Would you stop punting if you had more sex in your civvy life?

[NotThe]

I hope the mod won't consider it off-topic - it's genuine curiosity.

I was wondering: how many of you would stop punting if they had more sex in their private, "civilian" life?

I get it that it's different for everyone. The thrill of the punt, getting services we don't get at home, shagging a different race or body type, the variety... I get it that we all have different itches to scratch.

But for me it is simply about the frequency. If I could do the deed once or twice a week in my "civvy" life I don't think I would punt.

What is it like for you?

What, if anything, would cause you to stop punting?

PS Of course I get it that selection bias means that those who have stopped punting are unlikely to be on this board and reply to this!

[RandomGuy99]

A little but I would still do it because variety is the spice of life.

[Massage Bloke]

A sexless marriage is what motivates many punters.

As for what, if anything would make you stop.  For me it's the money.  I've been almost priced out of the game.

[NotThe]

Yes but there is completely sex less and there is some but not enough.

There are couples who may do it only once or twice a month because their schedules are crazy or for a gazillion other reasons. Twice a month is not sexless. But would still prompt some men to punt. Hence the question.

[Chazz]

I started to punt due to a dead bedroom, but now that the genie's out of the bottle, there's no going back. 

[Massage Bloke]

Yes but there is completely sex less and there is some but not enough.

There are couples who may do it only once or twice a month because their schedules are crazy or for a gazillion other reasons. Twice a month is not sexless. But would still prompt some men to punt. Hence the question.

Sorry, I seem to have given the wrong answer! 

I also failed my 11+

And I took a DNA test, but failed it.

[NotThe]

Apologies if I may have come across as abrasive, it was not my intention.

Happy punting to all

[standardpostage]

Yes, I would most probably stop, because I would not have the energy or stamina, left over to punt 

[southcoastpunter]

for many guys its about the "amount" of sex they get, for some its the type of sex (eg very vanilla, no bj's etc) and for some guys its that they like having sex with different woman (and its why some rarely see the same SP more than once).

there is no single reason/answer

[Ghost89]

If I got regular sex in my civvy life I would absolutely not punt. And would save myself an absolute fucking fortune. It’s as simple as that for me.

[Munter84]

Yes, absolutely. Possibly I would still venture out occasionally to experience some novelty or have a proper indulgent massage, but if I was getting plenty of sex at home I could see my punts dwindling to a handful of times a year.

[mikef2008]

good question but Im not sure i would. I think the buzz of this hobby and the chance to fuck hot young fillies while we all get older and balder and fatter is perhaps too much of a good thing to stop

[scouting]

Definitely not. I punt cos I enjoy the variety, not because I don't get enough at home.

[GreyDave]

Definitely not. I punt cos I enjoy the variety, not because I don't get enough at home.

+ 1  The diffrent shape and types of girls out there now is amazing.

  when I started in the 1970`s most were hardend Fat Northern Lasses down Sarth to earn a few bob with a few exotic ones in the Walk Up mix

[Colston36]

 I'm a bit of an odd-bod, being I believe the oldest member.

I was married three times and lived with 4 other women for at least 2 years each. For years I also had a wonderful job that gave me lots of opportunities all over the world.

I was only faithful to my partners if we were having good sex. I assume that's true of many if not most here.

My first wife and I were clueless. But we stayed friends after I was lured away to live with a call girl.

My second was the wife I loved most, the most beautiful and talented, a cover girl in Australia. But mistreatment when she was young had really diminished her sexual enthusiasm. I was unfaithful to her. Rather unfortunately she saw me going down on a girl we both knew,but never said anything.

A while after that the same girl fell asleep while smoking in bed and ended up setting fire to the bedclothes and dying.

The sexiest I ever knew include my third wife, an Afro-American who was extremely kinky, and a Polish girl I fucked everywhere. On a gravestone. Going up and down in a lift. In the ladies toilet during lunch at The Mermaid Inn, Rye. You name it.

Aren't we all the same? Faithful when we get what we want and searching if not.

[hendrix]

Civvie sex isn't an option for me, so I'll punt till I lose my sexual urges entirely.

