Dating a working girl

[25yoguy]

Mmm. So, you "don't feel the same urge to share" your experiences, yet you are asking others to share their "similar experiences"............

Stfu. Warning people against negative experiences is more useful than offering encouragement towards a positive one.

[winkywanky]

The good ones usually have a shit load of reviews stating they're good. The bad ones usually don't.

Hmm, well let's not bring psychoanalysis into this. I hope that isn't what my subconscious is doing. I asked a girl in my first 3 punts if she sees guys outside of work, she said no, and never asked again. I didn't initiate it in this case either, but did not relent. Who knows.

I think you've answered the question yourself. It seems obvious to me, having been there at a similar age.

That doesn't mean you shouldn't give going out with her a try.

But be aware.

[25yoguy]

You booked her for 15mins. In that time, she gave you a massage and you chatted enough to pull her. And she is a EE from a non poor county - I suspect you mean Poland.

This sort of stuff happens every day....

"Pull her" would be an exagerration. Don't know her intentions. But whatever.

[Cellular40]

The good ones usually have a shit load of reviews stating they're good. The bad ones usually don't.

Hmm, well let's not bring psychoanalysis into this. I hope that isn't what my subconscious is doing. I asked a girl in my first 3 punts if she sees guys outside of work, she said no, and never asked again. I didn't initiate it in this case either, but did not relent. Who knows.

Why are you asking escorts if they see guys outside work if you aren’t actively looking to date then?
Sounds like you’re using punting for dating. Which won’t go down well.

Join a dating app.

[datwabbit]

Agree with all of the above. In your shoes, I'd probably go for it - as long as you can handle the thought that whilst dating you, she's probably still wanking off other guys for cash.

If that thought is too much to bear, then forget it.

That's some date!

Easily sorted. Insist she keeps her hands in sight at all times.

[professorlove]

If you see her job as being like any other job then why would you want her to leave her job? She might have a bright career ahead of her 

Plus you’re only going on a casual date you’re not getting in a relationship. So you’ve waaay over thought this one already by assuming you’re already going to get together and you’ll demand her to leave her job, say no to this and that - based on a hand job.

You sound like you’re getting too clingy to this idea so its got disaster  written all over it for you 25yo. Good luck though.

Who is she? Go on tell us...

[25yoguy]

Why are you asking escorts if they see guys outside work if you aren’t actively looking to date then?
Sounds like you’re using punting for dating. Which won’t go down well.

Join a dating app.

Do you read? I asked one girl, in one of my first 3 times. That was 2 years ago.

I haven't asked since then.

[Cellular40]

Do you read? I asked one girl, in one of my first 3 times. That was 2 years ago.

I haven't asked since then.

And 2 years later you’ve managed to find an EE who seemingly wants to date you, when in reality probably sees you as an easy target for £££.
 

[Cellular40]

If you see her job as being like any other job then why would you want her to leave her job? She might have a bright career ahead of her 

Plus you’re only going on a casual date you’re not getting in a relationship. So you’ve waaay over thought this one already by assuming you’re already going to get together and you’ll demand her to leave her job, say no to this and that - based on a hand job.

You sound like you’re getting too clingy to this idea so its got disaster  written all over it for you 25yo. Good luck though.

Who is she? Go on tell us...

Exactly.

If he sees this job she does as like any other job, he wouldn’t potentially ask her to leave and get a ‘real’ job...

All seems suspect.

[AnthG]

"Pull her" would be an exagerration. Don't know her intentions. But whatever.

But you must appreciate unless you look like Brad Pitts long lost twin. It screams iffy on her part, doesn't it?

And if you do look like Brad Pitts long lost twin, you wouldn't need to take her up on the offer as you'd have regular girls throwing herself at you.

If it was me, I wouldn't walk down any dark alleys with her during the date.

[25yoguy]

In these terms the punter/WG 'relationship' is actually well balanced, it's a relationship of equals. Just as you might say 'what woman would want to go out with a guy that sees women for sex', equally you could say 'what guy would want to go out with a woman who's a sex worker' (apparently this girl doesn't sell actual sex, only HR. For the purposes of this thread we'll take that at face value).

