Yes I am the 40 year old virgin (+5) about to take my first punt

[Fush]

It’s often the case after any shagging or punt you’ll instantly feel like more. I find myself quite often a third into a punt wordering if I could slip in going straight to another! Luckily for my punting funds the thoughts
usually disappear once you’ve shot your load 

 

I've sometimes had a booking and not cum and decided I am not making myself cum, so I have another booking a bit later just to cum.

Your clearly a man of many means! 

Another thought for the OP - go for a punt in the morning for the following reasons:

Male libido is supposed to be higher in the morning, so you'll have more energy and be more horny than later;
The earlier you visit the lady, the more likely you might be her first of the day, and you run less risk of a jobsworthy performance, either because she might be tired or annoyed by other punters or timewasters or both, so try to see her when she's fresh. If you can give her an orgasm she'll likely be very happy with you. Give it a try with 69 or face sitting.

Good insight thanks.

Fush, I'm so pleased that everything went so well. You've made my week with such an uplifting story. It's weird isn't it - as soon as you pop your cherry you realise that sex is just sex (but great fun at the same time). All the best, and good luck with your future endeavours. 

Thanks Chazz!! 

I just thought - now that you're a man of the world, you understand what all the fush is about.

(Don’t worry, I already have me coat).

 

 

[Doc Holliday]

Thanks for your review which I have just read. Glad it was a positive experience for you.

May I ask if you informed her you were a virgin?

[Fush]

May I ask if you informed her you were a virgin?

Yes I did, I thought it would be super obvious and probably really awkward if I didn't. She was totally fine with it and let me take things at a pace I was comfortable with, rather than just getting down to it the instant I came out the shower. I know you could say "of course she was fine with it, that's what you are paying for", but I can imagine some could have possibly said no, not care, or just go through the motions anyway. Plus it was useful to get her insights on things. While my 'experience' doesn't matter much, I'd recommend anyone else in the same situation to be clear up front. Of course it depends on the lady, I can imagine it being completely different if I had gone for a harcore PSE or dominatrix session

[Munter84]

Brilliant, glad to read your first time was enjoyable.

As you've discovered this hobby can be incredibly addictive, once you know sex is out there and can be readily purchased, punting is a difficult genie to put back in the bottle.

[Doc Holliday]

Yes I did, I thought it would be super obvious and probably really awkward if I didn't. She was totally fine with it and let me take things  but I can imagine some could have possibly said no, not care, or just go through the motions anyway.

Thanks. I had assumed you probably did based on advice in this thread. That is why I asked as there was no mention of it in your review. In fact anyone reading the review without having read this thread (and there will be quite a few) would, I think, be surprised that it was your first punt? It reads like a seasoned punter.

Is it generally a good idea to inform an SP it is your first 'paid for' encounter? I think this will very much vary. I went through a period of 'pretending' it was my first punt despite at the time having hundreds under my belt. The response was very variable in that some went out of their way to please, but many just tried to take advantage of a newbie.

There is also an extra element in your case. As I am sure you will be aware, many reviewers (though far from all), try to avoid the SP being able to identify the real life author from details in the review. This often doesn't work and SPs can be quite good at linking the review. In your case the SP may well have been able to do this anyway, but this thread combined with you telling her about your virginity is as good as DNA.

[Charliehutton]

Well done, very pleased it went well. Seems you made an excellent choice, too, in a girl with such an impressive review record. UKPunting at it's best!

[RogerHealey]

In fact anyone reading the review without having read this thread (and there will be quite a few) would, I think, be surprised that it was your first punt? It reads like a seasoned punter.

+1
After this looks like you're already qualified to give out tips and advice. As Del Boy would say, "the world is your lobster".

[Massagetugga]

Not just first punt Roger Healey and Doc. First time first time.

[DastardlyDick]

What the hell you on about.

You’re a virgin. Of course you’ve never tried that. 🤷🏼

Presumably he's had a few wanks, so he may have tried not doing it for a while to see if he gets more runs 

[tynetunnel]

Awesome news Fush, I’m pleased you had the bottle to go through with it, and that a good time was had, with no regrets. Whatever now lies ahead, I’m sure you’ll have loads more fun. If you get to meet Poppy, it looks like you’ll be in for a fun experience. I’m off to read your review now 

[Cum_again]

Sex is for everyone. Made up for you lad.  Now make it a habit and have fun.

[Fush]

Brilliant, glad to read your first time was enjoyable.

