Does punting stop a normal sex life?

[Laid_back_bloke]

After numerous years of punting various SP’s I’ve found a normal sex life completely boring. Anyone else experienced this?

Seeing an SP, I can literally choose what I want in a woman, & what we can do. Sex outside the punting world just feels awkward. Sex with your partner, wife, girlfriend, or fem friend is completely vanilla, compared to with a SP. Or if you attempt to incorporate what you like, you come across like some sex obsessed nutter. So the easy answer is, don’t do it…

[Mr Garmin]

Do you have a partner or SO to compare it to?

This is a genuine question BTW.  I would go back to what I had in a heartbeat, be careful what you wish for.

[Bum Lovin Criminal]

Not sure about the full impact on one's sex life but for many the Joys of Punting will surreptitiously have a negative effect on

our ability to maintain a monogamous relationship ever again..  "Once a Punter?..."

[Doc Holliday]

Seeing an SP, I can literally choose what I want in a woman, & what we can do. Sex outside the punting world just feels awkward.with your partner, wife, girlfriend, or fem friend is completely vanilla, compared to with a SP.

Having scan read your recent reviews, the sexual activity all seems very vanilla?

[fredfunkster]

Two thoughts on this:

Bareback. I hate condoms, compared to sex with my SO I find them deadening. So I hardly ever bother with sex with SPs these days. Stick to BJs. I've developed a bit of kink for emptying the tanks in my missus. That helps keep the desire.

Payment. Seems obvious, but when I'm wanking all over an SPs face, it's because I'm paying her money. It's not because she's into it or likes me. She tolerates it for cash. I keep that in mind. I still enjoy it, but then when I get to shoot a load over my SOs tits, it's all the more special.

So for me it's a sort of psychological.discipline. 

Finally, I don't punt very much at all. Once or twice a year. That helps keep it in the box marked "not real".

[shed]

Variety is the spice of life.

[Nomerzypuntr]

if you attempt to incorporate what you like, you come across like some sex obsessed nutter. So the easy answer is, don’t do it…

Good question Laid back bloke, i truly understand your situation.
the things you heard and saw about sex is completely different from your real sex life, and you got satisfied from SPs. you will get judged from all women expect SPs, medical professionals (related to sex).
Im single since my birth, so dont have any experience with common females, they are not interested in sex at all, felt judged when the topic is abt sex, when i talked to committed males they always suggest me to stay single and fuck as many as you can.
In punting, if you have regular SPs i would say they can help you from my experience 

[Stevelondon]

Good question Laid back bloke, i truly understand your situation.
the things you heard and saw about sex is completely different from your real sex life, and you got satisfied from SPs. you will get judged from all women expect SPs, medical professionals (related to sex).
Im single since my birth, so dont have any experience with common females, they are not interested in sex at all, felt judged when the topic is abt sex, when i talked to committed males they always suggest me to stay single and fuck as many as you can.
In punting, if you have regular SPs i would say they can help you from my experience

I think all you are saying. Is that you have never developed any true emotional feelings for a member of the opposite sex.

I’m not even sure what the hell a committed male even is. 🤷🏼

Monogamy is difficult to maintain……more so for men I’m guessing. I could be wrong.

[Charliebp]

Two thoughts on this:

Bareback. I hate condoms, compared to sex with my SO I find them deadening. So I hardly ever bother with sex with SPs these days. Stick to BJs. I've developed a bit of kink for emptying the tanks in my missus. That helps keep the desire.

Payment. Seems obvious, but when I'm wanking all over an SPs face, it's because I'm paying her money. It's not because she's into it or likes me. She tolerates it for cash. I keep that in mind. I still enjoy it, but then when I get to shoot a load over my SOs tits, it's all the more special.

So for me it's a sort of psychological.discipline. 

Finally, I don't punt very much at all. Once or twice a year. That helps keep it in the box marked "not real".

I think you pretty much nailed it. It's rare I punt and the distinction you draw is healthy. I dint have partner, being widowed, but can understand the sentiment.

The girls are there to provide us a service. We indulge. If it impacts on your thoughts when with a significant other, probably time to knock it on the head for a bit.