In both cases, for various reasons both the man and the woman is likely to return to their previous activity. We all know this well.

In this case the guy is 25, we'll assume the girl is similar. In a way they are possibly not the 'hardened souls' like perhaps the majority of UKP membership, nor like many scheming WGs. If she's only doing HR she's perhaps stumbled into this to make ends meet for the time being. ie perhaps she didn't come into the UK to sell sex, also she's probably independent. The guy in this case doesn't seem to be a Jack the Lad. Seems genuine. Perhaps a little naive (but we probably all were once).

My take on it? Compared with if he met her in a bar, it's probably got 20 times more chance of not working out, and if it doesn't, 20 times more likely to end badly. 20 x 20 = 400...so 400 times more likely to end in a shit sandwich.

But if it does work out, even when she's got a headache she could probably wank him to Heaven with her experienced hands and a bottle of Johnsons, and he'd be just as happy and then roll over to sleep straight off.

I'm inclined to say to the OP give it a whirl, let it run its course, but all the time watch out for the warning signs well documented here by the experienced heads of UKP.

Now I'm not one to say c'mon, post up her link so we can all have a look. However, in the interests of his own safety, 25yoguy must post up all the details here (purely so we can all make sure he doesn't get led astray of course  ).

Despite some sweeping generalisations which are inaccurate, this is probably the most level headed comment on this thread.

[25yoguy]

But you must appreciate unless you look like Brad Pitts long lost twin. It screams iffy on her part, doesn't it?

And if you do look like Brad Pitts long lost twin, you wouldn't need to take her up on the offer as you'd have regular girls throwing herself at you.

If it was me, I wouldn't walk down any dark alleys with her during the date.

You guys assume too much.

Truth be told, if I had to guess... she's probably here alone and lonely, I was probably the only one who showed up and treated her with some level of respect (looking at the state of some of you, it has become clear this is in short supply). This made her comfortable enough to want to spend some time with me, maybe just to socialize and nothing more. We shall see.

[AnthG]

You guys assume too much.

Truth be told, if I had to guess... she's probably here alone and lonely, I was probably the only one who showed up and treated her with some level of respect (looking at the state of some of you, it has become clear this is in short supply). This made her comfortable enough to want to spend some time with me, maybe just to socialize and nothing more. We shall see.

..... 15-minute booking......

Does that not sound iffy to you. You could only have said maybe 6 sentences to her at the most given she was also massaging you.

[WARSZAWA16]

You guys assume too much.
Truth be told, if I had to guess... she's probably here alone and lonely, I was probably the only one who showed up and treated her with some level of respect (looking at the state of some of you, it has become clear this is in short supply). This made her comfortable enough to want to spend some time with me, maybe just to socialize and nothing more. We shall see.

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[Kev40ish]

..... 15-minute booking......

Does that not sound iffy to you. You could only have said maybe 6 sentences to her at the most given she was also massaging you.

But the Op showed her respect in those 15 minutes...
Unlike all of us, a generalisation from the OP that certainly isn’t my view of most of the reviewers on here..

[winkywanky]

Despite some sweeping generalisations which are inaccurate, this is probably the most level headed comment on this thread.

I assume you mean the one about punters and WGs 'retiring' and then later returning?

It's accurate, many actually do. It is infact a genie-out-of-the-bottle thing. This doesn't mean that the ex-WG and ex-punter will be unfaithful while in a reltaionship though, just that they are likely to return if it fails.

[DaVINCI]

And 2 years later you’ve managed to find an EE who seemingly wants to date you, when in reality probably sees you as an easy target for £££.
 

yet he has got everything planned out  and he's going to tell her to leave her job. 

l would hope the OP comes back at a later date and informs off the outcome  but l have a feeling you'll not hear from him for dust 

[Cellular40]

yet he has got everything planned out  and he's going to tell her to leave her job. 

l would hope the OP comes back at a later date and informs off the outcome  but l have a feeling you'll not hear from him for dust 

We certainly won’t.

The OP is a fantasist and not a very good one. 

