Timing etiquette

[TAblackhawk]

Hello guys.

I recently had to cancel a session as I thought SP was taking the piss or am I the one in the wrong?

session was booked for 1hour, the night before was sent a message outling the meet with all the standard stuff location, door number 10 minutes before. time  of session etc. Asked that money exchanged first brief chat and I must shower which I have no issue with. in my mind this would take 10/15 mins out of the session and as its a first meet I was okay with this.

the next part i had an issue with i was told that a soft alarm would ring 10minutes before the end of our session this would give me time to shower or get ready. ive never had this before and followed up with, will this alarm be at the end of the hour? which the reply was no it will be at the 50 minute mark to allow me time to get ready.

essentially I was paying for a 30 minute session. I declined the meet as I said it felt far too mechanical for my liking. obviously she wasnt very happy and I was told I was paying for an alloted time which is true I cant fault her for that. anyways I was blocked for timewasting as I didnt go through with the meet.

am I being a cheap bastard? or was I right to decline the meet. usually in my meets im not one to overstay and its abundantly clear when its over but having a soft timer felt abit much if you have a timer at the end I have no issue with that.

[alabama1]

You are making things needlessly complicated. You are paying for an hour of her time, not for an hour of sex, so govern the time yourself, wear a watch, and make sure you are saying your goodbyes after 60 minutes. Oh, and 15 minutes to take a shower ? I could have three in that time!

[RandomGuy99]

It shouldn't take you 10 to 15 minutes to have a shower at the start. A maximum of 5 minutes is needed and having the shower ensures you're clean. Many SPs say that the cleaner you are the dirtier they can get with you, so it is worth taking the time to be clean.

Expecting the sex to end at 50 minutes isn't unreasonable as you should be expecting to clean up and get dressed within the hour you booked and then head out the door dead on the hour.

Having a soft timer at 50 minutes is a good idea as it gives you a warning that you need to finish and get dressed.  It shows that the SP is managing their time well.

I think you need to adjust your expectations.

I wear a watch throughout the booking, so I can check how the time is passing. SPs usually have a clock or their phone nearby, so they can also check the time. Together you are working towards a common goal of getting you to cum within 50 minutes of you entering the door and you being ready to leave dead on the end of your booking. This ensures the SP has time to wash and prepare the room for the next SS. SS sometimes complain about SPs not being clean, etc and part of this is because previous SSs have overstayed and reduced the time available for the SP to prepare. The result is often a stressed SP who is trying to stay on schedule with their bookings or sometimes an SP who isn't quite as fresh as you would expect, but most SPs would rather slip your booking by 5 minutes so that they are fresh than start a booking not clean.

Yes, you're being a cheap bastard.

[MLawro93]

Sure the timer can be jarring for some, I suspect the SP needs it as people would have taken the piss in the past. You could have had a proper shower before you got there, and then a quick one once there?

I personally don't mind the timer, as I'm bad at managing my time when having fun in a meet. Plus I never want to impose, so feel fine telling SPs they can give me the boot when needed (not that it has ever come to that) 

Ultimately as others have said, you are paying for a set amount of their time, not end to end sex. Anything beyond that is entirely at the SPs discretion.

[Thephoenix]

I've never experienced the timer. ( Does it play something like Reveille?)
I suppose it's better than the old knock on the door.

I think 10 minutes after a good session is just about ok as you'll probably still be leaving on the hour.

[southcoastpunter]

or am I the one in the wrong?

am I being a cheap bastard?

for the reasons already stated - yes and yes!

[Cheltclient]

I’ve had plenty of experiences where the SP has a music playlist to monitor the time. Starts when I enter the room after the shower and a certain song will presumably remind her of time. I’m super quick in the shower. I shower before heading over to the booking so I’m nice and clean, so pop in the shower as good etiquette and makes the SP relax … but only need to freshen up my bits … never more than 5 mins. Max. Often I’d be all finished by 50 mins anyway but whenever I’m not, the music alarm or soft alarm usually prompts the SP to say not long left and can then work to cum and finish. 

Although we pay for an hour, I don’t think it’s unreasonable for the cleaning up, re clothing to take up the last 10 mins. Ultimately, if we finish right at the end of the hour, you don’t walk out the door the moment you cum. We’ve not paid for that extra time. If it was an issue, I’d say book 90 mins.

