Any Tips For a Good Overnighter?

[AnthG]

I have been searching the forum for possibly a topic about this and unless I have missed it I cannot find one.

There is a few topics on how to go about securing the best overnighter in terms of finding the right girl and getting it for the best price. And I also found my old topic of asking for a checklist of items needed to bring from my first overnighter at a hotel.

My situation is I have an overnight planned for next week. My second ever overnigther. And I am in the stage now of that I am eager like hell for it to take place and cannot wait. But I am also getting very nervous that I do something wrong or miss something obvious or whatever.

So can I ask if anyone who has done multiple overnighters, if they have any suggestions of what to do, or can be done to ensure the girl has a good time in the overnighter and things go through smoothly.

I appreciate there is the obvious 'turn up clean, be polite and hand over the money quick' advice. But the problem is (for some crazy reason) I decided to search and read some Saafe topics for guidance on this and seen a whole load of "I did an overnighter and my god it was awful and never again will I do it" topics that has kind of made me nervous about it and wanting to ensure things go ok.

So any tips or pointers on how to try to make the punt go ok from the girls side of things. It would be nice for example if any WG members have any memorable good things a punter has done, or brought, in an overnighter to make them stand out as memorable.

The plan for the overnighter is that we are not going out. I am going to her place to watch a couple of my favorite movies together and then seeing how things progress from there (this is my idea and what I specifically want from my overnighter before anyone asks).

[vw]

Don't drink to much alcohol wise, or get on the beak, you want to be in control of senses.

The position dice game has come out a few times, went on direct cam once ! 

Just go with the flow, you don't seem a quiet type person and conversation is good between pops and forget sleeping noting worse than 2 people sleeping with one eye open.

[Corus Boy]

I'm in the "Likes" camp of overnights.

I set up a RB on AW.

£300 with a dinner meal out and breakfast either out or at home.

At my age I'm not too demanding in bed.

Include a scenario that I would enjoy and welcome comments.

Sit back and await the bids.

As usual many bids are not to my taste or bidding silly prices.

But everytime I've done this, probably ten times I've always found one or two who tempt me.

Although I accept that it holds a risk I don't worry that I've never met her before.

Accept bid I like most and then lie back and enjoy.

[AnthG]

Accept bid I like most and then lie back and enjoy.

Like I say this is not the purpose of the topic. The overnighter is setup for next week.

Its now stage 2 so to speak. How to ensure it goes ok on the night itself.

[vw]

Like I say this is not the purpose of the topic. The overnighter is setup for next week.

Its now stage 2 so to speak. How to ensure it goes ok on the night itself.

Have you met before ?

[Corus Boy]

Like I say this is not the purpose of the topic. The overnighter is setup for next week.

Its now stage 2 so to speak. How to ensure it goes ok on the night itself.

Discuss it with the lucky lady.

Communication is the key to success.

Find out what she would like for snacks and drinks.

Don't pig out or drink too much.

Check smoking habits.

Get some condoms in, just in case she doesn't bring enough.

Your own supply of wet wipes and lube might be useful.

Clean, fresh bed linen and towels.

[AnthG]

Don't drink to much alcohol wise, or get on the beak, you want to be in control of senses.

Shit, that is number 2 thing I was worried about but didn't mention it to not lead things.

I do not drink alcohol much. I do drink just not much. And the plan was to bring alcohol for us to share while watching the movie.

The thing I am worried about it is two fold.

1. What if its a case of the girl can tolerate alcohol much more than me and I drink too much and turn into like the reverse of Two girl appointment.

And

2. If I do not hardly drink anything. Or sit there saying. "I will just drink cola". I will look seriously unsociable and thus turn the punt bad in that respects.

Now my second worry is sleeping. So this is why I would like to drink at least some alcohol during the night as I am worried incase I cannot fall asleep or she cannot and I start fidgeting and annoy the girl this way preventing her from sleeping. So by having some alcohol it will effectively aid in falling asleep in that regards.