[Kev40ish]

yet he has got everything planned out  and he's going to tell her to leave her job. 

l would hope the OP comes back at a later date and informs off the outcome  but l have a feeling you'll not hear from him for dust 

When she’s rinsed all the money she can, she’ll be onto the next easy target 

[lewisjones23]

You guys assume too much.

Truth be told, if I had to guess... she's probably here alone and lonely, I was probably the only one who showed up and treated her with some level of respect (looking at the state of some of you, it has become clear this is in short supply). This made her comfortable enough to want to spend some time with me, maybe just to socialize and nothing more. We shall see.

  

“ treat her well guys “ 

[Jonestown]

You guys assume too much.

Truth be told, if I had to guess... she's probably here alone and lonely, I was probably the only one who showed up and treated her with some level of respect (looking at the state of some of you, it has become clear this is in short supply). This made her comfortable enough to want to spend some time with me, maybe just to socialize and nothing more. We shall see.

This is where you really let the cat out of the bag, you imagine you are the special one, the one she has been waiting for whilst hand cranking the rest of the male population.

[Kev40ish]

This is where you really let the cat out of the bag, you imagine you are the special one, the one she has been waiting for whilst hand cranking the rest of the male population.

To be fair to the OP it is easy to imagine your special when you are new to it..
I often meet massage / rotational girls away from their parlours on their days off...

[Jonestown]

To be fair to the OP it is easy to imagine your special when you are new to it..
I often meet massage / rotational girls away from their parlours on their days off...

Well yes, I suppose doing God's work among fallen women is an honourable calling.

[GingerNuts]

I often meet massage / rotational girls away from their parlours on their days off...

Socially or professionaly?

[Kev40ish]

Well yes, I suppose doing God's work among fallen women is an honourable calling.

It’s tough but someone has to look after them on their days off 

[Kev40ish]

Socially or professionaly?

Bit of both really..

[kuck]

To be fair to the OP it is easy to imagine your special when you are new to it..
I often meet massage / rotational girls away from their parlours on their days off...

I've done that myself in the past. It is not hard if you are clear what you are in it for.

OP, I'd think don't read too much into it, and go on the date. You do sound mature for your age, so I doubt you'll land in trouble, but be careful.

Also a word of caution - from your review locations, it might not be hard to triangulate the identity of the girl. I might have a good guess already, if your "She's Eastern European, though not from Romania or Hungary. She's from a part of EE where poverty isn't rife." comment is a red herring.

[Marmalade]

The good ones usually have a shit load of reviews stating they're good. The bad ones usually don't.

Hmm, well let's not bring psychoanalysis into this. I hope that isn't what my subconscious is doing. I asked a girl in my first 3 punts if she sees guys outside of work, she said no, and never asked again. I didn't initiate it in this case either, but did not relent. Who knows.

You’re still acting like a dick. You were “planning to pay for food and drink anyway” — what the fuck for? If you’re not a sugardaddy or Seeking fan, buy the first drink and let her get the next round. If she’s a real woman and it’s a real date, she probably will. This is not the 1920s.

[Colston36]

The good ones usually have a shit load of reviews stating they're good. The bad ones usually don't.

Hmm, well let's not bring psychoanalysis into this. I hope that isn't what my subconscious is doing. I asked a girl in my first 3 punts if she sees guys outside of work, she said no, and never asked again. I didn't initiate it in this case either, but did not relent. Who knows.

Quite right: who knows? I know one girl - if you can call someone 40 a girl - now retired whose relationship with her ex-punter husband has thrived and survived. But several where it hasn't. It's very hard for a young man not to get jealous, and very hard for a wg to maintain a relationship. Why not just go ahead and enjoy the rides? 

[Fuzzyduck]

You’re still acting like a dick. You were “planning to pay for food and drink anyway” — what the fuck for? If you’re not a sugardaddy or Seeking fan, buy the first drink and let her get the next round. If she’s a real woman and it’s a real date, she probably will. This is not the 1920s.

To be fair, I think the 1920s model is OP's idea of a relationship. She might actually enjoy her work and might be fiercely independent, but that doesn't matter, right? Forget the notion of supporting what she wants to do with her life.

