Advice needed after recent experience

[Fush]

I'm a bit embarassed posting this as I'm amongst all your experienced people. However if you know me or my original posts then you know my history already!

So, wondering if I could get your advice on a recent punt.

Turn up at postcode, message to say I'm there. No contact until 10 mintues into the time, where I find out there is a mistake and she has been double-booked, and she's given me the wrong postcode as well (correct one 5 minutes walk away). She apologises and we agree a time later, which then is brought forward after being told she cancelled another client who was running very late.

In the (very) small hotel room the (young) girl is hot, very hot. I'd asked for GFE, and this is what I got - she is super friendly and very easy to chat to. I had planned for CIM and hoping for a second go in one hour, although sometimes its only one in one hour.

Now comes the problem. Oral was good, but strangely it wasn't getting me there, despite being owo, deepthroat and abstaining for 4 days. We move on to the sex. I struggled as I just keep going soft. A little mish (not 100% hard), some CG (after some oral again), but when attempting RCG she tells me it's not going to work, and then the bombshell is dropped - its actually 15 minutes over the hour and she hadn't realised. I need to leave - and now. She mentioned she is sorry, doesn't like to disapoint, and mentions something about she has never had anyone who hasn't cummed within a few minutes.

Ok, I'm respectful and I understand, but its like putting on the brakes quickly doing 60mph. GFE 'illusion' shattered right there. I had asked about staying extra for another 30 minutes. Actually mentioned it earlier, but only had just over half the amount needed, so thought I'd be cheeky as she did mess me around. The answer was no then and no again now.

As I head towards the shower she says worringly "You can't have a shower!". I tell her that I'm only collecting my things. I quickly get ready - shes at the door waiting. I ask for, and get a hug, and I'm gone.

The girl was super hot and super nice - why wasn't I hard for sex? The experience, kissing, fondling, chatting etc was great but how come I wasn't feeling the sex? Was it my responsability to check the time, did I outstay my welcome? Maybe I/we played it too GFE and that requires a much longer booking? Maybe I actually need to get a gf rather than continue punting? Or perhaps I should have just given up on the sex earlier and just do oral for the rest of the meeting?

It's just left me with complicated emotions as this hasn't happened before. I'm not the most experienced, so still figuring some of this out as I go. Any advice?

[Atrueyorkie]

You were rushed, next.

[chuck_88]

Don’t read too much into it, get back in the saddle asap

[RandomGuy99]

You weren't had because you were nervous and you possibly rushed to the booking. You should always wear a watch and keep your own track of the time on the booking. Don't overstay as that screws the SP's schedule for the day.

[Mr Garmin]

You were rushed, next.

25% overtime for free doesn't sound like rushing

[Munter84]

The primary sex organ is the brain, and it sounds like mentally you were all over the place due to being messed around. Don't read too much into it. Try seeing the same girl again for a longer session, but this time abort the moment she starts trying to shuffle your appointment around. If a punt starts on the wrong foot sometimes it's impossible to recover.

[Chazz]

Don't sweat it Fush, it happens. You were clearly rushed and didn't get the chance to relax into things and enjoy yourself. The trick is to switch your mind off and go with the flow, but sometimes this just doesn't happen. Good luck next time, I'm sure you'll smash it! 

[pythondan]

I find that disruptions to locations and start times can impact me similarly. Also sometimes your brain and body just does not play ball.

On my last punt I was fucking a girl whose personality I liked, whose service was great and who I definitely fancied but I struggled to stay hard and actually had to finish myself by hand.

The previous punt I had no problems cumming whilst fucking a girl who was a lot larger than advertised and who seemed not really engaged.

Sometimes that just happens and overthinking it will not do you any good. I would put it behind you and move on to the next girl - maybe go back to one that you have had a great time with before and who was good at timekeeping and directions.

If when seeing a new girl you get similar issues with location and start time and feel yourself becoming anxious then consider just walking away. Some of my worst punts were ones where I was constantly asked to wait and was stressed when I finally met the provider.

[RandomGuy99]

On my first ever booking the SP told me to just relax and it worked. If I turn up stressed or rushed then it doesn't happen for me either. It happens 

[Stevelondon]

I gave up looking for answers to things that don’t really matter.

Obviously if your hobby turns out like this on every punt. Then you’d have to start searching for reasons why.

