Would you stop punting if you had more sex in your civvy life?

[loca44]

A sexless marriage is defined as less than 12 times in a year. In 2025 we managed twice.

Would I punt if the OH wanted regular sex and initiated once in a while? No chance as I find the sex a better quality with her due to the life we have built together and raised kids etc. No SP can create that unique connection life a life partner.

What does OH mean ?

[Billy no mates]

What does OH mean ?

Other Half, so in this case partner or wife

[Billy no mates]

Is twice a month bad for a man ??
How often do men want sex ???

Firstly everyone is different, so an accurate figure for all men would be difficult to produce.

I can speak only for myself
In my teens I probably masterbated 2-3 times a day.As I got older and had regular sex, this reduced.
20-40 I was having sex 4 or 5 times per week and still masterbated once or twice per week.
41- 60 I am having sex 3 - 4 times a week (currently sex games due to operation).

I feel I have enough sex, but still sometimes want more, maybe once or twice a week would like additional.

[pantywetter]

Is twice a month bad for a man ??
How often do men want sex ???

We are all totally different.
5-6x a week for me.
I suspect most men are at least twice a week. 

[pantywetter]

Why is this if you don’t mind sharing ?

Sex with a partner has more connection and emotion.
But less energy, kinkiness, passion, ability to let yourself go. 
Plus the paid partner may be younger, fitter, better body, more sensual and sex appeal.
Poor civvy women don’t really stand a chance against a young professional hottie who knows how to turn a man on.

Still, I still think with effort a partner could get be punting MUCH less frequently. 

[BillT]

Yes. Absolutley

I have been single for YEARS now. I like to think I'm a normal guy. Not overweight. Can hold a conversation. Can look at people when I talk to them. Can dress age appropriately. Can converse with women professionally and platonically. I'm not a narccistic liar or a fraud or anything etc etc etc etc.

Clearly like everyone I'm not Brad Pitt or Henry Cavill. So women are not approiaching me in the street with their contact details

But civvy women just arent wanting to date me for any length of time, or even have casual sex/friends with benefits with me. So thats why I punt. 

I know my place in the world.

[southcoastpunter]

How often do men want sex ???

i know we are all different but i would think a LOT more than twice a month! More than twice a week is nearer.

although there can be too much as well. i remember about 6 years ago when i started on Seeking i went on holiday  with my first SB who i had (at that point) only had single nights with  - we went for 2 weeks to italy and there was me thinking great,  sex twice a day (she did like sex!!) - but by day 5 i was tired, exhausted by day 6 and needed a "day off" on day 7!!

Probably 3 or 4 times per week is somewhere nearer the mark for most guys (but it is an assumption on my part based on my own desires!)

[NotThe]

Is twice a month bad for a man ??
How often do men want sex ???

I suspect that most men would want it twice a day but would be very happy with once a week!

[Jujy78]

Is twice a month bad for a man ??
How often do men want sex ???

I'd want sex every day. But currently I'll take twice a month if that was on offer.
I know realistically sex every day isn't possible but I think 2 to 3 times a week is quite healthy

[Munter84]

Is twice a month bad for a man ??
How often do men want sex ???

I can only speak for myself (although it seems I'm like the majority) but when I'm happy, healthy, and full of the normal male urges, about 2-3 times a week would keep me satisfied.

Funnily enough, my ex's libido was off from mine by a factor of four, so in practice - when she was apparently satisfied that she'd "got" me and didn't have to put any effort into keeping me happy - it was more like sex 2-3 times a MONTH, and usually only in the week she was ovulating. And then it dried up completely and the rest is history. In practice I now consider two punts a month a decent month - how ironic.

To flip the question back at you, how often do women want sex? 

[webpunter]

I'd want sex every day. But currently I'll take twice a month if that was on offer.
I know realistically sex every day isn't possible but I think 2 to 3 times a week is quite healthy

With the same person ?

Different when meeting a new civvy the desire is strong
Extended shagging i've seen new burds where i've spent most of the weekend doing it, starting on a Friday evening finishing on a Sunday evening
Breaks for going out eating & drinking showering & back in the day on a Sunday morning reading The News of The World & Sunday Times [in that order]
Desire fades over a period of time no matter how hot or talented they are
Age plays a factor busy on other stuff business / life & sexual fitness, my bounce-back ability takes longer 
I like to get the tanks emptied professionally two or three times a month [pre virus more as pricing has subsequently increased dramatically]
If the GF is in play i'll lay off for a while in advance [& certainly avoid OWO just in case]

[Munter84]

I find these "get to know the punters" threads quite illuminating. From the answers so far it seems there's two broad camps of punters - those who do it as otherwise they'd get no, or nearly no, sex. And those who dont NEED to punt but want the variety, novelty, intensity and convenience of paid sex.