...
If things go anywhere, she'll have to leave this job.
...

[freeze44]

This is where you really let the cat out of the bag, you imagine you are the special one, the one she has been waiting for whilst hand cranking the rest of the male population.

spot on! Im so specialand must ride my white horse to her rescue! Op ya getting more and more silly with each post!

[bushman]

spot on! Im so specialand must ride my white horse to her rescue! Op ya getting more and more silly with each post!

He's young, we've all give him some advise. The rest can only be achieved through life's experiences.
Let us know how it pans out.

[Blackpool Rock]

He's young, we've all give him some advise. The rest can only be achieved through life's experiences.
Let us know how it pans out.

Yeah i'm waiting for another Red top review in a bit, popcorn at the ready 

[MME]

OK, here's my take on it - It'll go one of two ways:

1 - You'll have a blast and it'll leave a lasting, positive, impression in your life 
2- You'll be taken for a ride and it'll leave a lasting, negative impression in your life 

Don't over think it, dive in and give it a go - You will learn from both of the above.

[Fuzzyduck]

OK, here's my take on it - It'll go one of two ways:

1 - You'll have a blast and it'll leave a lasting, positive, impression in your life 
2- You'll be taken for a ride and it'll leave a lasting, negative impression in your life 

Don't over think it, dive in and give it a go - You will learn from both of the above.

A little binary. What about:
3) You'll have a good time, get some free fucks (although it will cost you T&E - it's the 1920s after all) but you get bored and realise it won't work out, so you drop her but feel bad about it since she was a nice girl. You'll think about it very occasionally in the future and smile to yourself.

[CheeseBoard]

I can imagine the date

How was your day? It was fine 'babeee', 10 massages, 6 i gave  hand jobs, 3 body to body, and one guy wanted to pay an extra 100 to take me up the shitter.  As he is a regular 'babeee' I only charged him 95 pounds.  I didn't have change so I got the whole hundred babeee.

Can you handle that conversation? I think you need to stop believing she only does massage (at this early stage).  If you want to date her you need to be fully accepting that she will come home from work smelling of spunk, and unless you come up with a serious amount of readies, she has no reason to stop.

When she turns up have a sneaky look to see if anyone has spaffed in her hair and she didn't notice.  If you see something and are ok with it, she is onto a winner 

[James999]

Will do.

Have you ever had a "normal" girlfriend ?

[Doc Holliday]

I can imagine the date

How was your day? It was fine 'babeee', 10 massages, 6 i gave  hand jobs, 3 body to body, and one guy wanted to pay an extra 100 to take me up the shitter.  As he is a regular 'babeee' I only charged him 95 pounds.  I didn't have change so I got the whole hundred babeee.

Can you handle that conversation? I think you need to stop believing she only does massage (at this early stage).  If you want to date her you need to be fully accepting that she will come home from work smelling of spunk, and unless you come up with a serious amount of readies, she has no reason to stop.

When she turns up have a sneaky look to see if anyone has spaffed in her hair and she didn't notice.  If you see something and are ok with it, she is onto a winner 

Is that based on personal experience?

[Belgarion]

Please ignore my UKP history of reviews. I've had 20+ positive experiences, and only written about the bad ones because they were so bad. Good experiences, I don't feel the same urge to share.

As for what I hope to hear from others with similar experiences, to see how they turned out. I don't imagine anyone got married, had kids, and drove into the sunset together - but was it fun while it lasted? Did shit go wrong and you can share how to spot that early on? I'm looking to learn from others' mistakes or to have some confidence in this.

To whoever that said it, no wanking guys off isnt the same as a real job, but its whatever someone has to do to get out of their situation until they are able to get something better. Most people start with shitty jobs. If a girl starts off with a shitty job that pays a lot, I quite admire the entrepreneurial spirit in that (as long as they eventually move on of course).

A lot of people don't seem to believe this scenario to be a true story. I don't care.

Ignore the evil haterz mate. I believe you. They are clearly just jealous that you managed to pull.

Obviously she found you very attractive unlike the ugly farts here that have never experienced love at first sight.

