Confidence and taking control in punts

[Fush]

I've been looking over my encounters over the last year and thinking about what makes a ok, vs great experience. One of the things I've realised is that I need to be more confident and take control more.

The best punts have been where the lady has been the one in control. If upon entry you get a kiss/hug then I think this is usually a sign that things are going to be good, she is willing to take charge and make you feel great. The ok ones have been where she is more passive (probably didn't do the kiss/hug) and it's up to me to lead things. I have tendency to be nervous, and do chat a lot, which can mean time can be easily wasted. An element of chat is good, but I need to remind myself more that you are on the clock and it's not a date. This can lead to other time-wasting tactics, some I've seen at the time and avoided, others I only realised after the meeting and then felt like bit of an idiot I didn't spot them at the time.

While I've had a number of punts now, I certainly wouldn't consider myself experienced and do continue to make 'mistakes'. I guess I'm too soft sometimes (if you excuse the pun) or too much of a gentlemen to say this isn't doing it for me, or basically taking more control, if the lady isn't doing that. I don't think I've been taken advantage too much, perhaps one or two occasions where I didn't perhaps get the most I could of, but I guess its all a learning experience.

I read some reviews, especially the 30 minutes ones, and I think wow - I never did all that in 60 minutes! Plus when you think about all what happens in say a 20-30 minute porn clip... I think once things are down to business then it goes ok, it's just that transition from entering the room/shower to actually starting things that I need to work on.

Timing is also a thing to think about. I like to think I'm respectful with this, but do you speak out if you think you are being short changed? Some examples:

You need to make your way to a room inside a big hotel, up on a high floor. You are outside the hotel waiting for the text, but don't get it until 2 minutes before the time. Should you mention it took you over 5 minutes to get to the room? Or perhaps when the lady has a shower herself after the first round - is this part of the punt time? Or anything like where she takes ages stashing the cash, makes you a drink, gives you a massage at the end, or goes to the toilet half way/at the end? I'm sure you know of others things like this.

Anyway just some thoughts. What things/tips/advice/approaches have you picked up along the way to improve your punts? Do you do things differently to how you did them at the start?

[DT_James]

Hi mate

Just a few ideas that might help you out

You say that the “ok” punts have been where the girl had been more passive and “you didn’t get the hug/kiss at the start”, you should initiate that

Be clear and concise in your messages, let her know exactly what your looking for. That way even if your not leading the meet, your getting exactly what you want

Read some reviews of any girl your looking to see and take inspiration from the more domineering guys

See a regular and talk to them about this and ask if they would be able to help you out with taking control
Or see a girl who caters to being submissive and test things out with her

I wouldn’t say go into a meet, guns blazing like
“Here’s your money, bend over and I’m going to pound you for X amount of time” as from reading this, it doesn’t sound like your style and I feel things would get awkward between you and the SP lol

You said at the end “what things/tips/advice/approaches have you picked up along the way” and tbh I’ve always been like I am (my reviews) so these aren’t from my own experience, just some ideas that came to me when reading this 

Anyways, hope you figure it out and have a better overall punting experience 

[Nomerzypuntr]

See a regular and talk to them about this and ask if they would be able to help you out with taking control
Or see a girl who caters to being submissive and test things out with her

[Fush]

“you didn’t get the hug/kiss at the start”, you should initiate that
Be clear and concise in your messages, let her know exactly what your looking for. That way even if your not leading the meet, your getting exactly what you want
Read some reviews of any girl your looking to see and take inspiration from the more domineering guys

Appreciate your advice. As I mentioned I'm all up for the lady to take control and lead the punt, and actually these have been my best punts. But she has to be good, as sometimes where I've let others take control it has led to some time wasting. But I'm working on being more confident where this doesn't happen.

I wouldn’t say go into a meet, guns blazing like
“Here’s your money, bend over and I’m going to pound you for X amount of time” as from reading this, it doesn’t sound like your style and I feel things would get awkward between you and the SP lol

Yeah that would be awkward

[alabama1]

My advice is, 1. wear a wrist watch, so you can keep a check on the time, and 2. Keep a mental note of when you walked through her door, and start the clock from then. You don't have to verbally let her know this, unless she is trying to finish early.