But if you are like me. Don’t fret, don’t stress. Less likely for a re-occurrence and everything back to normal 🤷🏼

[FLYING BLUE]

Happened to me several times over the years - sometimes even after taking a blue pill.
Its not a nice thing to happen but you are not alone.
It would be good to see a review of this lass when you have an opportunity 

[scutty brown]

Feelings like this usually develop when you try to forget the realisation that the hottie you're fucking is a ladyboy 

[Doc Holliday]

Once it 'droops' unexpectedly, you worry and it droops again.

Continuing to over analyse why it happened, will lead you into a spiral of psychological ED.

Assuming this is not a regular occurrence? then just try and forget about it and as others have said, get back in the saddle.

Many moons ago I was doing 'binge' weekends. All half hour parlour punts and 4/5 a day.

On one Saturday the first went well. The second, with a very pleasant and attractive SP, I just couldn't get an erection at all. Never happened before. No idea why?

So I moved on to number three and who probably fitted the category of 'old and ugly' in my post in t'other thread 
I was unusually anxious at first, but all went well and had a positive punt. Followed this with number four an hour later and again no problems with erection though finishing was a real struggle.

I cannot explain why it happened, but at the time my over analytical brain tried for days to explain what could have triggered it?
So much so that the event still sticks in my mind to this day, when most of my other experiences are gradually becoming deleted from my ageing memory bank 

Don't let your experience dwell in your memory cells 

[finn5555]

Feelings like this usually develop when you try to forget the realisation that the hottie you're fucking is a ladyboy 

Did you do a review 

[scutty brown]

Did you do a review 

it causes amnesia

[LLPunting]

Link to SP ad please

[Dogbreath]

It’s infuriating. I’ve sometimes gone soft when about to enter very beautiful girls, yet hardly ever with homely ones.
I’m sure it’s psychological, a subconscious feeling that an old fat bloke shouldn’t be fucking a gorgeous young girl.

[runner in the woods]

I find that disruptions to locations and start times can impact me similarly. Also sometimes your brain and body just does not play ball.

On my last punt I was fucking a girl whose personality I liked, whose service was great and who I definitely fancied but I struggled to stay hard and actually had to finish myself by hand.

The previous punt I had no problems cumming whilst fucking a girl who was a lot larger than advertised and who seemed not really engaged.

Sometimes that just happens and overthinking it will not do you any good. I would put it behind you and move on to the next girl - maybe go back to one that you have had a great time with before and who was good at timekeeping and directions.

If when seeing a new girl you get similar issues with location and start time and feel yourself becoming anxious then consider just walking away. Some of my worst punts were ones where I was constantly asked to wait and was stressed when I finally met the provider.

The above I've found is near right. Being nervous, being messed around, unfamiliar surroundings, all play apart. I been at it for 20 years , and still have the issues you mention. It's something you will find happens now and then, try not to let it become a problem. Book another pint asap and get back in the saddle.

[RandomGuy99]

It’s infuriating. I’ve sometimes gone soft when about to enter very beautiful girls, yet hardly ever with homely ones.
I’m sure it’s psychological, a subconscious feeling that an old fat bloke shouldn’t be fucking a gorgeous young girl.

The more you stress about it the worse it will get. Just relax. Willies are funny things.

[Chazz]

On my first ever booking the SP told me to just relax and it worked.

If only there was a song to help us all to remember this tenet of wisdom. I bet it'd sound great with a driving 80s style bass line behind it.

 

[alabama1]

You have asked for advice hear OP, it would be great if you could repay the favours and leave a review of your punt with her.

[Chris1990mcr]

Personally when I get to a punt and they delay me, or mess me around before it I am already a bit annoyed and a bit pissed off before I get in.

I'm quite busy, when I do make the plans I arrive on time and expect them to be ready, not start getting ready once I have arrived.

I think its just the way I am wired but it doesn't half fuck me off.

[Fuzzyduck]

Personally when I get to a punt and they delay me, or mess me around before it I am already a bit annoyed and a bit pissed off before I get in.

I'm quite busy, when I do make the plans I arrive on time and expect them to be ready, not start getting ready once I have arrived.

I think its just the way I am wired but it doesn't half fuck me off.

Stress can really influence the punt negatively IMO. I too dislike being messed around at the beginning of punts and, depending on the circumstances (e.g., hanging around on the street) will wait 10 mins and then leave. There are always exception, for example if a regular needs more time or I'm waiting in a bar and can chill out.