[Corus Boy]

Shit, that is number 2 thing I was worried about but didn't mention it to not lead things.

I do not drink alcohol much. I do drink just not much. And the plan was to bring alcohol for us to share while watching the movie.

The thing I am worried about it is two fold.

1. What if its a case of the girl can tolerate alcohol much more than me and I drink too much and turn into like the reverse of Two girl appointment.

And

2. If I do not hardly drink anything. Or sit there saying. "I will just drink cola". I will look seriously unsociable and thus turn the punt bad in that respects.

Now my second worry is sleeping. So this is why I would like to drink at least some alcohol during the night as I am worried incase I cannot fall asleep or she cannot and I start fidgeting and annoy the girl this way preventing her from sleeping. So by having some alcohol it will effectively aid in falling asleep in that regards.

Tell her you don't drink a lot!  No shame in it.

[AnthG]

Have you met before ?

Yes.

Discuss it with the lucky lady.

Communication is the key to success.

I would like if possible to come across as Mr Guy confident in control of everything. And thus messaging her my worries will look like Mr Nervous idiot and I may offend her with my worries which I do not want. Hence why this topic (the girl in question reads the forum, but she doesn't read this section of the forum).

[vw]

Shit, that is number 2 thing I was worried about but didn't mention it to not lead things.

I do not drink alcohol much. I do drink just not much. And the plan was to bring alcohol for us to share while watching the movie.

The thing I am worried about it is two fold.

1. What if its a case of the girl can tolerate alcohol much more than me and I drink too much and turn into like the reverse of Two girl appointment.

And

2. If I do not hardly drink anything. Or sit there saying. "I will just drink cola". I will look seriously unsociable and thus turn the punt bad in that respects.

Now my second worry is sleeping. So this is why I would like to drink at least some alcohol during the night as I am worried incase I cannot fall asleep or she cannot and I start fidgeting and annoy the girl this way preventing her from sleeping. So by having some alcohol it will effectively aid in falling asleep in that regards.

You would both be wise to keep your wits about you, have learnt booze and punting doesn't mix, most escorts think the same, so easy to push boundaries without realising when merry.

[AnthG]

Tell her you don't drink a lot!  No shame in it.

So ok, I will alternate on the night, one glass of alcohol to one of cola and vice versa on the night. I am hoping this doesn't come off as odd.

So can I ask, is there anything I should possibly bring. Any food wise things that would go down well?

[vw]

So ok, I will alternate on the night, one glass of alcohol to one of cola and vice versa on the night. I am hoping this doesn't come off as odd.

So can I ask, is there anything I should possibly bring. Any food wise things that would go down well?

Nice coffee, fluffy sweets.  On hearing the contributors here from the agencies maybe a couple of pies !

Always in any situation one should be a good host !

[AnthG]

On hearing the contributors here from the agencies maybe a couple of pies !

Do you have a link to that topic to see what it was about please VW.

[vw]

Do you have a link to that topic to see what it was about please VW.

I'm sure gregg's was mentioned by LilyD on somewhere here, maybe it was twitter.

[AnthG]

I'm sure gregg's was mentioned by LilyD on somewhere here, maybe it was twitter.

This will have been the topic

I'm planning on moving to Notts at some point in Septmber, with regular visits up to the NE because I'll miss 24 hour greggs too much!
Also, if anyone that's seeing me tomorrow would care to bring in a Nokia charger, you will be rewarded heavily  (Kidding kidding, please don't eat me)

I think she was just joking. I highly doubt it will set the right ambiance if I say "here do you want a Steak Bake".

I was thinking something for us to share like a bag of Popcorn together. Or something better?

[vw]

This will have been the topic

I think she was just joking. I highly doubt it will set the right ambiance if I say "here do you want a Steak Bake".

I was thinking something for us to share like a bag of Popcorn together. Or something better?

Treats always go down well, what does her AW interview say ?