[Thephoenix]

I'm super assertive when I enter the premises.
By doing that I'm always confident that I can get the lady right where she wants me.

[Charliehutton]

I've been looking over my encounters over the last year and thinking about what makes a ok, vs great experience. One of the things I've realised is that I need to be more confident. I have tendency to be nervous.

Do you do things differently to how you did them at the start?

To answer the second question, yes, of course.

As to the first part. Fush, you seem to be a really lovely guy, but you must remember, punting isn't real life. It's a surreal fantasy world which exists in parallel with real life. In real life, our main concern is the pleasure and satisfaction of our partner. But not here. It's only our pleasure, and our satisfaction, that matters, not hers. So there is no need to be nervous. I don't want to sound ungentlemanly, but it's her job to please you, not the other way round.

[alabama1]

To answer the second question, yes, of course.

As to the first part. Fush, you seem to be a really lovely guy, but you must remember, punting isn't real life. It's a surreal fantasy world which exists in parallel with real life. In real life, our main concern is the pleasure and satisfaction of our partner. But not here. It's only our pleasure, and our satisfaction, that matters, not hers. So there is no need to be nervous. I don't want to sound ungentlemanly, but it's her job to please you, not the other way round.

It's nice when they are pleased though 

[link67812]

It's nice when they are pleased though 

Oh, buddy, I completely get it. It’s a good feeling when they seem genuinely pleased, especially when it feels like you’ve had that sort of effect on someone. Still, you did pay for her time. Then again, I’m no different — I enjoy that feeling too.

[Mkhelen]

Write it down In a text

Bullet point exactly what you need from the session and the sp

Do not waffle lots of pages girls will think your a timewaster and think your not a serious customer

Hi Jane Jon here really looking forward to seeing you tomorrow
Requests for session booked 
Outfit on twitter post dated looks fab to me
In my 45min session can I please have included
Shared shower kissing fondling foreplay fingers in your fanny
BJ in the mirror
3 fuck positions pop all over the big jubbles boobies
Nice sensual massage and pop again in my favourite position Reverse Cowgirl

Cheers Jon

Then when you walk in just say I'm looking forward to our fun time I mentioned in the text

[RandomGuy99]

Write it down In a text

Bullet point exactly what you need from the session and the sp

Do not waffle lots of pages girls will think your a timewaster and think your not a serious customer

Hi Jane Jon here really looking forward to seeing you tomorrow
Requests for session booked 
Outfit on twitter post dated looks fab to me
In my 45min session can I please have included
Shared shower kissing fondling foreplay fingers in your fanny
BJ in the mirror
3 fuck positions pop all over the big jubbles boobies
Nice sensual massage and pop again in my favourite position Reverse Cowgirl

Cheers Jon

Then when you walk in just say I'm looking forward to our fun time I mentioned in the text

But that might put some SPs off as they might think that you're expecting a lot in your time (2 blowjobs to completion, 6 sex positions and 2 x cum, shower together at start and end in a 60 minute booking). However, it would give the SP an opportunity to manage your expectations and perhaps decline your booking if she thinks you're expecting too much.

Ive found that you see a mix of SPs in this business. Some want to genuinely deliver a good experience and they tend to get more passionate acting, the acts flow fairly seamlessly and you do a lot and the time flies by. Others just want to take your money and get you to cum as quickly as possible and they aren't so interested in delivering an experience and the time can drag and it's more a series of acts that don't really flow and it can sometimes feel a bit awkward.

Being able to take control or move things along if things aren't working for you is a part of a booking, but I've found that in the best bookings the SP is almost reading your mind and knows when you're ready to move onto another act. As a SS you don't want to be moving things on too quickly as that may annoy the SP, so there's a certain pace to be found. Certainly if a particular act isn't doing it for then you should say but not within 5 seconds of starting it unless there are maybe hygiene issues.

