Something I've noticed in my long term ('O/H') relationships in the past is a change in attitude
which to an extent becomes good, but also very limiting! It happens when the honeymoon sensation of lust
(ok, caring, nicely expressed lust, but still lust) when that lust gives way to 'friendship.'
Now I can be a best friend to an OH when she needs it, but this is not a basis,
it is just an 'as needed.'We want women mostly to bloody well act like women
(ok, not in the workplace etc, or with 'pals', but mostly). And contrary to what they often say, women basically like men acting as men.
When the 'friendship' (oxytocin neurochemical) becomes strong or too strong, the man loses his good sense of 'macho', his voice loses the deep, seductive quality, and his confidence tends to be reduced a bit (testosterone level tends to drop in males in long-term relationships).
What's more...Women mostly like men to bloody well act like men
, even if they do whomp on about 'friendship' and being respected 'as a person' (ie sexually 'neutered').
This comes fairly naturally in a civvy chat-up scenario (at least a successful one). The man is ready to have the hots for her the minute she suggests she's going to drop her knickers.
Prossies to an extent (and it has to be said, wives) tend to reduce this to a begging attitude on the part of the man. He easily becomes a 'fluffie', worshipping women, nervous, feels harassed by her constant demands, tries to please her in any way possible or else switches off and ignores her. If I ever get stuck being 'friendly', when I ought to be working out how to kamasutra every fucking hole on her body and exploding inside her as she sweats and shakes the earth with my enormous cock pumping the living dayiights into her and out of her, if I ever forget that, I just treat it like a role play until I get back in the swing.
Flirting with your wife even if you don't mean it (or she doesn't intend to let you fuck her) is still good patter. It keeps you in shape, amuses her, makes her feel wanted and all that crap, valued etc etc, and keeps you in shape mentally for fucking.
Flirting with a prossie is just pretend. But same technique. Relaxed body language, deeper voice, eyeing her up in a way that says she's attractive (even if she's a bit of pig).
Women tend to be very happy when they have a slave and the world revolves around them. (Nurturing, bring home food to cave, provide safety to infants): but that primal instinct is overdone. Women today have similar powers as men. Prossies often get paid a fuck of a lot more. That can turn out too bloody expensive, life-ruiningly expensive! They forget that it is the ideal
in womanhood that we adore, not the individual (that is often unfortunately a bit short of the idea!) Once they realise that they can get uppity. So best tactic for anyone trapped in the situation is to brazenly sing the song but with a wink. Let her take it as a nice joke or fall for it as a compliment, who the fuck cares, if you're happy and she's happy, she's more likely to let you do your thing (either with her or feel that you like her so much she ain't thinking about whether you are shagging the wee tart off Adultwork!!)
Now I know rap is not everyone's cup of tea but I was just watching Tinie Tempeh's new vid and thinking how well he portrays some great qualities (even if it is black gangsta, underlying principles the same). https://youtu.be/OEiva3cMv6k
He thinks he's great
He smiles a lot
He makes the sort of innuendo girls like ("I could make a honey give away your last rolo" or "get low, as his eyes go momentarily quickly down to her ass
.......did she object and think he said 'your' rolo (meaning her cunt) oooo no, maybe it was 'her' rolo haha no offence
Not too-serious sounding when he's boasting about how great he is
Makes it about him
but him in the sense of someone the girls want
He knows "what girls want" : (mostly to do with his image
Women (who like to be called girls etc) know that he knows what they want and they are fucking proud of it (they like being a woman)
Another great thing is that it is sexy and completely non-sexist: I could re-write this post but saying the same from a woman's point of view, like the girls that reafirm his song but with their