Go on the date and enjoy yourself. What could possibly go wrong?

She'll know your real name, you'll most likely share Social Media accounts and she can tell everyone you know about your habits.

Give her one for me 

[CBPaul]

Please ignore my UKP history of reviews. I've had 20+ positive experiences, and only written about the bad ones because they were so bad. Good experiences, I don't feel the same urge to share.

As for what I hope to hear from others with similar experiences, to see how they turned out. I don't imagine anyone got married, had kids, and drove into the sunset together - but was it fun while it lasted? Did shit go wrong and you can share how to spot that early on? I'm looking to learn from others' mistakes or to have some confidence in this.

What you lack in confidence you make up for by being an over sensitive, touchy arse.

Sharing your positive experiences (if any) would be useful, admitting you don't share isn't going to get you much help here. Basically you have a bad punt and sulk / strop off home to leave a negative review, thus making yourself feel better.

For what it's worth.... I've been for a drinks, food with a couple of prossies, mainly because I've seen them late on and been pleasant enough so they didn't see me as a deranged lunatic. Essentially, a couple of hours out with me was preferable to sitting in a shitty hotel room watching TV in a language they barely understood or sitting in the corner of the closest McDonald's. How it ended... generally with a kiss and cuddle, nothing more, before they moved on to the next shitty hotel and probably did the same again with someone else. 

If this isn't a tall story I wouldn't consider it dating, it's more basic than that. Go for as drink with her three times and you might get a free wank.     

[tynetunnel]

OP - you know you want to do this, so do it. Go in with your eyes wide open, but with a positive attitude. Enjoy it for whatever it is, and however long it lasts. Good luck 

[hungrypunt]

Just make sure its not Friday 10-11 I dont wanna bump into you on the way out.


Seriously though, be on your toes, anything could happen 

[Punterperson1971]

I like to think I get on with the wg’s ive seen and we both feel relaxed and not on edge and I do like to see a regular of mine more often than toftt as there’s no rush or pressure to make me cum and kick me out so quick,but I would never date one to much hassle both ends.

[jeanphillipe]

Ignore the evil haterz mate. I believe you. They are clearly just jealous that you managed to pull.

Obviously she found you very attractive unlike the ugly farts here that have never experienced love at first sight.

Go on the date and enjoy yourself. What could possibly go wrong?

She'll know your real name, you'll most likely share Social Media accounts and she can tell everyone you know about your habits.

Give her one for me 

when they eventually get married we can all pop round and take 'turns' and then review her on here. 

[CheeseBoard]

Is that based on personal experience?

No.  Finding out someone you want to date is a wg is very different to knowing in advance.  Dating comes with things you have to be able to accept in the other person.  Meeting her in this environment sets the scene that he has to accept what she does.  Very different to meeting her in a bar and then finding out what she does.  If he wants her to stop (dont know if OP does or not), she needs to replace the cash she earns somehow.
Sounds like a head f**k scenario to me

[Woodcutter]

Stfu. Warning people against negative experiences is more useful than offering encouragement towards a positive one.

Biting my tongue a little here, I'll just say a resource full of negative reviews & no positive ones is next to useless & leave it at that

[4xvx]

If your the jealous type it will fuck your head up, If your not go for it.

[SeekingtheTruth]

You guys assume too much.

Truth be told, if I had to guess... she's probably here alone and lonely, I was probably the only one who showed up and treated her with some level of respect (looking at the state of some of you, it has become clear this is in short supply). This made her comfortable enough to want to spend some time with me, maybe just to socialize and nothing more. We shall see.

Fuck me, you just made yourself look like a complete tool with this comment.

[niceguy30!!]

I've had a relationship with an escort about 10 yrs ago. It was a good bit of fun. The only issue was she supported Chelsea. As long as you're comfortable with what she does then go for it. You get her professional skills and her full emotional input in the sack. Win win. Just make sure she cleans her self up for you like she would when working. If me and my current misses split up I'd go out with another escort definitely.

[Belgarion]

when they eventually get married we can all pop round and take 'turns' and then review her on here. 

That's an excellent plan