Controlling the Urge to Splurge

[Sylvester]

So my question is how to do you control the urge to see more girls than you can reasonably afford or intend to see?

We all have a 'punting budget', although it is quite apparent from this site that this varies very widely from punter to punter, as you would expect.  I reckon I can afford A pretty reasonable amount each month without it having a serious impact on my finances.

The problem for me has been threefold so far:

1. Still feeling like a kid in a sweetshop and punting for the sake of it
2. This site - it serves to whet the appetite and make the itch worse...
3. Poor financial control

I guess I'm going to have to be stricter about my budget, and how I ration it through a month.  At the moment I tend to do frequent 1 hour meets, but I am tempted to either extend with regs, or see a couple of more expensive girls with outstanding reputations (Miss KDD mainly!), at the cost of reducing the frequency.

How do you guys manage this?

[azrael]

I started punting in october last year, literaly was going through wg's like it was going out of fashion. Had around 10 wg's on my regular list thats down to two now, leaving room for an aditional wg who gets recomended to try out. But yeah i understand the sweet shop thing   

[LL]

I'm having a short break from punting and have rediscovered the joy of wanking. I'll scour the Internet to find the perfect material. Movies of hot young chicks much hotter and more skilled than any girl I could hope to punt in London, on my budget. We all know that wanking is not as good as sex however in some ways it has its advantages over it. There are no risks involved (by that I mean for example STIs, being scammed, being caught - ok there's still a risk of being caught but the consequences are far less severe); no clock-watching at all - take all the time you need; no pressure to perform (I don't need to bother with Viagra and suffer the side-effects from it since I never have any problem maintaining a boner when playing on my own); no interaction with a prostitute which can go well or badly depending upon a number of factors - their mood, your mood, their attitude to the job, the connection you make with her during your short time together.

So if you fancy a break. Have a wank, save your money and over a few weeks watch that cash pile up and put it towards something that you'd like to own or experience (punting excluded) 

[Andre 3000]

Just close your laptop, if you're browsing for WG's. I've found it works wonders. That or a wank usually brings you to your senses. I work smart enough to have a fair bit of disposable income every month. And I was getting a bit too used to punting for the sake of it, and it loses it's shine very quickly. At one point I was seeing up to 4 WG's a week. And it just became very boring.

Having a break from punting every now and then is highly recommended.

I'm now very picky about who I see, I don't have a reg as that's boring, And most of the time now, I can think of something more interesting I can do with the money.

[threechilliman]

I was like that last year when I started. Now I find it easier to control. One cancelled this week and it almost panics you into a plan b. Instead I booked a girl at sandys for today. Now, having had a wank, I cant be arsed with it. So will cancel. Money in pocket for when i do get an uncontrollable urge.

tcm

[tristen92]

Similar issues to OP - but going forward I am only going to be doing 1 punt a month max; and as soon as I find a good reg it'll probably just be the one I visit. Fortunately, I do not feel the need to experiment and see what else is out there; but yet to find a girl that ticks all the boxes.

As someone mentioned, porn and regular jerking reduces the temptation massively for me. However, when I read a really good review of a WG in my proximity, it's very difficult not to give in. I do feel a sense of satisfaction when I stick to my plan and use willpower, so I can see myself being firmly in control.

[DG]

Like a few of the posters on this thread, I started punting last year. At first I saw three girls in a couple of weeks, then slowed down to one a month. Just before Christmas I had a bit of overtime pay and went on a bit of a spree. I saw three within about 10 days just before Christmas and the same just after.

I was then taken ill so had about 3 weeks off, but as soon as I was able, I was right back on it. My biggest problem is I have a wonderful regular who lives close by, so it's too easy to give her a text and pop round for an hour, especially cos I be got so much time on my hands being off work. I made the conscious decision to restrict to one a month with my regular and maybe try a different girl for half an hour each month too. Having seen my regular 3 times in two weeks, I had booked her for a 2 hour session for tomorrow. That would have given me about three weeks off. Needless to say I got the urge last week and put up a RB. To my surprise I got a text from my regular girl because she had seen it and commented that I had described her. When I read it she was right. Anyway she offered to meet me if I didn't get any reasonable offers. I thought, fuck that, I'll just come round and see you. So I did. Tomorrow will be my tenth visit to her and I will break the £1000 barrier, just on her! That's was a bit of an eye opener, so I am attempting to revert to my 1 reg + 1 newbie each month. Should get better as I'm back at work soon after my illness.

[smiths]

So my question is how to do you control the urge to see more girls than you can reasonably afford or intend to see?