As you've discovered this hobby can be incredibly addictive, once you know sex is out there and can be readily purchased, punting is a difficult genie to put back in the bottle.

Thanks!

Thanks. I had assumed you probably did based on advice in this thread. That is why I asked as there was no mention of it in your review. In fact anyone reading the review without having read this thread (and there will be quite a few) would, I think, be surprised that it was your first punt? It reads like a seasoned punter.

Is it generally a good idea to inform an SP it is your first 'paid for' encounter? I think this will very much vary. I went through a period of 'pretending' it was my first punt despite at the time having hundreds under my belt. The response was very variable in that some went out of their way to please, but many just tried to take advantage of a newbie.

There is also an extra element in your case. As I am sure you will be aware, many reviewers (though far from all), try to avoid the SP being able to identify the real life author from details in the review. This often doesn't work and SPs can be quite good at linking the review. In your case the SP may well have been able to do this anyway, but this thread combined with you telling her about your virginity is as good as DNA.

Well I didn't want to mention anything about what I've said in this thread in the review. It's kind of coming at it from two different angles, experienced punters don't really want to read about what I've learnt or my thoughts etc.

You raise a good point about not mentioning it's your first punt. I guess I was lucky wth the lady as she didn't take advantage of this. But now I'm a bit more clued up after reading some experiences (and like you said), I see this is defintately not the case. It all depends on your choice of lady.

Yeah I not too concerned she read my review, and knows which client I was. A little embarrassed perhaps (as she knows what I was thinking), but I'm not in a relationship, nothing to hide, it's legal and the review was positive so I'm not too bothered.

Well done, very pleased it went well. Seems you made an excellent choice, too, in a girl with such an impressive review record. UKPunting at it's best!

Thanks. Yeah I was pleased with my choice, she was lovely. Perhaps the only thing I would've 'improved' were if the lady had natural boobs. They were nice yes, but being enhanced they were a little bit firm and I couldn't gently suck the nipples.

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Thanks to everyone else for their comments as well. I hope this thread does help others in the future who are asking the same questions. Maybe I will become (in)famous when someone asks a similar question and you can say 'see the virgin thread here' 

[PumpDump]

Now you've crossed the line to the dark side, there is no going back!

[SYorksPunter]

As a fellow late starter, well done Fush! As others have said, it’s an addictive and pricey hobby, but it beats collecting stamps! I’d followed this thread when it first appeared and then had to go into hospital for some surgery, so I’m really pleased to find out it worked out well! UKP at its best!

[big-al93]

Bit late in reading the thread, so you've already had your first and reviewed. Well done! 

Reading your review though I do feel you missed out on a part of the booking that a bit of guidance would have definetly stood you in good stead for civvy encounters. RO!! You let the lass go down on you without returning the favour?

The other thing to remember is that all women are different and like/dislike different things, so whether paid or civvy what worked for this lady may not work for the next (or the one after that)

[Fush]

Now you've crossed the line to the dark side, there is no going back!

 

As a fellow late starter, well done Fush! As others have said, it’s an addictive and pricey hobby, but it beats collecting stamps! I’d followed this thread when it first appeared and then had to go into hospital for some surgery, so I’m really pleased to find out it worked out well! UKP at its best!

Thanks, and hope your surgery went well.

Bit late in reading the thread, so you've already had your first and reviewed. Well done! 

Reading your review though I do feel you missed out on a part of the booking that a bit of guidance would have definetly stood you in good stead for civvy encounters. RO!! You let the lass go down on you without returning the favour?

The other thing to remember is that all women are different and like/dislike different things, so whether paid or civvy what worked for this lady may not work for the next (or the one after that)

Thanks, I decided that once I had it in mind I was going to do this, thought it was good to get it out of the way quickly, otherwise I might have changed my mind.

RO is one of the things I mentioned where I wasn't perfect and would definately need more practice. I had a little go but I was aware that she probably doesn't cum easily, as well it probably happens a lot, so it would probably take ages, if at all, so didn't want to waste time. With a civvy there isn't that time issue, so I think it would be important that she cums first. I guess the question to ask might be "what do you like?", rather than assuming with civvies, as I suspect that SP's don't really care as they will do whatever you want. After all, your the one paying for her time. I could be wrong though, after all what do I know 

Good advice though, so thanks.

[big-al93]

RO is one of the things I mentioned where I wasn't perfect and would definately need more practice.

