While it's easy to have a knee-jerk reaction to this, and say she's "crazy", it sounds like she is experiencing a neurological condition called
External Link/Members Only. Given that she has 'augmented' herself in small, more common ways, clearly that was the thin end of the wedge, which is progressing toward this conclusion.
I don't know if it's a good thing or a bad thing that she's leapt past scarification and other more 'acceptable' -but still extreme- forms of body modification, and straight into this. She's either serious, or is it's a passing phase. I'm not clicking on those links to find out to be honest. While it's easy to be shocked at such a notion, neurological conditions run deep, otherwise they wouldn't be conditions. Like a phobia, or anything else. It seems strange, but to the person it's part of who they are, and is basically an 'itch they need to scratch' for whatever reasons.
I think what might compound the situation is that that if she reads people's negative reactions she'll feel attacked, defensive and maybe go off the rails even further, but maybe, (hopefully) she can put that initial reaction aside, realising that of course people will be shocked by it, and realise she needs to look into the disorder and explore her desires, needs etc with a psychiatrist or someone of that ilk before she decides to act on these thoughts, because condition or otherwise there are surgeons out there who will ethically or unethically (but still perfectly legitimately) provide her with what she needs. And maybe she does, or maybe she just thinks she does, but she definitely needs to take a step back and realise what she's doing, and explore why she is going down this route. Or maybe she has, what can you do?
She's clearly got some kind of OCD, and needs to be very controlling of things. Her endless, very specific 'do's and don'ts' that she had on her escorting profile, and her reaction to AnthG saying he posts here. Clearly she's formed a very solid opinion of all men who post on here based on vague assumptions. One guy might have upset her, therefore all men are bastards. Maybe she took up escorting to subconsciously start the wheels in motion; to feel and literally be objectified by men, setting up a strict set of do's and don'ts that men will falter with, so in turn she will get upset by them when they impose on her personal boundaries, and so in time she'll need to be in full control again, and that this extreme is the conclusion.
I don't know... I'm rambling. Part of me doesn't give a single fuck what someone wants to do with themselves, especially if their partner is too meek to do anything about it. I'm probably thinking about it more than both of them, and I don't even know them. It makes me less sympathetic with both of them, BUT they are the only ones who know exactly how things are, and maybe it's the only way she'll be genuinely happy? I don't know, because I don't know them. So while it is disconcerting to see someone go through this it's best not to judge. I know people probably aren't, and are just taken aback by something so alien. I just hope if she or someone she knows is reading this, the reaction to it is one of contemplation rather than something more defensive.
She needs to fully explore herself, and take stock of why she's really doing it, and if it can be addressed as a problem to be overcome, or a genuine route to take in her life for the better.