[Jonestown]

If you are a casual / random punter, say historically venturing out less than once a month then I don’t think it will have much impact on your civilian relationships or sex life, but if you have pre-existing issues with your civilian relationship then developing a regular medium or heavy punting habit will quickly turn sour how you view that relationship.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

The lord sayeth "Go forth and multiply"

Simple as that really, its wot drives us..

[Nomerzypuntr]

Is that you have never developed any true emotional feelings for a member of the opposite sex.

i dont understand what you say here? can you repeat pls

[GreyDave]

  No  But it can interfere with it 

On a few occasions Ive slipped in to "Punter Mode" when shagging the other half with a pill pushing her in to different positions hammering getting her to Orgasm then ploughing in holding off and just being a Dirty Old Sod .... Each time she has asked where the hell did you get those ideas from ? then calmly said you`re watching too much porn on that bloody computer 

[lewisjones23]

Can't say it has directly impacted upon my sex life with civvies

It has 100% impacted upon my dating life though, so indirectly my sex life with civvies

I have zero patience for any game playing or women acting like knobheads, not when I can drop some money and have one sucking me off at the drop of a hat

[Doc Holliday]

Im single since my birth, so dont have any experience with common females, they are not interested in sex at all,

By common females do you mean those who are not sex workers?

[Nomerzypuntr]

By common females do you mean those who are not sex workers?

Yes

[scutty brown]

historically "common women" was a phrase used to legally define prostitutes.
Women who were commonly available to all.

[Nomerzypuntr]

historically "common women" was a phrase used to legally define prostitutes.
Women who were commonly available to all.

  Noted

[Watts.E.Dunn]

No  But it can interfere with it 

On a few occasions Ive slipped in to "Punter Mode" when shagging the other half with a pill pushing her in to different positions hammering getting her to Orgasm then ploughing in holding off and just being a Dirty Old Sod .... Each time she has asked where the hell did you get those ideas from ? then calmly said you`re watching too much porn on that bloody computer 

Its a bloody wonder Dave you can hammer her after knocking the brains out of every Chinese in a twenty mile raduis of Watford!..

She ought be proud of you!..

[GreyDave]

   This heat has caused a slowling of usall servicing duties hope to pop out for a Chinese Snack next week Ill update when I do ( although Im after a large clit Brazlian at min )   

[mikef2008]

It can complement a normal ex life. I get up to things with WGs that the OH would never be interested in like facials and role-play.

[Doc Holliday]

Yes

Thanks for clarifying. 

Im single since my birth, so dont have any experience with common females, they are not interested in sex at all, 

So if you have no experience with civilian females who are not sex workers, how do you know they are not interested in sex at all? 

[victor989]

I was married for 30 years and the best sex I had with the wife I would rate as a neutral !

[Nomerzypuntr]

So if you have no experience with civilian females who are not sex workers, how do you know they are not interested in sex at all? 

From my teenage till now I had many female friends, most of them are taken, married. Most of them haven’t experienced real sex. They values other things than sex, surprisingly nature given females everything a man can sexually desire.As they always say, “ all men are same”. We men think that women also need sex for better relationship, no it’s not. Eg: extra marital affairs, women seek a connection or affection towards other men and in return men get free fuck. Men can’t be monogamous as nature build men like that. And the funny part is Men will understand what I said here, not women

[Iceman90]

I need variety because I find sex with the missus boring and she’s not into anything kinky. I’ve also got a massive fetish for trans women. I’ve tried having side chicks but it’s too stressful and not worth blowing up a marriage over for some variety. Punting is easier to get away with as 30 mins to an hour can be accounted for whereas whole days or overnights not so much.

[GreyDave]

I need variety because I find sex with the missus boring and she’s not into anything kinky. I’ve also got a massive fetish for trans women. I’ve tried having side chicks but it’s too stressful and not worth blowing up a marriage over for some variety. Punting is easier to get away with as 30 mins to an hour can be accounted for whereas whole days or overnights not so much.

Sensible attitude to it Sir

[coachman]

So if you have no experience with civilian females who are not sex workers, how do you know they are not interested in sex at all? 