And to be fair, practising is a load of fun. And remember if they enjoy it, it really doesn't matter if she climaxes, same as it doesn't matter if you don't at any point in a booking as long as you are enjoying yourself, although some escorts don't like it if you don't as they worry that you haven't had fun.

[alabama1]

And to be fair, practising is a load of fun. And remember if they enjoy it, it really doesn't matter if she climaxes, same as it doesn't matter if you don't at any point in a booking as long as you are enjoying yourself, although some escorts don't like it if you don't as they worry that you haven't had fun.

You are assuming this of course 

[big-al93]

You are assuming this of course 

No, first hand experience. I didn't say all, I said some.

[stampjones]

As a next step if you want to take it rather than go direct to civvies is to try seeking. Its more expensive initial outlay but you get a lot more time for your money. The reason I mention it is its half way between AW style escorts and civvies. It still paid but the girls arent pro and often dont see morw than one guy at a time (thoughmany do and many are on AW too). You have to work a bit more to get the girl like a real date and give a bit of chat before you get them into bed. But for stuff like RO and experimenting in general its much closer to the real thing but still has a bit of a safety net. Longer term arrangements can easily blur that line even more. Anyway if you are interested in giving it a try there’s a huge thread plus locsl threads which are worth having a read to get the gist. Worth going back a couple of years as recently they have become quite moany. Anyway not trying to push you in that direction, but worth mentioning its there in case you want to explore

[Fush]

As a next step if you want to take it rather than go direct to civvies is to try seeking.....

Thanks, I might go and have a look at the thread.

[DastardlyDick]

There is also an extra element in your case. As I am sure you will be aware, many reviewers (though far from all), try to avoid the SP being able to identify the real life author from details in the review. This often doesn't work and SPs can be quite good at linking the review. In your case the SP may well have been able to do this anyway, but this thread combined with you telling her about your virginity is as good as DNA.

Since the OP was a virgin,  presumably he's single and therefore at reduced risk of consequences of 'outed'?

[Fush]

Just to add a little more to this thread, not to complain or winge, but as hopeful helpful advice to others in my poistion.

As you may or may not have noticed, I've placed another review. This second experience was completely different to the first, and not in a good way. It really made it apparent how well (or lucky) I was in choosing the first lady. How things could have been so much different if I had chosen the second lady as my first time. I realise also now the little things that the first lady did, which I didn't notice at the time (as I thought these were 'normal' as I didn't know any better), which made the first experience much better. I'm grateful for that.

I guess I should have chose better, but I was caught in the confidence boost that I had after the first experience. Clearly downstairs took control in deciding to go again and the lady to pick, rather than upstairs being in charge and thinking it through. A lesson learnt I guess

[Clarence Boddicker]

I hope it hasn’t put you off, there’s plenty of really pleasant SPs out there, just be guided by the reviews ion here, there’s lots of positive experiences to be had out there.

[Chazz]

Just to add a little more to this thread, not to complain or winge, but as hopeful helpful advice to others in my poistion.

As you may or may not have noticed, I've placed another review. This second experience was completely different to the first, and not in a good way. It really made it apparent how well (or lucky) I was in choosing the first lady. How things could have been so much different if I had chosen the second lady as my first time. I realise also now the little things that the first lady did, which I didn't notice at the time (as I thought these were 'normal' as I didn't know any better), which made the first experience much better. I'm grateful for that.

I guess I should have chose better, but I was caught in the confidence boost that I had after the first experience. Clearly downstairs took control in deciding to go again and the lady to pick, rather than upstairs being in charge and thinking it through. A lesson learnt I guess

I almost commented on your review for Fit Sarah GFE that although she was an excellent choice for a first punt, you had unwittingly set yourself a very high bar for any subsequent punts. Unfortunately, not all SPs are in her league. Still, without the bad punts, you don't appreciate the good ones. Remember to do your homework on here though,  and you shouldn't go far wrong. Onwards and upwards, and here's hoping that your next one is a banger!

[tynetunnel]

You are assuming this of course 

It’s definitely a fact, so why the eye roll and assumption?

[alabama1]

It’s definitely a fact, so why the eye roll and assumption?

Because of this , as defined by Oxford English Dictionary...' Fact, a thing that is known or proved to be true'.

[kayak]

I hope it hasn’t put you off, there’s plenty of really pleasant SPs out there, just be guided by the reviews ion here, there’s lots of positive experiences to be had out there.

