First Punt questions...

[BeingSilent]

I am planning my first punt in the next couple of weeks.  It will be away from home (so less chance of being noticed/seen by someone).  And this forum has been invaluable with understanding many elements.

I've narrowed down a couple of possible SPs based off reviews on this site (which gives me confidence).

However - that first contact and first time... Any tips?  I saw someone say they simply were honest with the SP and tell them they were new to punting but not sure I want to open with that in my first contact.  Should I?

Also - a number of SPs ask to speak to the client before confirming and ask for names etc.  I assume not many of you use your real name, rather an alias which is linked to your burner phone?

Am I over thinking this...  Help a guy out!

[Jazzy99]

Always use an alias. Always use a punting phone. Pay attention to how she wants to handle comms, some text, others want a call. Don't send unnecessary texts or calls. Make the arrangement and that's it. Only communicate if your plans change.

Ensure you have the right amount of cash. If driving, park away from line of sight. Leave your wallet, house keys etc in the glove compartment and only take what is necessary. Be extra careful you don't get parking \ speeding ticket if you live with your other half. If traveling by train \ tube check out the route and timing before hand. Check out the street address on Google maps. Give yourself plenty of time you don't want to be rushing or be late. If one thing SPs hate is lateness. But when you arrive do not hang around outside the flat, take a walk and get to the flat at the arranged time.

Don't be weird, act normal. It is ok to be a bit nervous, even for seasoned punters. You don't have to confess your punting virginity, or be too concerned about performing for her. Remember this is a business transaction. You are here to rent her time to make you feel good. She is the one performing for you. The only thing that really makes her cum is your money. You don't need to give your life story or confide your feelings. Make small talk, but don't give out too much details. Don't over stay, even if she is providing a 'no rush' service. Leave on time. Always request a shower  even if you had one at home (unless 30 mins booking). Make hygiene a priority you will get a better service. You may bump in to other  punters, don't fret. Try not to make eye contact, if you do just nod and carry on.

You will have amazing punts, terrible punts, and meet some genuinely nice people. You may encounter some scammers too so do your home work. Don't get into a fight, it's not worth it - learn from it, write it off and carry on. Finally just remember behind the fantasy is a human being navigating the same waters as you do, treat them as such.

[PilotMan]

Jazzy99 pretty much gave you the punting for dummies handbook.

I would only add to confirm everything if possible in a text, services offered and any extra charges. And confirm this again in person, before handing over the cash.

Follow all that, and you will be OK.

If you're unsure about anything, someone on UKP will know the answer.

Good luck.

[Billy no mates]

All good advice, I would add to use the AW booking system, and request feedback as it helps when future girls can see you have a history of being a sensible punter.

[myothernameis]

Don't tell the escort your a member of UKpunting, that our wee secret, 

[I like natural boobs]

The replies above give great advice.

My personal approach is as follows:

If she insists on a call I don't let that put me off but I prefer SP's who have text or Email as their preferred method of contact. First contact for me is therefore usually an AW email or a text if they display their number. Some punters actually prefer it when the SP's preferred contact method is a call though. We're all different.

Whether texting or calling I usually start by telling them my age and then I say something that makes it obvious that I've read their page. I always mention the price. Like for example if she's £100 for 30 minutes I'll put "please can I have a 30 minute £100 booking for 1pm ect", then give a brief description of the service I want. Be careful not to ask for anything that isn't on the enjoys list. Plenty of detail but consise. They don't want an essay but too brief and no info is no good either.

Then I make sure I'm well repared to make sure I aren't late using the same methods in the first reply.

[WelshClipper]

I will give you one piece of advice. It was the piece of advice I was given years ago by a mate on here.

Ahem …….. Don’t be a dick.

If the escort sees you as a normal genuine respectful person the booking should flow much better.

If the escort herself comes across as a dick, keep your cool, remain polite, leave a negative review here and chalk it up to the nature of this hobby. Not every punt can be stellar given human nature.

There are other do’s and don’ts but I’ll leave them to others to explain.

 

[scouting]

The poor OP has been bombarded with so much good advice now he won't know where to get started 

Seriously mate, all the points above are good and after a while they just become 2nd nature. I don't follow every one of them, everyone's personal situation is different. So don't overthink it or you'll get anxious. The detailed points can be boiled down to;

Be discrete
Be clean
Be punctual
Be respectful
Act normal

Have fun mate and let us know how you get on 

[Stevelondon]

DON’T. !!!!

You will end up on here offering advice to others somewhere down the line. 