Whatever it is, being stressed can affect the boner, no matter how hot the girl is. Sometime it just doesn't work and thinking about it mid-punt only makes it so much worse. For OP, he's thinking about it too much now which is bad news for future punts. My advice would be to go for a quickie to get back on the horse. Punters should always keep an eye on the time.

[Fush]

Thanks for the advice everyone - all very helpful. You are right it was probably the confusion at the start, rushing, the nerves, her being hot and probably fancying her more that I should of (EAS and all that) all coming together. Weird isn't it? As mentioned earlier had no problems with lesser attractive girls!

Review to come in due course. Don't want to do it straight away, although if the girl read this she knows its her (and me) anyway

I normally do take a watch, and for some reason forgot this time, but will definately remember in future to avoid any more awkardness.

Onwards and.....upwards

[Watts.E.Dunn]

 "Weird isn't it? As mentioned earlier had no problems with lesser attractive girls!"

I've had that in the past real lookers who well, distract you!..

[Smeagol.FX]

Had a somewhat similar thing very recently. Couldn't get it up despite being almost ragingly attracted to the girl. and afterwards i'm thinking about certain moments that are borderline EAS, but i've always had issues with the guy down there, which is absolutely terrible for my age but especially in that punt, wow, i didn't know how distant the brain and body could be until i'm looking at such a hot person and yet i cant do anything about it. there has been multiple times now where ive been super attracted to a girl or situation but then my piece just doesn't want to react.

at this point maybe I need the advice more than you 

[MLawro93]

Had a somewhat similar thing very recently. Couldn't get it up despite being almost ragingly attracted to the girl. and afterwards i'm thinking about certain moments that are borderline EAS, but i've always had issues with the guy down there, which is absolutely terrible for my age but especially in that punt, wow, i didn't know how distant the brain and body could be until i'm looking at such a hot person and yet i cant do anything about it. there has been multiple times now where ive been super attracted to a girl or situation but then my piece just doesn't want to react.

at this point maybe I need the advice more than you 

Lots of different ways to enjoy sex especially if the plumbing isn't working 100%. EAS is easy to combat, just see different girls, and remember ultimately this entire thing is a transaction. Doesn't mean it can't be genuine and fun, but it is ultimately a transaction.

[Smeagol.FX]

Lots of different ways to enjoy sex especially if the plumbing isn't working 100%. EAS is easy to combat, just see different girls, and remember ultimately this entire thing is a transaction. Doesn't mean it can't be genuine and fun, but it is ultimately a transaction.

Oh I'll have that review up sooner or later, it was positive, just wow. I think the part that gets me is not the transactional part at all. I know what this is and that i do not know them or they know me. Rather its a wanting to know if certain moments are real or not? again, that would be in my review but i cant help but wonder, is this all performance? It's a question i wont get an answer to, even if i ask and even if they answered, i can never really know. and not a moment of love, or even like but just 'did they enjoy themself in that particular moment, whatever passionate or feral thing that just happened, is it real or illusion?' at least to me it highlights a certain self deficiency, looking to maybe prove myself to certain women perhaps? sorry for just yapping at you, i'm just honest and long winded with my thoughts. ohhh and it was your review that convinced me to see her... I blame you for my emotional confusion

[MLawro93]

Oh I'll have that review up sooner or later, it was positive, just wow. I think the part that gets me is not the transactional part at all. I know what this is and that i do not know them or they know me. Rather its a wanting to know if certain moments are real or not? again, that would be in my review but i cant help but wonder, is this all performance? It's a question i wont get an answer to, even if i ask and even if they answered, i can never really know. and not a moment of love, or even like but just 'did they enjoy themself in that particular moment, whatever passionate or feral thing that just happened, is it real or illusion?' at least to me it highlights a certain self deficiency, looking to maybe prove myself to certain women perhaps? sorry for just yapping at you, i'm just honest and long winded with my thoughts. ohhh and it was your review that convinced me to see her... I blame you for my emotional confusion

Yes. The answer is yes for the bolded part. SPs are working, they will be having sex when they themselves are in the mood or not, they are professionals. Obviously it isn't that cold in reality, but ultimately that is the truth. You can have genuine moments of fun, but don't get it twisted, you are more likely than not, paying someone to have sex with you where these SPs wouldn't choose to have sex with you for free in their own lives (which will be for a number of reasons).

So the question is, why do you want to know at all? I suggest taking a break and doing some reflection away from punting. As sometimes our needs/desires change with the passage of time. A break is a good thing.

[Munter84]

"Weird isn't it? As mentioned earlier had no problems with lesser attractive girls!"