The Needy and the Greedy, you could say.

What seems to be consistent across both groups is the idea that "you can't put the genie back in the bottle", and I'd say that's true for me. Even if I had plenty of civvie sex at this point, I think the urge to punt would still be there.

[webpunter]

The thing about combining civvies & paid for is that you have to drill it into your brain not to suggest too many different things or there's an order of activities

The civvy cannot have the faintest feeling / sense that there is a menu 

[koshkaj]

If men only wanted a shag twice a week, would this not massively reduce SP's income? Or would this lead to fewer SPs and a select few 'superstars' hoovering all the punters up?

[Harry Monk]

Be careful what you wish for sometimes is true.

I have had very varied success in life and generally got into relationships where the girl didn't have a high sex drive.
I have become comfortable now that I can see an SP if I want or I wait until I do a trip abroad and fill my boots ,as it were.

Recently had my first Tinder date and hit it off with a lady. She has a high sex drive and literally fucks me senseless, I am struggling to keep up. I have had to make up an excuse this week to kick her out as I'm not on my game .She's not my usual type either as although she's facially stunning her body is not my usual gym fit type but she gets me going so it's taught me something.

Maybe when you know it's available the excitement or anticipation diminishes therefore you want it less.

Also factor in the availability of porn ,you can bash one out anytime using that.

[webpunter]

I find these "get to know the punters" threads quite illuminating. From the answers so far it seems there's two broad camps of punters - those who do it as otherwise they'd get no, or nearly no, sex. And those who dont NEED to punt but want the variety, novelty, intensity and convenience of paid sex.

The Needy and the Greedy, you could say.

What seems to be consistent across both groups is the idea that "you can't put the genie back in the bottle", and I'd say that's true for me. Even if I had plenty of civvie sex at this point, I think the urge to punt would still be there.

As posted by Chazz & my reply #23 quote of the month

Indeed illuminating

I've got real mates who are married have GFs & those that who have punted usually carry on doing so at some point or other, tho less frequency
Periodically we have similar discussions to some of the topics on here
+ share details of fitties
& if visited subsequently have a kangaroo court of sorts when we next meet for drinks, its good to compare notes & have a laarf at the same time

[Kingfisher69]

Is twice a month bad for a man ??
How often do men want sex ???

I find that my desire for sex isn't static, it goes through a monthly cycle. I go from wanting sex all the time to two weeks late not wanting it at all and two weeks after that back to wanting it all the time, and every degree in between. It eases off before getting stronger again. When it's at its strongest is when I turn to paying for sex.

[NotThe]

I'm not sure about not putting the genie back on the bottle.
If I had sex twice a week in my civvy life I'm quite sure I'd stop punting. But everyone is different.

[loca44]

Sex with a partner has more connection and emotion.
But less energy, kinkiness, passion, ability to let yourself go. 
Plus the paid partner may be younger, fitter, better body, more sensual and sex appeal.
Poor civvy women don’t really stand a chance against a young professional hottie who knows how to turn a man on.

Still, I still think with effort a partner could get be punting MUCH less frequently.

The Madonna whore complex is such an interesting thing.
They swear it’s not a real thing but you’ve literally just described it.
Sometimes I wonder as a young provider what will happen when I get older if I’ll ever be married because with the amount of married men I’ve seen I just don’t think I can trust them anymore.
I don’t think men are monogamous by nature. There will always be that itch to scratch it seems.

[standardpostage]

The Madonna whore complex is such an interesting thing.
They swear it’s not a real thing but you’ve literally just described it.
Sometimes I wonder as a young provider what will happen when I get older if I’ll ever be married because with the amount of married men I’ve seen I just don’t think I can trust them anymore.
I don’t think men are monogamous by nature. There will always be that itch to scratch it seems.

Good answer 

[Thephoenix]

The Madonna whore complex is such an interesting thing.
They swear it’s not a real thing but you’ve literally just described it.
Sometimes I wonder as a young provider what will happen when I get older if I’ll ever be married because with the amount of married men I’ve seen I just don’t think I can trust them anymore.
I don’t think men are monogamous by nature. There will always be that itch to scratch it seems.

