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Offline Spacecowb0y

This winter has been cruel, hence I ate and drank more than I should.
Put on 12 lbs and wasn’t stick thin before. Problem is my confidence has taken a nose dive, yet I’m desperate to get back on the punting saddle.

Any sage advice other than lose it you fat slob?

Do the slimmer girls even give a damn?
Should I?

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Offline Punting2022

Escorts wont care about weight. Not fussy like dating world is
As long as you have the paper they love its ok.

Summers here now. Quick jogs in the park can help u get back in shape. Shag a few ul feel tip top

Offline Atrueyorkie

Ask them. Once you’ve confirmed the price, time and services. Ask the WG/SP if you gaining 12lbs matters


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I would say the vast majority of escorts wouldn’t care about your size. They care that you are clean, polite and have the money to pay.

That being said, I do think a small minority would care if you’re in the massive range. I’m not sure what that is, we each have a differing view of what is ‘fat’ or ‘obese’ etc. If you’re unsure just mention it in your comms. I would be surprised if more than 5% of girls rejected you. When I say ‘mention in comms’ I mean put something solid “I am 6,2 and weigh 17st” rather than something vague “I’ve gained 12lbs and I wasn’t stick thin before”

Last year I had an operation for prostate cancer and spent much time recuperating, and rehabilitating, I have managed to loose approx 2stone from my pre op weight. All I have done is sensible reductions in intake. I still have beer a couple of nights a week, I still eat rich food a couple of nights a week (weekends), the rest of the time I eat healthier and make sure I do a walk after dinner. I also eat no later than 6pm.

Good luck.

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Doesn't bother me in the slightest, often larger or more padded bodies are more comfortable than lean beans. Regards the dating comment, I've 'dated', had romantic relationships with a range of body types, shapes and sizes, ability & disability.
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Offline alabama1

Ask them. Once you’ve confirmed the price, time and services. Ask the WG/SP if you gaining 12lbs matters
Isn't that a bit arse about face ?

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I would say the vast majority of escorts wouldn’t care about your size. They care that you are clean, polite and have the money to pay.

That being said, I do think a small minority would care if you’re in the massive range. I’m not sure what that is, we each have a differing view of what is ‘fat’ or ‘obese’ etc. If you’re unsure just mention it in your comms. I would be surprised if more than 5% of girls rejected you. When I say ‘mention in comms’ I mean put something solid “I am 6,2 and weigh 17st” rather than something vague “I’ve gained 12lbs and I wasn’t stick thin before”

Last year I had an operation for prostate cancer and spent much time recuperating, and rehabilitating, I have managed to loose approx 2stone from my pre op weight. All I have done is sensible reductions in intake. I still have beer a couple of nights a week, I still eat rich food a couple of nights a week (weekends), the rest of the time I eat healthier and make sure I do a walk after dinner. I also eat no later than 6pm.

Good luck.

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Doesn't bother me in the slightest, often larger or more padded bodies are more comfortable than lean beans. Regards the dating comment, I've 'dated', had romantic relationships with a range of body types, shapes and sizes, ability & disability.

Reassuring Strawberry, as a bigger guy myself 16st, it is on my mind, especially with Thai girls. So usually either doggy or cow girl.

Offline ekimnik

Just tell them that you identify as 'cuddly'.
According to AI one of its meanings is:
"Animals and People: It describes pets or people who are affectionate, loving, or physically soft and plump, making them comfortable to hug"

Offline Stevelondon

Unless you’re hugely overweight, I doubt it’s going to matter how big you are to most SP’s.

I’ve started regular exercising, walking mostly. Easier now the weathers getting better. A little bit of indoor bending and squatting etc.   Certainly no weight training.

So my advice would be to do something similar (if you can) ……….. because exercising is good for the mind as well as the body and will help with that low confidence you were on about. 👍🏻

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This winter has been cruel, hence I ate and drank more than I should.
Put on 12 lbs and wasn’t stick thin before. Problem is my confidence has taken a nose dive, yet I’m desperate to get back on the punting saddle.

Any sage advice other than lose it you fat slob?

Do the slimmer girls even give a damn?
Should I?

