Look, I've had a few drinks (half bottle of very nice cognac in fact) - and I really do like a lot of you guys here so please don't take this the wrong way.
I have learned to be far more understanding of many of the reasons that married guys punt but...
...for me, as a single punter having separated after marriage with no infidelity, and then taking punting back up - I think punting is WAY more fun when single. Reading some of the lengths you guys have to go through to keep yourself from being found out - honestly it sometimes puts a big grin on my face. But sometimes it makes me feel really bad for you.
If you're married with kids you risk literally everything - not just your marriage, but your relationship with your kids and your financial security. Being found out would destroy many of you.
I have two friends who ended their marriages through "civvy infidelity" rather than punting and as a result they now NEVER see their kids. Their kids have decided they want nothing to do with a father who would lie to them and their mum on a daily basis. Not now, not ever. Maybe they'll mellow with time, but I don't know kids can be funny about this shit. Is that not something that plays on your minds and makes you wonder sometimes?
I really envy you guys who have had kids as I have not had that privilege (yet) but as a result I'll be honest I think some of you are NUTS if you're risking all that for a punt. I do struggle to see how you get a thrill out of it given all that's on the line. All this stuff about punting phones and alibis and making up stories for WGs. Fuck!! One little slip up and all that you hold dear is down the toilet.
As I said, probably the cognac kicking in, broken my golden rule about not drinking and posting but there I've said it anyway as the question was asked... no doubt will regret it tomorrow.