can't get it up

[bediscrete]

Ok gang - so here's the problem.
I have recently had 2 punts.
First one was a definite negative and posted accordingly. However during the punt itself had problem getting an erection. Thought it was cos the wg was so disengaged.
But second punt last week. The wg is a stunner ('Natalie_' now back in Bristol)and sucked away on my penis. I came but was still soft.
Any suggestions?

[AnthG]

Speak to the Asda pharmacist and get some of the blue pill.

Or try eating watermelon and pomegranate (both are natures own viagras)

[Jedi Apprentice]

Some questions...
(1) How much watermelon / pomegranate do I eat for a 30 mins punt
(2) How long before the punt do I eat for it take effect
(3) With reference to points 1 and 2, do I need to be careful eating them round the in-laws

 

[AnthG]

Some questions...
(1) How much watermelon / pomegranate do I eat for a 30 mins punt
(2) How long before the punt do I eat for it take effect
(3) With reference to points 1 and 2, do I need to be careful eating them round the in-laws

 

I am not sure if you are serious or not, but its a case of adding them to your diet as opposed to taking them before a punt.

Watermelon tastes very nice so its worth chucking it in your packed lunch for example.

[bediscrete]

Speak to the Asda pharmacist and get some of the blue pill.

Or try eating watermelon and pomegranate (both are natures own viagras)

Thanks.
Watermelon's not in season - so looks like pomegranate. Anyone tried it.

Re the blue pill - why Asda particularly? Thought it was prescription only?

[cornbeefinspector]

Thanks.
Watermelon's not in season - so looks like pomegranate. Anyone tried it.

Re the blue pill - why Asda particularly? Thought it was prescription only?

 they are cheap in asda, and they will do the prescription for you

[Wiltsboy01]

 they are cheap in asda, and they will do the prescription for you

How's it work? Can you keep it between you and them?

[hornyguy19891]

Ok gang - so here's the problem.
I have recently had 2 punts.
First one was a definite negative and posted accordingly. However during the punt itself had problem getting an erection. Thought it was cos the wg was so disengaged.
But second punt last week. The wg is a stunner ('Natalie_' now back in Bristol)and sucked away on my penis. I came but was still soft.
Any suggestions?

I've never had any erection problems but I have had issues with being able to actually cum. My dick remains rock hard and I can feel everything but i just can't cum quickly, hence why i prefer a few hour bookings (which i tend to only be able to afford every 6 months or so!).

My tip, though i'm not sure it applies in this situation given the differences, is to relax and not think about the moment. The fact that it happened twice doesn't mean anything and the more you think about it the more it will affect you. I've been able to cum quicker (though not quicker than 45-60mins) now because I relaxed more. If it helps try booking a longer time and spend some of it on foreplay, chat to the WG and ask her to casually stroke you or vice versa and don't even think about sex or getting an erection.

That's all I have. Hope it helps

[circusbizarre]

just relax, exercise regularly and enjoy

[Tailpipe]

Ok gang - so here's the problem.
I have recently had 2 punts.
First one was a definite negative and posted accordingly. However during the punt itself had problem getting an erection. Thought it was cos the wg was so disengaged.
But second punt last week. The wg is a stunner ('Natalie_' now back in Bristol)and sucked away on my penis. I came but was still soft.
Any suggestions?

Having not punted for 4 months and having had sex with the same girl all my problems have gone away however it did take time 70 % of those problems are in your head . I thought it was because I was pissed all the time
And I am sure that did not help , condoms are a pain in the ass and do not help.
The lack of connection in apunt I think plays a big part.

I am sure pills work for many but I am not into that .

Get you head straight and all will be good again.

[vorian]

The question is can you maintain a hard on and cum through wanking if no then you might have a physical problem and maybe should go see your GP. If you can then as other members have said probably need to relax more and nature should take it's course.

[YouOnlyLiveOnce]

I've never had any erection problems but I have had issues with being able to actually cum. My dick remains rock hard and I can feel everything but i just can't cum quickly, hence why i prefer a few hour bookings (which i tend to only be able to afford every 6 months or so!).

