Err...why? It's quite similar to Internet dating in some ways surely? I look for compatible women online, arrange to meet them and if we get along I might see them again, then gradually we take things further.
With punting we start with sex - which I pay for (almost invariably) and see if we get along well enough to socialise - which I don't pay for. Ok well it varies sometimes I pay for drinks / dinner but often we take turns.
With "regular dating" we start off socialising - which I pay for (almost invariably as per above) - and see if we get along well enough to have sex - which I don't pay for. Although sometimes after a really expensive gift or trip it might feel like I just paid.
I think you'll find its not black or white polar opposites but a spectrum. AW, SeekingArrangement, WhatsYour price.com where you pay for the privelege of a date with no guarantee of sex, to regular dating sites.
As others have said somehow you always pay somewhere along the line.
Fair enough if you can't see any comparison to me it's perfectly clear.
Not saying they are exactly the same of course. I have a totally different intention and my intention is usually clear based on what kind of site I'm using. But there are more similarities than differences.
No its not? Just because you make a profile and put a picture up doesn't make the two things the same. With sugardating arrangements, or whatsyourprice, the sole reason they are present is for monetary gain or expensive gifts. No 20 year old stunner is going to be out and about with a bloke double her age unless he looks like Johnny Depp.
There's no guarentee of sex on these sites, but I've bee on seekingarrangement, and throw 500 for a "date" and you'll have your pick of the fittest girls in London on there, far better looking than most of the renowned wg's out and about. They're not as good in bed in my experience + I don't like the bullshit surrounding it. I'm 26 and on nights out can only pull 6's and on a good night a 7. Boo hoo for me. I have a disposable income that I use to fulfill my rather ridiculous apetite for fucking 10/10 stunners, so I use it to get sex. These sites involve a hell of a lot of bullshit around the issues.
The girls like to pretend they're "high class" and "not escorts in any way". If that sort of thing works for you, sure, go for it, but barring me wanting to fuck them, I have no interest in socializing with these women, or having them pretend that they find me so charming or incredibly goodlooking. I'm neither, and I've been fine with that for years.
Also, this stuff about paying down the line is something a lot of punters tell themselves to ignore the harsh truth. Take away the money, and these girls wouldn't give a flying fuck about us. Fair enough, its the way the world works.
For a married punter whose wife doesn't work, sure, fair enough. I haven't punted in 6 months cause I got a solid fwb thing going with a girl at work. She' no stunner, but attractive and we have a great time. I don't pay anything more than 50% on average, infact. She's got a great career...I doubt I'll be making substantially more money than her...so I don't see how I'd every "pay for it" if this continues? I'm guessing that's the way it is with most couples where both people bring in a decent income.
Regular dating and sugardating/socializing with an escort are totally different. One's about feelings and actually caring for the person, another is just an elaborate ruse around what you really want from her, her lips around her your dick, and what she wants from you, your big fat wallet.
. Take away paying for more than 50% of the stuff, which I'm sure you/any punter who socially sees wg's outside the bedroom , and the fact that while she's not on the clock, she's doing basic marketing - keeping her loyal clients just that, loyal and coming back for more, and they'll vanish.
I mean no offense by my post, and if it works for you, go for it. Don't try to make these situations out to be things they're not, it'll only hurt you in the long run.