What was life like before and after punting?

[Denzelryder1234]

Life before I got into punting was miserable, my OH stopped having sex with me, I held anger and resentment towards her- without punting this would have simply lead to an affair or divorce and destroyed the entire family unit. There was no excitement or fulfilment whatsoever it's just work, family sleep like I needed some adrenaline rush before I get a mid-life crisis.

Life after punting I've become more confident around women, easier to get on with them, become more self- confident I think punting takes a lot of pressure of and makes you look way less desperate. It's a good way to use pent up energy compared to worser vices. Bank balance has taken a hit but putting a monthly limit and not going above that whatsoever helps with that. I've ticked off a lot of kinks and fetishes on my sexual bucket list. I'm not bitter towards my OH anymore and our relationship has actually improved quite a bit.

What about for you guys, what was life like before and after punting?

[advent2016]

Life before I got into punting was miserable, my OH stopped having sex with me, I held anger and resentment towards her- without punting this would have simply lead to an affair or divorce and destroyed the entire family unit.

Out of interest, did you try any sort of counselling first to try and ascertain a reason?

[GreyDave]

  I am now 64 and have been though 2 wives and 2 longish partnerships . I am embarssed to say that I never really had a time when I havent Punted though the realtionships if Ive felt like it or seen a Party was gonna happen I made th excuse and went the worst case I can think of was I did some Boxing Day and Easter punts when the kids were small I feel shame for that now but at the time it was a get out of the house move. I ve said before I started in the soho walk ups when I was just under 16 I was tall for my age and the early punts were excellent with some of the Maltese ladies that worked in the 1970s allowed me two pops which I could manage then  God those days are gone my last soho punt in the summer cost me £40 and £2 tip my 1st was £10 and 50p tip . Punting has given me a take it or leave it attuide with those around me I ve seen work mates lives ruinied with affairs and the mess . That old saying its not the Sex you pay for its the walking away and its been fun and the end of my realtionships has been about other stuff not sex or money ...I cant think of a period of perhaps 6 months is the longest Ive not paid a WG for a shag just because Ive wanted to sample a diffrent type shape ect in the 80s and 90s that was easy in soho now youve got to serch AW and on line possibly leaving a trail or building you profile which every you aim for its in some ways easier but more accountable. Nothing like walking up and down seeing what girl is working in the few streets around Lecister Sq and having a Chinatown snack before doing an exotic WG then a Big titted Northern lass   those days are ending in Soho now  I feel Im a sort of Walter Mitty guy I never talk about punting or chasing women to my civie circle . I am guilty of looking at a Girl and thinking "Thats 80 half hour or that ones more 200 per hour 

[Jujy78]

I am now 64 and have been though 2 wives and 2 longish partnerships . I am embarssed to say that I never really had a time when I havent Punted though the realtionships if Ive felt like it or seen a Party was gonna happen I made th excuse and went the worst case I can think of was I did some Boxing Day and Easter punts when the kids were small I feel shame for that now but at the time it was a get out of the house move. I ve said before I started in the soho walk ups when I was just under 16 I was tall for my age and the early punts were excellent with some of the Maltese ladies that worked in the 1970s allowed me two pops which I could manage then  God those days are gone my last soho punt in the summer cost me £40 and £2 tip my 1st was £10 and 50p tip . Punting has given me a take it or leave it attuide with those around me I ve seen work mates lives ruinied with affairs and the mess . That old saying its not the Sex you pay for its the walking away and its been fun and the end of my realtionships has been about other stuff not sex or money ...I cant think of a period of perhaps 6 months is the longest Ive not paid a WG for a shag just because Ive wanted to sample a diffrent type shape ect in the 80s and 90s that was easy in soho now youve got to serch AW and on line possibly leaving a trail or building you profile which every you aim for its in some ways easier but more accountable. Nothing like walking up and down seeing what girl is working in the few streets around Lecister Sq and having a Chinatown snack before doing an exotic WG then a Big titted Northern lass   those days are ending in Soho now  I feel Im a sort of Walter Mitty guy I never talk about punting or chasing women to my civie circle . I am guilty of looking at a Girl and thinking "Thats 80 half hour or that ones more 200 per hour 

I lost my virginity too at the age of 18 in the Soho walk ups. Miss those days. Regularly used the area from 96 to 99.