[Flunt]

There is nothing uncool about communicating,email her a list of things you're hoping for both sexual and non sexual. For one thing you'll know where you stand and secondly you can ask for her input. If you're favourite film is "Insert Title" and she hates that type of film then she is going to bored stiff, or start snoring.

There are so many what ifs? that if you don't ask you take a great many risks. Is she veggie, tea-total, non smoking, without mentioning allergies. How many times are you going to want to cum?

On previous overnights I have welcomed the pro$$ie, made her comfortable and let her see there are no axes laying around. From there moved onto round one. Prearranged favourite tipple waiting for her while doing other things. One I watched a film and ordered a curry (not good for the next morning with my arse). Another we've cooked a meal while nibbling starters and sipped Champagne.

[sublimetoridiculous]

Another we've cooked a meal while nibbling starters and sipped Champagne.

Yes, have done that too. She was impressed that she got such good food.

But it's really about knowing what to do that's mutually enjoyable in between shags.

[vw]

Yes, have done that too. She was impressed that she got such good food.

But it's really about knowing what to do that's mutually enjoyable in between shags.

Difficult as Anth is staying in a hotel, then a gain a sneak into kitchen in your undies to cook a filet mignon in the hotel kitchen might seem a good idea but probably not !

[AnthG]

Difficult as Anth is staying in a hotel, then a gain a sneak into kitchen in your undies to cook a filet mignon in the hotel kitchen might seem a good idea but probably not !

No I am actually going to her place. My first overnighter was at a hotel. This time its the girls place. I have never been to her place before but I have seen the girl before.

I just really want to make it nice for the girl. And like I say reading Saafe has scared the life out of me as they on there are complaining about disastrous overnighters way more than describing any good ones

So was hoping for tips on how to make this one a good one.

[vw]

So was hoping for tips on how to make this one a good one.

I think the bad ones I have read are

people not clicking - you already click

People wanting to fuck for 12 hours - you have films

Don't think you will go wrong from there, personality is key to success.

[Cuntminion]

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[johnny34]

No I am actually going to her place. My first overnighter was at a hotel. This time its the girls place. I have never been to her place before but I have seen the girl before.

I just really want to make it nice for the girl.

So was hoping for tips on how to make this one a good one.

As your going to be at her place why don't you ask her if she'd like you to bring anything with you (ie food, drink, snacks etc), that way you can take what she likes. Are you going to be eating in, getting a take-away?

As you have seen her before Anth, try & relax & go with the flow. Don't overthink it. Good luck 

[Cuntminion]

I don't think I could live with myself spending £700 plus on a sleepover
The ideas nice but it's well out my financial remit

Any if your gonna do it make it nice

I'm a bit of a tart and love bath stuff go lush or order online

Get scented massage oils, bath bombs and body scrubs, lush is really the best for that stuff

Rather than your favourite films find out what she likes and find mutual ground

Showboating payday wankers turn up with champagne , make some effort and find a decent spirit that you couldn't pop into asda and pick up
There's some decent cherry and sour lemon vodkas out there

If she is from one of Europe's sinkholes local food and drink from her country will show thought
If she's English pie, chips and can of kestrel

Finally I wouldn't dive straight into fucking if you have the whole night establish a flow first

None of the above is from experience but it's what I would do

[Flunt]

Showboating payday wankers turn up with champagne

Ignorant little fools with OCD should learn to live a little and realise there is more to life than cats or join a cat forum. At £27.99 a bottle Bollinger is hardly showboating and if it helps negotiate a price considerably less than £700 per night then it is a worthwhile investment.

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[AnthG]

Ignorant little fools with OCD should learn to live a little and realise there is more to life than cats or join a cat forum. At £27.99 a bottle Bollinger is hardly showboating and if it helps negotiate a price considerably less than £700 per night then it is a worthwhile investment.

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Is there an equally impressive posh type food to take that would go down well?

As in pick at it type food?