Maybe when you get older you'll lose interest in sex or not want sex as often as your partner.
Wouldn't it be better for him to occasionally visit a SP, rather than have an affair?
It needn't necessarily adversely effect your relationship in later years.

Maybe your partner could be older than you and lose interest in sex, whereas YOU are still randy.
Wouldn't it be better for you to occasionally visit a SP rather than have an affair?

There's so much dishonesty because of the stigma of paying for sex .

Relationships in later years can be meaningful and loving without sex.

[Chris1990mcr]

Different for everyone.

For me, not like I can't get sex in civvie life but often I just cant be bothered with the date, pretending to be interested, messaging loads etc to then have sex a few times then ghost them.

Its the simple transactional fancy a shag 30 mins later balls deep inside a bird for less than a £100.

Loads of high profile footballers, actors and people who won't be short of girls throwing themselves at them punt. Its the transactional nature and supposed discretion that helps.

[Iamforreal]

The Madonna whore complex is such an interesting thing.
They swear it’s not a real thing but you’ve literally just described it.
Sometimes I wonder as a young provider what will happen when I get older if I’ll ever be married because with the amount of married men I’ve seen I just don’t think I can trust them anymore.
I don’t think men are monogamous by nature. There will always be that itch to scratch it seems.

Recent studies suggest the gap is almost equal between women and men, especially with younger generations.
Monogamy also is at 66% for our species :

"Humans rank high, around 7th out of 35 species, showing more monogamy than chimpanzees or gorillas but less than Californian mice or beavers."

[Skeleton]

Different for everyone.

For me, not like I can't get sex in civvie life but often I just cant be bothered with the date, pretending to be interested, messaging loads etc to then have sex a few times then ghost them.

Its the simple transactional fancy a shag 30 mins later balls deep inside a bird for less than a £100.

Loads of high profile footballers, actors and people who won't be short of girls throwing themselves at them punt. Its the transactional nature and supposed discretion that helps.

This is the key for me, it’s the fact that you can be feeling horny and within 15 mins are doing something about it! I’m single so civvy life, although I don’t struggle to get action, it’s not always available when I feel the urge. If I were in a relationship I’d guess it’s probably the same, one of you horny when the other isn’t (especially after the first few weeks!)

[notcalledchris]

Recent studies suggest the gap is almost equal between women and men, especially with younger generations.
Monogamy also is at 66% for our species :

"Humans rank high, around 7th out of 35 species, showing more monogamy than chimpanzees or gorillas but less than Californian mice or beavers."

I think that there may be a difference between how monogamous men are in fact and how monogamous they would be if they could get away with it.

[notcalledchris]

Good answer 

Agree.   I make love to my wife and I fuck whores.  I enjoy both but neither activity is an adequate substitute for the other.

[Mr Sinister]

Biggest problem for me is to stop having sex with more than one civvy woman, I've had a roster of various civvy women I'd have casual sex/fwb with on and off for years now. Even those I haven't spoken to in months or years will pop me a random message and I'll be round there filling them up like a cream bun, literally what's happened recently with a woman I dated years ago.

Another thing is sometimes how sex can get routine and monotonous in relationships/marriage, it's why men cheat sometimes you just need some new pussy it doesn't matter if the girl isn't a looker either.

[webpunter]

Biggest problem for me is to stop having sex with more than one civvy woman, I've had a roster of various civvy women I'd have casual sex/fwb with on and off for years now. Even those I haven't spoken to in months or years will pop me a random message and I'll be round there filling them up like a cream bun, literally what's happened recently with a woman I dated years ago.

Perfect
They're on the same page as you wanting some action, good girls 
On the couple of occasions that ex sex has surfaced its been brilliant
Its like you do & dont know them, at the same time
It doesnt take long for things to start coming back what they like & what they are good at 
Cream bun 

[webpunter]

Another thing is sometimes how sex can get routine and monotonous in relationships/marriage, it's why men cheat sometimes you just need some new pussy it doesn't matter if the girl isn't a looker either.

IME they tend to try harder, sometimes a lot harder
Curvy burds a good example
A stunner who looks a 9/10 who is at best very average at sex becomes a 6 or 7
& a 6 or 7 who goes for it can become a 9/10 overall, sometimes an 11 
Picking a 9/10 is fraught with difficulties can take ages lots of effort spends & success far from guaranteed

[southern punter]

Is twice a month bad for a man ??
How often do men want sex ???

For me - every day.  On civvy street I was lucky to get laid every 3 or 4 years. 

