Punting nerves

[Slaine]

Guys,

You will notice I've been around for quite a while now, mostly lurking and taking things in.

A couple of weeks ago I had my first ever punt was a half hour meet with xxx JOSIE xxx (External Link/Members Only) and was understandably pretty nervous being my first. However I had already thought I would be nervous and decided to go for someone nearer my own age.
To be honest she was great and a lovely meet unfortunately my nerves got the better of me and I kept going soft. I did manage to fuck her a bit and her sloppy OWO was amazing (it really was) but I just couldn't finish. Plus I was aware of the time and that might have had an effect on me.


My second one was an hour meet with NNE's Sasha (External Link/Members Only) and WOW what a body, lovely and curvy. She's very attractive and her tit's are lovely, just my kind of girl. I though an hour would be better without having to rush as much but once again nerves played a big part and even though I really loved my time with her I yet again kept going soft but did fuck her a little bit and gave her a good tonguing. Bless her she tried and tried to get the little fella up be giving me some amazing sloppy OWO but he wasn't having any of it. Shame cos I really did fancy her and would have have loved to have given her a good seeing to lol.

My third last friday was an hour with the legendary Tori Taylor (External Link/Members Only) and I was blown away when I saw her. She is gorgeous and sports a new short hair do and literally snogged my face off as soon as we met, brilliant. Her personality is amazing and she's hilarious, fucking crackers in fact which I love in a girl. She put me at ease right away, but I could sense my fucking nerves yet again. It's starting to really piss me off now 
Tori's bod is beautiful and her little pussy is gorgeous and I could have licked her out all day. It's no wonder she's so well thought of on here. She's on another level.
I dunno if the fact shes's so damned attractive (both inside and out) but I couldn't even get it up at all  . I was desperate to fuck her but again he wasn't going to play ball. Can you imagine how pissed off I was with myself?. 

All three girls have told me to just to relax and stop worrying but it's easier said than done. I know Sasha and Tori read these threads (dunno about Josie) and I do want to see tham all again as like I said I really enjoyed myself with all three. They were great.

So fellas, what advice can you give me as I really want to enjoy these ladies as I'm not a shy guy by a long stretch and am very outgoing. I never have a problem getting it up in the real world and the missus always jokes that it's "always up" lol,  so it's certainly just in my mind 

[vw]

I just couldn't finish. Plus I was aware of the time and that might have had an effect on me.

Give up wanking, especially in the run up to a punt, that cured me !

[MagpieJohn]

A delicate subject mate. I'm no psychiatrist but there are several possible explanations. The one that first springs to mind is guilt. You mentioned the missus so it's possible that even subconsciously you feel guilty about playing away.
I myself am an infrequent punter, and although I sometimes do have pangs of guilt, I've normally seen ladies that are so hot that I'm usually pretty hard before I even get to the door in pure anticipation.
I could of course be well wide of the mark but it could have something to do with it.

[KLMman]

Get some Viagra or similar and take them while you get back into the groove.

[whoulookingat1]

Magic blue pills.

[chriss1985]

I'm the opposite to this, I've had girls comment on how hard I get. Just relax and realized you're about to shag an incredibly fit lass and hopefully the rest will come naturally. Eating fruit the day of the punt helps me especially bananas.

[NotTooOld4It]

A delicate subject mate. I'm no psychiatrist but there are several possible explanations. The one that first springs to mind is guilt. You mentioned the missus so it's possible that even subconsciously you feel guilty about playing away.

I think this might be the reason.

Years ago, I had a one night stand with a female work colleague I had the hots for, but I was only inside her for a minute or two before I went soft. No matter how much I tried, I just couldn't get an erection, and I reckon subconscious guilt was the reason.

These days, I sometimes have the same problem but now it's my age. I'm sixty four and need those little blue pills to get me hard, but sometimes even they don't work.

[JV547845]

Maybe try a longer courtesan booking until you're comfortable with them?  Or find a proper dirty slut and fuck her with some sex toys.

[Tiger63]

I had a slight problem like this and found that a 30 min punt was the best for me at the time.
I also found that some girls go hell for leather on the owo and it was a bit uncomfortable...lead to me loosing wood as they say...just asked them to be a bit softer and it was fine

[Slaine]

Magic blue pills.

