First Punt - Should I tell her?

[55378008]

Assuming she's got good reviews, and I take precautions to be explicit about what services I'm after up front, I would think letting her know would be a good idea - so she in turn can be more understanding and explicit about her expectations.

My intended punt:
- outcall 1 hr from outcall only WG
- vanilla punt OWO, FK, GFE, sex
- from home (I'm single and live alone) but will meet her nearby instead of giving her full address.

Context:
I've been sexually active for over 15 years with over 30 partners in the past, tired of chasing women, just want a reliable shag without the hassle.

Many thanks and apologies in advance for any noob mistakes.

[Sparquin]

I cannot see the upside in telling her as if she knows you are new to this she might feel she can get away with doing less work during the punt as you have nobody to compare with.

However I certainly recommend telling her you are looking for a regular and reliable shag and this will give her more incentive to give you a good service. WGs prefer to have regs in my experience.

[PLeisure]

No discernable noob mistakes 
Two things:
1. I would let her know - if she's good, the WG will tailor a meet around your needs and desires. They can pretty much figure out your situation fairly quickly, anyway.
2. You might like to elaborate a bit more on "meeting her nearby". The concern for security is understandable, which is why many punters choose the out-call venue to be at a hotel and never their private residence. At the same time, a WG may feel cautious if she's asked to meet at a pub, or similar. Especially for a first meet. If you choose this option, it's just possible she will have a shadow present.

[TheNewSeeker]

If you've read a number of different reviews you should have gleaned that no two punts go the same, and have a sense of how things generally can go. Experience teaches you how to deal with most situations, including the decision to walk. If you find one on here who as several good reviews from experienced reviewers, and you are not Jabba the Hutt, you should be OK whether she knows you're a newby or not.

The decision to tell her you're a punting virgin really comes down to your confidence but I don't think there's a lot to be gained if you choose well.

[threechilliman]

.....if she's good, the WG will tailor a meet around your needs and desires...

Completely agree. A good WG takes pride in her service and there are some around. The more info they have, the easier it is for them to tailor it for you. My advice would be to pick a well reviewed girl, perhaps someone who has been recommended, let her know your new to this and what you're looking for. If she's good, you should have an enjoyable meet.

Good luck as well, hope it goes alright for you.

tcm

[Dani]

I can tell you now no girl with half a brain cell would agree to an outcall without an address so she can let someone know where she is.  None that have the ability to tie their own shoe laces will agree to meet you near by.  If she is well reviewed she will also have come across some of the weirdos and you only have to read saafe to see how many new girls got hurt by the guy who met them near a station then led them halfway around London before taking them to his bedsit and raping them. 

If you are having her to your home and live alone why don't you want her to know where she is going so she can let her safety buddy know?  To me that sounds really dodgy so I wont be giving any advice to help you on this

[Horizontal pleasures]

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=52800.msg936876#msg936876

Here is the lady he plans to see. I hope he tells her the full address. Dani gives good advice here. 

[55378008]

I don't want to ring any alarm bells. will give her the address then. for the record I was planning to give her a public landmark right next to my flat so we can meet in a public area then ask her to text her safety buddy the address once we're both comfortable. perhaps a good compromise is to give the building address but not the specific flat number.

A bit overly cautious on my part but I tend to er on the side of caution.

Drat, with all the commotion I've stirred up here, she'll probably have worked out who I am now and a punting noob anyway

[DoberManic]

Drat, with all the commotion I've stirred up here, she'll probably have worked out who I am now and a punting noob anyway

Or the poor girl might think you're a serial killer!! 

Joking aside, if you're so concerned about your security / privacy why not just arrange an incall with a well reviewed WG?? 

[iloverachelv]

Enjoy an incall mate.

That way she wont see your 25 year catalouge of songs of praise VHS tapes.

[PLeisure]

OP, again, understand your cautious approach - however, may be more appropriate to review your reasons for booking an Out-call to your personal residence. Most here won't do that; and a lot tend to be very prolific punters. 

[iloverachelv]

I agree with the post above, I wouldnt even consider a regular back at my home.

Just too much risk with that.

[vw]

As a frequent outcall host, make sure you know who is coming via reviews, much more important than any landmarks, assume you are single if not your mad.  Never had an outcall problem except for a moose turning up once wasn't best pleased but ended up realising a bit of annoyance leads to a great fuck and cured my DE.

Just Do Your Home Work !!!!

[TeaAndCrumpets]

I decided to tell the first WG that she was in fact the first. Once she understood I meant first punt and not first time with a woman (which was rather funny!) it ended up being really helpful as she took extra time to explain how the process worked and how to approach the situation.
Can't see why you wouldn't tell her IMO, just do some research so you don't end up getting fleeced.
Helped me a lot and meant future punts were a lot easier!

[NIK]

I can tell you now no girl with half a brain cell would agree to an outcall without an address so she can let someone know where she is.  None that have the ability to tie their own shoe laces will agree to meet you near by.  If she is well reviewed she will also have come across some of the weirdos and you only have to read saafe to see how many new girls got hurt by the guy who met them near a station then led them halfway around London before taking them to his bedsit and raping them. 