[Longshot]

I get plenty of sex at home but punting just hits harder and better

[RedKettle]

I am reasonably confident that if I had continued to have sex at home on a reasonably frequent basis - nothing extravagant say once or twice a month -  I would never have started punting.  Sex with the OH was great and generally much better than with escorts, not because of the physical act but because of the emotional connection.

However that was not to be and when the question became did we do it this year I started down this path. 

Now I do not believe that I would stop if sex re started at home.  Although health issues have severely reduced my activity for the past few years I am confident that 2026 will be much better.  If the OH suddenly started wanting sex I think I would still continue with my secret hobby.

[Cupid Stuntz]

Yep, whenever I've been in a relationship or have found a fuck buddy I've stopped punting and saved money.

[Apx12579]

Yes I would, like a previous poster has said, most of us punt as we are not getting it or not enough at home.

[Denzelryder1234]

The frequency of punts would reduce for sure and I would be very selective in certain kinks and punt less frequency.

[Thephoenix]

Considering I didn't punt for the first thirty years of my marriage when our sex life was good, then the answer is yes.

For the following thirty years it's been my only option.

[webpunter]

I get plenty of sex at home but punting just hits harder and better

We Sir are on the same page 
The GF is pretty amazing in the bedroom dept
However will she edge the shit out of me for the best part of an hour ?
Three hopes - no hope, Bob Hope & his bruvva

Whereas pick the right edging queen they can revel in it
Noted one of their motivations is getting you to return but crikey its some fun along the way
The good uns can really go for it
At times they encourage guidance other times they write their own script
Its like a box of chocolates you never know ....   

[webpunter]

I started to punt due to a dead bedroom, but now that the genie's out of the bottle, there's no going back. 

Moi aussi with the ex
The top of a slippery slope
Speaking of genies & bottles there's about as much chance of me stopping punting [more massage mullarkey] as putting a champagne cork back in a bottle 
IMO up there for quote of the month 

[advent2016]

I can have as much boring (no pun intended) missionary sex as I want, never has my GF said no unless unwell or before work (needing another shower) or really tired after a long shift , though rarely does she offer it and went off RO as well, unless she wants something expensive and then the BJs return, but not porn style sloppy, suck and spit., like they were in the beginning in my car, in a club and regularly until I'd asked her to move in etc. We still French kiss a lot but ends in missionary sex.

I've always punted since the 90s. Often I was abroad for months at a time, or my partner joined me but hated that nobody spoke American properly.

[Stevelondon]

I can have as much boring (no pun intended) missionary sex as I want, never has my GF said no unless unwell or before work (needing another shower) or really tired after a long shift , though rarely does she offer it and went off RO as well, unless she wants something expensive and then the BJs return, but not porn style sloppy, suck and spit., like they were in the beginning in my car, in a club and regularly until I'd asked her to move in etc. We still French kiss a lot but ends in missionary sex.

I've always punted since the 90s. Often I was abroad for months at a time, or my partner joined me but hated that nobody spoke American properly.

I’m certainly no relationship counsellor so each to their own here.
Personally speaking only. I think if my gf was giving me blow jobs ONLY when she wanted a new handbag. I’d be suspecting she wasn’t with me for my sexy accent and sparkling sense of humour.
But that’s just me fella……… whatever floats your boat.

I gotta ask……. I have no idea what that last sentence means. !!!

[pantywetter]

It’s not just the amount of sex, it’s also the type of sex.  If I got more sex but also more passionate, kinky, filthy, experimental sex then I’d defiently punt less.  Not sure I’d stop totally but definetly less.

I’ve never had dead bedroom but most of my relationships end up once or twice a week and too vanilla whereas I want good sex nearly every day. 

[Spacecowb0y]

A sexless marriage is defined as less than 12 times in a year. In 2025 we managed twice.

Would I punt if the OH wanted regular sex and initiated once in a while? No chance as I find the sex a better quality with her due to the life we have built together and raised kids etc. No SP can create that unique connection life a life partner.