There's a medical term for that: "retarded ejaculation", I have it too.  I very rarely ejaculate at all.  It happens sometimes,  and it doesn't seem to matter how much I fancy the girl, it seems to be entirely random.

It's tedious having to explain it to every WG who "can't make me come", but otherwise I don't treat it as a problem.   Basically there are guys who train themselves to prolong their pleasure by going to the brink of orgasm and staying there, and that happens naturally for me... so why complain?  I still very much enjoy the experience,  and it means that I can last longer and recover more quickly than a normal man:  half a dozen "semi-orgasms" in an hour is quite possible.

[smiths]

Ok gang - so here's the problem.
I have recently had 2 punts.
First one was a definite negative and posted accordingly. However during the punt itself had problem getting an erection. Thought it was cos the wg was so disengaged.
But second punt last week. The wg is a stunner ('Natalie_' now back in Bristol)and sucked away on my penis. I came but was still soft.
Any suggestions?

My advice is to go see your GP to get a check up, if they are like mine you wont be in with them long, mine wants me out asap but if i have a specific problem he is ok. I wouldnt advise taking Viagra or similar without getting the once over from someone medically trained.

[Jason]

Identical thread question to this: https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=19848.msg302486#msg302486

Viagra can only help you if you have a physiological problem. Also not being able to cum or having “retarded ejaculation” is VERY different from lasting as long as you want and cuming whenever you want. The former is a problem the latter is a skill.

If you are at a young age and you suffer either with from erectile dysfunction or retarded ejaculation it is most likely due to:
(i) watching too much porn: External Link/Members Only
and/or
(ii) prone masturbation (Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome (TMS)): External Link/Members Only

[SirFrank]

The question is can you maintain a hard on and cum through wanking if no then you might have a physical problem and maybe should go see your GP. If you can then as other members have said probably need to relax more and nature should take it's course.

Sensible advice and was what I was going to ask. I you can get an erection on your own as it were then the problem is perhaps not the old fella but may be psychological. Problem is once you are aware of it it becomes a catch 22. I couldn't get it up years ago because of booze. First time it had ever happened to me but it fucked with my head and I was paranoid aBout getting back on the horse.

If you have erection problems all the time go see the GP. Erection problems are sometimes related to other underlying medical problems (eg diabetes or heart disease). It's not always about Viagra so gt it checked out

[mt86]

If your problem is not psychological I would recommend:

1) Avoid porn and masturbation for a few days.
2) Try drinking Green Tea and do cardio exercise to increase your blood flow.

[hornyguy19891]

There's a medical term for that: "retarded ejaculation", I have it too.  I very rarely ejaculate at all.  It happens sometimes,  and it doesn't seem to matter how much I fancy the girl, it seems to be entirely random.

It's tedious having to explain it to every WG who "can't make me come", but otherwise I don't treat it as a problem.   Basically there are guys who train themselves to prolong their pleasure by going to the brink of orgasm and staying there, and that happens naturally for me... so why complain?  I still very much enjoy the experience,  and it means that I can last longer and recover more quickly than a normal man:  half a dozen "semi-orgasms" in an hour is quite possible.

Yup, as much as I want to cum quickly and then move on to round 2 or at least appear to really appreciate a girl i just can't! I saw the most amazing girl in portsmouth once and I'm sure i am in love with not just her personality but also her mouth and tongue yet that didn't do anything to help me cum quickly!

But you're right why complain?

[vorian]

Yup, as much as I want to cum quickly and then move on to round 2 or at least appear to really appreciate a girl i just can't! I saw the most amazing girl in portsmouth once and I'm sure i am in love with not just her personality but also her mouth and tongue yet that didn't do anything to help me cum quickly!

But you're right why complain?

I think I know who you mean in Portsmouth.

[hornyguy19891]

The former is a problem the latter is a skill.

Not necessarily. When I have sex it takes a long time, sometimes hours, for me to cum. This means it's not always fun as I want to cum after the girl has had a few. Nor does the girl want to keep fucking, sucking or tugging to try and make me cum! It's a skill if you can control it but for me it's different because I can't control it, I naturally find it difficult to cum, which is why I think it's a problem and not a skill.