The best bookings are where you and the SP get along and both seem to enjoy it.

[Iceman90]

Be assertive, tell them exactly what you want at the start. Don’t stand for time wasting tactics. Equally don’t let them make you cum too quickly. If anything feels off, walk before handing over the cash. If they disappear from the room for ages, the timer starts when they come back in ready for action.

[Fitsarahgfe]

Or perhaps when the lady has a shower herself after the first round - is this part of the punt time? Or anything like where she takes ages stashing the cash, makes you a drink, gives you a massage at the end, or goes to the toilet half way/at the end?

If the lady in question is a human, I generally think it’s fine if she goes for a pee without having to apologise too much for it.
As for the drink and massage, you can always politely decline.

[RandomGuy99]

Be assertive, tell them exactly what you want at the start. Don’t stand for time wasting tactics. Equally don’t let them make you cum too quickly. If anything feels off, walk before handing over the cash. If they disappear from the room for ages, the timer starts when they come back in ready for action.

I'd love to see how that approach goes. I suspect it might result in you being shown the door.

[MLawro93]

If the lady in question is a human, I generally think it’s fine if she goes for a pee without having to apologise too much for it.
As for the drink and massage, you can always politely decline.

Yeah, not sure why having a toilet break halfway through would ever be an issue. Know many SPs who do it, even with emptying their bladder before a meet. I tell em there is a good chance you can squirt if you want

[Fush]

To answer the second question, yes, of course.

As to the first part. Fush, you seem to be a really lovely guy, but you must remember, punting isn't real life. It's a surreal fantasy world which exists in parallel with real life. In real life, our main concern is the pleasure and satisfaction of our partner. But not here. It's only our pleasure, and our satisfaction, that matters, not hers. So there is no need to be nervous. I don't want to sound ungentlemanly, but it's her job to please you, not the other way round.

Thanks Charlie, some good points there.

Write it down In a text

Bullet point exactly what you need from the session and the sp

Do not waffle lots of pages girls will think your a timewaster and think your not a serious customer

Hi Jane Jon here really looking forward to seeing you tomorrow
Requests for session booked 
Outfit on twitter post dated looks fab to me
In my 45min session can I please have included
Shared shower kissing fondling foreplay fingers in your fanny
BJ in the mirror
3 fuck positions pop all over the big jubbles boobies
Nice sensual massage and pop again in my favourite position Reverse Cowgirl

Cheers Jon

Then when you walk in just say I'm looking forward to our fun time I mentioned in the text

I think that much might scare them off! But I get what you are trying to say.

Ive found that you see a mix of SPs in this business. Some want to genuinely deliver a good experience and they tend to get more passionate acting, the acts flow fairly seamlessly and you do a lot and the time flies by. Others just want to take your money and get you to cum as quickly as possible and they aren't so interested in delivering an experience and the time can drag and it's more a series of acts that don't really flow and it can sometimes feel a bit awkward.

Being able to take control or move things along if things aren't working for you is a part of a booking, but I've found that in the best bookings the SP is almost reading your mind and knows when you're ready to move onto another act.

The best bookings are where you and the SP get along and both seem to enjoy it.

Yeah I agree with all of that. It's about choosing well - and you just don't know until you are there if you got lucky.

If the lady in question is a human...

I understand what you meant, but I don't know why, it made me laugh! I can just imagine a brand new section on AW for non-humans. You want to experience the latest thing from Galaxy 7, come this way! Have a kink for blue women, step right up! You can just imagine all the weird and wonderful things (think Star Wars/Star Trek) that could exist out there...

[Nomerzypuntr]

But that might put some SPs off as they might think that you're expecting a lot in your time (2 blowjobs to completion, 6 sex positions and 2 x cum, shower together at start and end in a 60 minute booking). However, it would give the SP an opportunity to manage your expectations and perhaps decline your booking if she thinks you're expecting too much.