If I was in a LTR where I was only 'allowed' (boring) sex twice a month I would have been miserable about it but I don't think I would have started punting.  Now that I have let the genie out of the bottle, that would not be sufficient to make me give up.

[loca44]

Maybe when you get older you'll lose interest in sex or not want sex as often as your partner.
Wouldn't it be better for him to occasionally visit a SP, rather than have an affair?
It needn't necessarily adversely effect your relationship in later years.

Maybe your partner could be older than you and lose interest in sex, whereas YOU are still randy.
Wouldn't it be better for you to occasionally visit a SP rather than have an affair?

There's so much dishonesty because of the stigma of paying for sex .

Relationships in later years can be meaningful and loving without sex.

What’s the difference between paying & having an affair ?
I’m a female so I don’t know how this would work if my man was too old for sex I’d probably just leave unless he was filthy fucking rich.

[MissWolf]

What’s the difference between paying & having an affair ?
I’m a female so I don’t know how this would work if my man was too old for sex I’d probably just leave unless he was filthy fucking rich.

An affair will a lot of the time involve a promise or two, a promise of a future, a weekend away, it will also likely involve the development of feelings between both parties, of expectations and a possible future, its not just a physical act, a physical betrayal, its an emotional one too.

Paying for sex is a business transaction that doesn't involve feelings, emotions and promises, or at least it shouldn't. There are no expectations of a future etc

I'm a bit nonplussed over the last bit chick but you do you 

[webpunter]

What’s the difference between paying & having an affair ?

There are numerous sexless marriages which are helped maintained by the guy paying
Wifeys can have long since lost interest in sex with ring on the finger / having kids & age being factors [being on our besties site M-net for sure]
[& it appears on here that a good number of them didn't have much sex drive in the 1st place]
They are content with their family incl. hubby making & maintaining a home kids friends just that they arent interested in sex

& if there is some action @sp hit the nail on the head it is 'allowed'  / boring
Speaking with mates in such situations Sunday morning seems to be the most common allotted slot
Sometimes reaching such a low interest threshold that they give up trying
I've suggested to them that they give the pretence of still wanting it periodically
As none whatsoever is a big red flag [getting it elsewhere paid or otherwise]

Wifey knows that hubby still wants sex in some derivative & will look the other way re him paying as long as it doesn't become obvious to her & more importantly her friends [& family]
Paying is transactional
Affairs in part are relationship driven [@MW on point as usual] & this presents a risk to wifey & her set up [if she wants to maintain the status quo]
So they'll tolerate paying & will go off at the deep end if an affair gets found out
The chances of a guy being caught having an affair is exponentially higher
One big one is when the woman he's having the affair with wants more, deffo situations where they engineer hubby getting caught
If wifey is away & sex is at hubby's gaff [always a bad idea] they leave a pair of knickers in the appropriate drawer  [edit: hubby diddly chance of spotting this]
Well managed risk averse paying for it a sensible approach & it is in the guys hands not to fuck up & get caught [how many threads on this ? loads]

Paying for it not risk free when it comes to STDs but not far off with the right approach
& is soooo much safer than affairs when going in commando doesnt take long to happen [maybe about 20 mins  ]
Limiting paid for activities to massage stuff - avoiding OWO & pussy slides [both my fave] - things are even safer
& everyone knows that handjobs in addition to being supa safe dont count 

[Thephoenix]

There are numerous sexless marriages which are helped maintained by the guy paying
Wifeys can have long since lost interest in sex with ring on the finger / having kids & age being factors [being on our besties site M-net for sure]
[& it appears on here that a good number of them didn't have much sex drive in the 1st place]
They are content with their family incl. hubby making & maintaining a home kids friends just that they arent interested in sex

& if there is some action @sp hit the nail on the head it is 'allowed'  / boring
Speaking with mates in such situations Sunday morning seems to be the most common allotted slot
Sometimes reaching such a low interest threshold that they give up trying
I've suggested to them that they give the pretence of still wanting it periodically
As none whatsoever is a big red flag [getting it elsewhere paid or otherwise]

Wifey knows that hubby still wants sex in some derivative & will look the other way re him paying as long as it doesn't become obvious to her & more importantly her friends [& family]
Paying is transactional
Affairs in part are relationship driven [@MW on point as usual] & this presents a risk to wifey & her set up [if she wants to maintain the status quo]
So they'll tolerate paying & will go off at the deep end if an affair gets found out
The chances of a guy being caught having an affair is exponentially higher
One big one is when the woman he's having the affair with wants more, deffo situations where they engineer hubby getting caught
If wifey is away & sex is at hubby's gaff [always a bad idea] they leave a pair of knickers in the appropriate drawer  [edit: hubby diddly chance of spotting this]
Well managed risk averse paying for it a sensible approach & it is in the guys hands not to fuck up & get caught [how many threads on this ? loads]