Answers on a postcard to dear Deidre

Escorts although human mostly care about the size of your wallet. A fat wallet is better than a thin one. I chat to regular SPs and these are some insights (maybe only relevant to me)
I'm often complimented how (for my age) I'm still quite fit. Although they say that if I was fat they would still suck my cock for money and maybe attempt sex. She said even morbidly obese guys need a BJ, her part of care in the community.
Cock size - They don't care and maybe prefer more average sized ones. One said 6 normal 5" were preferable to several monster "Donkey" cocks in a row, but a lot was down to technique, lubrication, and of course extra money.

It's actually quite easy to lose weight and get fit. Please don't tell anyone as I'm heavily invested in the snack and unhealthy food industries to fund my punting.

The magic: Eat less (eat the right foods, maybe lower carb) and exercise more, just going for a 20-minute walk twice a day can do wonders.
If they have one take part in an "army fitness in the park" These are great fun and welcome all abilities and quick results and after you've done one, you think "Hey, I can do this by myself" Caveat: Consider asking a medic if taking exercise in your personal circumstances is a good idea.

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Reassuring Strawberry, as a bigger guy myself 16st, it is on my mind, especially with Thai girls. So usually either doggy or cow girl.

I've experience of heavier clients 18, 20 st for example, but also some around your weight over my knee. Absolutely fine.

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Escorts although human mostly care about the size of your wallet. A fat wallet is better than a thin one. I chat to regular SPs and these are some insights (maybe only relevant to me)
I'm often complimented how (for my age) I'm still quite fit. Although they say that if I was fat they would still suck my cock for money and maybe attempt sex. She said even morbidly obese guys need a BJ, her part of care in the community.
Cock size - They don't care and maybe prefer more average sized ones. One said 6 normal 5" were preferable to several monster "Donkey" cocks in a row, but a lot was down to technique, lubrication, and of course extra money.

It's actually quite easy to lose weight and get fit. Please don't tell anyone as I'm heavily invested in the snack and unhealthy food industries to fund my punting.

The magic: Eat less (eat the right foods, maybe lower carb) and exercise more, just going for a 20-minute walk twice a day can do wonders.
If they have one take part in an "army fitness in the park" These are great fun and welcome all abilities and quick results and after you've done one, you think "Hey, I can do this by myself" Caveat: Consider asking a medic if taking exercise in your personal circumstances is a good idea.

Not necessarily thickness of wallet, more can make arrangements, turn up, pay the correct fee, enjoy the booked time without any hassle. 

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I wouldn’t worry about putting on a bit of weight, get back in the saddle, it’s when you have to sit down to put your underpants on that you have to start worrying.

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I wouldn’t worry about putting on a bit of weight, get back in the saddle, it’s when you have to sit down to put your underpants on that you have to start worrying.

I have to do that some days. Often I have a carer help me wash and dress. Excuse, I've had a lot more leg surgery (remove more bits of old shrapnel that are becoming tiresome) recently and have to wear thick compression dressings, but this doesn't stop me punting.

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I doubt most escorts care there are lots of ways to lose weight just find one that works for you.
They do all take will power though except for the injections.
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Online Kingfisher69

This winter has been cruel, hence I ate and drank more than I should.
Put on 12 lbs and wasn’t stick thin before. Problem is my confidence has taken a nose dive, yet I’m desperate to get back on the punting saddle.

It sounds more like a self confidence struggle than worrying about what escorts think. In a lot of cultures overweight men are seen as a symbol of wealth and fertility. Even in the UK in past wealth was always associated with a larger waistline.

But if your weight bothers you and is affecting your self image only you can do something about it. I mean I do intermittent fasting twice a week on the 16:8 plan, google it you'll find it. And in the last 2 months I've dropped almost 2 stone. The other mantra I use is "if the food didn't exist a 100 years ago it's not good for me" and that cuts out all the high processed foods.

Offline Charliehutton

I wouldn’t worry about putting on a bit of weight, get back in the saddle, it’s when you have to sit down to put your underpants on that you have to start worrying.

Digressing a bit, but for those of us old 'uns whose knees aren't what they were, I'd recommend Sketcher's slip on shoes. Not having to bend down to do your laces up after a punt is a joy! :drinks:

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Digressing a bit, but for those of us old 'uns whose knees aren't what they were, I'd recommend Sketcher's slip on shoes. Not having to bend down to do your laces up after a punt is a joy! :drinks:

I find these lay flat sandals very useful (I wear them emulating a true Brit with socks!)


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Online advent2016

Not necessarily thickness of wallet, more can make arrangements, turn up, pay the correct fee, enjoy the booked time without any hassle.