[Chazz]

Use a punting alias (it only has to be a first name) that can't be linked to your username on here. I've found it helps to have a basic back story prepared - where you live, what you do for work etc. that's not quite what you do in real life. Chazz amazes me sometimes about what he gets up to. Be nice, be normal, be human and remember that the SP is a real person too. Oh, and while you're trying to hold all of that in your head, remember to have fun too! On my first punt I admitted that it was my first time and the SP really looked after me. Good luck,  and let us know how you get on. 

[Jameson20]

Be prepared to part with a lot of money. This hobby don't come cheap!

[Chazz]

DON’T. !!!!

You will end up on here offering advice to others somewhere down the line. 

Oh fuck! 

[southcoastpunter]

I would only add to confirm everything if possible in a text, services offered and any extra charges. And confirm this again in person, before handing over the cash.

all the advice on here is good but i think this is worth a re-mention. Comms are often provided by someone other than the lady you see and there are many reports that the lady in person does not offer all the services the comms person said "yes" to. (OWO is one that i often found that was i originally offered in text by not by the actual lady you see).

[Markc]

All great advice above to arrange your first punt. Definitely use a false name and only give them a first name.
I use my middle name as my punting name. Also have a back story ready to give if they ask where you live, family
or where you work.

I have always said l work in the warehouse at one of the big name supermarkets. I actually work as a sales advisor
for a company who offers products to use on outside pursuits. Once l booked an escort to my hotel in Manchester
and told my back story to this really cute blonde and she said she worked for the same supermarket on the till and was
working as an escort to earn some extra money. She asked me what l thought of the new stock system they have introduced
and what my store was doing for it’s Christmas party. Had to think on my feet and said let’s not talk about work and fuck.
Had a great night with her.

[BeingSilent]

All great advice above to arrange your first punt. Definitely use a false name and only give them a first name.
I use my middle name as my punting name. Also have a back story ready to give if they ask where you live, family
or where you work.

I have always said l work in the warehouse at one of the big name supermarkets. I actually work as a sales advisor
for a company who offers products to use on outside pursuits. Once l booked an escort to my hotel in Manchester
and told my back story to this really cute blonde and she said she worked for the same supermarket on the till and was
working as an escort to earn some extra money. She asked me what l thought of the new stock system they have introduced
and what my store was doing for it’s Christmas party. Had to think on my feet and said let’s not talk about work and fuck.
Had a great night with her.

Haha!  Manchester is one of the locations I was looking at for my first punt... mental note, don't work in a supermarket...!

[BeingSilent]

Thank you all for your advice.  Really gives confidence in taking the next step.

I have a burner sim on the way (wish me luck juggling 3 phone lines - work, anonymous business and 'really anonymous business').  Had to just bin out a AW profile and create a new one with a different name/email address (to kill all possible links).

[WelshClipper]

Oh fuck! 

Yup, with this happy band of brothers 

[WelshClipper]

Thank you all for your advice.  Really gives confidence in taking the next step.

I have a burner sim on the way (wish me luck juggling 3 phone lines - work, anonymous business and 'really anonymous business').  Had to just bin out a AW profile and create a new one with a different name/email address (to kill all possible links).

I am told escorts can see Adultwork profile history so anything dodgy on earlier profiles I think they can still see it.

Like if you’ve been a dick 

[PilotMan]

If something goes wrong with a booking, which it inevitably will at some point. Be prepared to ditch your SIM and get a new one, this may happen more than once.

e.g. you walked form a Bait & Switch, the SP may well blacklist you on the various chat / forums they use. This could affect you with girls you contact in the future.

I had it happen to me and I know which SP did it. She was a huge munter that was using fake pictures, so I walked. Another SP said she was wary of seeing me because of the report this girl made, which was completely false. The SP I was trying to book with was smart enough to realise that some SP's are vindictive and post bad punter reports that aren't true.

When I need to change my SIM, I just buy one in Tesco (other retailers are available).

[PilotMan]

I am told escorts can see Adultwork profile history so anything dodgy on earlier profiles I think they can still see it.

Like if you’ve been a dick 

AW links accounts together that use the same IP address, these linked accounts are visible to SP's.

So when you create a new account on AW, your previous user name / account on AW will still be visible to the SP, and will show as an associated account.

[Fush]

I don't have much to add myself, other than watch out as it becomes addictive (and expensive) very quickly!

Go for a well reviewed lady here with lots of positives, and IMO someone who shows their face. While I've see a few ladies who hide their face, I think for the first time punting that's a extra stress you are putting on yourself. You don't want your first one to be a negative or neutral because you don't find her attractive (where others might have).

As for time period, I started out with 2 hours, but then you are a few steps ahead of where I started Now I settle for 60 minutes. I wouldn't recommend less for the first punt, but horses for courses.