[webpunter]

A sexless marriage is defined as less than 12 times in a year. In 2025 we managed twice.

Would I punt if the OH wanted regular sex and initiated once in a while? No chance as I find the sex a better quality with her due to the life we have built together and raised kids etc. No SP can create that unique connection life a life partner.

I get you
Tho you must be buster gonad & his unfeasibly large .... by now

Everyone knows that HJs [& oilyTWs + b2b  ] don't count
& the chances of catching sumfink next to zero

A skilled SP can create a unique connection especially when edging the shit out of you for the best part of an hour
Try asking the OH for that & see how far you get
IMO best left to professionals
& you can have both just be careful

[Demon8]

I started punting because getting anything from the other half became transactional and then it was just excuse after excuse. When we do anything its always only slighrly better than a bad punt becsuse i always get "dont do this dont do rhat, dont touch me there where she just wants to lay down and do fuck all.


Its not a matter of more - if i got both more and the sex we used to have then yeah, id stop punting. The reality is looking like we will be apart and I will just punt more though.

[Billy no mates]

I am currently on a small punting hiatus due to surgery last year.

However I get more than enough sex at home with the missus, even now without be being able to get an erection we have sex games 3 or 4 times per week. When everything was working it was probably a little more than that. I still punted approximately 6-8 times a year, for me it was the variety.

[Thephoenix]

I am currently on a small punting hiatus due to surgery last year.

However I get more than enough sex at home with the missus, even now without be being able to get an erection we have sex games 3 or 4 times per week. When everything was working it was probably a little more than that. I still punted approximately 6-8 times a year, for me it was the variety.

I hope you're able to recover your mojo in the erections department following the surgery. 

[gowergold84]

I'm in a very near sexless marriage, and that is what drove me to the punting world rather than having an affair, which gets emotional and messy.

I would definitely punt a LOT less if the wife gave out more often that once every month or two.

Would I give up punting altogether if my wife started giving out more? Probably not. I'd still punt every now and again whilst away on business etc, just to keep things interesting!

[5qwerty80b]

I think I punt because I’m a selfish dick.

I had a girlfriend who was very attractive and provided me with as much sex as I could handle. But it was extraordinarily vanilla. I tried on so many occasions to spice things up but all suggestions I made were rejected.

So, I went for a punt in a Sheffield parlour one day and it was good. And I carried on. The girlfriend still offered sex but the excitement of the punt and the variety of ladies available decreased my enthusiasm for sex with her. To the point that neither one of us bothers now. But we get along fine and in all honesty we’re still happy together.

Obviously I still punt, but I feel that I created the “dead bedroom” situation at home myself. Yup, I punt because I was selfish and now greedy.

[Thephoenix]

I think I punt because I’m a selfish dick.

I had a girlfriend who was very attractive and provided me with as much sex as I could handle. But it was extraordinarily vanilla. I tried on so many occasions to spice things up but all suggestions I made were rejected.

So, I went for a punt in a Sheffield parlour one day and it was good. And I carried on. The girlfriend still offered sex but the excitement of the punt and the variety of ladies available decreased my enthusiasm for sex with her. To the point that neither one of us bothers now. But we get along fine and in all honesty we’re still happy together.

Obviously I still punt, but I feel that I created the “dead bedroom” situation at home myself. Yup, I punt because I was selfish and now greedy.

Don't you ever wonder If your girlfriend gets her thrills elsewhere?

[WelshClipper]

I’m a cynical old fucker. Yes my marriage has been good and productive. But at the same time terribly restrictive.

I would not change anything now but I would never go back to civvie sex if the opportunity presented itself.

Stick to punting, much happier life for all concerned

 

[5qwerty80b]

Don't you ever wonder If your girlfriend gets her thrills elsewhere?

I can’t believe that I had never thought of that! 

[webpunter]

I can’t believe that I had never thought of that! 