Yes, that's probably more important. 

Offline myothernameis

Put on 12 lbs and wasn’t stick thin before.

Depending on your weight, and then putting on added weight, and your waist size is increasing

At some point with the body fat, your penis begins to disappear, and looks like a hidden penis

Offline nigel4498

This winter has been cruel, hence I ate and drank more than I should.
Put on 12 lbs and wasn’t stick thin before. Problem is my confidence has taken a nose dive, yet I’m desperate to get back on the punting saddle.

Any sage advice other than lose it you fat slob?

Do the slimmer girls even give a damn?
Should I?

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You forgot “asking for a friend “

Offline Paul9144

This winter has been cruel, hence I ate and drank more than I should.
Put on 12 lbs and wasn’t stick thin before. Problem is my confidence has taken a nose dive, yet I’m desperate to get back on the punting saddle.

Any sage advice other than lose it you fat slob?

Do the slimmer girls even give a damn?
Should I?

Answers on a postcard to dear Deidre

You're not alone here.

I sometimes feel self-conscious about my weight too.

Fortunately, it is something that we can do something about and change (If we are at the point of being unhappy about it).

I've been consistently going the gym, eating more healthy etc (diet is by no means perfect) but better than what it was before.

The benefits of going the gym regular has made a big difference in my confidence. I'm not tired all of the time now. So, perhaps this is something for you to consider (I know that it's easier said than done) especially around life commitments, but you will ultimately feel the benefits with time and consistency. Aside from that, I echo what some of the others have mentioned in the comments, particularly @Billy no mates - "I would say the vast majority of escorts wouldn’t care about your size. They care that you are clean, polite and have the money to pay". So, don't worry too much and try to be positive. Hope that helps.

Offline PepeMAGA

Why not just lost the weight you've put on?  :unknown:

Offline Spacecowb0y

Great comments and insights lady and gentlemen. Some made me laugh  :rolleyes:

As some spotted low confidence is the main issue as gone up from 14 st to 15.2 and stand 5ft 11 so most definitely not in the morbidly obese category.

Time to dust myself down and get some sessions booked alongside intermittent fasting which has helped me before.

Guess I am predisposed to getting into a low mood over winter and should book a holiday or some ladies before the food and drink take over next time.

Offline Spacecowb0y

Digressing a bit, but for those of us old 'uns whose knees aren't what they were, I'd recommend Sketcher's slip on shoes. Not having to bend down to do your laces up after a punt is a joy! :drinks:

Bought some lace up sketchers and blimey they are comfortable. I wear them for walking

Offline Spacecowb0y

Depending on your weight, and then putting on added weight, and your waist size is increasing

At some point with the body fat, your penis begins to disappear, and looks like a hidden penis

You would make a great counsellor  :lol:

Offline loner

I did have a WG whom i saw a few times tell me as I was leaving to eat healthy to keep in shape lmao, wasnt sure if she was dissing me that i was getting fat haha

Offline fredhiggins

Digressing a bit, but for those of us old 'uns whose knees aren't what they were, I'd recommend Sketcher's slip on shoes. Not having to bend down to do your laces up after a punt is a joy! :drinks:
Shoehorns! Especially long ones.

Offline fredhiggins

Ask them. Once you’ve confirmed the price, time and services. Ask the WG/SP if you gaining 12lbs matters
Prob best in kilos for the majority of providers. EEs etc.

Offline Munter84

There are a minority of fat people who use their weight as an excuse to have poor hygiene. Just don't fall into doing that, and you should be fine with the ladies (including ladies of the night).

My opinion is that being slim, muscular, even good-looking, is probably far less important in society than we think. It can undoubtedly give you the edge in some situations, all other things being equal, but people (especially us blokes) tend to fixate on it as the be all and end all. Confidence and personality will take you much further than a tan and veneers.

That being said, if being heavier than usual is causing persistent self-esteem issues for you, that's not to be dismissed either even if the rational part of your brain tells you it doesn't matter. I'd say set yourself some very achieveable, very short-term goals and get some wins under your belt. The Couch to 5K programme is free, or maybe commit to eating lighter/healthier for a while.

In times of doubt, just remember, Danny Devito has a wife, three kids, and a net worth of $80 million.
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Honestly it doesn't worry us or at least not me, I'm no skinny minnie so who am I to judge another.