Agreed, and you don’t need to be spending the kind of money that you have been, especially for plastic looking overly made up mahogany cupboards with eyebrows and bolt-on tits. Forgive me the criticism please OP, but I think you’re going wrong here. Find yourself someone more real, you will likely have more of a deeper connection and walk away feeling something better. The more money you pay in this hobby doesn’t mean better quality.

[daviemac]

Because of this , as defined by Oxford English Dictionary...' Fact, a thing that is known or proved to be true'.

It is most definitely a FACT that SOME escorts don't like it if the punter doesn't cum, I know this from personal experience.

With some it makes them think they aren't attractive or 'sexy' enough with others that they haven't done a good enough job and you haven't enjoyed it.

[Doc Holliday]

Since the OP was a virgin,  presumably he's single and therefore at reduced risk of consequences of 'outed'?

Yes I had assumed he was single when I posted.

Being outed to a partner is an extremely low risk consequence of linking your UKP account to the person, compared to the other potential negative outcomes.

[Fush]

Agreed, and you don’t need to be spending the kind of money that you have been, especially for plastic looking overly made up mahogany cupboards with eyebrows and bolt-on tits. Forgive me the criticism please OP, but I think you’re going wrong here. Find yourself someone more real, you will likely have more of a deeper connection and walk away feeling something better. The more money you pay in this hobby doesn’t mean better quality.

No problem, I've open to all advice. Do you have any suggestions?

[nervous1]

Brings back memories reading this thread.  Firstly, congratulations on getting the monkey off your back as I lost my virginity in a brothel myself so know how it feels.  Similarly, I didnt feel one bit different at first but let it sink in and gradually you will actually feel more positive about it over time.  It took me a while to get over the nervousness (hence the username) but became comfortable enough to the point it became a little boring at certain points.

I echo the sentiment above about considering Seeking if escorts dont really do it for you anymore.  Personally, Ive no had that much in the way of luck with that but if you read the threads on here, it seems to be higher risk and higher reward.  Not done it in years but swinging clubs were an option for me around 10 years ago, not so sure now.  It can help build confidence even if you get nothing which I mostly did.  Both are advanced options though, I would stick with escorts you fancy for a little while.

[tynetunnel]

Because of this , as defined by Oxford English Dictionary...' Fact, a thing that is known or proved to be true'.

Big-al93 didn’t say it was a fact but it was him that you eye-rolled at. It was me that said it was a fact and I do know it to be true, as per the dictionary definition you’ve quoted. So I still am none the wiser why you eye rolled him 

[Fush]

So those who are maybe still interested, after my disapointing experience last time, I might be tempted with a third punt. I said I probably wouldn't, but I still feel there is more to learn and experience

At the moment I have these two ladies on the shortlist. I will keep looking as well though as theres no rush.

Let me know what you think so far - both have good reviews on here.

Bianca SweetGirl
External Link/Members Only

rebecca_gfe
External Link/Members Only

[JontyR]

I think you need to use the links to the main adultwork site and not the mobile version.

And whilst we are all supportive of a newbie and are grateful for your input - I wonder whether your ongoing journey may be better served by a blog or somesuch. With a blog you are clearly the owner of the space. This is a shared space (under the ownership of a benevolent overlord and his band of henchmen mods. )

[big-al93]

Fush, I know you are new but please try not to post mobile links. If you can, please use the older dektop site and scroll down to the bottom you'll find the best link to use as it is indexed on the site and will bring up any reviews that already exist.

External Link/Members Only

External Link/Members Only

[Fush]

And whilst we are all supportive of a newbie and are grateful for your input - I wonder whether your ongoing journey may be better served by a blog or somesuch. With a blog you are clearly the owner of the space. This is a shared space (under the ownership of a benevolent overlord and his band of henchmen mods. )

Ha, yeah probably. If I do decide on another punt, then I wouldn't update here, just do a review, as I think the idea of the initial thread is now finished 

Fush, I know you are new but please try not to post mobile links. If you can, please use the older dektop site and scroll down to the bottom you'll find the best link to use as it is indexed on the site and will bring up any reviews that already exist.

Ok no problem.

[Chazz]

No brainer - If it's between these two, go with Bianca.
If the deposit doesn't put you off with Rebecca, the fact that she's got stage 4 kidney disease should.

(I have no experience with either SP, but that would be my instant gut decision.)

[Doc Holliday]

If the deposit doesn't put you off with Rebecca, the fact that she's got stage 4 kidney disease should.

(I have no experience with either SP, but that would be my instant gut decision.)

I'm curious why kidney failure is relevant to any decision?