[Soprendo]

Pate, some cheese crackers etc

[bitsandbobs]

I prefer the longer bookings and even done a few of the watch movie nights.  My tip here is to take your favourite movies even if you have seen them 20 times, if it is a good movie and she hasn't seen it before then that is a good start.

I tend to go with the flow and just make sure I have drinks that she likes.  I chain smoke which most girls like as that means they are free to smoke too.  I know my alcohol limits and never exceed them, not because of safety but it is a wasted punt if you end up drunk. 

You are overthinking this but maybe do the Q&A with her pre punt just to be sure?  If it is at her place then I am sure she'll have everything she needs so bring along something for yourself.

Anyway enjoy it!

[AnthG]

You are overthinking this

This is the story of my life. I am one of lifes panickers and thus overplanners.

Thanks for eveyone's help.

At least the main thing I guess is the topic has not shown something major I could be overlooking that could turn everyting to a disaster.

[Cuntminion]

Ignorant little fools with OCD should learn to live a little and realise there is more to life than cats or join a cat forum. At £27.99 a bottle Bollinger is hardly showboating and if it helps negotiate a price considerably less than £700 per night then it is a worthwhile investment.

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Struck a nerve


Showboating payday wanker

End of day champagne is fizzy piss that only helps but fuel illusions of grandeur

What's worse than those who blow hundreds on a bottle are those that rock up with the £30 Bollinger

"I brought champagne honey!!!"

"No you didn't

[cueball]

This is how I'd plan an over night....

Sommat to eat (me tea, or our tea)

Podging

Shower

Few drinks

Podging

Bo boes

Podging

Brekkie

Bye bye


I'd expect three goes with her, especially early doors in the punt, I'd want my first podge either just after our even before we go to the chip shop.

[Dani]

Movies are ok but it means very little interaction between you whilst watching them.  Why not take a pack of cards and play strip poker or whatever game you both know how to play.  Take an adult game or two (quite cheap in Ann summers). It not only passes the time in a fun and sexy way it also means you are interacting with each other.  If you don't know each other well watching a movie can be excruciatingly uncomfortable due to sitting in relative silence with someone you don't know. The games are a good laugh and break the ice well as well as leading naturally into sex. Having a laugh and fun can make an overnight much more interesting. Whereas with movies it could be one she hates so has to spend at least an hour and a half bored out offer mind

For snack type food why not get one of those four in one dips from asda with nachos, bread sticks and carrot sticks. It's nice and light and non messy and perhaps some seedless grapes as well. You can get the lot for under a tenner as for drinks maybe one bottle of white wine (you don't want her drunk) and a large bottle of water

[Distraction]

I am one of lifes panickers and thus overplanners.

I would not describe myself as a someone who panics, but I've definitely been known to over-plan, so I can empathise to a degree. I don't wish to fuel your ego, but in case you need a confidence boost:

If I've read this forum correctly, you're the guy who:
- went on holiday for two weeks
- some of the girls started panicking, worried something bad might have happened to you
- one of them suggested a freebie might be on the cards when you finally turned up.

If there's any truth in all that then you have precisely nothing to worry about. Enjoy it, I'm sure you will be fine.

[Cuntminion]

Yeah nothing kills the mood like watching schindlers list

[hendrix]

Unless you like extremely messy deep throat and anal - be careful with food and drink

[Mr Br1ghts1de]

Movies are ok but it means very little interaction between you whilst watching them.  Why not take a pack of cards and play strip poker or whatever game you both know how to play.  Take an adult game or two (quite cheap in Ann summers). It not only passes the time in a fun and sexy way it also means you are interacting with each other.  If you don't know each other well watching a movie can be excruciatingly uncomfortable due to sitting in relative silence with someone you don't know. The games are a good laugh and break the ice well as well as leading naturally into sex. Having a laugh and fun can make an overnight much more interesting. Whereas with movies it could be one she hates so has to spend at least an hour and a half bored out offer mind

For snack type food why not get one of those four in one dips from asda with nachos, bread sticks and carrot sticks. It's nice and light and non messy and perhaps some seedless grapes as well. You can get the lot for under a tenner as for drinks maybe one bottle of white wine (you don't want her drunk) and a large bottle of water

+1 on games.