[GreyDave]

I lost my virginity too at the age of 18 in the Soho walk ups. Miss those days. Regularly used the area from 96 to 99.

That time had some of the best variety of girls £15-20 a pop the old french woman in lisle st finaly went and the girls that replaced her were great I remember doing a girl with two nipples and fair sized aerolas on her left brest . and a fantastic thick curly haired Italian in Greens court for 15 quid Great Days indeed 

[Denzelryder1234]

Out of interest, did you try any sort of counselling first to try and ascertain a reason?

Yes me and the OH went to couple's counselling and she said it was disgusting for me for wanting to have sex when she is going through menopause, tired, stressed from work, put on a lot of pounds and doesn't feel good about herself, poor sleep hygiene and these were the main reasons and she left therapy after 4 sessions.

Problem was she wasn't open to any form of criticism so the counselling didn't lead us anywhere as it requires both of us to be honest and communicate effectively. She didn't do any of the tasks given or accept any responsibility and kept lying to the therapist to make me look like the problem.

[Chazz]

Life before punting was pretty grim TBH. Looking after my disabled wife on my own for a decade got to me more than I'd realised, and I was planning to end it all. Fortunately, I decided to have one last shag before I went, and the SP literally saved my life. Not only was the sex life-affirming, but she gave me the number of a therapist she knew who was able to talk me out of my suicidal mindset. 16 years later I'm still looking after the wife, but things don't look so bleak, especially now that I prioritise regular "me time" for myself.  I'm relaxed, happy and hopefully much easier to live with too!

[starman]

... my OH stopped having sex with me,... There was no excitement or fulfilment whatsoever it's just work, family sleep like I needed some adrenaline rush before I get a mid-life crisis.

Life after punting I've become more confident around women, easier to get on with them, become more self- confident I think punting takes a lot of pressure of and makes you look way less desperate. It's a good way to use pent up energy compared to worser vices. Bank balance has taken a hit but putting a monthly limit and not going above that whatsoever helps with that. I've ticked off a lot of kinks and fetishes on my sexual bucket list...

This is my life!

[Jonestown]

Life was exactly the same, except I had to hide a large part of my leisure activity from those around me, the pressure of which built exponentially as my punting activity increased. However once you taste the forbidden fruit of endless sexual experiences you have to buckle down and get on with it. I can’t even point to a sexless relationship by way of mitigation for starting, just a craving that waxed and waned, but never went away.

[scouting]

Whilst having been through several relationships at different points in my life, I wouldn't say I was ever down about things. Without being a magnet I was always able to pull a girl when needed. Once I had been introduced to punting though things still changed for the better. The spontaneity of deciding to go have a fuck. The ability to do so whilst investing just a couple of hours in prep and travel. The variety available. I was introduced to the sport on a lads trip away and have never looked back. Hoping health, age and finances allow me to continue for many years.

[Massage Bloke]

That time had some of the best variety of girls £15-20 a pop the old french woman in lisle st finaly went and the girls that replaced her were great I remember doing a girl with two nipples and fair sized aerolas on her left brest . and a fantastic thick curly haired Italian in Greens court for 15 quid Great Days indeed 

As I'm sure everyone knows, Poland was the first EE counntry to shake off the Soviet yoke. The more adventurous young Poles, made the trip to the UK in the early 90s.  They included a clever, really nice and stunning SP, who took up her trade in a walk-up at the Charring Cross Road end of Old Compton Street. Twenty quid for FS and OW.

Today an SP like that would be straight onto the books of Diva and charge £300-£400 per hour, or maybe more.

But even at the time, I knew i was lucky.

Over the years I've thought of her when dealing with moody Roms and B&S merchants.

[Jomoore]

Life before I got into punting was miserable, my OH stopped having sex with me, I held anger and resentment towards her- without punting this would have simply lead to an affair or divorce and destroyed the entire family unit.