They are interested in sex, just not with him. 

[Nomerzypuntr]

They are interested in sex, just not with him. 

That’s right coz I’m not that attractive but SPs are..

[Doc Holliday]

From my teenage till now I had many female friends, most of them are taken, married. Most of them haven’t experienced real sex. They values other things than sex, surprisingly nature given females everything a man can sexually desire.As they always say, “ all men are same”. We men think that women also need sex for better relationship, no it’s not. Eg: extra marital affairs, women seek a connection or affection towards other men and in return men get free fuck. Men can’t be monogamous as nature build men like that. And the funny part is Men will understand what I said here, not women

Thanks for the reply. I mean no offence, but I am really struggling to understand you.

You say most of the women you know haven't experienced real sex? What do you mean by real sex? Are you implying real sex is only related to sex work? 

[Doc Holliday]

I’ve also got a massive fetish for trans women.

That is obviously something that is ideally suited to and fulfilled by punting 

[Adoniron]

I only started punting when I split from my ex wife. I am better in bed as a result of seeing escorts and have had better sex with civvies as a result.

[LLPunting]

Thanks for the reply. I mean no offence, but I am really struggling to understand you.

You say most of the women you know haven't experienced real sex? What do you mean by real sex? Are you implying real sex is only related to sex work? 

Too young to have had a sex life?

Given the age (pre)teens in the UK and elsewhere are having sex as shaped by all manner of Porn they can access, regardless of OSA, it does indeed beg the question "what is this real sex he is imagining?"

[Nomerzypuntr]

Thanks for the reply. I mean no offence, but I am really struggling to understand you.

You say most of the women you know haven't experienced real sex? What do you mean by real sex? Are you implying real sex is only related to sex work? 

Real sex I mean is women also get satisfaction, not just men cum first and finish sex. Women need time compared to men

[midspunter]

Unless you've got a kink that you can only satisfy through punting, I think all sex is good. I don't recall ever being bored 

[Doc Holliday]

Real sex I mean is women also get satisfaction, not just men cum first and finish sex. Women need time compared to men

Ah I understand your definition now. Women failing to enjoy sex and reaching orgasm is a whole different topic and covers a very wide range of individual experiences for women.

Not sure how this relates to the thread? That said I suppose if the male in a relationship is not satisfying the female (be it in a long term relationship or a casual short one) then she will have no desire to have sex with him and he may then turn to punting?

He will of course think the fault lies with her and not him. The SP, having received remuneration, will happily give the impression he is a sex god while actually thinking to herself "no wonder his wife is not interested"

[Colston36]

After numerous years of punting various SP’s I’ve found a normal sex life completely boring. Anyone else experienced this?

Seeing an SP, I can literally choose what I want in a woman, & what we can do. Sex outside the punting world just feels awkward. Sex with your partner, wife, girlfriend, or fem friend is completely vanilla, compared to with a SP. Or if you attempt to incorporate what you like, you come across like some sex obsessed nutter. So the easy answer is, don’t do it…

Like everything else this really depends on who you're seeing. Now that I'm 200 years old - well, nudging 90 - I can sum up what happened and is still happening to me.

Neither my first wife nor I had a clue, so not very much fun. After her I lived with a whore and learned a lot, like what it's like to be  pissed on  - but she was insanely jealous and damn near killed me.

Then came a teenage Polish stripper, definitely the most enthusiastic ever. I should have stayed with her. Unfortunately I fell in love and married a very beautiful ballet dancer who had been mistreated when young and wasn't the sexiest. I was broke for 8 years at that point actually living under a false name, so she left me.

I then married a black American who was phenomenal in many ways but had a family I also supported because by then I was doing well.. She still lives in a spectacular mansion I bought - then lost in the divorce. So here I am, very happily spending what I can afford on rented cunt and happy to have survived.

Two days ago I spent an hour with the filthiest woman I know. And I thought, what a lucky lad I've been.

As a PS here's the most extraordinary coincidence I recall.

