Author Topic: Need some advice (Read 2347 times)

dinny1979 · « **on:** December 10, 2014, 08:58:54 pm »

This is my first post and it's very hard for me to do this, I need some advice:

My sad story (I'll try to keep it short) :
I come from a family with quite overbearing women, I was quite behind in social skills and never had many friends. Which became a problem when I got to a certain age. I was very shy and I became extremely depressed about 14 or 15, I was on Prozac at 15. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 22. Then in my depression I got in serious debt. Ten years later, still in debt. Still living at home, never went to university, haven't moved far in my life, very little sex experience. I've sorted out my shyness, that's fine. Honestly I need to feel like a man because I don't feel like one right now, I feel like a total loser. I seriously need sexual contact with a woman, I'm 35 now.

What kind of thing should I do to start to get back in the game? AW? Soho? 30 mins? 1 hour? Any recommendations. I'm almost starting from scratch, it's been too long. Starting from basic.

cockneybstrd · « **Reply #1 on:** December 10, 2014, 09:23:57 pm »

Bottle of whiskey and a bottle of Pills ????

Malvolio · « **Reply #2 on:** December 10, 2014, 09:23:59 pm »

If you really want to do this, take a look in the London reviews section. There are plenty of girls there with several positive reviews, so find one you like the look of, book her and fuck her.

However, remember that it's a paid-sex transaction, not a relationship, and on no account become emotionally engaged with her.

Best of luck.

dinny1979 · « **Reply #3 on:** December 10, 2014, 09:31:00 pm »

1) Been down that road. Not again.

2) Been delving into the world of PUA/Game. I know about "oneitis", it's called "EAS" here, I believe.

They all do basic though?

hendrix · « **Reply #4 on:** December 10, 2014, 09:31:32 pm »

If you have debt issues, visiting prostitutes is the worst idea you could possibly have. Increase your social circle instead, that'll be much better for you in your situation if I've understood it correctly.

dinny1979 · « **Reply #5 on:** December 10, 2014, 09:35:17 pm »

I need to take the edge off. I'm a very heavy smoker and I know why. I know what I need to give up. To sort out my life I need to start by giving up smoking. I can't really wait.

laidbackasiandude · « **Reply #6 on:** December 10, 2014, 10:12:56 pm »

Quote from: dinny1979 on December 10, 2014, 09:35:17 pm

I need to take the edge off. I'm a very heavy smoker and I know why. I know what I need to give up. To sort out my life I need to start by giving up smoking. I can't really wait.

Regarding quitting smoking you could check out this link.

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swfinest · « **Reply #7 on:** December 10, 2014, 10:13:06 pm »

Do you live under a bridge?

dinny1979 · « **Reply #8 on:** December 10, 2014, 10:30:30 pm »

Very clever. Nah I'm genuine. Nobody could make that awful story up. I'm sure nobody else would put up with the crap hand I've been dealt as well as I have. Thanks for the helpful advice. I've thought about this a long time. I have friends, I'm not terrible looking. Women are interested in me. I'm stuck at home, not good for 35. Looking at moving out, most of my debt has gone, joining Meetup groups, PUA, more sociable than I used to be. Just want to sort out my life, get some experience & enjoy myself.

yorkshire123 · « **Reply #9 on:** December 10, 2014, 10:40:03 pm »

OP this is going to sound really insensitive of me however....

- Stop wallowing in our own self pity
- Punting is not the answer, In my opinion to get the most out of punting it helps if you have an element of disposable income, If not you will be forever feeling guilty about the money you have just spent.
- The only person that can make you man up is you.
- A punting forum isn't the place to get emotional help/advice, seek it from a professional.

And finally, stop trying to cause mischief

swfinest · « **Reply #10 on:** December 10, 2014, 10:43:25 pm »

Will if your looking for help and advice I would highly recommend posting your thoughts on External Link/Members Only. Its a warm and caring community focused on japanese anime and helping folk, but just like this forum its certainly the right place to share your tale of woe. Btw make sure you clear your browser history, Imagine what your mum and overbearing family would do with this info?

swfinest · « **Reply #11 on:** December 10, 2014, 10:45:18 pm »

Quote from: yorkshire123 on December 10, 2014, 10:40:03 pm

OP this is going to sound really insensitive of me however....

- Stop wallowing in our own self pity
- Punting is not the answer, In my opinion to get the most out of punting it helps if you have an element of disposable income, If not you will be forever feeling guilty about the money you have just spent.
- The only person that can make you man up is you.
- A punting forum isn't the place to get emotional help/advice, seek it from a professional.

And finally, stop trying to cause mischief

Dr 4chan is a recognised medical practitioner is over 3 pacific island states.

cockneybstrd · « **Reply #12 on:** December 10, 2014, 10:53:16 pm »

Quote from: dinny1979 on December 10, 2014, 10:30:30 pm

Very clever. Nah I'm genuine. Nobody could make that awful story up. I'm sure nobody else would put up with the crap hand I've been dealt as well as I have. Thanks for the helpful advice. I've thought about this a long time. I have friends, I'm not terrible looking. Women are interested in me. I'm stuck at home, not good for 35. Looking at moving out, most of my debt has gone, joining Meetup groups, PUA, more sociable than I used to be. Just want to sort out my life, get some experience & enjoy myself.

Of course your genuine. Why you felt the need to bore us all with tells of an over bearing mother I dont know. If you were really geniune you would have posted something along the lines of hi guys first time poster and first time punter money is a bit tight so what would you geezers suggest for a first punt bit shy at times so neeed to be build up my confidence etc

Its hardly an awful story is it? Its not like you had cancer or had leg shot off.