Same.  It was particularly hard because she was a stunner. During one nasty exchange following a refusal she said I ought to "go out and pay for it".  Notwithstanding the fact that I was paying her very handsomely for it I thought, well FU, I will.  And I did, and have ever since.  And it eased some tensions but is never as good as the real thing in my book, although I've enjoyed seeing over 400 different bodies up close over the years.

However the divorce was inevitable, and yes, the family destroyed.  No happy endings.

[stewpid]

Prior to punting life was ok but I felt less of a man and frustrated. I had no other real complaints as I had a successful job/career, was managing to live on my own and I'd had some adventures in life through youthful fun and foreign travelling but regarding sex and intimacy I was completely miserable. Due to some hang-ups I had about my appearance and suitability as a sexual mate (some were all down to my own mental state and others were justified by the way people are judged in this world) I'd never really had a girlfriend or much sexual experience and I had and still have quite a high libido so that was hard to deal with. I tried the dating world but found that hard and cold and was always being disappointed by women and rejected and probably made some bad moves and decisions based on my desire to find someone to love/fuck but not having the experience and confidence I needed to succeed there. I had begun to resign myself to a celibate life as a male failure, constantly wanking to porn and having suicidal thoughts. 

In the end I decided to do something about my lack of confidence around women and get some sexual experience under the belt so I would be less desperate about things in future dating and started looking at escorts, using an outcall agency (Vixens) for my first go. It didn't go that well, the girl was a bit of a con artist and I was so nervous that the sex was hardly that and so this just disappointed me further and I continued down my depressed road. A couple of years later I was travelling through Thailand and saw the bar girls (I knew what the situation was) and decided to just go for it. The experience was ok and I finally had some good if not mind-blowing sex but once I came home, because of my previous experience, I didn't try escorts again. A couple of years after that I had just had another frustrating experience in trying to get with someone at work I liked who ultimately let me down and so off to Thailand I went again, taking in another couple of Thai girl experiences. Once I was home I decided to try an escort again, in-call this time and I had found Adultwork at this stage and that was much better. She was great for me as a kind of first-timer and I finally got the experience I wanted. I stuck with her solely for about 10 months, maybe seeing her once a month, as I built up my confidence. I then discovered this wonderful site and branched out into other girls and 10 years later here I still am doing the same thing. 

As for me now I am much happier in life. Ok I still don't have a relationship but I'm not concerned about that as life is simpler that way and my experiences with the shallow nature of women in that area mean I don't really want to date now I am older. Yeah I lack the real intimacy you get in a relationship but I also see from people's stories on here that that isn't always what's it's cracked up to be and even marriages go sexually stale and you just end up as housemates with some resentment. Sexually I've had some amazing experiences, some that rival anything extreme I would wank to on Pornhub. I've made girls genuinely cum and been told that my sexual skills are good by several girls which has done amazing things for my confidence as a man and I now don't thirst after women I meet outside of punting so certainly having less disappointments and mistakes in that area. I even had an extremely fit and well reviewed WG on here ask me out once, although that didn't end well and is another story. The suicidal thoughts are gone too as I am less hung up on myself than I was 10 years ago. Punting may have just saved my life and I'm now even getting to the point that while I still enjoy it I am less concerned about having to do that than I was. If I don't have any more sexual experiences for some reason I am happy with what I have experienced and can go to the future grave with a smile on my face. 

[Jujy78]

That time had some of the best variety of girls £15-20 a pop the old french woman in lisle st finaly went and the girls that replaced her were great I remember doing a girl with two nipples and fair sized aerolas on her left brest . and a fantastic thick curly haired Italian in Greens court for 15 quid Great Days indeed 

Indeed had the best variety of girls and £15-20 for a go was a bargain. I remember I used to always haggle if they ever charged £20 I'd say I've got £15 is that ok. 9 out of 10 times they'd agree. The best part was in the middle of a shag if someone knocked on the door and the either the maid or the WG would shout 'busy'. That was such a turn on for me. In my head I was like I've got her now you'll have to wait your turn 😂

[Stevelondon]

Before……… life was all toil and struggle. Then a lass called Mary Magdalene opened up a massage place where it was reported you could get the odd extra or two. (This has never been verified)

Toil and struggle continued as it was the only way to raise funds to get into the bloody shop.