The best punter the first whore I lived with had was the Duke of DXXXXXXXX, Patron of the rather posh school my parents sent me to. Years later I met a whore who lived on Harley Street, close to where I then lived. And who was her best punter? The Duke of DXXXXXXXX. She even showed me one of his monthly cheques.

And the best thing? She fancied me so I got it free. Not a hope in hell now.

[Mr Garmin]

Whether you accept it or not, women are wired to have sex to procreate.  Yes sure, before children they shag for pleasure but once the job is done many feel that it has achieved it's purpose and don't see the point of continuing to do it.*

This is a generalisation of course but there's more than a grain of truth in it and the reason that some men go elsewhere for their pleasure with the woman turning a blind eye for the sake of peace/children/happy home.

* the smart ones understand the need for physical intimacy to keep the relationship fresh & alive.

[john122350]

I think it's more that you've become accustomed to a very specific type of experience rather than "normal" sex being boring. With an SP, everything revolves around your preferences, there's no emotional baggage, compromise or concern about the other person's desires. Real relationships are a different dynamic entirely.

If you've spent years conditioning yourself to one type of encounter, it's not surprising that regular intimacy feels less exciting at first. That doesn't necessarily mean it's inferior, just different. Plenty of people find that the emotional connection and mutual exploration in a relationship become far more satisfying than ticking items off a fantasy list.

It's probably less about sex itself and more about what you've trained your brain to expect.

[stampjones]

Interesting question. I guess the answer is different for each individual.

For me I started off in civvy relationship, then got into punting on the side, got married, eventually got to a state where I was mostly punting with some civvy sex on the side. Eventually I made a conscious choice to put punting before my marriage which inevitably ended in divorce. Now I'm single and punting (mostly SBs). I'd never return to civvy sex. For me I can get everything I need from the various shades of paid-for-sex, and it's more or less all on my terms

[Nomerzypuntr]

The SP, having received remuneration, will happily give the impression he is a sex god while actually thinking to herself "no wonder his wife is not interested"

SPs like,” why I don’t have a gf? 

[yesbby]

It's inevitable that regular punting will change the way we relate to women. From a philosophical point of view, this will be a negative effect on real, true, deep intimacy. Pretending otherwise is probably dishonest. That said, I've found it has increased my own confidence in getting things over the line. Some of the SPs have been truly life-affirming for me. They've been just as happy to have a good time in the midst of some generally difficult work as I have been to have a blast for a moment or two.

Once, when I was much younger a very sexy woman said to me, quite rudely, that I seemed like someone who hadn't had sex in a long time. She was right as it happens and it bothered me quite a lot. I sometimes chuckle to myself that no-one could say that now and see a weakness in my eyes. But it's all bullshit really - the sex never really compensates for the deepest desires. I think it's definitely an occupational hazard to think there is no cost to all this.

[hairdownthere]

It's inevitable that regular punting will change the way we relate to women. From a philosophical point of view, this will be a negative effect on real, true, deep intimacy. Pretending otherwise is probably dishonest. That said, I've found it has increased my own confidence in getting things over the line. Some of the SPs have been truly life-affirming for me. They've been just as happy to have a good time in the midst of some generally difficult work as I have been to have a blast for a moment or two.

Once, when I was much younger a very sexy woman said to me, quite rudely, that I seemed like someone who hadn't had sex in a long time. She was right as it happens and it bothered me quite a lot. I sometimes chuckle to myself that no-one could say that now and see a weakness in my eyes. But it's all bullshit really - the sex never really compensates for the deepest desires. I think it's definitely an occupational hazard to think there is no cost to all this.

Quite the opposite for me, my (ex) wife destroyed any thoughts of having deep intimacy.  I never want to get emotionally involved again.

However, I punt regularly, I have 2 regulars (only one charges me now and we meet up for coffee's etc, and I've had a few freebies from the other), I'm also having a filthy time with a married civvie, who has said her husband is a great man, but a complete sap.  If the poor guy know what his wife and I were doing with each other he'd probably have a heart-attack.  I'd much rather have a filthy few hours than a evening snuggled up on the couch watching TV

I try to punt with as many different SP's as I can, because I like having sex with different people.

