[bushman]

Why would anyone want to date a women who fucks gods knows all sundory for a living. I don't mean that with any disrespect for the women who do it, who am I to judge the life I lead. But anyone who thinks they could put up with their woman being fucked left, right and centre and then at the end of the day sit and chill with her and ask her how her day has been is living in a dream world.

If you want a date make an effort and find someone who has similar interests and isn’t just about fucking. life is far more than that.

Based on your comment a WG isn't entitled to a husband, happiness or normal life outside of work?

I am sure some keep it quiet from their other halves, but I suppose some men don't think about sex and intimacy the same way as you or I do.

[Trex]

She's Eastern European, though not from Romania or Hungary. She's from a part of EE where poverty isn't rife.

Also doesn't seem to be in any sort of financial need or trouble. Like I mentioned, she had a happy go lucky sarcastic attitude. Besides, I can't think of a scenario (father dying or w.e) where I will part with cash. It will be too obvious if she asked that early on, and to offer sex multiple times as a means to ask that question sounds like too much of an investment for any working girl to take. It's hard to believe, but she may, strangely, be interested in me for whatever reason.

If things go anywhere, she'll have to leave this job.

Let's see what happens!

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Separately, I'm not going to share who she is. 1. to respect her privacy, 2. she may be reading, and I would prefer her not to know I'm doing research about it

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Some of you said you've had this happen to you. Would like to hear details!

Are you British? Is she younger or older than you? Do you have a good income?

[scutty brown]

She's Eastern European, though not from Romania or Hungary. She's from a part of EE where poverty isn't rife.

Total bollocks.

[scutty brown]

Interesting to see he has three reviews, all negative.
He's now had a fourth punt and he's cunt-struck

but .............who's ever heard of a 15 minute massage?

[lewisjones23]

Interesting to see he has three reviews, all negative.
He's now had a fourth punt and he's cunt-struck

do you still call it that if you only got a wank?

[Coriniumstud]

Which one of your 3 reviews is it ?

[OakTree]

Based on your comment a WG isn't entitled to a husband, happiness or normal life outside of work?

I am sure some keep it quiet from their other halves, but I suppose some men don't think about sex and intimacy the same way as you or I do.

That's quite a leap to come to from what I said but in answer to your question, their entitlement is as valid as anyone else. I imagine some lie to their partner, some don't have a partner and some have a partner who is perfectly ok with her lifestyle. I bet though there is very few who have a partner who regularly punts, reviews WGs on forums and asks questions about wether he should try and date the girl he often pays to fuck,

[bushman]

That's quite a leap to come to from what I said but in answer to your question, their entitlement is as valid as anyone else. I imagine some lie to their partner, some don't have a partner and some have a partner who is perfectly ok with her lifestyle. I bet though there is very few who have a partner who regularly punts, reviews WGs on forums and asks questions about wether he should try and date the girl he often pays to fuck,

I think it's well documented that WG's are some of the most jealous partners out there. Wouldn't want to date one myself. You'll end up with your dick chopped off. I don't understand their jealousy. But that is WG's/women for you.

[winkywanky]

That's quite a leap to come to from what I said but in answer to your question, their entitlement is as valid as anyone else. I imagine some lie to their partner, some don't have a partner and some have a partner who is perfectly ok with her lifestyle. I bet though there is very few who have a partner who regularly punts, reviews WGs on forums and asks questions about wether he should try and date the girl he often pays to fuck,

In these terms the punter/WG 'relationship' is actually well balanced, it's a relationship of equals. Just as you might say 'what woman would want to go out with a guy that sees women for sex', equally you could say 'what guy would want to go out with a woman who's a sex worker' (apparently this girl doesn't sell actual sex, only HR. For the purposes of this thread we'll take that at face value).

In both cases, for various reasons both the man and the woman is likely to return to their previous activity. We all know this well.

In this case the guy is 25, we'll assume the girl is similar. In a way they are possibly not the 'hardened souls' like perhaps the majority of UKP membership, nor like many scheming WGs. If she's only doing HR she's perhaps stumbled into this to make ends meet for the time being. ie perhaps she didn't come into the UK to sell sex, also she's probably independent. The guy in this case doesn't seem to be a Jack the Lad. Seems genuine. Perhaps a little naive (but we probably all were once).

My take on it? Compared with if he met her in a bar, it's probably got 20 times more chance of not working out, and if it doesn't, 20 times more likely to end badly. 20 x 20 = 400...so 400 times more likely to end in a shit sandwich.

But if it does work out, even when she's got a headache she could probably wank him to Heaven with her experienced hands and a bottle of Johnsons, and he'd be just as happy and then roll over to sleep straight off.

I'm inclined to say to the OP give it a whirl, let it run its course, but all the time watch out for the warning signs well documented here by the experienced heads of UKP.

Now I'm not one to say c'mon, post up her link so we can all have a look. However, in the interests of his own safety, 25yoguy must post up all the details here (purely so we can all make sure he doesn't get led astray of course  ).

[25yoguy]

Judging by a lot of these comments, some of you must only fuck virgins?