Nothings changed. 🤷🏼

[AgedCases]

I wish punting was as accessible in my youth as it is now. I felt pressurised by family to go down the relationship and marriage route but that just resulted in a sexless marriage and divorce.

At least with punting I can see a lass outside my league for some action before returning to business as usual.

[Stevelondon]

Interesting comments. Jomoore saying punting is not as good as the real thing.
What is that exactly ?

I’m guessing he’s on about relationship sex in its many forms. Being much better than handing over a few notes to a lass and then just having sex.

I’m also guessing in a lot of relationships that’s exactly what it is. Just sex. 🤷🏼😂

AgedCases probably hits the nail on the head 

[Vice Admiral]

I lost my virginity too at the age of 18 in the Soho walk ups. Miss those days. Regularly used the area from 96 to 99.

Wow!  So you punted in Soho over a period of 80 years.

Respect.

It's sad, though, that you seem to have called it a day just before you reached 100.

[GreyDave]

Indeed had the best variety of girls and £15-20 for a go was a bargain. I remember I used to always haggle if they ever charged £20 I'd say I've got £15 is that ok. 9 out of 10 times they'd agree. The best part was in the middle of a shag if someone knocked on the door and the either the maid or the WG would shout 'busy'. That was such a turn on for me. In my head I was like I've got her now you'll have to wait your turn 😂

The last few shags ive done in Soho walk ups have been the other knock more of a Bang!     TIMES UP LUV!  As ive got older at 64 , cumming in 10mins is not on 

Mind you the fun with the Blue pill enables me to maybe get in to 2-3 girls before actualy poping . I ll admit ihave not done that for about 6-8 months last vist to Town Im just not up to it

[ik8133]

Prior to punting life was ok but I felt less of a man and frustrated. I had no other real complaints as I had a successful job/career, was managing to live on my own and I'd had some adventures in life through youthful fun and foreign travelling but regarding sex and intimacy I was completely miserable. Due to some hang-ups I had about my appearance and suitability as a sexual mate (some were all down to my own mental state and others were justified by the way people are judged in this world) I'd never really had a girlfriend or much sexual experience and I had and still have quite a high libido so that was hard to deal with. I tried the dating world but found that hard and cold and was always being disappointed by women and rejected and probably made some bad moves and decisions based on my desire to find someone to love/fuck but not having the experience and confidence I needed to succeed there. I had begun to resign myself to a celibate life as a male failure, constantly wanking to porn and having suicidal thoughts. 

In the end I decided to do something about my lack of confidence around women and get some sexual experience under the belt so I would be less desperate about things in future dating and started looking at escorts, using an outcall agency (Vixens) for my first go. It didn't go that well, the girl was a bit of a con artist and I was so nervous that the sex was hardly that and so this just disappointed me further and I continued down my depressed road. A couple of years later I was travelling through Thailand and saw the bar girls (I knew what the situation was) and decided to just go for it. The experience was ok and I finally had some good if not mind-blowing sex but once I came home, because of my previous experience, I didn't try escorts again. A couple of years after that I had just had another frustrating experience in trying to get with someone at work I liked who ultimately let me down and so off to Thailand I went again, taking in another couple of Thai girl experiences. Once I was home I decided to try an escort again, in-call this time and I had found Adultwork at this stage and that was much better. She was great for me as a kind of first-timer and I finally got the experience I wanted. I stuck with her solely for about 10 months, maybe seeing her once a month, as I built up my confidence. I then discovered this wonderful site and branched out into other girls and 10 years later here I still am doing the same thing. 

As for me now I am much happier in life. Ok I still don't have a relationship but I'm not concerned about that as life is simpler that way and my experiences with the shallow nature of women in that area mean I don't really want to date now I am older. Yeah I lack the real intimacy you get in a relationship but I also see from people's stories on here that that isn't always what's it's cracked up to be and even marriages go sexually stale and you just end up as housemates with some resentment. Sexually I've had some amazing experiences, some that rival anything extreme I would wank to on Pornhub. I've made girls genuinely cum and been told that my sexual skills are good by several girls which has done amazing things for my confidence as a man and I now don't thirst after women I meet outside of punting so certainly having less disappointments and mistakes in that area. I even had an extremely fit and well reviewed WG on here ask me out once, although that didn't end well and is another story. The suicidal thoughts are gone too as I am less hung up on myself than I was 10 years ago. Punting may have just saved my life and I'm now even getting to the point that while I still enjoy it I am less concerned about having to do that than I was. If I don't have any more sexual experiences for some reason I am happy with what I have experienced and can go to the future grave with a smile on my face. 

