I was heavily into swinging for a few years from around 2004/5 and I met a few couples who were into cuckold - most just liked to observe but others were really into watching. I was never into the whole bull humiliation business and never indulged in clean up. I stopped punting for a variety of reasons - mainly because it was too much effort. However, what made me feel deeply uncomfortable with cuckold was that, inevitably, one person is more into it than the other. One couple who I met a few times was a case in point - I ended up asking her outright one night if she did it just for her husband and she said yes. I said maybe you need to tell him. I never went back. I also had a very weird phone call in the early hours of the morning a few weekends after, which made me feel very uncomfortable. Changed my number but it was one of the first lessons re using a personal phone for shenanigans