[TAblackhawk]

thank you for everyone perspective guess I was in the wrong! for me ive never had someone set a soft timer beforehand. it usually comes to an end naturally, im also good with my time keeping skills so ive never overrun i just didnt like the whole regimented feel.

I guess this why I dont punt so often so maybe my lack of experience has led me to believe this was uncommon.

Yes, the plan was to shower beforehand as I always do again usually that's enough but in this instance I thought it was a time wasting tactic. ive had a past SP that requestEd  showering beforehand but said that would not be taken out of the time paid.

[MLawro93]

thank you for everyone perspective guess I was in the wrong! for me ive never had someone set a soft timer beforehand. it usually comes to an end naturally, im also goofld with my time keeping skills so ive never overrun i just didnt like the whole regimented feel. I guess this why I dont punt so often so maybe my lack of experience has led me to believe this was uncommon.

In one way or another, most SPs will use a timing device. The best ones are clever and use ones that you won't notice or think are timing devices, example being some music in the background.

[TAblackhawk]

In one way or another, most SPs will use a timing device. The best ones are clever and use ones that you won't notice or think are timing devices, example being some music in the background.

yes a much preferable method which adds to the overall experience in my view. an alarm is totally off putting for me. gives me a conveyor belt idea.

[RandomGuy99]

yes a much preferable method which adds to the overall experience in my view. an alarm is totally off putting for me. gives me a conveyor belt idea.

At least she didn't ask Alexa to set a timer for 50 minutes and another for 60 minutes.

[WARSZAWA16]

"Cum in number 69,  your time is up" 

[pbrown355]

In an hour booking everyone on this thread seems to be accepting 5min shower at the beginning, 50 min end point.
Is that translatable to a 30min punt only being 15 mins long and you all think that would be ok?

[Atrueyorkie]

You’re not wrong OP.

The person/WG was a clock watcher.

It’s good to keep time and make sure the punter isn’t taking the mick, punctual etc but things like a “soft timer”. You were going to have a shit, clock watcher.

Trust your gut.

[RandomGuy99]

In an hour booking everyone on this thread seems to be accepting 5min shower at the beginning, 50 min end point.
Is that translatable to a 30min punt only being 15 mins long and you all think that would be ok?

Not all SPs require you to have a shower especially if you've just had one. For 30 minute bookings I already have showered, so no need for a 5 minute shower and I finish about 5 minutes before the end of my time and quickly get dressed, so I get 20 minutes allowing for handing over the money at the start, SP disappearing to hide money and a bit of a hello and a bit of goodbye at the end. I don't obsess about the minutes. I focus on whether I have enjoyed myself, so I am not constantly checking my watch throughout the booking and I''m not going to argue with an SP I have enjoyed my time with if I finish 3 minutes early.

[TAblackhawk]

You’re not wrong OP.

The person/WG was a clock watcher.

It’s good to keep time and make sure the punter isn’t taking the mick, punctual etc but things like a “soft timer”. You were going to have a shit, clock watcher.

Trust your gut.

thank you, I did that is why I cancelled in the end. I thought the tone set from the messages would lead me to believe i wasnt going to enjoy myself. nobody wants a clock watching experience.

the shower was mandatory, I did say I was coming from home and always wash before a meet. she replied people can sweat whilst traveling.

[DastardlyDick]

It sounds like standard SP stuff to me, although an actual alarm is a nd twist - it's always been the music thing for every SO I've seen. If she's got another punter after you, she needs to clean herself up too.

[whiskyfan]

In an hour booking everyone on this thread seems to be accepting 5min shower at the beginning, 50 min end point.
Is that translatable to a 30min punt only being 15 mins long and you all think that would be ok?

The general rule for any length of punt is simple, don't take the piss. Punters shouldn't overstay their welcome and SP's shouldn't short time punters. If anyone is worried about timing, clarify upfront whether showers are included in the booking time. Some do, some don't.

[OakTree]

It’s clock watching but to be fair I would imagine every SP does so. The skill is doing it without you knowing.

They all have their own ways of running a meet and she was upfront about hers. I wouldn’t of cancelled though over that.

I always keep my watch on and make a mental note when I enter the room and then keep an eye on it during the punt. Make sure I finish in time and I don’t overrun.

[Iamforreal]

thank you, I did that is why I cancelled in the end. I thought the tone set from the messages would lead me to believe i wasnt going to enjoy myself. nobody wants a clock watching experience.

the shower was mandatory, I did say I was coming from home and always wash before a meet. she replied people can sweat whilst traveling.