Remember that unlike blokes wimin usually only get caught if they want to get caught
You'd better go on the hunt for a 2nd mobile
Or a hidden app on her phone achieving the same
Plenty of threads on this [in reverse]

[shagmore]

The reason I got into punting was for the sex, I love it, can't get enough, if I got what I wanted outside the world of punting, sure I would stop. But that will not happen. Even brought the issue up with OH that things are shite, changed for a few weeks, then back to normal.
I dont punt to try to screw as many different women as possible if I can form a good relationship with a SP then great, I will keep seeing that SP

[iq129]

I get zero sex at home. I have been in a sexless marriage since 12 years now. I would never punt if I was able to have sex with my wife.

[webpunter]

The reason I got into punting was for the sex, I love it, can't get enough, if I got what I wanted outside the world of punting, sure I would stop. But that will not happen. Even brought the issue up with OH that things are shite, changed for a few weeks, then back to normal.
I dont punt to try to screw as many different women as possible if I can form a good relationship with a SP then great, I will keep seeing that SP

Got into punting - as your usernic suggests 

The usual MO subject raised they raise their game albeit briefly then revert taps off

I wouldn't suggest raising it again as this may make her think that you are still interested in getting laid & if not with her ? ..... etc 

When action in the bedroom department for me was descending to next to nowt even when it did happen it was crap

Not worth the effort having to line things up [being nice romantic etc] & the outcome was very very average

It would absolutely be a negative red review / revisit = nope / recommend = nope 

I decided it was all round better to tug one out and then more importantly moved on to getting someone else to do it 

Its always good to hire a professional when something needs doing, not GSI more GSO [GSI too risky obvs]

[Jujy78]

I started very early at age 18 and lost my virginity punting. So I don't know any better tbh. I have had 3 relationships in my life  currently on my 3rd, married and the longest 23 years.. And in all of them same pattern. I stopped punting in the first year as sex was always on offer and that charge of being in love and showing commitment etc then the sex dries out and I start punting again. To add to that I do end up getting bored of shagging the same person so end up punting too.

I'm in a total sexless marriage now and crave for sex with my wife but I think that's partially because I still find her attractive  as I see her every day and lust on her. But suppose we had sex regularly I would've been bored and not to keen on her and go out punting.

So it's a bit of nothing for me. Sexless marriage and bored of shagging the same person. But if I had sex regularly I'd probably be punting less than I do now but not give up

[Captainhowdy666]

Fuck no
Before I met my wife my body count was only around 20
In the last 5 years I’ve added nearly 90 to that count.

[WelshClipper]

Fuck no
Before I met my wife my body count was only around 20
In the last 5 years I’ve added nearly 90 to that count.

Confession Thread 

Girlfriends pre-punting 50
Girlfriends fucked pre-punting 5 including OH
WG’s fucked close to 190

Doesn’t bare thinking about or even trying to compare. 

[webpunter]

I might be in the confessional a while

Civvys wifey [qty = 1] pre & post punting 100+ not really sure a ton fifty ?

SPs & massage burds - not sure 300+ ish

No. of sessions guesstimate a bag of sand  [two massage burds must have tugged me off 50+ times each]

[Stevelondon]

I’d definitely do a lot more driving if I could afford the fucking petrol. 🤷🏼

Seriously though. I’m a regular sex three or four times a week kind of guy. Have been for years.

So I suppose theoretically, if I was getting it six times a week. I’d probably cut my punting down to once every seven days. 

[Kingfisher69]

No, it wouldn't make any difference. I started as a young man in my 20's because I wasn't getting enough. But now I'm older (mid fifties) I've come to realise that how the hell would a fat old fart like me get to fuck women in their 20's without having to pay for it. I'm addicted to young firm slender tight pussy in my life too much to give it up. 

[alabama1]

I am never gonna get to fuck some stunner half my age in civvie street. That's why i don't mind paying for it. I don't have any other vices

[loca44]

Yes but there is completely sex less and there is some but not enough.

There are couples who may do it only once or twice a month because their schedules are crazy or for a gazillion other reasons. Twice a month is not sexless. But would still prompt some men to punt. Hence the question.

Is twice a month bad for a man ??
How often do men want sex ???

[loca44]

I get plenty of sex at home but punting just hits harder and better

Why is this if you don’t mind sharing ?