[newhere456]

I'm curious why kidney failure is relevant to any decision?

The need to mention it perhaps?

[Chazz]

I'm curious why kidney failure is relevant to any decision?

Because with so many SPs to choose from, why pick one who is more likely to be feeling ill and not able to give their best service? It may well be that kidney disease has no impact on this SP's ability to deliver, but isn't choosing a punt complicated enough already without this further complication? 

[GoodLookinGuy]

I haven't read the whole chain so apologies if someone else has already picked up on this. You say you are a virgin but you have 2 reviews, the second of which mentions sex in lots of positions ???

[daviemac]

I haven't read the whole chain so apologies

Had you read it you would have seen he started this thread on July 1st and posted his first review after his first punt following advice given on July 7th.

[Doc Holliday]

Because with so many SPs to choose from, why pick one who is more likely to be feeling ill and not able to give their best service? It may well be that kidney disease has no impact on this SP's ability to deliver, but isn't choosing a punt complicated enough already without this further complication? 

Thanks. That's interesting. I can think of a few reasons why I personally would not want to see her, but so far as I know reliability issues are not one of them. She is considered highly professional.

The need to mention it perhaps?

Yes that would related to the reasons I would not want to see her. I am sure we are all aware of her posting history on UKP in relation to this and many other topics before she was banned.

She has been described as 'marmite' by some, but you still cannot take away the extremely high level of positive feedback she has accrued over many years 

[Fush]

I wasn't going to update this because I wanted the thread not be at the top  , but I think its good to give back to others who would be a similar situation I was at the start.

So just to say for anyone who is, shall we say mid 20s+ and is still a virgin, don't wait any longer and see a lovely lady to sort you out!

After now seeing a few ladies I can honestly say that I don't know why I waited so long! I thought I might only see one or two ladies, but I can't get enough  It really feels that I missed out on a lot, and that I'm trying to catch up on those wasted years  I'm trying my best 

These last few months certainly have not been cheap, but it's been great. I'm still looking to hopefully see a few more though - more 60 minutes now than my previous 120s, as I'm a bit more confident now, so there is less chat (although I still do like chat). Yes the money spent is stacking up, and I probably shouldn't really, but I see it as an investment in myself - after all life is short and I've missed a lot of it!

[SYorksPunter]

Mate, as my mum would say (not about punting!), you can’t take it with you!

I’ve probably spent close to 3 grand in the last few years, which is nothing compared to some of the lads on here, and can honestly say I don’t regret a penny spent, even on the more underwhelming punts.

Glad you’re diving in there!

[NotATrumpFan]

Yes the money spent is stacking up, and I probably shouldn't really, but I see it as an investment in myself - after all life is short and I've missed a lot of it!

Think of it this way.  How much might you spend on a date with a civvy?  Tickets to an event, meal, drinks, taxi, etc.  Given inflation its going to be a couple hundred for a full night out these days and that comes with no guarantee of a shag at the end of the night, or any kind of ongoing commitment.  At least this way you know exactly what you're getting (mostly).

[Watts.E.Dunn]

In days of olde we expected to take a girl out quite a few times before we ended up  in bed, or more likely in the back of the car no romance left now it seems;)...

[Momodan38]

I wasn't going to update this because I wanted the thread not be at the top  , but I think its good to give back to others who would be a similar situation I was at the start.

So just to say for anyone who is, shall we say mid 20s+ and is still a virgin, don't wait any longer and see a lovely lady to sort you out!

After now seeing a few ladies I can honestly say that I don't know why I waited so long! I thought I might only see one or two ladies, but I can't get enough  It really feels that I missed out on a lot, and that I'm trying to catch up on those wasted years  I'm trying my best 

These last few months certainly have not been cheap, but it's been great. I'm still looking to hopefully see a few more though - more 60 minutes now than my previous 120s, as I'm a bit more confident now, so there is less chat (although I still do like chat). Yes the money spent is stacking up, and I probably shouldn't really, but I see it as an investment in myself - after all life is short and I've missed a lot of it!

I see you’re already 4 reviews in 

Don’t sweat the small stuff, like money as long as your happy and your quality of life in other aspects remains the same. 

[pomp]

Good luck in your endeavours, but once up pop it there's no going back. I've been a regular for 10 years now. But best advice I can give you is do your research always get the best rated SP's. Also be careful it can get an expensive hobby and some girls are very manipulative, just have the confidence to say 'no' or if a situation doesn't feel right just leave!