I've had that in the past real lookers who well, distract you!..

Absolutely, the last two punts I've had with girls I consider stunners, were a bit of a flop (pun intended).

Part of that is doubtless on me: nerves, being a bit cuntstruck, and all the rest.

Part of the equation though is when a girl is a hottie and knows it, she expects clients to be extra excited and shoot their load in a matter of minutes. Some of these model-tier girls aren't accustomed to putting a shift in, or understanding how to put clients at ease.

[bigboy96]

Many, many years ago I had a Japanese girl. I paid to cum twice, once in the mouth and once in the pussy, with a condom. Great blow job and cum in her mouth with no problem. She got me hard again and we started to fuck. Me on top, her on top. doggy, all going well. Then my cock softened! Never had that before! She sucked again and wanked me, with no joy. It just would not get hard again. Then my time was up.   

I went back a week or so later, saw another girl, and had no problem fucking her!  I just put it down as one of those things that happen from time to time.

[Smeagol.FX]

Yes... So the question is, why do you want to know at all? I suggest taking a break and doing some reflection away from punting. As sometimes our needs/desires change with the passage of time. A break is a good thing.

Deffo right, I can answer that question. I am perhaps too reflective (and thus self conscious) rather than not reflective enough. I already know what the hobby patches for me, both intended and also not. I must come off as a real downer in this place bc its not the first time that someone has told me here to stop/take a break, I already know a break would lean towards me having to permanently stop rather than spend some time out.  I think i came into punting with a certain need but it was a little difficult to truly satisfy, a more complex need than I give it credit for, but a simple one in the end. I can actually articulate it but maybe thats best saved for another place. its a bit like I've entered a bar where everyone is simply having a good time with pints and i'm here somewhat enjoying myself but also trying to express my underlying issues in the wrong places. and since most of you are just trying to have and document good (and sometimes bad) times, its a real disconnect. Nobody wants to talk about alcoholism or just dependancy when they themselves aren't having that issue. In real life, I can have a drink once a week or once a year (or just not drink for years at a time) and feel nothing about it, I wouldn't want an downer telling me his sob story either (which is what im doing right now )

[HelpThe Aged]

Had a meet a while ago with one who i had convinced myself was gonna be a real turn on, she wasn't anything like i expected (in a bad way) but i went through with it, find it hard to just walk away (should have done) i'd had a tablet so the little fella still responded and managed to complete the transaction albeit it was pretty shit. One to forget.

Couple weeks later booked in with another who i thought wouldn't be as good as was advertised (after a few punts that's the way i was thinking), she was lovely, again had a tablet but little man wasn't working this time, she tried her best to get him working but it just didn't happen, i convinced myself it was cos i had too much too drink the night before....on reflection i think i should just go with an open mind, relax and go with the flow (and maybe do a runner if required )

[Jonestown]

Relish the bits of the punt that went well and you enjoyed, forget the rest, move on, next one please.

[Munter84]

I can actually articulate it but maybe thats best saved for another place. its a bit like I've entered a bar where everyone is simply having a good time with pints and i'm here somewhat enjoying myself but also trying to express my underlying issues in the wrong places. and since most of you are just trying to have and document good (and sometimes bad) times, its a real disconnect.

Pal, you're welcome to talk about it (start a thread or add to one of the many PE/ED/health/psychology threads we've had), or not - no compulsion either way. You're not guaranteed sympathetic or constructive replies, but this forum isn't just reserved for positive reflections and success stories only. Go ahead and tell your story, if it helps.

I think the main thing to remember is that it's vanishingly unlikely that your issue, or hang-up, or whatever, is unique. We all get into punting for our own reasons. Everyone is human, we're all messed-up in our own way, and at the end of the day it's only sex, not a measure of your worth. It's also not a binary. You can work on your mental health, or get talking therapy, or whatever, while continuing to punt.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Maybe.. there are parts of the sexual attraction process that we don't quite understand? i've oft wondered of theres something else at a play like Pernomes or subtle smells that make us clck to do the deed?.

Ive had some excellent sexual encounters with girls that most would'nt give a second glance at but had a damm good time.

Maybe too that overtly attractive girls in a way "overload" that system so that we don't perform as we might?.

And sometimes girls that are in a way interesting to talk to and sex isnt the main thing on the agenda?.

The few long term things i;ve been involved in that sex side took a little while to perform but it sort of devloped ?..

Maybe!...