Good job for not booking her, plenty of others around, from what you're saying sounds like you would be disappointed with the whole experience.

[Adoniron]

Good job for not booking her, plenty of others around, from what you're saying sounds like you would be disappointed with the whole experience.

Yes it does make you wonder what her attitude would have been like during the punt had it gone ahead.

[BrixtonBrewers]

Hello guys.

I recently had to cancel a session as I thought SP was taking the piss or am I the one in the wrong?

session was booked for 1hour, the night before was sent a message outling the meet with all the standard stuff location, door number 10 minutes before. time  of session etc. Asked that money exchanged first brief chat and I must shower which I have no issue with. in my mind this would take 10/15 mins out of the session and as its a first meet I was okay with this.

the next part i had an issue with i was told that a soft alarm would ring 10minutes before the end of our session this would give me time to shower or get ready. ive never had this before and followed up with, will this alarm be at the end of the hour? which the reply was no it will be at the 50 minute mark to allow me time to get ready.

essentially I was paying for a 30 minute session. I declined the meet as I said it felt far too mechanical for my liking. obviously she wasnt very happy and I was told I was paying for an alloted time which is true I cant fault her for that. anyways I was blocked for timewasting as I didnt go through with the meet.

am I being a cheap bastard? or was I right to decline the meet. usually in my meets im not one to overstay and its abundantly clear when its over but having a soft timer felt abit much if you have a timer at the end I have no issue with that.

I would've declined too, why is she kicking you out 10 mins from time. It can take 2 mins to wash up quickly, put your clothes back on and leave on the hour, and then shower at home. You don't need 15 mins to shower at the start though.

[wristjob]

Good solid advice here. I shower before and always say I've just showered and happy to go again. If she's not happy on the 2nd meet then there won't be a 3rd. I guess that depends if you are coming from work but if I'm asked to go again I whiz my bits and am out 3 mins tops.

I've had the 8/10 min warnings on some meets and it's a warning to finish but I wouldn't stay stop that second, just be fast, get dressed and shower at home if you can.

At the end of the day if it doesn't feel right then bin it off. I've been in rooms with gorgeous girls but when the vibe went I just wanted out the room and if you are going in there unhappy nothing is going to turn that around.

[Mstar86]

thank you for everyone perspective guess I was in the wrong! for me ive never had someone set a soft timer beforehand. it usually comes to an end naturally, im also good with my time keeping skills so ive never overrun i just didnt like the whole regimented feel.

I guess this why I dont punt so often so maybe my lack of experience has led me to believe this was uncommon.

Yes, the plan was to shower beforehand as I always do again usually that's enough but in this instance I thought it was a time wasting tactic. ive had a past SP that requestEd  showering beforehand but said that would not be taken out of the time paid.

I really don’t think you’re wrong, I just think we’re looking at how some WG’s work.

Some you’re paying for their time (a time slot)

Some you’re paying for the amount of time spent having sex/services.

Every WG is different and manages their time differently, why you should wear a watch and be vocal about when it’s starting I guess.

[Prifessionallondinguy]

"Cum in number 69,  your time is up" 

 

[LLPunting]

Is the SP a self-proclaimed "courtesan"?  Pricey?

Before knocking it on the head you could've said you'd be freshly showered from your hotel (even if lie, just turn up freshly showered), say you're not one for small talk, that it makes you uncomfortable, and say you won't shower after as that's part of your roleplay and besides you will shower back at (imaginary) hotel.  If she then insisted  on all her dictats you'd know she was running out the clock.

Granted I only punt sub 200ph I've had a few over the years who were similarly "organised" and regimented about timelining the encounter of which less than half acquiesced when I pushed back on the clinical approach either in comms or on meeting.  All were definitely of the personality to be grifters wasting time so most of those I saw still proved to be time wasters.

A truly organised (classy) girl will separate bookings by at least 15 mins (some allow 30) to avoid clients encountering each other and so she can prepare for the next.  Any girl who claims she needs you to finish early because she needs to get ready is a grifter.

Suffice to say I much prefer a girl who is snogging me from the moment I say hello to the shooing out the door but some who have kissed at entry have still proven to be poor providers and time wasters.

Sadly every unmet SP has to be considered a canny grifter until she proves otherwise.