Have fun

[Chazz]

Yup, with this happy band of brothers 

I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have you glorious bunch of reprobates to share my escapades with. 

OP - I forgot to say the most important thing: Don’t tell a living soul about your punt - except us lot on here of course! 

[alabama1]

I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have you glorious bunch of reprobates to share my escapades with. 

OP - I forgot to say the most important thing: Don’t tell a living soul about your punt - except us lot on here of course! 

Depends on his circumstances , surely 

[Malvolio]

Have a read of this:

External Link/Members Only

[Punter75]

In addition to advice already given:

When arriving, be confident, approach the property with confidence. It's easy to get paranoid and think everyone around knows exactly what you're doing and is judging. Act normal, any thoughts of being watched or judged will most likely be in your head (unless it's a well known flat). Even if you're nervous, act as if you've been before, live there, belong there etc.

Also, if it doesn't feel right, walk. There will be others. Never book on a rebound though. You'll settle for less than you want.

[OakTree]

I’ve always used my real first or Christian name. I can’t be arsed messing around trying to remember aliases. Besides that’s all they will know.

As for telling her if it’s your first time, well that depends on who your first meet is with. Some will be sympathetic and helpful in your first paid fuck others will take advantage. Short time, adding extras etc, etc.

Me personally I wouldn’t say anything. Apart from handing over a wad of cash it’s just having sex with a woman.

[BeingSilent]

Thanks for the replies.

I've decided to have a different name for Punting simply because my real name is fairly unique and it's not worth the hassle.  However I am currently having 'fun' with gmail closing my anonymous email account (twice now).  So just trying to figure out a different way of doing this.

[Crossbones]

Be prepared to part with a lot of money. This hobby don't come cheap!

But it's one he'll of a hobby. Beats stamp collecting anyway.

[Sparta Prada]

A lot of great advice already given from fellow punters. Here’s a few more, which should hold you in good stead and not just at the start of your punting journey:

Never ever pay a deposit to a WG!!! Even if it is someone who is well reviewed or looks incredible, there’s plenty of examples of punters paying a deposit for a meet which never materialises. Similarly if a WG - who you have already seen - asks to borrow any cash in advance of a future session, do not offer to do this as you may never see that money or favour returned.

Always remember that paying for sex is a business transaction The girls are there to make you feel good for the time you have paid for, but that is it. Because she is snogging your face off or sucking your dick, don’t think that the WG has fallen in love with you, they are just doing their job.

Avoid Emotional Attachment Syndrome, aka EAS See the above.

Only spend what you can afford Yes, punting can be addictive but is not worth spending beyond your means on WGs.

If it doesn’t feel right, be prepared to walk Even if you are seeing someone who has amazing feedback from everyone else but you sense something isn’t right when you meet them, be prepared to walk away before you hand over your cash.

[alabama1]

A lot of great advice already given from fellow punters. Here’s a few more, which should hold you in good stead and not just at the start of your punting journey:

Never ever pay a deposit to a WG!!! Even if it is someone who is well reviewed or looks incredible, there’s plenty of examples of punters paying a deposit for a meet which never materialises. Similarly if a WG - who you have already seen - asks to borrow any cash in advance of a future session, do not offer to do this as you may never see that money or favour returned.

Always remember that paying for sex is a business transaction The girls are there to make you feel good for the time you have paid for, but that is it. Because she is snogging your face off or sucking your dick, don’t think that the WG has fallen in love with you, they are just doing their job.

Avoid Emotional Attachment Syndrome, aka EAS See the above.

Only spend what you can afford Yes, punting can be addictive but is not worth spending beyond your means on WGs.

If it doesn’t feel right, be prepared to walk Even if you are seeing someone who has amazing feedback from everyone else but you sense something isn’t right when you meet them, be prepared to walk away before you hand over your cash.

What he said ^^^

[BeingSilent]

If it doesn’t feel right, be prepared to walk Even if you are seeing someone who has amazing feedback from everyone else but you sense something isn’t right when you meet them, be prepared to walk away before you hand over your cash.

This is an interesting one.  Do you simply say, sorry, not quite what I was expecting and I am going to have to pass?  And then get the hell out asap.

[Markc]

Haha!  Manchester is one of the locations I was looking at for my first punt... mental note, don't work in a supermarket...!

Manchester has many SP. I live in the south and visit Manchester regularly. I have outcalls to my hotel from agencies like
secrets and Bond girls. I also visited a number of parlours in the area. As it a large city there is a high number of escorts
on Adultwork but l have only seen a few women from this platform from there. You can see my reviews if that helps.