I will say that I have had some of the best sex in my 10+ years of escorting with guys who are on the chunkier side and more orgasms as well, I think that maybe its because I also relax a little more  :unknown:

Offline Spacecowb0y

Day 1 - skipped breakfast and had a plain omelette for lunch (around 1.30pm)

Dinner at 6pm - chicken thighs with a freshly cut salad

Day 2 - repeat


It’s a start …..

Offline Paul9144

Honestly it doesn't worry us or at least not me, I'm no skinny minnie so who am I to judge another.

I will say that I have had some of the best sex in my 10+ years of escorting with guys who are on the chunkier side and more orgasms as well, I think that maybe its because I also relax a little more  :unknown:

There we go, this is coming from a highly experienced SP.

OP - you've got nothing to be concerned about, so keep your chin up and all the best with your fasting etc.

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Day 1 - skipped breakfast and had a plain omelette for lunch (around 1.30pm)

Dinner at 6pm - chicken thighs with a freshly cut salad

Day 2 - repeat


It’s a start …..

Breakfast like an Emperor
Lunch like a King
Dine like a Pauper


Online mr.bluesky

Unfortunately putting on weight is a lot easier than loosing it so try and eat healthily, no snacks or eating between meals, gentle exercise to begin with before stepping it up. Join a gym or buy an exercise bike or proper road bike ( an inexpensive one will do, it doesn't have to be an expensive state of the art racing bike ) go swimming, don't worry about being body conscious you will see all shapes and sizes at the gym or swimming pool after all that's what they are there for.
Try and get into a regular routine , don't be disheartened if you don't seem to be making any progress, stick with it. Cut down or cut out drinking alcohol . Cut out using your car for short journey's walk instead. If you do all this the pounds or kg will soon drop off.  :hi:
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Offline Stevelondon

Unfortunately putting on weight is a lot easier than loosing it so try and eat healthily, no snacks or eating between meals, gentle exercise to begin with before stepping it up. Join a gym or buy an exercise bike or proper road bike ( an inexpensive one will do, it doesn't have to be an expensive state of the art racing bike ) go swimming, don't worry about being body conscious you will see all shapes and sizes at the gym or swimming pool after all that's what they are there for.
Try and get into a regular routine , don't be disheartened if you don't seem to be making any progress, stick with it. Cut down or cut out drinking alcohol . Cut out using your car for short journey's walk instead. If you do all this the pounds or kg will soon drop off.  :hi:

I was just about to go looking on Amazon for a bike and some swimming trunks. Then you had to go mention NO ALCOHOL.
So that plans out the window. 😂

As someone mentioned. Sketchers slip ons. Fucking brilliant. I’ve got three pairs.

The other thing is maybe only punt Thai or Chinese girls. I’ve had several who have assisted me in getting dressed. Marvellous when it comes to socks. 👍🏻


I’ve just noticed. This is not actually very helpful really……. Is it. 🤷🏼
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No serious punter goes “swimming”. Boris bikes are good for losing weight, they weigh about half a ton and it takes no end of calories to get them up to a reasonable speed.

Otherwise, cut out snacks and walk / cycle to punts, if then you’re not losing weight fast enough, cut out bread, potatoes & beer and increase your number of punts.

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No serious punter goes “swimming”. Boris bikes are good for losing weight, they weigh about half a ton and it takes no end of calories to get them up to a reasonable speed.

Otherwise, cut out snacks and walk / cycle to punts, if then you’re not losing weight fast enough, cut out bread, potatoes & beer and increase your number of punts.

I find swimming good cover for punts. Easy to explain freshly showered to anyone that might ask, and better than my usual swarfega and petrol/oil smells I rub on.

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I find swimming good cover for punts. Easy to explain freshly showered to anyone that might ask, and better than my usual swarfega and petrol/oil smells I rub on.

Apologies, yes that is very true, I was being flippant.

Online Kingfisher69

Guess I am predisposed to getting into a low mood over winter

Have you tried using a SAD lamp (Seasonal Affective Disorder lamp)?

The reduction of natural sunlight changing and lowering you mood is a recognised symptom of winter, SAD lamps help a lot.

Offline pythondan

5'11' and 15 stone 2 pounds is not obese but you probably do not want to put any more on and ideally lose a bit.