If you are having her to your home and live alone why don't you want her to know where she is going so she can let her safety buddy know?  To me that sounds really dodgy so I wont be giving any advice to help you on this

This sounds sensible advice Dani, however over the years to give three examples I have met:
a girl from ABC Escorts Nottingham at a railway station. Even though it was the first time with this girl I had made bookings with them before however so they knew my address. She was a great girl who went on to become a brilliant regular.
:an agency girl in London outside my hotel as it was a small b&b without a proper reception. This was the first time so was more risky for the girl. Again went on to be a great appointment!
:and most risky of all for the girl was an indie from Milton Keynes who met me for the first time in London at a tube station. After making the appointment I actually put myself in the girl's position and wondered why she would risk it. I thought she would turn up with security but she came alone. As it turned out she was a bit of a  who was smoking spliffs and drinking pina colada. An attractive 20 year old it was one of my more memorable appointments, not necessarily for the right reasons though!
Of course I'm lovely    but she wasn't to know that!
So it would seem some girls are prepared to take risks. Of course it can be also risky for the punter.

[55378008]

At this rate I suspect I'm going to spend more time on this forum debating merits of the choices above rather than the actual punt itself. It's funny (less so for me though) how I've gone from a complete noob to a seasoned serial killer with one post.

First of all appreciate all the feedback.
I shall comment on some of the remarks above in hopes of others helping me realize the error in my ways:

Why an not an incall:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=57171.msg738094;topicseen#msg738094

Why not at a hotel:
the whole reason I'm considering punting (on a regular basis) is for the convenience. a hotel in my area would also add substantial cost to it. granted if I really felt paranoid, I could do the first punt from a hotel and if it's positive I can invite her to my residence the next time round. In fairness, I can't think of a good reason why I wouldn't give her the address (having read her few reviews) from the start, however it is the unknown unknowns that worry me and hence the added precaution. whatever the decision, I'm aware that making her feel safe is in my best interest for a good punt and will use that as a guiding principal.

Punting from home
I'd really like to hear the reasons from those of you who are very against punting from ones home  bearing in mind:
- I don't own any items worth stealing at home
- I'm single and it wouldn't really jeapordize my career or social life if someone accused me of seeing a WG.
- personal documents locked away
but I my have overlooked other aspects that perhaps you can enlighten me on.

A few minor questions from some comments above:
TheNewSeeker:

really comes down to your confidence

how so? are you referring to self confidence and nerves? If so: I'd have thought it'd be much more nerve wrecking for me with a Civvie I've brought home for the first time compared to a business transaction where the provider is incentivized to please me.

PLeisure:

They can pretty much figure out your situation fairly quickly, anyway.

how would I give it away - is there much decorum and standard practices that are unsaid and therefore would be tell tale signs? or are you referring to the nerves?

[vw]

Why an not an incall:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=57171.msg738094;topicseen#msg738094

Your not doing an incall based in a comment from a banned member who is one of the most hated bullshitters ever to grace these pages ?  Didn't read what post said because it said Quasmodo the guy that dos £130 weekend outcalls, as such will be nonsense !

95% of the board do incalls only.

You can walk from an incall, you cannot walk from yours.

I outcall all the time but get some experience first.

[55378008]

virtualwaster apprecaite the precaution and I hand't picked up on the 'banned' part. however
the original topic was by Vivago and contributed to by many others:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=57171.msg738033#msg738033

I personally agree with and value most of the benefits mentioned in that post. furthermore, I would have thought having my first punt in the comfort and familiarity of home would be much less daunting compared to walking into a foreign flat of strangers

[vw]

virtualwaster apprecaite the precaution and I hand't picked up on the 'banned' part. however
the original topic was by Vivago and contributed to by many others:
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=57171.msg738033#msg738033

I personally agree with and value most of the benefits mentioned in that post. furthermore, I would have thought having my first punt in the comfort and familiarity of home would be much less daunting compared to walking into a foreign flat of strangers

True benefits, its how I punt, half the time, I get cursed by the guys that can only do incalls.  As I mentioned before make sure your judgement ius in tune and do your home work and none of the silly 250 game stuff I play .

[PLeisure]

You're overthinking all this - made your choice of WG, just enjoy 

[Ben4454]

From my experience telling a girl you're sexually not experienced won't help you in the punt. Just bang away and it is all about your pleasure. Don't worry about it.

[uutarn]

From my experience telling a girl you're sexually not experienced won't help you in the punt. Just bang away and it is all about your pleasure. Don't worry about it.

I agree with this 100%. Done a little experimentation and i found that it neither helps nor hinders the punt.
If the girl is knows her stuff, she can tell and will adapt accordingly  .

[kefcseries]

a business transaction where the provider is incentivized to please me.

I'm sure you've read the reviews board on here. Nothing is guaranteed if you've never met the girl before, regardless of how well reviewed she may be.

[iloverachelv]

Posted this after just reading your post OP.

I told the first girl it was my first time doing it.  Had a great time as my shaking hand gave her the cash.

I've not yet been back to her because of the distance but plan to.

Each person you meet is different.  I could have gone all loopy for the first girl, she was cute enough. 

Go with your gut instinct as thats how your going to be when your there.

Do you need to tell her?  tell her.  Honesty is a good policy.

[theGOAT]

Its been 2 weeks since your original post OP - so have you met the chosen girl yet?  How did it go?

If not yet, then my advice is to find a girl who is well rated on here.  Email her on AW to let her know it is your first time and if she agrees to meet then invite her to your home.  She will be suspicious of you because you have no AW feedback, so to re-assure her you will have to come across "normal and genuine" in your emails. She may also want to talk to you on the phone first and get you to place an AW booking.

Alternatively go see a few Incalls first and get some AW feedback before trying an outcall.

Cheers! 

[thefoxman]

From my experience telling a girl you're sexually not experienced won't help you in the punt. Just bang away and it is all about your pleasure. Don't worry about it.

Yep - bang away, its all about you - aint punting great
-so easy to forget that when you're used to civvy sex and one wrong move and its all off...