Not saying that it's in the same league as erectile dsyfunction because i can at least have sex but it's frustrating when you have a beautiful girl who is skillful with her hands, mouth and tongue, she's tight as hell and you did anal and yet you still can't cum quickly enough. In the end I managed to cum on her face in the shower after 2 hours with her.

[vorian]

Not necessarily. When I have sex it takes a long time, sometimes hours, for me to cum. This means it's not always fun as I want to cum after the girl has had a few. Nor does the girl want to keep fucking, sucking or tugging to try and make me cum! It's a skill if you can control it but for me it's different because I can't control it, I naturally find it difficult to cum, which is why I think it's a problem and not a skill.

Not saying that it's in the same league as erectile dsyfunction because i can at least have sex but it's frustrating when you have a beautiful girl who is skillful with her hands, mouth and tongue, she's tight as hell and you did anal and yet you still can't cum quickly enough. In the end I managed to cum on her face in the shower after 2 hours with her.

Yep I definitely  know who you mean now 

[hornyguy19891]

I think I know who you mean in Portsmouth.

Hayley?  External Link/Members Only

[vorian]

Hayley?  External Link/Members Only

Of course 

[Jason]

Not necessarily. When I have sex it takes a long time, sometimes hours, for me to cum. This means it's not always fun as I want to cum after the girl has had a few. Nor does the girl want to keep fucking, sucking or tugging to try and make me cum! It's a skill if you can control it but for me it's different because I can't control it, I naturally find it difficult to cum, which is why I think it's a problem and not a skill.

Read again what I said:

not being able to cum or having “retarded ejaculation” is VERY different from lasting as long as you want and cuming whenever you want. The former is a problem the latter is a skill.

You agree with me. The word “former” was referring to the first thing I mentioned (i.e. someone not being able to cum). The word "latter" was referring to the second thing that I mentioned (i.e someone to have self-control and be able to cum at will).   And I said the first is a problem whereas the second is a skill.

[jcdmj12]

Not necessarily. When I have sex it takes a long time, sometimes hours, for me to cum. This means it's not always fun as I want to cum after the girl has had a few. Nor does the girl want to keep fucking, sucking or tugging to try and make me cum! It's a skill if you can control it but for me it's different because I can't control it, I naturally find it difficult to cum, which is why I think it's a problem and not a skill.

Not saying that it's in the same league as erectile dsyfunction because i can at least have sex but it's frustrating when you have a beautiful girl who is skillful with her hands, mouth and tongue, she's tight as hell and you did anal and yet you still can't cum quickly enough. In the end I managed to cum on her face in the shower after 2 hours with her.

I have a similar problem sometimes, but thankfully not too often.  Sometimes it's related to me using porn too much/masturbating too much. If I lay off, I get more sensitive.  Could that be a cause for you?

[santiago2]

     I was having a massage with the twins in Bournemouth just before Christmas, although they
      dont do any extras, they do a nice tantric type massage, which always gets me excited, i
      popped a Kamagara before i went, thinking its nearly Christmas and maybe a surprise pressie
     may happen, lovely massage of my back, then on turning over i gets a cramp in my big toe, and
     i says the wrong bits gone stiff, so one of them starts to rub it, i said you dont do that when the
     other bits stiff do you, they both laughed, frustrating but good fun, 

[DannyJames]

Or try eating watermelon and pomegranate (both are natures own viagras)

Although for me they act as nature's own laxative.

[vorian]

     I was having a massage with the twins in Bournemouth just before Christmas, although they
      dont do any extras, they do a nice tantric type massage, which always gets me excited, i
      popped a Kamagara before i went, thinking its nearly Christmas and maybe a surprise pressie
     may happen, lovely massage of my back, then on turning over i gets a cramp in my big toe, and
     i says the wrong bits gone stiff, so one of them starts to rub it, i said you dont do that when the
     other bits stiff do you, they both laughed, frustrating but good fun, 

Twins? in Bournemouth do you have an AW link for these twins please

[Panda Power]

I had this problem a couple of years ago, it came as a bit of a shock, even the blu pills didn't seem to do to much good. Eventually I did what others have suggested and went to see my GP, he had an idea and blood tests proved him right, my testosterone levels were low. Evidently it's quite common in men in their 50's, he prescribed testosterone gel which I put on my body everyday after showering, they warn you not to put it on your penis or testicles as it can burn. It seems to work for me, so I would recommend visiting your GP.