[Markc]

I think l am quite lucky as l have a normal sex life with the wife and go punting to meet other needs.
I have sex with wife regularly and as we are both early sixties l bareback her as she can’t pregnant.
When l go punting l like to meet women in their 20’s or 30’s and do things the wife won’t do.

If it wasn’t for punting l wouldn’t get a younger woman to have sex with me for free. I don’t mind
paying for it and l know when l am fucking them up the ass, giving them a facial, CIM or get them
to swallow my load they are only doing it for the money and would never want a relationship.

I have meet some really great women with this hobby ( and a few bad ones ) and had some really
great times and shags.

[Stevelondon]

I just realised what it says in the subject box og the OP.

What the hell is ‘A normal sex life’ ?

[Doc Holliday]

I just realised what it says in the subject box og the OP.

What the hell is ‘A normal sex life’ ?

Indeed and that has been my thrust in this thread. In terms of the OP he appears to have gone to ground. Why does that happen so often .. although in the case of L-B-B I am surprised?

[GreyDave]

I think l am quite lucky as l have a normal sex life with the wife and go punting to meet other needs.
I have sex with wife regularly and as we are both early sixties l bareback her as she can’t pregnant.
When l go punting l like to meet women in their 20’s or 30’s and do things the wife won’t do.

If it wasn’t for punting l wouldn’t get a younger woman to have sex with me for free. I don’t mind
paying for it and l know when l am fucking them up the ass, giving them a facial, CIM or get them
to swallow my load they are only doing it for the money and would never want a relationship.

I have meet some really great women with this hobby ( and a few bad ones ) and had some really
great times and shags.

SNAP 

[Nomerzypuntr]

Quite the opposite for me, my (ex) wife destroyed any thoughts of having deep intimacy.  I never want to get emotionally involved again.

However, I punt regularly, I have 2 regulars (only one charges me now and we meet up for coffee's etc, and I've had a few freebies from the other), I'm also having a filthy time with a married civvie, who has said her husband is a great man, but a complete sap.  If the poor guy know what his wife and I were doing with each other he'd probably have a heart-attack.  I'd much rather have a filthy few hours than a evening snuggled up on the couch watching TV

I try to punt with as many different SP's as I can, because I like having sex with different people.

Every men’s dream

[BrixtonBrewers]

It definitely affected my sex life negatively with my ex. I suddenly started sleeping with girls more attractive, shagging girls with incredible bodies, I started feeling less sexual urge with my gf who although is attractive can't match some of the SP's I saw. Also started experiencing threesomes and foursomes which definitely made it worse. Never really was involved with other civvies when in that relationship as it's harder to hide when you have to play the long game.

But I became single again fairly recently and weirdly lost a lot of interest in punting. I still read here and check AW but when I think about booking I always decide it's not worth the money. Have had some moderate success with civvies since being single - the excitement of the chase and when successfully pulling them, knowing they're genuinely in to it makes the sex better for me even if they might not be as fit as some of the escorts I've seen. I feel like my sex life is getting back to 'normal'.

Not having any time pressure like you get with escort bookings is a major plus. Also some of the escorts I found the most attractive had basic restrictions like no DFK/OWO that civvy world has actually been less vanilla than many bookings.

I don't think I'll be punting much any more apart from duo's etc as I know I'm unlikely to experience that in civvy world.

Also hoping if I get back in to a relationship i won't fall back in to punting/cheating again for variety but it'll be hard.

[blubandy]

I definitely think it reduces the “sexual energy” you put towards the other half. I know that might  sound like mumbo jumbo but as I’ve got older I’ve learnt that women are very sensitive to that, you might still have sex but you stop “wanting” her. When you have the horn you’re not going to text her, sweet talk, and ask if she’ll put something nice on for you later, you’re going to whip out your phone and look through AW. Invariably that isn’t going to be healthy for any relationship outside the obvious infidelity, trust and STD issues, and likely to lead to long term deterioration of the relationship.

But all men and women are different 🤷‍♂️

[yesbby]

I never want to get emotionally involved again.

I try to punt with as many different SP's as I can, because I like having sex with different people.

The question was whether punting stops a 'normal' sex life, not whether its enjoyable or meaningful