Paying for it not risk free when it comes to STDs but not far off with the right approach
& is soooo much safer than affairs when going in commando doesnt take long to happen [maybe about 20 mins  ]
Limiting paid for activities to massage stuff - avoiding OWO & pussy slides [both my fave] - things are even safer
& everyone knows that handjobs in addition to being supa safe dont count 

Thanks for answering the lady's question.
She seems a tad naive in that sense.
You've covered most of what I'd have said albeit in a different language.   
It saves having to do it myself..

 

[Thephoenix]

I’m a female so I don’t know how this would work if my man was too old for sex I’d probably just leave unless he was filthy fucking rich.

I'm not sure if that's a tongue in cheek response. 

If you're serious, you're not creating a great picture of your profession, but maybe money rather an emotional attachment would still be your primary motivation for a relationship,  in which case wouldn't you still be prostituting yourself?

Can't you ever forsee having a relationship with anyone for love?

What if you'd been in a LTR into middle or old age, and your partner became ill or disabled.
Would you leave him if he wasn't filthy rich?

We're all different and have our own reasons for punting just as you have your own reasons for being a prostitute.
It's just a pity there's so much stigma associated with the profession. 

[finn5555]

so I don’t know how this would work if my man was too old for sex I’d probably just leave unless he was filthy fucking rich.

Pro$$ie logic 

[Mr Sinister]

IME they tend to try harder, sometimes a lot harder
Curvy burds a good example
A stunner who looks a 9/10 who is at best very average at sex becomes a 6 or 7
& a 6 or 7 who goes for it can become a 9/10 overall, sometimes an 11 
Picking a 9/10 is fraught with difficulties can take ages lots of effort spends & success far from guaranteed

100% on the curvy birds example, I have a big bird, she's not a looker, has big chebs who will suck the soul out of me for a good 45 minutes+ with no complaints while I've had good lookers who don't put any effort into sucking dick even if I've gone down on them. Tbh it's real hard to find a woman who consistently gives great blowjobs

[alabama1]

What’s the difference between paying & having an affair ?
I’m a female so I don’t know how this would work if my man was too old for sex I’d probably just leave unless he was filthy fucking rich.

If you pay, you can fuck a young stunner !

[webpunter]

Thanks for answering the lady's question.
She seems a tad naive in that sense.
You've covered most of what I'd have said albeit in a different language.   
It saves having to do it myself..

 

Covering most i'll take that as a compliment 

A different language however form on here suggests we can communicate just about, some translation required here & there

As a 'young provider' naivety comes with the territory
Its only when you look back [in whatever people do] that you can think what was i like back in the day, all part of the journey
& IMO there's an attractiveness to this, in a +ve aspect
loca44 appears to be successful in navigating the vagaries of UKP which is a compliment in itself 
Hope this continues 🤞& some latitude to be provided along the way

[webpunter]

Pro$$ie logic 

This is GF wifey logic, unless you've missed this 

[Stevelondon]

Pro$$ie logic 

I don’t think that’s only SP’s logic. 🤷🏼

[Chazz]

Sometimes I wonder as a young provider what will happen when I get older if I’ll ever be married because with the amount of married men I’ve seen I just don’t think I can trust them anymore.
I don’t think men are monogamous by nature. There will always be that itch to scratch it seems.

Don't worry, I'm sure that with all of the wisdom that you'll accrue working as an SP, you'll meet someone and you'll sort something out. We're sold all this 'happily ever after' monogamous bullshit by society, but you and I know that that's just not true. This is one of the reasons that I enjoy the company of SPs so much - they tend to be so much more down to earth and realistic than most civvy women. (Maybe though it's because they can be nice to me because they only have to put up with me for an hour.) Wishing you health, wealth and happiness. 

[dreamwrx]

Yes probably ... at times in my life I've punted far less because I've been having so much sex on Fabswingers, but that's very much hit & miss and when you absolutely need to scratch an itch you can't beat a trip to Adultwork, or a stress-free visit to a parlour. Attercliffe Road in Sheffield is still the main punter's friend in Yorkshire I think.

[loca44]

I'm not sure if that's a tongue in cheek response. 