We all have a 'punting budget', although it is quite apparent from this site that this varies very widely from punter to punter, as you would expect.  I reckon I can afford A pretty reasonable amount each month without it having a serious impact on my finances.

The problem for me has been threefold so far:

1. Still feeling like a kid in a sweetshop and punting for the sake of it
2. This site - it serves to whet the appetite and make the itch worse...
3. Poor financial control

I guess I'm going to have to be stricter about my budget, and how I ration it through a month.  At the moment I tend to do frequent 1 hour meets, but I am tempted to either extend with regs, or see a couple of more expensive girls with outstanding reputations (Miss KDD mainly!), at the cost of reducing the frequency.

How do you guys manage this?

All about self control obviously. Only you can exercise that. Even when I was poor compared to now I would punt but less so but usually within what I could afford. IMO the tipping point is when you cant afford to punt but do so anyway meaning something else doesn't get paid, that's a potentially dangerous slippery slope.

The way I look at it is I don't smoke, I drink little alcohol, don't gamble, take illegal drugs and look for VFM in all things. Golf and punting are my pastimes and in the main well worth the money they cost me. Its also handy that on average I am actually paying less than I was 10 years ago on punting per punt, (apart from in 2008/9 when I discovered LMP) that's a mixture of finding sites like this, meeting other punters and putting a cap on the amount I will pay for an hours punt, now a maximum of £200 an hour whereas I had paid £300 and £350 an hour then. And crucially I saw no difference in any way from paying one WG £100 an hour and another that £350 an hour proving to me there was NO correlation between what a WG charged and how good a service she might give. So once I established that it has been a case of not throwing money away as much, though I have been fucked over by scum on occasion as i am prepared to take risks in search of a gem which sometimes pays off, sometimes not.

[Trevor12]

I completely get the kid in a sweet shop, and punting for the sake of it. This will hopefully pass. My turning point was realising one month that I'd spent more on punting than my net income for that month, which was a bit of a wakeup call.

[ladida7]

I find that if I make a video of the girl I see then:

1-I see the reality of the sex with the girl more objectively, and a girl however hot she maybe, once you have a great video of her , you may find you think do I need to see her again,  perhaps no.

There is also another alternative if you really like a girl.
2 -There are 3 working girls I have really liked so I got to know them, the first was Denisa who used to work in Baker street in Manchester street, we used to hang out a lot,  she would come to my house and I would go to her home and we'd go to dinner drinks etc. I STOPPED being a client though as I could see she viewed  client sex as work. i asked her out by visiting her at her work after meeting her once for escort sex. I was just myself, and asked her out in a honest simple way, we went onto know each other for years.
she was fucking other guys outside of work but I didn't care as I saw it for what it was, you can't fall for girls that promiscuous BUT you can fuck them silly.

Another girl called Maria who I was crazy about and she worked in norbury near streatham, a tall size 12-14 blonde, well she wasn't so keen to go out with me at first but after about 6 meets as an escort, she told me we were going out and we went to Westfield shopping centre for the day the next Saturday, again I was just myself, all this flashing the cash and boasting won't work as these girls meet guys like that all the time.

my conclusion I suppose is go out with regular girls as well as escorts or go out with an escort, but you will only be able to fuck her outside of her work, she would be horrified to have a man she tucks in her bed as a client. 

hope it helps.

[306]

guess 1 is nice more are better on punts
but to be honest if 1 a month becomes 1 a week
 becomes 2/3 a week watch out
as next its 2/3 a day and  the £100,s
become £1000s
become £10,000s
in a very short time
its a mind game but your mind .
i did drink far too much
but that seems to  have moved to wgs
drinking was far cheaper
think i need to get my head out of my ass!!

[barnstorm123]

Like others, I find nothing controls the urge like a wank. As soon as the baby batter hits the tissue all thoughts of punting disappear. In the past I have punted off-schedule and these have been my most disappointing fucks.

[DG]

I like to book in advance if I can. That way I save up my punting cash and know it's there on the day of the punt. I also look forward to it more; I've never had an impromptu punt that was better than a planned one. Knowing my punting fund is committed usually makes me resist in between times, but not always!

[Type_O_Negative]

Well in my case my the other hobby controls me. It's photography - i prefer to save money for new lens or camera (i bought new Leica camera a week ago) so i can afford to punt once a month (ok - sometimes twice if overtime at work is available). 

[solway]

Well in my case my the other hobby controls me. It's photography - i prefer to save money for new lens or camera (i bought new Leica camera a week ago) so i can afford to punt once a month (ok - sometimes twice if overtime at work is available). 