I am a similar height and currently 15 and a half stone and that is two stone less than my heaviest ever. Having dropped a couple of stone I have noticed that new girls seem more positive with me but I am not sure the sample size is large enough to be absolutely sure about that.

Losing 12 pounds should be easy to do over six weeks. Use the myfitnesspal app to track what you eat - it will give you a daily calorie allowance - and do a bit of exercise  - Spring is a great time to active outdoors.

When I have lost weight in the past I have given myself rewards for targets met. Find yourself a girl you fancy and who you will be confident will be available in six weeks and then go for it.

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if then you’re not losing weight fast enough, cut out bread, potatoes & beer and increase your number of punts.

That's medical advice I can get behind  :yahoo:

Offline Spacecowb0y

Sage advice from one and all.

Bought a road bike in 2012 on cycle to work scheme and have done century rides before. It was a great way to stay in shape. Still have my old steed, so maybe time to pump up the tyres and oil the chain. It’s a lovely thing with 10 speed Integra gear set (if you know you know)

Ate clean today and already feel better for it, was done with dinner by 6pm.

Watching the golf has me itching to get out and (walk) play.

The SAD lamp is a good idea this autumn.



Offline RandomGuy99

Guess I am predisposed to getting into a low mood over winter and should book a holiday or some ladies before the food and drink take over next time.
Could be a vitamin D deficiency

A deficiency in Vitamin D can show up in many ways, and the signs are often subtle at first.

Common symptoms include:

😴 Fatigue & Low Energy

* Persistent tiredness or feeling drained
* Poor sleep or non-restorative sleep

🦴 Bone & Muscle Problems

* Bone pain or tenderness
* Muscle aches, weakness, or cramps
* Increased risk of fractures due to reduced calcium absorption

🧠 Mood & Cognitive Effects

* Low mood or depressive symptoms (linked to Depression (mood disorder))
* Brain fog or difficulty concentrating

🛡️ Immune System Issues

* Getting sick more often (frequent colds or infections)
* Slower recovery from illness

🩸 Severe or Long-Term Deficiency Can Lead To:

* Rickets in children (soft or weak bones)
* Osteomalacia in adults (bone pain, muscle weakness)

👀 Less Obvious Signs

* Hair thinning or shedding
* Low mood or irritability
* Slow wound healing

📌 Important to Know

Many people with low vitamin D have **no obvious symptoms** until levels become quite low, which is why testing is often needed to detect a deficiency.

The exact percentage depends on **how “deficiency” is defined** and the time of year, but here are the most reliable UK estimates:

🇬🇧 Overall UK population

* About **16% of adults** are considered *vitamin D deficient* (below 25 nmol/L) on average across the year
* In **winter (Jan–March)**, this rises to around **29% of adults**

📊 Broader picture (including “low” levels, not just deficiency)

* Around **50% of UK adults have “below optimal” vitamin D levels** (not necessarily clinically deficient, but still low)

 👥 Important differences

* Some groups have much higher rates:

  * Up to **50–57%** in certain ethnic minority groups during winter
  * Around **12–17%** in white populations depending on season

🧠 Simple takeaway

* **~1 in 6 UK adults** are deficient year-round
* **~1 in 3 in winter**
* **Up to half** have *suboptimal* (low) levels

Your body gets Vitamin D in **three main ways**:

☀️ 1. Sunlight (the main source)

When sunlight hits your skin, your body produces vitamin D naturally. This happens when **UVB rays** from the sun trigger vitamin D production in your skin.

Key points:

* Short periods of sun on **bare skin** (arms/face) can be enough in summer
* Glass blocks UVB, so you **don’t** make vitamin D through windows
* In the UK, sunlight is often too weak between **October and March** for effective production

🍽️ 2. Food (smaller but important source)

Only a few foods naturally contain vitamin D, such as:

* Oily fish (e.g. Salmon, Mackerel, Sardine)
* Egg yolks
* Red meat
* Fortified foods (some milks, cereals, plant milks)

💊 3. Supplements

Many people in the UK rely on supplements, especially during winter or if they:

* Spend little time outdoors
* Have darker skin
* Wear clothing that covers most of the skin
* Are older or housebound

🧠 Important note

Diet alone usually **isn’t enough** for most people to maintain healthy vitamin D levels — sunlight or supplements are often needed.
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I honestly don't think most escorts would be bothered, we realise that bodies come in all shapes and sizes, as long as the owner of the body is clean, respectful and friendly we don't worry.