[the pussy man]

ignore the guys who say  take pills or eat this or whatever.

firstly have a think about what is happening.  it sounds like from your description that you had a bad punt, and that this has caused a little psychological switch in your thinking.  so you had a bad day, and then this probably raised doubts in your mind when you next went for a punt.  now as the 2nd punt went on you proabbly thought something like...  what is happening to me, what is wriong with me, why cant i get an errection...  etc etc  this anxiety and worry then will have exacerbated the problem.

i have had similar experiences myself on 2 periods of my life.  once when i was early twenties with girlfriends.  it lasted until i got a steady girlfriend and then i was relaxed enough to just work through it.  it just took 1 session for me when i was relaxed and there was no time limit, and then i got hard again.  after that i didnt have any more trouble for over a decade.

recently i saw an EE girl and had a shit punt.  she was one of those who the situation wasnt ideal when i got there (2 girls in hotel room, not girls in photos, i felt ill at ease  etc etc) then she wanted to give me a shit 1 min blow job, put a jonny on and ride me.  i felt under pressure and tho i managed to get hard enough to put on a jonny and shag her, it was pretty pathetic and i thought i would go soft all the way thru it.

next punt again an EE and the worry was there again, this girl was really hot (cheryl cole lookalike), really friendly, but a bit rushed.  i couldnt get anything going thru the BJ, so i asked her to stop and i went down on her until i was hard.  this took the pressure off me, and its somethign that turns me on anyday of the week.  i got hard enough to put on a jonny and once i was fucking her it was back to normal.  again no problems since then.

so with me it is more of something in my mind.  if i have a bad punt, or i get doubts about my ability, then the stress has in the past caused me troubles.  however, once i;m over the bump, its back to normal for me.

i would recommend that if you have a girl who you've seen before and feel relaxed with, and ideally can have a laugh with...  go to her for a 1 hr or 2 hr session and just get up to rudeness with her.  don;t put loads of pressure on yourself to come, you could just aim to give her a great time with oral or whatever takes your fancy.  get her to give you a sexy massage or bath/shower, whatever.  have it in your head that its OK to have sex, but it's OK not to have sex too.  this will take the pressure off and in time your mind will switch back.

if you start taking med or whatever you could start to think you need them and this can just complicate your thinking.

obviously for some guys of a certain age or whatever, drugs are a great fix for them.  but certainly it sounds a bit soon to be diagnosing yourself as having ED problems

[jcdmj12]

Ok gang - so here's the problem.
I have recently had 2 punts.
First one was a definite negative and posted accordingly. However during the punt itself had problem getting an erection. Thought it was cos the wg was so disengaged.
But second punt last week. The wg is a stunner ('Natalie_' now back in Bristol)and sucked away on my penis. I came but was still soft.
Any suggestions?

Do you get erections in the morning? (morning glory).

If no, you have a physical problem.
If yes, it's something else.

Can you get erections ok when you're masturbating?
How much porn do you watch?

[GeeWiz]

IMO you should speak to a doctor and not even consider taking pills.  I know guys that can only perform with these things now.  They're best left until you have no option and even then if safe to take.

[jcdmj12]

IMO you should speak to a doctor and not even consider taking pills.  I know guys that can only perform with these things now.  They're best left until you have no option and even then if safe to take.

Yep, agree 100%.  Viagra is a powerful drug, and needs to be treated with respect. FFS, even headache pills can leave you with constant  headaches if you take them too often.

