Does anyone else suffer from finishing too fast?

[anakin]

For context I’m 18, in shape, daily cardio, gym 5x a week, eat clean, don’t drink or do any drugs (just nicotine here and there), normal T levels, don’t watch porn or chronically masturbate yet I still have this problem. I only go to massage places and I find myself finishing within a minute or two of the actual handjob starting which ruins all the enjoyment for me. I’ve tried having a wank right before going but then I “come to my senses” and lose all desire to visit her. Is it something natural that I’ll have to learn to live with or am I doing something wrong?

[Blackpool Rock]

I guess everyone is different but for me it's about being in control of the action as I can better dictate when I cum.

Think about giving yourself a handjob, you can tell when you're getting to the finish and can slow down / stop / vary the pace etc to bring yourself back from the edge.
On the other hand someone else giving you a handjob especially an oily one who continues as they were just as you get to the edge and it's basically the point of no return.

Perhaps ask the girl to "Edge" you, an experienced girl should be able to do this but if the girl is foreign there may be a language barrier, alternatively depending on how long it takes you to "reload" you may be able to have a wank 2 hours or 4 hours before your punt and then last longer.
I'm like you that as soon as i've cum I instantly lose all interest but a few hours later you may be good to go again, perhaps worth making the booking before having the wank as then it's already in the diary 

[timmy1]

I used to be like that when i was your age and even into my 20's but found the combination of getting older and edging has significantly increased how long i can last, abit of booze definitely helps also just dont go overboard:hi:

[PepeMAGA]

I have the opposite issue, ie last for ages.

Interesting that you mention Testosterone levels, did you get that checked for a reason and did you look at any other hormone levels?

[veterano]

For context I’m 18, in shape, daily cardio, gym 5x a week, eat clean, don’t drink or do any drugs (just nicotine here and there), normal T levels, don’t watch porn or chronically masturbate yet I still have this problem. I only go to massage places and I find myself finishing within a minute or two of the actual handjob starting which ruins all the enjoyment for me. I’ve tried having a wank right before going but then I “come to my senses” and lose all desire to visit her. Is it something natural that I’ll have to learn to live with or am I doing something wrong?

Your 18 now enjoy getting hard every 2 min and orgasming 10+ times a day. Things that may help are relaxing techniques, Stop-Start Technique, Kegel exercises for control. Other than that all i can tell you its that it gets better with age until you get to a point when you'll think back to when you were 18!

[Punterperson1971]

For context I’m 18, in shape, daily cardio, gym 5x a week, eat clean, don’t drink or do any drugs (just nicotine here and there), normal T levels, don’t watch porn or chronically masturbate yet I still have this problem. I only go to massage places and I find myself finishing within a minute or two of the actual handjob starting which ruins all the enjoyment for me. I’ve tried having a wank right before going but then I “come to my senses” and lose all desire to visit her. Is it something natural that I’ll have to learn to live with or am I doing something wrong?

I do get to excited when it’s a new lady I’m seeing but with regulars I can last quite a while,one lady I see in the midlands is well reviewed,I book for 30 mins with either sex or cim to finish and even tho I ask her to slow down when I’m near to popping I can last the whole 30 minute booking,even though she goes to town on my cock quite a lot she finds it very funny that I’m squirming round the bed trying to stop myself from cumming,she’s commented a few times that I’m getting better and better at controlling myself.

[myothernameis]

I'm like a good car, I can go from 0 - 60, in a few seconds  , then my car stalls and wont start, and sometimes I might need some help, to start the car up once more 

[Stevelondon]

Oh for fucks sake. You get up feeling ok. Just making a cup of coffee before my Weetabix. Ready to start the day in quite a good frame of mind.

Then you fucking open this thread and see an 18 year old kid is worried his gym fit body might just be letting his cum control down.
Believe me Bonny lad. Think of yourself like a bottle of fine wine. You’ll only get better with age.

I’m going back to fuckin bed. 😂

[PepeMAGA]

Oh for fucks sake. You get up feeling ok. Just making a cup of coffee before my Weetabix. Ready to start the day in quite a good frame of mind.

Then you fucking open this thread and see an 18 year old kid is worried his gym fit body might just be letting his cum control down.
Believe me Bonny lad. Think of yourself like a bottle of fine wine. You’ll only get better with age.

I’m going back to fuckin bed. 😂

[southcoastpunter]

i know some younger guys take Viagra to help them last longer - they do seem to desensitise things a bit and as a result you last longer!