You never fancy the glamour photography ? you never know where that would lead 

[Type_O_Negative]

You never fancy the glamour photography ? you never know where that would lead 

I do fancy glamour photography. I did it once with VIP_ROXANA (a very tall polish blonde, she worked in well known flat in Pimlico with other WGs but she retired last summer). After our photo session we had a good fuck. I miss her mega long legs 
At that time i had my trusty Nikon D700 - i took it with a few prime lenses. It was a good fun!

[Dave2014]

. . . VIP_ROXANA . . . I miss her mega long legs . . .

I discovered her on a Friday and was join to book her the following week. She retired before I had the chance. I would have loved to enjoy those legs 

[Dave2014]

Quite simply. Every time you are planning on organising a punt. Get ready. Then stop. Say to yourself, I will go for a punt as soon as I have had a wank. Then jerk off. I can guarantee you will forget the punt and keep the money. Works every single time. 

[jcdmj12]

I tend to have a wank whenever the urge arises (pretty much once or twice daily, but than I've been like that for the past 25 years!!) , but then after a while, having a wank doesn't work. After a few days of that, I know it's time to punt again.

This passage from Neal Stephenson's Cryptonomicon pretty much sums it up in mathematical terms (sigma is the character's horniness, and when it gets too high, he cannot concentrate on anything else. I find this.):

So much for the basic theory. Now, when he was at Pearl Harbor, he discovered something that, in retrospect, should have been profoundly disquieting. Namely, that ejaculations obtained in a whorehouse (i.e., provided by the ministrations of an actual human female) seemed to drop [sigma] below the level that Waterhouse could achieve through executing a Manual Override. In other words, the post-ejaculatory horniness level was not always equal to zero, as the naive theory propounded above assumes, but to some other quantity dependent upon whether the ejaculation was induced by Self or Other: [sigma] =[sigma sub self] after masturbation but [sigma]=[sigma sub other] upon leaving a whorehouse, where [sigma sub self] > [sigma sub other] an inequality to which Waterhouse’s notable successes in breaking certain Nip naval codes at Station Hypo were directly attributable, in that the many convenient whorehouses nearby made it possible for him to go somewhat longer between ejaculations.

[Type_O_Negative]

Quite simply. Every time you are planning on organising a punt. Get ready. Then stop. Say to yourself, I will go for a punt as soon as I have had a wank. Then jerk off. I can guarantee you will forget the punt and keep the money. Works every single time. 

Well it's true but wanking is a cheap alternative for real sex. It's like having instant soup instead nice home made one. I'm fed up with wanking! 

[punk]

  I was getting a bit too used to punting for the sake of it, and it loses it's shine very quickly. At one point I was seeing up to 4 WG's a week. And it just became very boring.

Having a break from punting every now and then is highly recommended.

 I don't have a reg as that's boring, And most of the time now, I can think of something more interesting I can do with the money.

I can relate to the above, at one point i was piss off with things so i ended up punting for the sake of it and had a couple of regulars , good and bad, but punting become a really big bore and the last straw for me was getting messed around by two different prossies in the last 5 months that i started becoming really cold, so much crap in this pass time that i started to loose interest.

Now i can find more important things to spend my money on and having had an ok neutral punt last week my minds not changed.

[Type_O_Negative]

I discovered her on a Friday and was join to book her the following week. She retired before I had the chance. I would have loved to enjoy those legs 

Have a look here:
External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only
That blonde with Natalie is VIP_ROXANA 

[punk]

Have a look here:
External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only
That blonde with Natalie is VIP_ROXANA 

wonder what polish pimp gang control her?

[anyfucker]

wonder what polish pimp gang control her?

there's a review called something like amourous amigos
natalie hasn't worked for a long time, now jsut a PG scam.

[Dave2014]

Have a look here:
External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only
That blonde with Natalie is VIP_ROXANA 

Weirdly, Natalie "don't take booking on holiday" put that up the same week Roxana "retired" (around last September). Natalie has not been back either and has never changed that status but she does log in quite often - I have no idea what is going on there.

A strange profile did pop up towards the end of last year with Roxana's photos pretending to be her sister - it was all quite strange, but it disappeared after a few days.

Shame, would have loved to experienced those legs in real life 

[Type_O_Negative]

wonder what polish pimp gang control her?

I'm sure it must be the same one who controls her:
External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only

[Sylvester]

Quite simply. Every time you are planning on organising a punt. Get ready. Then stop. Say to yourself, I will go for a punt as soon as I have had a wank. Then jerk off. I can guarantee you will forget the punt and keep the money. Works every single time. 

I have tried this, but the people in my office kept tutting and whispering.  It put me right off.   