Anyway coming up next on our tune we have a letter from Dinny and his tune is Turning Japanese by Japan

dinny1979 · « **Reply #13 on:** December 10, 2014, 10:56:40 pm »

Quote from: yorkshire123 on December 10, 2014, 10:40:03 pm

OP this is going to sound really insensitive of me however....

- Stop wallowing in our own self pity
- Punting is not the answer, In my opinion to get the most out of punting it helps if you have an element of disposable income, If not you will be forever feeling guilty about the money you have just spent.
- The only person that can make you man up is you.
- A punting forum isn't the place to get emotional help/advice, seek it from a professional.

And finally, stop trying to cause mischief

1) I've been told that, but not been feeling good lately. My age has hit me this year. I've been looking at escort websites for the last 5 years or more.
2) My disposable income goes on cigarettes. They're expensive & not very rewarding.
3) I've been workiing at this, doing ok so far.
4) Emotional help & advice I've had. You can't talk about male sexual frustration to a psychologist, it's not considered a legitimate problem. Even though it is, it's a human need External Link/Members Only

Thanks for the helpful advice, I'm not causing mischief, I'm always like this.

dinny1979 · « **Reply #14 on:** December 10, 2014, 11:02:51 pm »

Fair enough. I should have kept it simple. It's out there now.

cockneybstrd · « **Reply #15 on:** December 10, 2014, 11:06:41 pm »

Give up the fags then and you will have money for a punt in no time or ask you mum for a pro$$ie for xmas

That or you should have lumped on Man City tonight

Or Spurs to lose tomorrow in Turkey

dinny1979 · « **Reply #16 on:** December 10, 2014, 11:47:24 pm »

knightofthegarter · « **Reply #17 on:** December 11, 2014, 02:47:14 am »

Move out would be my advice. I won't advise you one way or the other about starting punting. That has to be your choice. However if you start, you will end up spending vast sums of money and find it hard to give up.

Chris10398 · « **Reply #18 on:** December 14, 2014, 10:38:38 am »

Quote from: dinny1979 on December 10, 2014, 10:56:40 pm

1) I've been told that, but not been feeling good lately. My age has hit me this year. I've been looking at escort websites for the last 5 years or more.
2) My disposable income goes on cigarettes. They're expensive & not very rewarding.
3) I've been workiing at this, doing ok so far.
4) Emotional help & advice I've had. You can't talk about male sexual frustration to a psychologist, it's not considered a legitimate problem. Even though it is, it's a human need External Link/Members Only

Thanks for the helpful advice, I'm not causing mischief, I'm always like this.

I'm quite confused about your topic and comments tbh, you claim to be in a state of mind that you want to sort your life out and have already highlighted your two main issues : Debt/money and living at home at 35 years old.

Surely with the thought process you have been through "researching punting", it must have clicked that;
You are still at home because of debt/no funds
You use all your disposable income on smoking
You now (despite not having disposable income that isn't spent on fags) want to spend the money you don't have on shagging wg's who definitely won't help you get more friends (3rd issue you mentioned).

To me this seems like you are more fussed about a quick (and expensive shag) rather than sorting your future out!

I don't mean to be harsh pal, but we have all (some more than others) had had shitty things happen to us and I understand you have been dealt a harsh hand in life, but my view is "its how you play that shit , not only what you have been dealt so this is all a big unnecessary story to be honest.

Chris10398 · « **Reply #19 on:** December 14, 2014, 10:43:56 am »

Sorry, forgot to say that is you take away the costs if the fags and don't spend £100 on a punt that could give you £300 finds to spend in a month. Thinking outside the box here that could be put towards rent for a house share....which will be a solution to your 3 problems.
Solution 1 smoking - would have quit
Solution 2 living at home - would have moved out
Solution 3 no friends - your in a house share and will be with new people straight away (just pick wisely)

....

dinny1979 · « **Reply #20 on:** December 14, 2014, 03:59:05 pm »

I should have left out the stupid twatty story, stay off the internet when I'm in a shit self-pitying mood. I want a "slump buster" to get my confidence back, break the cycle and move forwards. All the advice has been good, even the harsh advice. I've made a big twat of myself in public once again, you live and learn.

claretandblue · « **Reply #21 on:** December 14, 2014, 10:14:24 pm »

Quote from: dinny1979 on December 14, 2014, 03:59:05 pm

I should have left out the stupid twatty story, stay off the internet when I'm in a shit self-pitying mood. I want a "slump buster" to get my confidence back, break the cycle and move forwards. All the advice has been good, even the harsh advice. I've made a big twat of myself in public once again, you live and learn.

oh dear "I've made a big twat of myself in public once again" , i wouldnt panic, your on a internet forum where 99.9% of people have absolutely no idea who anyone else is.....

Tonyleung · « **Reply #22 on:** December 16, 2014, 11:57:49 pm »

Quote from: dinny1979 on December 10, 2014, 08:58:54 pm

This is my first post and it's very hard for me to do this, I need some advice:

My sad story (I'll try to keep it short) : I didn't lose my virginity until I was 22.

Haha, I lost mine when I was 21- and she said "is it in yet?" I got over it - how??go outside everytime I see the sun or a fit bird, I praise the lord/creator/the day/my dad for shagging my mum and my mum for giving birth to me to see fit sexy women.

as for in debt? Fucks sake , ever wondered why a shroud doesn't have pockets??

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