[big-al93]

This is an interesting one.  Do you simply say, sorry, not quite what I was expecting and I am going to have to pass?  And then get the hell out asap.

That's what I do, but others may fear a fuss or confrontation and use an excuse that requires them to leave such as they have left their wallet in the car. Which if you travel by car is a good idea anyway,only take in the correct cash for the booking and your punting phone.

[BeingSilent]

Manchester has many SP. I live in the south and visit Manchester regularly. I have outcalls to my hotel from agencies like
secrets and Bond girls. I also visited a number of parlours in the area. As it a large city there is a high number of escorts
on Adultwork but l have only seen a few women from this platform from there. You can see my reviews if that helps.

Unfortunately I can't view a list of your reviews as I don't have that functionality turned on yet.  However, I will do a search and see what comes up (ha!).

[AlwaysLooking]

If something goes wrong with a booking, which it inevitably will at some point. Be prepared to ditch your SIM and get a new one, this may happen more than once.

When I need to change my SIM, I just buy one in Tesco (other retailers are available).

Think I'm on my 3rd or 4th SIM now.

One bit of advice with buying the SIM/Burner Phone/Top-Ups - use cash.

[WelshClipper]

Think I'm on my 3rd or 4th SIM now.

One bit of advice with buying the SIM/Burner Phone/Top-Ups - use cash.

And don’t use your Tesco Clubcard with the cash 

[BeingSilent]

So I may have my first punt… or not? I’m not sure cos the SP has decided to not reply to me after asking me to confirm by text this morning. Good times. <shrug>

It’s ok… I have a backup planned. 😂

[BeingSilent]

Do you win a badge after the first one? Or is it after the second one? 

Reviews will come as there was some stuff which would give the game/name away…

[Thephoenix]

Do you win a badge after the first one? Or is it after the second one? 

Maybe you'll get a like if it's a good review.

[PeterPanda01]

I am in the same situation as thread maker. Wow there is so many suggestions and guidance. Thank you lads.

[BeingSilent]

I’m a couple of punts in and there is an interesting observation I’ve noticed when it comes to time keeping. I’ve had a couple of SPs claim time is up and I realise that I’ve still got 10 or so mins available. Invariably this is when I go to the bathroom to freshen up and look at my phone.

Do you just take the hit or do you say something? At the moment, I’ve just accepted it and moved on. The punts have been good so it’s not like I’m sad about it. But an extra 10mins is good time for some extras (OWO perhaps?).

What do others do?

[JontyR]

I’m a couple of punts in and there is an interesting observation I’ve noticed when it comes to time keeping. I’ve had a couple of SPs claim time is up and I realise that I’ve still got 10 or so mins available. Invariably this is when I go to the bathroom to freshen up and look at my phone.

Do you just take the hit or do you say something? At the moment, I’ve just accepted it and moved on. The punts have been good so it’s not like I’m sad about it. But an extra 10mins is good time for some extras (OWO perhaps?).

What do others do?

A lot of SPs won't want to start any extra activites that may go beyond the end of the booking. If you are intending to go again I'd suggesst you need to (ahem) raise it before getting too close to the end.

That being said, hurrying you up and out isn't good form unless it looks like you are settling in for the long term. IF you are looking to return, don't kick up a fuss and be clear about expectations during booking process next time.

[PilotMan]

I’m a couple of punts in and there is an interesting observation I’ve noticed when it comes to time keeping. I’ve had a couple of SPs claim time is up and I realise that I’ve still got 10 or so mins available. Invariably this is when I go to the bathroom to freshen up and look at my phone.

Do you just take the hit or do you say something? At the moment, I’ve just accepted it and moved on. The punts have been good so it’s not like I’m sad about it. But an extra 10mins is good time for some extras (OWO perhaps?).

What do others do?

If it's something that you want to proactively manage, then just make an off the cuff remark regarding the time when you first arrive.

e.g. - oh I see, it's 7pm, it's not always the case that that girls are ready on time, but I'm pleased you are obviously a professional 😉

Or,

I see it's 7pm, most girls are usually at least 20 minutes late, but we're only 15 minutes late.

Come up with your own, and use whatever technique you feel comfortable with.

[newhere456]

I’m a couple of punts in and there is an interesting observation I’ve noticed when it comes to time keeping.
What do others do?

I have often wondered whether I need a punting watch as I make a similar observation - normally when I am reunited with my phone. 