(but worth checking with your doctor /chemist first if you are already taking any regular medication or have any health issues)

[Fush]

I've found that I seem to have the opposite situation. Sex with a condom and I can go for a long time. I was surprised recently that I didn't cum within minutes after abstaining for 10 days, it actually took ages. I think the lady was starting to worry that she wasn't doing her job properly

I've tried the sleeve type 'toys' and I can't last more than a couple of minutes, more if I've had a couple of drinks. Handjobs can finish me off in a similar time also. Maybe because these provide more sensation and actual sex (with condom) provides less.

It might also be a visual thing (watching porn vs having sex), or what I'm thinking about. I've had times where it's snuck up on me all-of-a-sudden because I was thinking about something sexy or thinking that I really should be finishing soon (don't know why I was thinking that!).

Guess there are just too many variables, and there is of course how attractive you find the girl too. Now I just go with the flow.

[Bum Lovin Criminal]

Quite aside from the fact that I'd happily kill you and your entire family to be 18 again.....   We all have differing reasons why "Man's best Friend" plays up.

Girl is super hot/Fit/Tarty....or, You Fancy her like Crazy....or, Want to impress performance wise....or, Booked an Hour plus meet = fast finish.

B&S Munter...or too much friendly chat, life stories, etc B4 punt...or  15 min booking...or, just wanna pump/dump-n-Go..or super thick condom = Last forever..

[Stevelondon]

I have to say as an 18 year old I wasn’t paying for it.
Actually as an 18 year old I just wasn’t getting much of it at all 

When I did if memory serves me correctly. I just kind of used a stop start method when shagging.
ie :- feel like cumming, stop and just think of other things for a second or two before continuing.

By my mid twenties and having lived in the smoke for a few years I was having a lot more success and with that comes better control.

I’d advise not worrying too much about it. It’ll only break out the ache more like. 

[MissWolf]

do your research on the escort you want to book
Make sure she doesn't have a cum limit
Book long enough to cum more than once
Fire off a fast one then relax and get revved up for round 2
Fill ya boots and have fun 

[Bonker]

Don't worry, you're in good company.
Many famous people have had this.
Billy Whizz - coming to your cinema soon
Speedy Gonzales - went on to invent swimming briefs
The Flash - now incarcerated

[Atrueyorkie]

You’re 18!!!!

Mate you should be outside touching grass, this hobby is expensive and you don’t want to be addicted with low funds.

Another point is there’s a difference between, a hand, and a pussy. Two different types of sensation. You can get Jacked off at the speed of light. That’s not normal, you can’t do that with pussy.

Don’t worry about when you finish, too young, just chill out

[GreyDave]

  18!!!!

When I was that age I search out the fuller figured older Maltesse ladies in Soho walk ups mate 10 quid and a 50p tip those where the days my freind..

Many allowed in fact encoraged 2 pops it stopped as i got older as did re chargeing and cuming multi times in a day 

Enjoy you youth you lucky B`stard  loads of us on here wish we were you  belive me

[Maak]

With WGs who im comfortable with, I last the whole booking.

WGs who make me nervous & anxious, I only last a few strokes.

[Jameson20]

Maybe consider looking into sildenafil/similar dick hardening drugs. I usually bang a blue before any punt nowadays to reduce the risk of flopping to pretty much zero. It's like cycling with stabilisers. While hard. Or something. Also, you can reload pretty quick if you happen to bust a nut quickly.

[JontyR]

I'd question any advice that is looking at suggesting you take unnecessary prescription pharmaceuticals.

If you are determined to follow the punting route - and don't focus on this section of engagement with the fairer sex exclusively - why not ask if you can have a happy opening as well as a happy ending?

I'd also sugget you go and find yourself a nice girlfriend. The actually scenario of punting may be actually be stimulating and a turn on. You may actually be able to relax and last longer and have a more fulfilling experience with someone your own age and experience level.

And relaxing is something I'd recommend. All of your gym work etc is commendable, but there's a danger that you will make this into a psychological issue.

[dubs]

Ask the girl for a Happy Start as well as a happy ending.  Some will do this in a 1 hour booking

[Stevelondon]

Ask the girl for a Happy Start as well as a happy ending.  Some will do this in a 1 hour booking

Oh my. Brings back such happy memories.

A happy start now would result in me nodding off for the rest of the punt. 

[Doc Holliday]

I'd question any advice that is looking at suggesting you take unnecessary prescription pharmaceuticals.