That's a really interesting read and thanks for sharing your story.  Have you thought about sugar dating, i.e. being a sugar daddy, it can be a bit of a halfway house between dating and AW.  Anyway, it was just a thought.   

[simon07]

It was a difficult decision and I went to Amsterdam red light windows in 2008 to consider my punting journey as a Virgin Punter.

Come on said Bunny, pop it in. Once I crossed the Rubicon, there has been no stopping me.

I have had lots of varied experiences mostly positive. It is something that keeps me sane, though my aging body (and prostate) makes it challenging, so I pace myself. The memories make all the difference and I am definitely more confident around women.

[Stevelondon]

That's a really interesting read and thanks for sharing your story.  Have you thought about sugar dating, i.e. being a sugar daddy, it can be a bit of a halfway house between dating and AW.  Anyway, it was just a thought.   

But is SB and SD relationships …. Dating.
Isn’t it just a monetary exchange the same as punting by the hour. 😂

Does one have a SB thinking it’s more of a connection than just visiting a SP.
Is your SB solely yours. Only you get to fuck her etc.

Isn’t that the same as having a mistress you pay everything for 🤷🏼


I’m talking nonsense of course but I always  think SB and SD connections are just another form of punting.
Glorified maybe. But still paying for a leg over. 

[loca44]

This is my life!

Sounds so awful ! Sorry you’re going through this.

[joshwinkers]

Interesting comments. Jomoore saying punting is not as good as the real thing.
What is that exactly ?

I’m guessing he’s on about relationship sex in its many forms. Being much better than handing over a few notes to a lass and then just having sex.

For me the best sex is fairly early on in the relationship when you've both fallen in love with each other, and want nothing more than to spend time pleasuring each other, before real life inevitably crashes in and complicates matters. And I'm not saying you can't have great sex with someone you've been with for a long time, just that in my own experience it happens a lot less often.

I was 20 when I first punted, and desperate not to be a virgin at 21, so went to a Soho walk-up and had a miserable time. Since then there's been a few longterm relationships and a few long, lonely patches, and I can't say I'm particularly happier at this age than I was back then, though there were times in the middle which were great. The problem I have now is struggling with online dating, but also EAS, which is why I very, very rarely see someone more than a couple of times as I get attached way too easily. Reading this back I know it sounds a bit miserable and I'm glad I discovered punting when I did as it's definitely kept me sane, but I'd prefer to be in a relationship now and never punt again if I had any choice in the matter.

[brevitate vitae]

That time had some of the best variety of girls £15-20 a pop the old french woman in lisle st finaly went and the girls that replaced her were great I remember doing a girl with two nipples and fair sized aerolas on her left brest . and a fantastic thick curly haired Italian in Greens court for 15 quid Great Days indeed 

I remember the old woman in Lisle St, summer evenings she would walk her dog and solicit at the same time. Went with her once, felt very obvious walking back with her. Was a good experience, she must have been 75  at least, but knew it all. 

[ik8133]

But is SB and SD relationships …. Dating.
Isn’t it just a monetary exchange the same as punting by the hour. 😂

Does one have a SB thinking it’s more of a connection than just visiting a SP.
Is your SB solely yours. Only you get to fuck her etc.

Isn’t that the same as having a mistress you pay everything for 🤷🏼


I’m talking nonsense of course but I always  think SB and SD connections are just another form of punting.
Glorified maybe. But still paying for a leg over. 

You are totally correct in what you are saying, it is another form of punting.  SB's can be only yours, but on he other hand, there is no real way of proving that you are the only one.  However, in most cases I'm sure that I'm the only one they'll be seeing that day.  If you are lucky enough to find one that's in it for the sex as well as the money, that's a bonus!