Don't need these mate, never have done. I'm a right horny fukker me lol

Maybe i'll keep seeing the same girl and get comfy with her and take it from there 

[Slaine]

A delicate subject mate. I'm no psychiatrist but there are several possible explanations. The one that first springs to mind is guilt. You mentioned the missus so it's possible that even subconsciously you feel guilty about playing away.
I myself am an infrequent punter, and although I sometimes do have pangs of guilt, I've normally seen ladies that are so hot that I'm usually pretty hard before I even get to the door in pure anticipation.
I could of course be well wide of the mark but it could have something to do with it.

Maybe be this is the real reason as despite my punting i love my missus. This is just a sideline that gives me something extra away from the norm, if you know what i mean? 

[vw]

Don't need these mate, never have done. I'm a right horny fukker me lol

Maybe i'll keep seeing the same girl and get comfy with her and take it from there 

Suppose once the cheating becomes normal, the guilt will subside and you will get more out of punting.

[Slaine]

Suppose once the cheating becomes normal, the guilt will subside and you will get more out of punting.

Exactly, funny thing is I don't actually feel guilty as it gives me the opportunity to do things to girls that I cant do anymore to my missus due to the horrible time she had giving birth to our daughter.
Put it this way due to being split from front to back during childbirth she's not the same down below. I don't want to go into too much detail but Josie and Sasha both know my reasons for punting as I remember telling them. There's just a certain thing I miss from my sex life that I can get through punting.

[Sar-Major]

I'm the opposite to this, I've had girls comment on how hard I get. Just relax and realized you're about to shag an incredibly fit lass and hopefully the rest will come naturally. Eating fruit the day of the punt helps me especially bananas.

Something about the shape I presume.   

    

[Sar-Major]

I think this might be the reason.

Years ago, I had a one night stand with a female work colleague I had the hots for, but I was only inside her for a minute or two before I went soft. No matter how much I tried, I just couldn't get an erection, and I reckon subconscious guilt was the reason.

These days, I sometimes have the same problem but now it's my age. I'm sixty four and need those little blue pills to get me hard, but sometimes even they don't work.

Well NotTooOld4It, a gentleman of MY generation, LOL. Sorry to say I don't need them, thar, pills to make the

old lad get excited, and work his cotton socks off.   

A couple of girls I've known for years reckon I can put 20 year olds to shame for prowess and stamina. 

    

[NotTooOld4It]

Eating fruit the day of the punt helps me especially bananas.

If anybody takes Cialis, they should avoid grapefruit or grapefruit juice. My doctor told me that.

[AgedCases]

On a sidenote, I'm a bit pissed off that I'm the only guy not to get OWO from Josie. Though I did stroll in handing her a box of flavoured condoms, probably a schoolboy error. Nice lady though, and even nicer tits!

[sentinel]

Well if you couldn't stay hard long enough to fuck Tori Taylor at least once in the space of an hour than you certainly have got a problem, and I don't think viagra or anything similar would make much difference. She has to be one of the best escorts in the area.

Other posters have hinted that it could be some sort of guilt feeling as regards your wife and perhaps they could be right.

There is also the fact that the clock is always ticking when seeing an escort and this time pressure certainly wouldn't help.

[MagpieJohn]

There is also the fact that the clock is always ticking when seeing an escort and this time pressure certainly wouldn't help.

Good point Sentinel. Even though the better girls don't rush you the time factor is still there in the back of your mind.

[Beerhunter]

Nobody as yet has mentioned the demon drink. Are you hungover the night before or had a few before you see your punt? Theyve both plagued me in the past.

As for the shrinky guilt theory, theres a lot to be said about what these guys have mentioned, it could exactly be that. No cure as such mate.

My advice would be, dont walk away cos youve fallen off the horse. Get back on and keep riding. And try a blue pill 

[Slaine]

Nobody as yet has mentioned the demon drink. Are you hungover the night before or had a few before you see your punt? Theyve both plagued me in the past.

As for the shrinky guilt theory, theres a lot to be said about what these guys have mentioned, it could exactly be that. No cure as such mate.

My advice would be, dont walk away cos youve fallen off the horse. Get back on and keep riding. And try a blue pill 

Nothing to do with the drink bud, i make sure its totally out my system. It's never been a problem before.