Grapes, Strawberries and other sensual foods are all good too.

Hope it goes well for you Anth.

[Captain Fuzzyduck]

I must say that this is one of the loveliest threads I have ever read. Anth's anxieties have brought out the mothering instinct in us, and so many have chipped in with good advice, reassurance and comradeship - even the normally cynical folks.

 My suggestion, for what it is worth, is a Marks and Spencer eat in for a tenner - remarkably sophisticated food, yummy puddings, a bottle of plonk that you can drink or choose not to drink, all whipped up in the oven or microwave in next to no time. (They do a really nice one for Feb 14th but that's not for while yet.) And dark Belgian choccies are a great aphrodisiac.

And the overriding theme is just to relax, enjoy the moment, and count your blessings!

[unclesweetheart]

I've only had one paid overnight and it was with a girl I'd seen many times and we'd got on so well that an o/n seemed the next logical step. So the first thing I'd say is: are you sure that you and her have clicked sufficiently to justify the o/n? In my case, it seemed - as I say - obviously the next thing to do. Sounds like that is the case with you in which case: relax!

If you're going to watch a film, you should negotiate or leave the choice to her. It's boorish to inflict your tastes on a girl.

Dani's suggestions sound great. I think it absolutely depends on the kind of rapport you've already established with the girl. We spent forever listening to music, but that's cos I'm a fluffy cunt. If it were me, again, I'd ease off the anxiety by realising I had plenty of time and chill out at the start, shoot the breeze for up to an hour before moving to sex. You have a lot of time, after all. And then go with the flow.

But like I say: there has to be an above average amount of clicking between the two of you or else why are you doing it? If that's there everything else should follow - more or less.

Good luck!

[Thepacifist]

Don't forget to have sex! 

[vw]

How did it go then Anth ?

[AnthG]

How did it go then Anth ?

Its next Tuesday night its taking place.

[vw]

Its next Tuesday night its taking place.

Got my over dayer this week, now they are fun.  Have a great time anyway !

[jimmytick]

Have a good sh1t, cant imagine sharing a house and needing to drop the kids off at the pool

[Cuntminion]

Its next Tuesday night its taking place.

Ahhh plenty of time for the pressure to build

[cockneybstrd]

I remember Anth G previous overnighter (and its proceeding thread all twenty pages of it). So my advice would be do what you enjoy and have a great time.

If thats watching some sci fi film and cuddling drinking coke and eating haribo all night go for it

Or if you want her to peg the shit out of you with a giant strap on while verbal abusing you and mashing your face in macdonalds cheeseburgers while you sniff poppers go for it

My advice is dont over think it and just enjoying yourself or get a couple of g's in and see how wild she gets 

[smiths]

Its next Tuesday night its taking place.

Please don't give any more details than this, this could be how McFly and his ilk out punters, its a REALLY bad idea to post about an upcoming punt on here in my view.

[Acerimmer]

I've probably had 30plus over nighters,love them,

My top tip is find an independent working from her own home

If it's not someone you have seen before then always have a chat on the phone first, she needs to speak enough English and be able to string a sentence together.

Start the evening with a meal and a small amount of alcohol, overdoing it can make the girl wary of you( strange drunk bloke in your home upsets everyone)

Don't rush anything.

Oh and make sure what you want from an overnight is what she is prepared to give. Don't lay down rules but check she doesn't need to be up early for her day job or expect to be asleep by 11pm

Don't book an 'overnight' , book a set number of hours starting in the evening. Avoids an early rise and no morning sex.

[Mr Kent (Not AW)]

What a wonderful thread...........we should copy and paste and send to SAAFE.

[James999]

I just really want to make it nice for the girl.

Trabsfer the money and then don't turn up, She'll love you forever 

[vw]

Its next Tuesday night its taking place.

Hope it went well !