Nonsense ... he needs to start on an SSRI and Sildenafil 100mg immediately 

As always with these threads there is insufficient information in the OP to subsequently offer any accurate and useful advice. In particular in relation to his sex life other than punting and which you touch on.

He hasn't commented since either which seems to be a growing trend?

[Jujy78]

As long as you can get it up again within 10-15mins I don't see the issue. At 18 I used to cum 3 times sometimes 4 times in an hour. Once I came 3 times in 45mins the lady then said I've reached the limit and told me to leave 😂

[Naughtyboyuk]

OP shouldn’t stress about it.

I cum relatively easily and quickly but can recharge quite quickly to go again. 

When I had my first few MMF meets I was jealous of the guys who could fuck for the whole hour, or even 2 hours in one case, before finally cumming near the end of the meet.   However when discussing it with one guy he admitted he was jealous that I was cumming 2 or 3 times.

The point being it takes all sorts so just enjoy yourself.

[Blackpool Rock]

Nonsense ... he needs to start on an SSRI and Sildenafil 100mg immediately 

As always with these threads there is insufficient information in the OP to subsequently offer any accurate and useful advice. In particular in relation to his sex life other than punting and which you touch on.

He hasn't commented since either which seems to be a growing trend?

Yeah set the thread up then stand back and watch 

[Punterperson1971]

I’m in my 50’s now and struggle to come twice but I saw a well reviewed lady a few months back and she said we have enough time to fuck again,so she was at the side of the bed on the floor gagging away as I was deep theoating her to try and get me hard,I managed to get hard enough to get a condom on got her up on her back legs spread ploughing away yet couldn’t cum again I gave up which seemed to disappoint her A little but it was still fun trying.

[JustaPunter]

For context I’m 18, in shape, daily cardio, gym 5x a week, eat clean, don’t drink or do any drugs (just nicotine here and there), normal T levels, don’t watch porn or chronically masturbate yet I still have this problem. I only go to massage places and I find myself finishing within a minute or two of the actual handjob starting which ruins all the enjoyment for me. I’ve tried having a wank right before going but then I “come to my senses” and lose all desire to visit her. Is it something natural that I’ll have to learn to live with or am I doing something wrong?

At 18 you should be trying to work on your personality so you don’t have to pay for a shag.

As far as your finishing quick issue I suggest you see an actual Escort, rather than a Happy Ending Massage.
Ex
As then you can book for an hour, have a massage and nut three times.

Google “refractory period”

Make the most of your youth when multiple Nuts is the whole point.

I suggest you try a Thai Escort.

They usually have the least issue with multiple nuts in my experience

Though in the early 2000’s when Eastern European ladies were coming to London to work there were loads who worked in West London

My record was 3 times in a half hour.

She was a Polish Nurse and I seen her 3 or 4 times before she rotated back home and was replaced by another lady.

And they all did Anal

I would have CIM the 1st round, a good shag the 2nd round and Anal for the 3rd

Oh to be young again

Make hay while the sun shines

[anakin]

I guess everyone is different but for me it's about being in control of the action as I can better dictate when I cum.

Think about giving yourself a handjob, you can tell when you're getting to the finish and can slow down / stop / vary the pace etc to bring yourself back from the edge.
On the other hand someone else giving you a handjob especially an oily one who continues as they were just as you get to the edge and it's basically the point of no return.

Perhaps ask the girl to "Edge" you, an experienced girl should be able to do this but if the girl is foreign there may be a language barrier, alternatively depending on how long it takes you to "reload" you may be able to have a wank 2 hours or 4 hours before your punt and then last longer.
I'm like you that as soon as i've cum I instantly lose all interest but a few hours later you may be good to go again, perhaps worth making the booking before having the wank as then it's already in the diary 

Yeah I’ll reckon I’ll give that a go next time, rubbing one out couple hours before seeing her. I’ll also tell her to go easy on the hj part. Thanks

[anakin]

I have the opposite issue, ie last for ages.

Interesting that you mention Testosterone levels, did you get that checked for a reason and did you look at any other hormone levels?

Yeah I got it done for this specific reason. A few other hormones were checked out too but everything came back fine

[anakin]

Your 18 now enjoy getting hard every 2 min and orgasming 10+ times a day. Things that may help are relaxing techniques, Stop-Start Technique, Kegel exercises for control. Other than that all i can tell you its that it gets better with age until you get to a point when you'll think back to when you were 18!