Ive found that you see a mix of SPs in this business. Some want to genuinely deliver a good experience and they tend to get more passionate acting, the acts flow fairly seamlessly and you do a lot and the time flies by. Others just want to take your money and get you to cum as quickly as possible and they aren't so interested in delivering an experience and the time can drag and it's more a series of acts that don't really flow and it can sometimes feel a bit awkward.

Being able to take control or move things along if things aren't working for you is a part of a booking, but I've found that in the best bookings the SP is almost reading your mind and knows when you're ready to move onto another act. As a SS you don't want to be moving things on too quickly as that may annoy the SP, so there's a certain pace to be found. Certainly if a particular act isn't doing it for then you should say but not within 5 seconds of starting it unless there are maybe hygiene issues.

The best bookings are where you and the SP get along and both seem to enjoy it.

Random, 100% agreed with you, I experienced the same. Shower, foreplay, BJ, multiple positions sex, massage , cuddling, chats, without rushing a 45 min session won’t work for me, so I usually go for 60 mins booking. With my reg, I exceeds more than 60 mins bt SP had not problem with that. Also well reviewed SPs I think they already what we looking for (SS must read AW or UKP reviews abt them)

[DT_James]

I'd love to see how that approach goes. I suspect it might result in you being shown the door.

How?
By saying what your after at the start is just confirming what you’ve agreed on in the messages beforehand
If it’s obvious time wasting tactics, why would you let the SP do that?
And if you don’t want to cum to quickly, why would it be wrong to say slow down etc etc?

[RandomGuy99]

How?
By saying what your after at the start is just confirming what you’ve agreed on in the messages beforehand
If it’s obvious time wasting tactics, why would you let the SP do that?
And if you don’t want to cum to quickly, why would it be wrong to say slow down etc etc?

It's not wrong to slow the SP down if you're at risk of cumming too early.

Time wasting techniques can be tricky as you don't want to piss the SP off, so you need to just try to move things along without being too blunt about it. They know what they're doing, so you just have to let them know you know without telling them you know.

I usually have agreed everything up front so I don't feel the need to confirm it on arrival.

[Thephoenix]

Write it down In a text

Bullet point exactly what you need from the session and the sp

Do not waffle lots of pages girls will think your a timewaster and think your not a serious customer

Hi Jane Jon here really looking forward to seeing you tomorrow
Requests for session booked 
Outfit on twitter post dated looks fab to me
In my 45min session can I please have included
Shared shower kissing fondling foreplay fingers in your fanny
BJ in the mirror
3 fuck positions pop all over the big jubbles boobies
Nice sensual massage and pop again in my favourite position Reverse Cowgirl

Cheers Jon

Then when you walk in just say I'm looking forward to our fun time I mentioned in the text

......and she's answers "What text?" 

[Jonestown]

What ever happened to spontaneity ?

[Charliehutton]

It's nice when they are pleased though 

Very true. I never find it easy to tell the extent they're faking - being an actress is a key part of their job, after all - but I always like to think they might get at least some pleasure out of it.

[Heph]

What ever happened to spontaneity ?

Exactly.

The possible downside to the absence of a wish-list is that I might get stung by a misapprehension of the base expectations of what a rendezvous should be and include. This has happened to me, and quite recently too. I'd love to write an appalling review of the ordeal, but it looks like she's not worked again since. 

The possible upsides to having no overtly discussed gameplan include a more natural, less transactionally scripted feel; a more relaxed girls, who's thereby less inclined to dial-in a performance, and the bonus delights of unexpected, above-and-beyond the call of duty action being given some space to unfold.

It's long seemed to me that one has pick one or the other mode and their trade-offs. I'd likely have avoided some severe disappointments, and perhaps felt more fulfilled from some mediocre experiences if only I'd chosen to steer the former way. On the other hand, I've a conviction that some utterly sublime, irreplaceable experiences would've been slower to develop or missed altogether if I'd have been formulaic. Spontaneity requires more tolerance of feeling blue-balled or short-changed; but my hunch is that, overall, the wins overcompensate for those risks, if we're willing to be patient and endure them.