She's not fucking anyone, her services are strictly massage + hand relief like I said in the first post. I don't see this service as anything more than a mechanical process - like you doing your job in order to get paid. Just different types of hand movements

If things were to go anywhere, I'd ask for her to leave this line of work and get a real job (won't be completely supporting anyone financially).

[Drekszter]

Not worth the potential risks imo.

Let's say it goes ahead but what if one day things don't work out and she decides to stitch you up somehow? What if she suddenly "claims" she needs money for something or what if she gets into trouble one day, has her phone taken and someone goes through her contacts?

I know I'm purely thinking negatively here but we all have our lives and it's not worth the possible complications I'd say.

[AnthG]

Judging by a lot of these comments, some of you must only fuck virgins?

You booked her for 15mins. In that time, she gave you a massage and you chatted enough to pull her. And she is a EE from a non poor county - I suspect you mean Poland.

This sort of stuff happens every day....

[Kev40ish]

Judging by a lot of these comments, some of you must only fuck virgins?

She's not fucking anyone, her services are strictly massage + hand relief like I said in the first post. I don't see this service as anything more than a mechanical process - like you doing your job in order to get paid. Just different types of hand movements

If things were to go anywhere, I'd ask for her to leave this line of work and get a real job (won't be completely supporting anyone financially).

I think your a tad deluded if you think that is all she does.
As with all massage girls YMMV..

[lewisjones23]

Judging by a lot of these comments, some of you must only fuck virgins?

She's not fucking anyone, her services are strictly massage + hand relief like I said in the first post. I don't see this service as anything more than a mechanical process - like you doing your job in order to get paid. Just different types of hand movements

If things were to go anywhere, I'd ask for her to leave this line of work and get a real job (won't be completely supporting anyone financially).

would you wank people off for money if they were willing to pay?

[Rack Admirer]

She's Eastern European, though not from Romania or Hungary. She's from a part of EE where poverty isn't rife.

Also doesn't seem to be in any sort of financial need or trouble. Like I mentioned, she had a happy go lucky sarcastic attitude. Besides, I can't think of a scenario (father dying or w.e) where I will part with cash. It will be too obvious if she asked that early on, and to offer sex multiple times as a means to ask that question sounds like too much of an investment for any working girl to take. It's hard to believe, but she may, strangely, be interested in me for whatever reason.

If things go anywhere, she'll have to leave this job.

Let's see what happens!

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Separately, I'm not going to share who she is. 1. to respect her privacy, 2. she may be reading, and I would prefer her not to know I'm doing research about it

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Some of you said you've had this happen to you. Would like to hear details!

Say you have 10 responses where members share details of what happened to them in a similar situation. What will you do if 5 of those reponses are positive and 5 are negative? Likewise what if it's 6 pos and 4 neg... will that persuade you to go on this date?

What are you hoping to achieve by asking this?

If the question you're asking is genuine then you're intrigued but not 100% sure. The only way to find out is go on the date and try to get to know her.

From the reply above you seem like a clued-up person, so why ask the question? I smell bullshit but if you are genuine then let us know how you get on.

[Jonestown]

Judging by a lot of these comments, some of you must only fuck virgins?

She's not fucking anyone, her services are strictly massage + hand relief like I said in the first post. I don't see this service as anything more than a mechanical process - like you doing your job in order to get paid. Just different types of hand movements

If things were to go anywhere, I'd ask for her to leave this line of work and get a real job (won't be completely supporting anyone financially).

if its just a mechanical process, whats the problem, you don't really need her to give it up do you ?

WGs and punters are two sides of the same coin, both are leopards that can't change their spots, hence can't be trusted out of sight.

[bushman]

Judging by a lot of these comments, some of you must only fuck virgins?

She's not fucking anyone, her services are strictly massage + hand relief like I said in the first post. I don't see this service as anything more than a mechanical process - like you doing your job in order to get paid. Just different types of hand movements

If things were to go anywhere, I'd ask for her to leave this line of work and get a real job (won't be completely supporting anyone financially).

But it isn't the same is it? (As a real job I mean.)

[Cunning Punt]

She's not fucking anyone, her services are strictly massage + hand relief like I said in the first post. I don't see this service as anything more than a mechanical process - like you doing your job in order to get paid. Just different types of hand movements

If things were to go anywhere, I'd ask for her to leave this line of work and get a real job (won't be completely supporting anyone financially).

I think your a tad deluded if you think that is all she does.
As with all massage girls YMMV..

Doubly deluded. Firstly that she only wanks all guys off and secondly that she is going to just give up her job for you, just like that. 

[Rack Admirer]

both are leopards that can't change their spots, hence can't be trusted out of sight.

That's a sweeping generalisation if i've ever heard one

[winkywanky]

Judging by a lot of these comments, some of you must only fuck virgins?

She's not fucking anyone, her services are strictly massage + hand relief like I said in the first post. I don't see this service as anything more than a mechanical process - like you doing your job in order to get paid. Just different types of hand movements

If things were to go anywhere, I'd ask for her to leave this line of work and get a real job (won't be completely supporting anyone financially).

Serious question: turning this on its head, presumably she knows you have punted for full sex? At least three times, all three a negative experience.

Of course similarly, you would cease punting.