I've every intention of getting back on the horse so to speak as I have some unfinished business with a certain cutie pie Miss Tori Taylor. In fact I'd put my morgage on the fact she's reading this thread and loving it lol

[johnr1]

Its all in the mind and yes possibly a bit of guilt that you sub concisely don't realize, It happens to us all from time to time and the more you think about it the more frustrated you become so the worse it gets and so on  its happened to me a few times and when with the great TT  but don't think about it and I am sure all will be fine  I would not take any little blue pills as you will end up thinking you need them all the time to many people take them but the problem is all in the mind, I tried them once and had a bad reaction so IMO don't bother unless you really need them

[Slaine]

On a sidenote, I'm a bit pissed off that I'm the only guy not to get OWO from Josie.

Mate it was incredible, it honestly was. Probably the best I've ever had. I'd say she's worth the visit just for that 

[David Larry]

My first ever punt was with LilyD and, as I knew I'd spurt my load fairly quickly, I booked her for an hour in order to achieve a firm and more lengthy round two (1st firework was set off during an amazing 69) but, like yourself, I was overwhelmed with nerves and the unknown, etc, etc, that, as soon as the condom went on (which I've always struggled to get rock hard when wearing anyway), I was only capable of a semi which, embarrassingly, wasn't really going anywhere. Maybe it's an age thing too or I'm not the animal I once was so, in the meantime, I've restricted my bookings to half an hour, giving as much as I could give until I was ready to dive in and finish off. Now I've seen a few quality WG's and starting to find my feet, I'm getting a better feel of who I want to book more time with so maybe feeling more relaxed with them and maybe even a V will help remedy any consequences of nerves and anxiety to help me perform as I'd like to perform.

[PedroT97]

Slaine, I've not seen Tori but it's something I plan to remedy in a very few days with luck! The speculation about guilt is interesting but not conclusive. I'm 62 and have never taken Viagra but do take Cialis. I don't know if I rely on it or whether a lot of the effect is 'placebo'. (Nottoold4it is right about grapefruit but it interferes with the processing of many other drugs). My advice would be: A) stay off the wanking for a day or two B) stay off the drink C) Tori seems a bit wild - phone her and explain you want to start slowly so you can relax and then after a while increase the pace. D) don't feel guilty - she's not an affair or a mistress but an illusion and an actress. In an ideal world your missus wouldn't disapprove but let's not go there. I always like to start slow with a bit of sensual massage and I love it when I get teased with a girls nails across my back and oft times I get virtually tipped over by my hard on and then it's off to the races. I wish you well and hope to hear soon about your success. good luck, Pedro.

[the bloody butterfly]

My first punt I didn't shoot my load. I wasn't nervous per say but found it a surreal experience. She was sucking away like a hoover and I was quite bored. I'm not sure why cos I found her very attractive.

[Ivorfakename]

My wife has lost all desire to have an intimate relationship.  She's an open type of gal, understands it's a problem, has no idea how to rectify it but realises that it shouldn't stop me from having fun.

She's told me she's ok with me seeing a WG as long as I'm not secretive about it.

Talk about a mind fuck.  Even with permission, I can't raise to the occasion because a WG, despite how good of an actress she is, will never convince your mind that a punt is nothing but a financial transaction for her.  Intimacy is what gets me hard, viagra might over-ride the emotion sometimes but it's no where near as powerful.

[MurrayHewitt]

Perhaps it's a bit of stress ? Try to focus completely on the girl and don't let your mind wander.

[webpunter]

After loads of punting then unexpectedly had some hardness issues for a short time - now disappeared thankfully.  Wasn't nerves about punting - i was relaxed here no probs.  Top tip = pick a WG who you feel comfortable & safe to be with.  Other things can occupy your mind - family / work / stress / money / OH....  Had seen one WG about 5x.  Was softening a bit & i mentioned the problem.  Was given a few tips by her really sincerely - relax / think about good things & the same on sex.  She said "remember the last time you shot that huge load over my tits".  Meanwhile little WP was about an inch from her mouth whilst she was speaking & looking into my eyes.  The response was dramatic - firmed up & i had to ask her to slow down
Add in: less watching porn / less wanking / do some exercise / less drinking generally [but on the flipside then hangover = hard on for me in the morning] and you shouldn't go too far wrong. If still a problem then i'd suggest some Kamagra - cheaper & quicker than viagra