10+ times is very wishful thinking. The current limits 8 (trial and tested ) But yeah I’ll look into those

[anakin]

Oh for fucks sake. You get up feeling ok. Just making a cup of coffee before my Weetabix. Ready to start the day in quite a good frame of mind.

Then you fucking open this thread and see an 18 year old kid is worried his gym fit body might just be letting his cum control down.
Believe me Bonny lad. Think of yourself like a bottle of fine wine. You’ll only get better with age.

I’m going back to fuckin bed. 😂

Haha thanks for the reassurance 

[anakin]

You’re 18!!!!

Mate you should be outside touching grass, this hobby is expensive and you don’t want to be addicted with low funds.

Another point is there’s a difference between, a hand, and a pussy. Two different types of sensation. You can get Jacked off at the speed of light. That’s not normal, you can’t do that with pussy.

Don’t worry about when you finish, too young, just chill out

I don’t think I’ll be able to stop now that I’ve started. I wouldn’t say I’m too deep in it though yet, I only see a SP once every couple of months. I agree with the hand thing, the stimulation with a hands way more than vs if it was a pussy (with condom)

[anakin]

I'd question any advice that is looking at suggesting you take unnecessary prescription pharmaceuticals.

If you are determined to follow the punting route - and don't focus on this section of engagement with the fairer sex exclusively - why not ask if you can have a happy opening as well as a happy ending?

I'd also sugget you go and find yourself a nice girlfriend. The actually scenario of punting may be actually be stimulating and a turn on. You may actually be able to relax and last longer and have a more fulfilling experience with someone your own age and experience level.

And relaxing is something I'd recommend. All of your gym work etc is commendable, but there's a danger that you will make this into a psychological issue.

I didn’t know a happy opening was a thing lol. I’ll try it next time though

I did try to go down the girlfriend route but I’ve not been having much luck. I have female friends that’ve tried putting me on with their friends but it just doesn’t go anywhere.  My last girlfriend was when I was 16 and the most we did was a blowjob so I’m still a virgin. Though I only do happy endings with SPs cuz I wanna lose my virginity to a civvie.

[anakin]

Nonsense ... he needs to start on an SSRI and Sildenafil 100mg immediately 

As always with these threads there is insufficient information in the OP to subsequently offer any accurate and useful advice. In particular in relation to his sex life other than punting and which you touch on.

He hasn't commented since either which seems to be a growing trend?

Just ordered my subscription, gonna up the dosage to 1000mg for faster results

To answer your question, my sex life is non existent. The only thing I’ve done with a girl was a blowjob and this was 2 years ago. And the only thing I do with SPs is happy ending handjobs.

[anakin]

As long as you can get it up again within 10-15mins I don't see the issue. At 18 I used to cum 3 times sometimes 4 times in an hour. Once I came 3 times in 45mins the lady then said I've reached the limit and told me to leave 😂

If I have a wank then yeah I can get it back up quite quickly but when I’m with a SP post nut clarity hits me bad and I won’t feel horny for the next few hours

[anakin]

At 18 you should be trying to work on your personality so you don’t have to pay for a shag.

As far as your finishing quick issue I suggest you see an actual Escort, rather than a Happy Ending Massage.
Ex
As then you can book for an hour, have a massage and nut three times.

Google “refractory period”

Make the most of your youth when multiple Nuts is the whole point.

I suggest you try a Thai Escort.

They usually have the least issue with multiple nuts in my experience

Though in the early 2000’s when Eastern European ladies were coming to London to work there were loads who worked in West London

My record was 3 times in a half hour.

She was a Polish Nurse and I seen her 3 or 4 times before she rotated back home and was replaced by another lady.

And they all did Anal

I would have CIM the 1st round, a good shag the 2nd round and Anal for the 3rd

Oh to be young again

Make hay while the sun shines

Can you elaborate on what you mean by “improve your personality?” Personally I don’t think I’m a bad person. I do suffer from slight neurodivergency but I’ve never used that as an excuse to be a dick.

As a virgin, I don’t see myself seeing a real escort in the foreseeable future. I still hope to lose it to a future gf.

My refractory periods around 15-20 minutes I’d say

Sounds like a blast, wish I was around them times

[Kerosene]

I'm a quick popper and I've grown to accept it. Much better that than stressing about it and spending the time in a booking not enjoying myself.

So what do I do? Brush up my RO skills. Punting is a whole body experience and I don't need the focus to be on my cock to enjoy myself.

