A recent comment on here where someone said they’d basically paid £90 for an expensive wank from a 50YO Chinese woman has got me thinking.
Been there myself a few times actually and so I'll share my opinion on it.
I often had thoughts of meeting someone new, having all the fun of a new relationship could bring, and ultimately I did (felt like a soul mate for a few years) when that spark died down, we decided to breakup amicably (luckily) as we were and still are both married. The thing is, if i wasn't punting and doing to parlors, then i wouldn't have met her ...... still figuring that one out.
Keeping a long story short, although the money i spent was more or less the same during that time, I really didn't want my life disrupted. Having had a narrow escape, I thought through what i wanted going forward. Seeing young good looking lady and having intimate 'no strings attached' services is what works for me.
I feel most relationship with a civy is attraction and mostly sexually driven in the first instance, so at some point after that initial spark, things will become calmer and less fun. Never mind BJs, a HJ might not even be on a table once the relationship hits a certain low. So paying someone willing is perfect acceptable to me.
Disclaimer: Finding and seeing the right kind of person who will scratch that itch for you. But the point here is that based on my situation, a clingy breakup would be a disaster for me, so having dodged a bullet, I'll stick to 'no strings attached' punting and avoid additional long term commitments.
I have everything at home except for a sexual relationship. This does include all the usual troubles from my family and kids but when it counts, we have each others back, so circumstances impact us all differently.
Taking a break to assess things and trying something new is always good if things no longer excite you. Although punting is a no brainier for me, I did have to think it through.