If you're serious, you're not creating a great picture of your profession, but maybe money rather an emotional attachment would still be your primary motivation for a relationship,  in which case wouldn't you still be prostituting yourself?

Can't you ever forsee having a relationship with anyone for love?

What if you'd been in a LTR into middle or old age, and your partner became ill or disabled.
Would you leave him if he wasn't filthy rich?

We're all different and have our own reasons for punting just as you have your own reasons for being a prostitute.
It's just a pity there's so much stigma associated with the profession. 

You’re also apart of the stigma if you pay for prostitutes.
We’re all in this together but due to patriarchy & puritan culture & systems the SP get all the flack!
I don’t believe in marrying for “love” anymore.
Most love comes with conditions I believe in protecting myself & my future with financial stability & men with more stability have more currency in the sexual market value it’s been like this since the beginning of time.

I’m not really desperate for marriage like a lot of women are nowadays but maybe that’s because I know the true nature of men well this job has exposed me to maybe the not best types of men well at least that’s what my civvie friends say.

I also know I’m not a man’s first pick due to “prostituting myself” haha your words not mine.
You seem defensive that I want to marry rich dunno why I’m sure you’d want your daughter to have high standards in choosing her life long mate.
Men are supposed to provide its sexy.

I’m very selective in picking a mate even in my line of work I’m selective.
I was taught not being too available makes you more attractive.
Exclusivity attracts intrigue.

[loca44]

Don't worry, I'm sure that with all of the wisdom that you'll accrue working as an SP, you'll meet someone and you'll sort something out. We're sold all this 'happily ever after' monogamous bullshit by society, but you and I know that that's just not true. This is one of the reasons that I enjoy the company of SPs so much - they tend to be so much more down to earth and realistic than most civvy women. (Maybe though it's because they can be nice to me because they only have to put up with me for an hour.) Wishing you health, wealth and happiness. 

Honestly  “sorting something out” is such a funny take I doubt the male ego could handle a confident sexually liberated who’s engaged in full service sex work” I’m 24 now so let’s see what knowledge I acquire by 30.
I blame Disney movies for the “happy ever after nonsense” I’m sure people do get their fairytale endings but it’s in a less mystic way. There has to be some raw realism to it cause life will always have its obstacles.

I used to be a civvie woman before this crazy sexy life chose me I would say civvie women are extremely hopeful & they lie to themselves a lot.
All comes down to self worth.

I’m always nice to my clients but I really love what I do & meeting new people but I’m definitely the most idiosyncratic person you’d probably ever meet ! Haha

[Jujy78]

With the same person ?

Different when meeting a new civvy the desire is strong
Extended shagging i've seen new burds where i've spent most of the weekend doing it, starting on a Friday evening finishing on a Sunday evening
Breaks for going out eating & drinking showering & back in the day on a Sunday morning reading The News of The World & Sunday Times [in that order]
Desire fades over a period of time no matter how hot or talented they are
Age plays a factor busy on other stuff business / life & sexual fitness, my bounce-back ability takes longer 
I like to get the tanks emptied professionally two or three times a month [pre virus more as pricing has subsequently increased dramatically]
If the GF is in play i'll lay off for a while in advance [& certainly avoid OWO just in case]

Yep. I've mentioned further up on another comment that I'd get bored shagging the same person regularly but I'd take 3 times a week shag to reduce my punting frequency.

[loca44]

Wishing you health, wealth and happiness. 

Wishing you well also xx

[Chazz]

Honestly  “sorting something out” is such a funny take I doubt the male ego could handle a confident sexually liberated who’s engaged in full service sex work”

How I wish I knew what I know now when I was 24! 24 year old me definitely couldn't handle a confident sexually liberated sex worker, however for a time 50 year old me was seriously considering a relationship with one. Have a brilliant life and don't forget to smell the roses - it goes by bloody quick!

[Thephoenix]

Don't worry, I'm sure that with all of the wisdom that you'll accrue working as an SP, you'll meet someone and you'll sort something out. We're sold all this 'happily ever after' monogamous bullshit by society, but you and I know that that's just not true.

But it can be can't it?
Just maybe not for everyone.

[Chazz]

But it can be can't it?
Just maybe not for everyone.

Yeah, I guess so. I've been with my wife for over 30 years now! If she hadn't become disabled quite early on in our marriage, I'm fairly certain that she'd've left me for someone richer and better looking (I'm punching way above my weight). It's not quite 'happily ever after', but neither is it 'unhappily ever after' either. To paraphrase the Big Lebowski, 'life's just a series of strikes and gutterballs'.