As for her getting a 'real' job, what if she has a degree and all she could find for the foreseeable future is a job in McDonalds? And with the drop in salary (at least initially) she would need assistance with her expenses, staying in her existing accommodation etc.

I'm not trying to be awkward, but as I'm sure you know, there'll be many more of these type of complications which wouldn't arise if you'd met her in a bar.

[Jonestown]

That's a sweeping generalisation if i've ever heard one

we are talking about two categories of people who have little or no qualms about having sex with strangers, albeit one does it for fun, one does it for money, not the best basis for a relationship.

[25yoguy]

Please ignore my UKP history of reviews. I've had 20+ positive experiences, and only written about the bad ones because they were so bad. Good experiences, I don't feel the same urge to share.

As for what I hope to hear from others with similar experiences, to see how they turned out. I don't imagine anyone got married, had kids, and drove into the sunset together - but was it fun while it lasted? Did shit go wrong and you can share how to spot that early on? I'm looking to learn from others' mistakes or to have some confidence in this.

To whoever that said it, no wanking guys off isnt the same as a real job, but its whatever someone has to do to get out of their situation until they are able to get something better. Most people start with shitty jobs. If a girl starts off with a shitty job that pays a lot, I quite admire the entrepreneurial spirit in that (as long as they eventually move on of course).

A lot of people don't seem to believe this scenario to be a true story. I don't care.

[Rack Admirer]

Please ignore my UKP history of reviews. I've had 20+ positive experiences, and only written about the bad ones because they were so bad. Good experiences, I don't feel the same urge to share.

As for what I hope to hear from others with similar experiences, to see how they turned out. I don't imagine anyone got married, had kids, and drove into the sunset together - but was it fun while it lasted? Did shit go wrong and you can share how to spot that early on? I'm looking to learn from others' mistakes or to have some confidence in this.

A lot of people don't seem to believe this scenario to be a true story. I don't care.

Just go on the date you wimp, and then report back and let us know how it went.

[25yoguy]

Just go on the date you wimp, and then report back and let us know how it went.

Will do.

[Cellular40]

Based on your comment a WG isn't entitled to a husband, happiness or normal life outside of work?

I am sure some keep it quiet from their other halves, but I suppose some men don't think about sex and intimacy the same way as you or I do.

m
Very true.

I won’t judge another for their choices, it wouldn’t work for me but it clearly works for some as many are married or in relationships.

Most women/men couldn’t cope with their other half fucking others openly but some could.

[winkywanky]

Please ignore my UKP history of reviews. I've had 20+ positive experiences, and only written about the bad ones because they were so bad. Good experiences, I don't feel the same urge to share.

As for what I hope to hear from others with similar experiences, to see how they turned out. I don't imagine anyone got married, had kids, and drove into the sunset together - but was it fun while it lasted? Did shit go wrong and you can share how to spot that early on? I'm looking to learn from others' mistakes or to have some confidence in this.

Well that will certainly endear you to everyone.

It's like when you find a good one you want to keep her for yourself. As you possibly appear to be attempting to here?

I think subconsciously you may be punting to look for a gf. I don't mean that as a dig, I was doing a similar type of thing many, many years ago. I only realised later.

[Cellular40]

Judging by a lot of these comments, some of you must only fuck virgins?

She's not fucking anyone, her services are strictly massage + hand relief like I said in the first post. I don't see this service as anything more than a mechanical process - like you doing your job in order to get paid. Just different types of hand movements

If things were to go anywhere, I'd ask for her to leave this line of work and get a real job (won't be completely supporting anyone financially).

Why would you ask her to leave this line of work and get a “real” job?

You met her as an escort so why should she stop? Will you stop punting?

I think that’s a valid question, if you met her in this environment you should take that into consideration when thinking about relationships and how it may last, asking a partner  to leave their line of work I doubt will go down well.

In this instance I doubt she wants to date you and sees you as an easy target to money spin.

[WARSZAWA16]

Please ignore my UKP history of reviews. I've had 20+ positive experiences, and only written about the bad ones because they were so bad. Good experiences, I don't feel the same urge to share.
As for what I hope to hear from others with similar experiences, to see how they turned out. I don't imagine anyone got married, had kids, and drove into the sunset together - but was it fun while it lasted? Did shit go wrong and you can share how to spot that early on? I'm looking to learn from others' mistakes or to have some confidence in this.
A lot of people don't seem to believe this scenario to be a true story. I don't care.

Mmm. So, you "don't feel the same urge to share" your experiences, yet you are asking others to share their "similar experiences"............

[25yoguy]

Well that will certainly endear you to everyone.

It's like when you find a good one you want to keep her for yourself. As you possibly appear to be attempting to here?

I think subconsciously you may be punting to look for a gf. I don't mean that as a dig, I was doing a similar type of thing many, many years ago. I only realised later.

The good ones usually have a shit load of reviews stating they're good. The bad ones usually don't.

Hmm, well let's not bring psychoanalysis into this. I hope that isn't what my subconscious is doing. I asked a girl in my first 3 punts if she sees guys outside of work, she said no, and never asked again. I didn't initiate it in this case either, but did not relent. Who knows.