[anyfucker]

I'm sure it must be the same one who controls her:
External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only

yes, i did a negative review on joanna, same flat

[Dave2014]

yes, i did a negative review on joanna, same flat

As did I.

[happy as larry]

I trying to have a break the moment as it has got very boring, i was punting 2 or maybe 3 time a week last year and dread to think of the cost as I'm not wealthy but after 3 crap punts in a row in January,took the edge of it for me, had one decent punt in February and not punted for 3 weeks now and am going to try to stay punt free in March and buy something nice with the money i save, wish me luck and PM me with any advice

[Siadwel]

I had a seven month break after two bad punts in a row. Decided to spend my money on other things instead.

I bought and did those 'other things', now I want some paid sex again for a while.

I don't think anything controls the urge like the memory of a bad punt, especially if it was your last punt.

[Ali Katt]

I had a seven month break after two bad punts in a row. Decided to spend my money on other things instead.

I bought and did those 'other things', now I want some paid sex again for a while.

I don't think anything controls the urge like the memory of a bad punt, especially if it was your last punt.

That's what I was going to write. If I am messed around, I also don't bother finding a replacement I am usually so pissed off I go home.

[Siadwel]

I never book in advance either, and I never have a Plan B.

If I wake up fancying a punt, I browse through the catalogue for a Plan A and call or text her. If she can't do the time I want, I don't bother.

As a system, it has it's downsides, but it does help to control the cash flow.

[captainavenger]

Started In October 2014 and it quickly became an addiction. I have stopped now, or i hope i have and wish to make a return in August.
tbh i will only see WG who have been well reviewed here and none of that bullshit girls. Sometimes i wish i never discovered adultwork and ukpunting.

[ram2184]

Started In October 2014 and it quickly became an addiction. I have stopped now, or i hope i have and wish to make a return in August.
tbh i will only see WG who have been well reviewed here and none of that bullshit girls. Sometimes i wish i never discovered adultwork and ukpunting.

for me i think of all the lobster i could eat with the amount of money i am spending for an hour with a WG. Plus i have seen a wg that i have seen multiple times eating with her bf/manager/pimp or whatever and when i saw her pay the bills i was like shit my money is feeding that dude.

[306]

you and your wallet feeling empty
wg and friend feeling full)with your cash ?)

[Sonny Crockett]

I've tried to punt for at least every few weeks (roughly once a month) in order to save finances for other things. However I can find that difficult to stick to if I have a great punt with lady, where then in that case I would punt on consecutive or every couple of days, as I become invested into the pleasure of it!!!!

[Nobby nobbs]

ok here's some practical options to control the urge:

1) Wank it out. Tell yourself there's always tomorrow and head to the web images of your choice. You'll suddenly feel smug that you just saved a 100 bucks and go get a well deserved beer.

2) If you have something you actually prefer doing over punting (for me it's producing music tracks) - go do that instead.

3) open up one of those bank accounts that makes it easy to automatically direct debit money into but is a bitch to get out. That way you'll really have to think about whether she'll be worth it or not.

4) Understanding your process to making the punt means you can control the urge to splurge better. For me their's two distinct activities in getting to a punt. A) The Fantasy: picking out girls on AW, reading reviews and thinking about what you want to do with them... and then B) The Connection. When you send a message or phone her. As soon as you send a message it's a runaway train - you're going to be invested in seeing it thru. Part A is ok, free and safe. Try and stop before point B.

5) Meditate 10 mins every morning. yes i know what you're thinking - its fluffy hippy shit with ohmmms and candle bollocks. It's not. Look up headspace on the web or download the buddify app and see. Might just change your world.

[squeezebox]

ok here's some practical options to control the urge:

1) Wank it out. Tell yourself there's always tomorrow and head to the web images of your choice. You'll suddenly feel smug that you just saved a 100 bucks and go get a well deserved beer.

2) If you have something you actually prefer doing over punting (for me it's producing music tracks) - go do that instead.

3) open up one of those bank accounts that makes it easy to automatically direct debit money into but is a bitch to get out. That way you'll really have to think about whether she'll be worth it or not.

4) Understanding your process to making the punt means you can control the urge to splurge better. For me their's two distinct activities in getting to a punt. A) The Fantasy: picking out girls on AW, reading reviews and thinking about what you want to do with them... and then B) The Connection. When you send a message or phone her. As soon as you send a message it's a runaway train - you're going to be invested in seeing it thru. Part A is ok, free and safe. Try and stop before point B.

5) Meditate 10 mins every morning. yes i know what you're thinking - its fluffy hippy shit with ohmmms and candle bollocks. It's not. Look up headspace on the web or download the buddify app and see. Might just change your world.

Beats sitting around doing nothing....