[Doc Holliday]

To answer your question, my sex life is non existent. The only thing I’ve done with a girl was a blowjob and this was 2 years ago. And the only thing I do with SPs is happy ending handjobs.

Thanks for coming back with more info ...sorry I suggested you may not.

I don't think you really have any problem as such, certainly not one that requires any medical intervention.

One of my most embarrassing moments was as a sixteen year old. While snogging a girl at a party and while we were dancing, she slipped her hand down my kecks and within next to no time and minimal contact I shot my load. She wasn't my first sexual encounter and I masturbated frequently. It was likely just the daring nature of this unexpected public act which tipped me over the edge so quickly.

She removed a cum covered hand and shouted above the loud music 'has anyone got a tissue' There was a round of applause and laughter, before we both ran off to the loo to clean up. Inevitably there was a queue!! 

The point is that you have jumped from masturbating alone to an activity (massage & HE) which is highly arousing (even for sexually experienced males) and with almost no interaction with another female in between.

Your best option remains to explore this within a relationship but I appreciate that is a difficult option for you.

It seems you fortunately are able to 'go again' but you lose interest 'in your head'. This is a normal response but it can be overcome. As suggested arrange in advance with a good SP to have a happy beginning as well as a happy ending. Most of the sensual build up can take place after your first finish and hopefully during that time your 'head' will recover?

Also practice prolonged edging alone.

Good luck and don't let it worry you or it will worsen 

[Southendlothario]

If I have a wank then yeah I can get it back up quite quickly but when I’m with a SP post nut clarity hits me bad and I won’t feel horny for the next few hours

That "post nut clarity" as you call it, id say is just not being relaxed fully, ie a bit of tension. Relax and go with the flow. Ive had the same thing myself. Sometimes as a teenager and sometimes now in my late 30s. If you're going to cum, youre going to cum. Most times tbh the women seemed to see it as a good thing, smiling and seemingly to take it as a compliment that I couldnt hold myself back for longer.
Bit of a horny massage with a slow-ish build up, then up periscope for round 2.

[Stevelondon]

I'm a quick popper and I've grown to accept it. Much better that than stressing about it and spending the time in a booking not enjoying myself.

So what do I do? Brush up my RO skills. Punting is a whole body experience and I don't need the focus to be on my cock to enjoy myself.

There is a man after my own art 

[Massagetugga]

I think I’d suggest combining your massage punt with full service. The sensation will be entirely different anyway and excitement aside, feel less stimulating, especially in a rubber. So long as you can speak up you don’t have to do anything you’re uncomfortable with. Just tell the girl what you’d like to do. I often say I don’t want kissing or to lick pussy for example but I want a bonk at the end.

A couple of runs at this and I reckon you’ll feel more in control. Sticking with the massage first (maybe with a girl you already know?) should be quite good for being relaxed.

[Doc Holliday]

I think I’d suggest combining your massage punt with full service.

As a virgin, I don’t see myself seeing a real escort in the foreseeable future. I still hope to lose it to a future gf.

[shagmore]

Quite the opposite in fact, I can hold out for an hour easily, always have been able to - good self control
I have found that if I have had a wank or sex the day before, then I doubt I would be able to come again the following day. This has happened over the course of the last year - and must be an age thing

[5qwerty80b]

OP, I really wouldn’t be too concerned about this. There will be very few here, if any that haven’t experienced this in sexual encounters. I once blew my load in my jeans during a smooch at the end of the night at 18 and the girl hadn’t even touched me. If she was aware she never said anything and I was too embarrassed to make contact with her again. Several decades on I was with a very young (relative to me) and attractive SP who had literally just started to touch my erection and splat, I’d cum straight away in less than a couple of minutes. She was so surprised that she didn’t know what to do with me for the rest of the booking, so I left early.

It will happen to you throughout your sex life, especially to a younger person such as yourself. But you will get in to your stride, even more so as you get in to a longer relationship. Experience will decrease the frequency of premature ejaculation. But even then I’d expect it will happen every now and again.

I recall a documentary years ago saying that for many species, especially primates, fast ejaculation is an imperative. The cheeky young male chimpanzees in a troop aren’t allowed to mate with the females as that’s reserved for the Alpha male chimp. But they still want to mate so they find a female, get in and out fast before the Alpha realises and rips his nuts off. When I’ve been shagging someone I really shouldn’t have been I used the same approach 

I suppose what I’m getting at is that it’s quite normal, even natural to come quickly. And try not to shag a girl who’s got an Alpha male in the background.