[santiago2]

Twins? in Bournemouth do you have an AW link for these twins please

       Gumtree Bournemouth Massage, Valindas, phone 07919074170

[LL]

Most likely the problem is psychological like mine.  I don't have any problems getting erections when I'm on my own or with my regular partner.  Even when going for a massage I don't have any problems getting hard.  With a WG it's different in that I can't perform unless I take something.  Perhaps I'm nervous / feeling guilty / whatever.  My point is that once you've started taking Viagra or another ED drug to get hard on a punt (when you have no problems getting hard at other times) then you may become dependent upon it for punts as I am.  I guess that's not such a bad thing unless you're punting frequently.  As others have said it would be best to seek professional advice.

[bediscrete]

All
Thanks for all the advice.
In answer to some of the queries -
I do sometimes get a morning 'hard-on'.
I am struggling currently to get hard when masturbating.
For general info, I'm in my early fifties & reasonably fit (though not as much aerobic exercise as I would like).
Seeing my GP - out of the question - my other half would wonder why (by the way we don't have sex these days which is one of the (many) reasons for punting).
So - decisions.
I will probably look into the blue pill option - I don't get opportunity to punt much so no issues of frequent use.
I will try to get more general exercise.
I will cut back on visiting porn sites and masturbation for a while.
Which brings me to my next query.
What sort of wg to visit next?
should I go for someone more assertive rather than reactive?
Or maybe a 'tantric' option?
I am London based (north and central/sw) are the areas I would potentially access.

[vorian]

You should really see your GP anyway to be sure it will be confidential and they will not care about sexual issues.

[whiterussian]

ignore the guys who say  take pills or eat this or whatever.

firstly have a think about what is happening.  it sounds like from your description that you had a bad punt, and that this has caused a little psychological switch in your thinking.  so you had a bad day, and then this probably raised doubts in your mind when you next went for a punt.  now as the 2nd punt went on you proabbly thought something like...  what is happening to me, what is wriong with me, why cant i get an errection...  etc etc  this anxiety and worry then will have exacerbated the problem.

i have had similar experiences myself on 2 periods of my life.  once when i was early twenties with girlfriends.  it lasted until i got a steady girlfriend and then i was relaxed enough to just work through it.  it just took 1 session for me when i was relaxed and there was no time limit, and then i got hard again.  after that i didnt have any more trouble for over a decade.

recently i saw an EE girl and had a shit punt.  she was one of those who the situation wasnt ideal when i got there (2 girls in hotel room, not girls in photos, i felt ill at ease  etc etc) then she wanted to give me a shit 1 min blow job, put a jonny on and ride me.  i felt under pressure and tho i managed to get hard enough to put on a jonny and shag her, it was pretty pathetic and i thought i would go soft all the way thru it.

next punt again an EE and the worry was there again, this girl was really hot (cheryl cole lookalike), really friendly, but a bit rushed.  i couldnt get anything going thru the BJ, so i asked her to stop and i went down on her until i was hard.  this took the pressure off me, and its somethign that turns me on anyday of the week.  i got hard enough to put on a jonny and once i was fucking her it was back to normal.  again no problems since then.

so with me it is more of something in my mind.  if i have a bad punt, or i get doubts about my ability, then the stress has in the past caused me troubles.  however, once i;m over the bump, its back to normal for me.

i would recommend that if you have a girl who you've seen before and feel relaxed with, and ideally can have a laugh with...  go to her for a 1 hr or 2 hr session and just get up to rudeness with her.  don;t put loads of pressure on yourself to come, you could just aim to give her a great time with oral or whatever takes your fancy.  get her to give you a sexy massage or bath/shower, whatever.  have it in your head that its OK to have sex, but it's OK not to have sex too.  this will take the pressure off and in time your mind will switch back.

if you start taking med or whatever you could start to think you need them and this can just complicate your thinking.

obviously for some guys of a certain age or whatever, drugs are a great fix for them.  but certainly it sounds a bit soon to be diagnosing yourself as having ED problems

What a really nice, caring post.  I take my hat off to you for going the extra mile to try and help a fellow UKP'r

[GeeWiz]

OP can visit escorts behind his wife's back but not a doctor.  Is this for real?

If she has to know just tell her you want a medical before you start your exercising.