If it's just 10mins or so (the norm), I just let it pass - a kind of tip - giving time back

[GreyDave]

If it's something that you want to proactively manage, then just make an off the cuff remark regarding the time when you first arrive.

e.g. - oh I see, it's 7pm, it's not always the case that that girls are ready on time, but I'm pleased you are obviously a professional 😉

Or,

I see it's 7pm, most girls are usually at least 20 minutes late, but we're only 15 minutes late.

Come up with your own, and use whatever technique you feel comfortable with.

Timing is important to them and us I wear a really cheap plastic watch with a rotating bezel (diver style) when I enter I adjust it and I confirm with "£60half hour yes? " and say the time and look at my watch in front of them ...now some get a bit pissed by this I wait for the yes or Ok before handing cash i then ask to wash hands dick in bathroom which they usally are pleased about I surpose those few mins are wasted time but it slows down things for me and throws time for them ....the response to the confirmation of time is usally the best indicator of how its going to go and youll get to judge that feeling as you do more punts

[PilotMan]

Adding to GreyDaves tip.

Usually an SP asks how long you want to stay, as a way indicating that you need to pay her.

At that point you could repeat the time on your watch, as if pondering the question.

e.g.

errr, what's the time now, 3.10PM. Let's do thirty minutes, that will take us to 3.40PM which works out perfect for me.

[BeingSilent]

So its been a month and its been a real fun month!

Some things (for those that are new that I've picked up).

1 - Nerves are good.  Especially the first time.  Therefore pick a SP who has good reviews and you are sort of guaranteed a good time.  Looking up reviews on this site has been really helpful and sticking to AW profiles, cross checking on here and then making a decision has been key.

2 - Burner phone.  Very important.  If you can get one that looks a bit like your normal phone, then less weird when you leave it around and people notice (not that you should leave it around).  Aligned to this - burner sims.  I managed to get one from eBay - the old O2 321 (or whatever it is).  Stuck £20 on it and its been more than enough for this month - should last me a couple more months too.  However, remember that at times coverage is a bitch (at a couple of punts - just lost SMS coverage).

3 - Don't be scared to be assertive in knowing what you want from the punt.  The first few times I felt like an 18 year old finding sex for the first time and fumbling around.  After a few punts, realised that I am paying for this service so lets get assertive (without being a twat) and requesting exactly what I would like from the punt (I am not saying you should totally dominate the lady - but knowing which services you want and ensuing your get them).

4 - Time keeping.  Make sure you're on time.  But also make sure you get your time's worth.  More recent punts have got to 40mins with 20mins left - so I've asked for other things (BJ, HJ, playing with bodies etc).  May not come a 2nd time, but its the service and the fun which I am more interested in.

5 - Being anonymous.  I don't use my real name.  BUT, English/British SPs will figure that out immediately.  They also don't use their real names (duh), however they will tell you things about their private life.  Be careful not to share too much (safety).  But anything shared with you - don't repeat.  I've been told a few things which would give away much about SPs but keep it to myself.  I don't want to put anyone at risk but also - its not my thing to share.  That said, if you meet a Brazilian who is incredible and likely to go home in 3 months - then share that info so that other punters are able to book and she's able to make a bit more £s before she returns home.

6 - Brazilians.  Is is just me or are there a LOT of them?  I've decided to expand my search to exclude Brazilians.  Not cos they're bad - but rather to experience others.  But be prepared to see a lot of them.

7 - Bad Punts.  I've had one pretty shitty one.  Wished I hadn't bothered and should have walked.  Learning was... walk away.  If its not what I (or you) want, then its ok to be polite and say, sorry, not what you sold me on AW (or wherever).  They have as much to lose by screaming at you.  But remember... you have all your stuff and you can burn your phone if you need to.

8 - Look for the real pictures.  Adverts will show the perfectly polished image.  Learn to find the real pictures and see if that aligns with what you're looking for.  Doesn't always work (see Bad Punt above), but when it doesn't, I've learnt to look deeper.

9 - Have a limit on how much you can and want to spend.  This can lead to you spending a LOT of money very quickly.  So putting a limit on this is important.  I can see how the drug of a punt can lead to a spiral of financial problems.  Its not worth it.

10 - Leave reviews.  Pretty sure the Mods want to see this one!  I am grateful for the reviews I've seen and therefore I feel it is important that I share my experiences (both good and bad).  My first 'punt' didn't actually happen.  The 2nd did and made me move onto my 3rd, 4th and 5th...  I've tried to keep details factual but also remember how much I am sharing - as you want to stay anonymous while giving information.

Hope this helps the next person. 

[JontyR]

So its been a month and its been a real fun month!

Some things (for those that are new that I've picked up).

Hope this helps the next person. 

Good post. Solid Advice. Have a like.